This is why life is not working for you.

I hear often from people that they love my open, authentic, unapologetic fashion and way of being. So many people come to me and say, “Wow, Kendal I can’t imagine being so out there like you are on these topics. How do you do it?”
 
The truth of my being is this and of my reality as I create it.
I have to be open, authentic and unapologetic in my messaging, coaching and just simply living. If I were being any other way I would not be me.
 
And I don’t try to be like anyone else.
Because there is ONLY one me.
 
I use to sit around and twiddle my thumbs and desire to have or be or do things that someone else was doing. I wanted for this or that person’s life. I would dream about living in the freedom and flexibility of how those I followed and looked up to were living.
 
What I discovered was that in my wanting I was also searching.
 
I was searching for WHO I WAS.
 
I had an identity issue.
I took on other peoples ideas, concepts and roles that they had for me.
I took on the perceptions and images that I was seeing were successful for others.
I would mimic their attitude, their facial expressions, the way they sat or moved their hands and even the things they said and how they said it.
I would mimic their very beliefs.
 
I would mimic anything I could.
 
And to a degree it was good.
Because I was being a student,
I was hungry to learn.
To grow and to discover what worked.
I wanted change.
I wanted to find myself.
And in wanting that I searched through exploration and trying on other peoples personalities and habits.
 
Unfortunately, after a bit of learning all these amazing habits and ways of being, I felt even more lost. I started to loose the luster for life, for my work, the way I was existing and living.
 
I was exhausted.
And my body and emotions were screaming it loud and clear as I started to fall apart at the seams.
 
Why was this?
 
Why in my improving of myself,
in my exploration and focus of taking on better habits,
habits of success and abundance in ways I saw it working was my very body and being fighting me?
 
Here is the issue with what I was doing and perhaps you can relate a tad to my tale today. The answer was pretty simple….
 
I was withering away because I was not being TRUE TO ME.
 
Sure i had some great habits.
I had some awesome beliefs.
I was doing the work.
I was invested in my change.
 
But I was FIGHTING MY TRUTH.
 
And when we play pretend for too long,
our SOUL get’s sick and tired of our nonsense and it decides to give us a wake up call.
 
Get in alignment or else.
 
We can learn from others.
and in order to fully tap into who we are each meant to be,
we MUST BE STUDENTS.
 
We must learn to adapt certain traits and successful mindset programs,
but it must be done without the loss of our SOUL.
 
How can I message, coach and live so open, authentically and unapologetically the way that I do?
 
How can I speak from this real and raw place from deep within and look you in the eye with love and acceptance while revealing intimate aspects of who I am?
 
Because I CHOSE TO FIND MYSELF.
I made a decision to BE ME.
I COMMITTED to stop mimicking everyone else in hopes that their way was my way and that it/them would save me.
 
I decided that I was the most important person in my life and that in order for me to serve this world the best way I could and to THRIVE in life, to have my dreams and desires manifest that I had to simply let go of any desire to try and be something or someone that I was not.
 
I stopped caring what the world thought of me.
I put down the fears,
the concerns and worries of loosing people in my life if I decided to just be me.
I got real with myself.
And I fell in love with who I was.
WHO I AM.
 
If life is not manifesting the way you want it.
If your abundance is falling short like your time, your energy and your focus, then perhaps its time that you stop the insanity of playing the roles that you have painted for yourself in the image of another and just BE YOU.
 
I know how scary that may sound.
I know that you may have no real clue as to who you are even.
But realize that these obstacles are nothing more than a mirage to your truth.
Don’t let your SOUL light burn out because you are too scared to pull back the curtains on your life and reveal your beauty,
your thoughts,
your feelings,
your opinions,
and ideas.
 
You know who you are.
You just have to be willing to slow down enough to spend time with yourself to feel into yourself.
 
And then have the COURAGE to make yourself the most important person in your life.
 
Do this and watch miracles and abundance in all juicy good things flood into your here and now.
 
As Always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”
 
It’s time that you start to say YES to the most important person in the room beautiful. It’s time that you accept your worth, and step onto this path that your SOUL is calling you too.
I know how hard the steps may appear.
I know that you are fearful, that you doubt if you have what it takes to make this shiz happen for you or not.
But I promise you that YOU can do it.
You can have it.The first step though is to recognize that you must let go and have faith in your process of getting there.
Listen to your SOUL and follow it’s lead.
Imagine having a coach who has been on a similar path guide you, help you discover the deeper meanings of what soul is wanting you to know.
What would it feel like to have that sort of support and guidance?
You can have this.
Message me for deet’s on 1:1 Private mentoring and coaching today.

One Reply to “This is why life is not working for you.”

  1. It is interesting how we ended up living under the shadow of other people we admire when we try to mimic them and become someone else. We do this sometimes without noticing, with parents, older siblings, a friend from school or work. Unfortunately this is very common to happen motivated by parents who try to push a role model rather than giving time to listen to their children. It’s easier and faster to just say: “Do like your older brother/sister” or “Your grandfather would never do like that” and so on. Still when we are grown ups, there is no excuse to dive in our souls and go for the search of who we are. Truth will set us free! All that search, of course, inspired by true, authentic love, reducing the chances of hiding behind masks and creating a barrier that, although different from others, brings same results. It is good to read an article like this to help us remind of the importance of being true to ourselves. We only truly connect to God when we are true to ourselves. I can’t wait for more inspiring texts coming from you, Kendal! 🙂

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