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Random Naked Thoughts from the Key’s.

Today I visited Hemingway’s home here in Key West.
I love Hemingway’s work.
And after listening to the tour guide share tidbits from Hemingway’s history,
I can now understand why I love his writings.
The statement that rang so true and beared power with it was,
“He liked to write from experience. Hemingway was a man who craved adventure and went to find it. His stories come from those experiences.”
As I work with people,
and I move through my own life and just witness,
What I see often is the reverse of this for so many people.
Perhaps you know what I speak of.
So many people choose to not live.
Choose to not be part of THEIR own life in many ways.
Choose to not experience.
However, instead live their lives vicariously from a place separated from life.
They live watching others.
And they sit in judgment over these people that they sit and watch.
I have been around sports fans all my life,
my ex-husband is a HUMONGOUS football fan.
It’s hard to communicate with him during football season,
because NOTHING matters more than who is on the field and the decisions that they are making.
I have often wondered watching him,
sit in the living room or at a bar,
drinking, rooting, cussing and getting really upset at times over a penalty or a poor play,
what his fascination is in watching someone else play the game.
I mean I understand that they are talented.
I get that there is a world watching with him, and there may be money on the line,
but why just watch.
If you love the game so damn much,
Why won’t you go throw the ball with your kid?
Why don’t you want to play it yourself,
push your own edges,
make your own calls,
and feel the adrenaline of winning or losing.
Why just kick back and WATCH?
This Is not being an active participant in the thing you have so much passion and love for.
It would be like ( and I know that some actually choose this – no shame in it, you do you.) ….
It would be like you getting married to someone that you simply adore, love with everything but then have someone else step in and do the actual act of relationship for you.
So they have sex with your partner and you just watch,
never experience,
they raise your children,
you just watch never state your feelings about parenting and what is right and good or not,
they buy your house and choose the furniture,
they choose how the relationship with your husband/wife goes.
You just watch.
Never participate.
Never experience.
You get to witness it all,
but you never engage.
And then you say,
” I love being married. My partner is the best thing that’s ever happened to me. We are best friends. My kids are amazing. The sex is hot AF.”
Seriously?
Well we in truth actually do this to degrees.
We hire nannies.
We hire interior decorators.
We hire teachers.
We hire cleaners.
We may even activate a swingers lifestyle because we cannot fulfill in some ways and just request that our partner do everything in front of us,
so we can watch.
So we can see but not engage.
As we do with all the other areas.
And what are we doing in truth?
Not that any of the things that I shared above are bad,
so please don’t think I am saying that they are….
but that if we are doing these things to AVOID,
or to make it where we do not have to be responsible for…
then perhaps we need to question our WHY.
Perhaps it is time for us to ask ourselves,
Why are we so eager and comfortable to step out of our own life experiences?
What are we avoiding?
What are we shutting ourselves down for?
Fear.
Fear that we may get it wrong.
Fear that we could get hurt.
Fear that we may harm someone.
Fear that we may love and lose.
Fear of not being worthy of it.
SO much fear in living is what so many have,
and despite how much money is in the bank,
how big the house is,
how many cool cars you own,
you find yourself fearing connection and love.
The things that you crave so deeply for.
And you crave play and adventure.
You crave the feeling,
the true feeling of life moving through you in all it’s magical ways,
but you deny it daily.
You turn your back to it in the small things,
like football.
and you think nothing of it.
That is just a game,
everyone is watching it.
If you are a fan,
then THIS is what fans do.
They live through the players who are out on the court and playing…
LIVING.
And that is why the palyers get paid the BIG BUCKS.
So they can live.
Because you won’t.
Because you are f-cking terrified of living,
so you buy a jersey,
you upgrade your TV accounts to catch every game,
you go to the games and you get all the best tickets so that you can breathe it all in.
But when when it comes to you living your life,
and speaking from the space of actually experiencing life,
like Hemingway did…
well that is not for you.
That is for anyone but you.
And you look at those who have the balls to do it and you hunger to feel what they feel.
You love their sharing,
you love-hate that they are turned on to life and thriving,
but you still repeatedly say no to your dreams,
your desires,
your life that is asking you to live it.
And why?
Fear.
SO today as I bounce around Key West,
as I plan out the rest on my days here,
and all the really cool shit I have done and will continue to do,
as I look forward to my next adventure week after next and then again in two weeks and so on,
I sit back for a second in this moment and I feel compassion for you.
I feel a desire to impress on you that this is your life,
stop watching everyone else live why you sit back and make excuses as to why you cannot.
But what do I know right?
Life is not about you loving it and living,
life so I hear is about you listening to how to remain in a box and staying safe… HA! If that is a thing even. It is about you being responsible, because I guess if you are thriving that you are not responsible….
Not my experience.
But what some might say.
Share your thoughts if you dare.
Just mine as I sit here nude on my deck writing during an island thunder storm.
As Always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
Ready to start saying yes? Ready to activate your life and thrive? I sure wish you would say yes,
it would be cool to hang with you.
to share with you.
To walk this magical journey with you.
But the first step is the step of saying F-ck Fear!
Reach out to me if you dare to say yes to your dreams and want to know how you can accomplish them.
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Let’s Be Real…. YOU HAVE TRUST ISSUES.

IT’S YOUR BITCHIN’ MOANING AND COMPLAINING.

 

Truth Time Baby!

 

I get that 2020 has been a rocky sorta year so far and it looks like the fun is not coming to a stop anytime soon.

 

I get that you have been just surviving up to this point,

that the news you are listening too has you scared shitless most days,

and questioning what is going on in our world.

Are these the end of days?

Is this how our world goes down?

How humanity comes to an end?

 

I get that you have been watching all the negative reports about COVID spikes,

about racial issues and wrong doings,

about possible wars,

and let’s not forget the horrors of child sex trafficing and Hollywood.

 

It’s all just a bunch of hopeless suffering that causes you upset and torment,

makes your heart crumble and makes you want to not believe that it is so.

 

And so it is that you are finding yourself in 2020 saying that it is a raging shit show of a year,

feeling like our economy is forever changed ( and it is),

and not knowing if you will make it through or if you will become one of the millions who find themselves drowning in the hysteria,

in the loss of a job, savings, house, car and relationship,

and maybe even health.

 

There is one thing though that can change all of this for you.

 

It’s something that no one can ever take away,

it’s something that you can always be in control of,

and it is the deciding factor if you are in SOUL ALIGNMENT or NOT.

 

And that is your ATTITUDE.

 

Your attitude dictates your emotional response patterns to outside events and to what you are thinking.

 

Most people react from an emotional level,

they live in a reactive state instead of a proactive state of living.

 

Most people never realize that they can choose their emotional response to situations,

 

ANY SITUATION.

 

Including how 2020 is manifesting for our world.

Choosing to focus on feeling good,

on living a life of thriving and love,

abundance and connection,

living your TRUTH is nothing more than a commitment to SELF and a TRUST in the universe/God to deliver it outside of what the world is moving through.

 

It is choosing to not fall prey to all the negativity.

 

Now, don’t get me wrong this is not saying to close your eyes and ignore the world topics that are at hand,

often we believe that positivity means to ignore pain, stress and issues and to just put our attention on the good or the desire for good,

 

but that is not realistic.

You can choose to have an attitude of love, beauty and good vibes and still be AWARE and even outspoken about issues and causes that tug at your heart and soul.

 

You can still spread knowledge,

be a crusader,

a patriot,

and see the changes that need to occur.

 

But you will find yourself coming at these things from a different space than those who are focused on complaining, bitching, moaning and fearing about life.

 

You will be able to stand strong in knowing that YOU…

 

you are the co-creator of your life expression,

that you get to choose your thoughts,

you get to choose what you apply your focus too,

you get to choose your reactions,

and your feelings.

 

And you will KNOW that by staying in SOUL ALIGNMENT that your life will be evidence that none of us were ever born to live a life of suffering.

 

Because you will be walking through this year,

seeing all of its horrors,

counting your blessings from a place of love and gratitude,

not from a place of fear.

You will be connecting to loved ones and strangers,

you will be exploring life as it was always intended in its newness of each day,

you will not be terrified to wake up and feel like you must hide from your life to survive,

but instead you will see the sun shining and breathe deep in the crisp morning air.

You will be making plans of travels and community,

looking at family events and business possibilities,

you will know that you are supported in your TRUST that God/Universe has your back and that by making your ALIGNMENT the most important thing,

that your life will be one of THRIVING in this time of chaos.

 

But the THRIVING only comes from the alignment to the soul.

And your state of mind and emotion tells you EXACTLY where you are at at any given moment in time.

 

If you are among the millions who are bitchin’, moaning and complaining,

who are pointing fingers and shaming,

judging and hating,

fearing their neighbours and relatives,

looking at anyone who comes within eyesight range as though they have a gun to your head,

then it’s time that you get real about where your alignment is actually at.

 

DO YOU FEEL THAT FEAR AND UNREST IN YOUR BEING?

 

That is a sign that your SOUL feels differently than your fear based ego mind.

 

That is a sign that you are calling to you all that you do not want for,

but what you fear instead.

 

That is sign that it’s time love to start TRUSTING in God,

trusting in the laws of the universe,

and in your deepest self wisdom.

 

It is a sign to stop the insanity and stop adding to the pot of chaos and suffering for 2020 and the future.

 

It is your bitchin, moaning and complaining that is keeping your desired life of abundance, joy, pleasure, connection and heath at bay.

 

And you love…

YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE THAT CAN CHANGE IT.

 

Are you ready to take responsibility for your life and what your experiences are or are you content in the comforts of your suffering?

 

As Always,

Stop Existing & Start Living

“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”

 

Want to know how one minute each day can create the life of your dreams quickly? Reach out to me about the Magick Minute Program to manifest your dream life in 2020.

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NEVER APOLOGIZE FOR EVOLVING PAST PEOPLE’S COMFORT ZONES.

NEVER APOLOGIZE FOR EVOLVING PAST PEOPLE’S COMFORT ZONES.

It’s challenging to stay the course of your truth.
Our human nature is to want to “fit in” and to be “normal.”
But that is not our soul course.

The soul desires truth, expansion and freedom.
We human’s get caught in our perceptions and ego and want to keep everything in a safe little container where it is easily explained, accepted and does not rattle the cages of our fellow human beings.

Here we feel normal and safe.
And when we see things differently,
we may feel guilty for our views and thoughts as they do not correspond to the majority. People will call us names, accuse of being crazy, nieve, under educated or even fear based.
They will shun and mock,
shame and want to contain you.
But this only show’s their uncomfort in your evolution.

When we step out on the limb of personal evolution we bring forth in other’s their lack of evolution,
we shine a bright light into their darkness and fears,
and by just being ourselves we make them question the reality that they have been raised to believe is truth.

The majority of people will step away from you at this moment.
They will tell you that they can no longer walk alongside you because of a difference of opinion,
because your views are too far out there,
because your lifestyle does not align to what they believe is right,
and that you should care that they are cutting you loose.

Many will argue with you in a pursuit to change your mind and educate you as to “WHAT IS” and want you to listen to their understanding and CHANGE so that you will be living in accordance to what they perceive ass truth,
thus allowing them to feel safe and right once again.

But I tell you this,
to limit your growth and hinder your evolution to make another comfortable will NEVER make you happy,
and it will not prevent people from walking away from you.

All it will ever accomplish is to limit your full potential and create a life that was not lived by soul guidance,
but instead by the judgements, opinions, ideas, and beliefs of others.

You own no one a reason,
and most certainly not an apology for being authentically you.

No matter your beliefs,
no matter your views and fears,
if they feel aligned and good,
if they build you up and make you happy,
then they are in YOUR SOUL ALIGNMENT.

And to be in soul alignment means that you are in alignment with the universe and God as well.

You will never feel good, happy or joyous about any other path.
All other paths will bring about fear, anxiety, frustration,
a desire to control others, hatred,
and have you sitting in your ego,
where you feel trapped by the ways of the world around you.

Our emotions are our GPS to our true path. To our most rewarding, abundant and happy state of living.

If you are happy,
truly happy,
then you know that you are in soul alignment,
and through your joy you will create the life of your dreams.

This will make others extremely uncomfortable though.
And this will pull many away from you.

As you walk in ease and flow,
as you show that you can be aware of the world as they perceive it without getting caught up in it,
and as you continue to thrive,
you will make them extremely uncomfortable,
and most will choose to criticize you,
attempting to break you back down to where they feel comfortable again.

NEVER APOLOGIZE FOR YOUR EVOLUTION AND UNDERSTANDING OF THE LAWS OF THE UNIVERSE OR YOUR ABILITY TO BE AUTHENTICALLY YOU.

This is your life.

Live it for you.

Anything else is you giving your life to another,
and existing through their fears and wounds.

If you are reading this musing today then you are already awakening more to your divine nature,
you are starting to see clearly the truth of how our universe works,
and you are questioning your reality.
You have desires,
and you know that there is a power inside of you that wants to be unleashed.

I want you to know that all you need to to tap into that power is to start to say yes to you.

And thank those who turn away and challenge you,
be in gratitude for the naysayers,
they are revealing to you that you are stepping away from average and ordinary thinking and feeling,
they are showing you your evolution,
that you are rising above the norm and stepping into your power.

They are also showing you upfront if they are truly your tribe or not.

Those who evolve past the majority’s comfort zones are always perceived as crazy.

But all great leaders, game changers and visionaries over the course of human history have broken free from the common mindset of their time,
they did not look at the world through average and ordinary eyes.
They chose to be different,
because they knew somewhere inside of them that that was what they must do to achieve their soul’s happiness and do what they came here to do.

LIVE.

Today is your day love.
It’s time for you to step onto your path and say yes to your soul.

As Always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”

Message me for deet’s on how to claim your power and follow your GPS today. You are worthy of a life that is thriving.

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Thriving Requires You To View Life Like THIS.

A few years ago I was out at a local pub that my ex and I would pop into and have a drink. It sorta was his “Cheers” for anyone who can remember the show.

 

You know a place where everyone knows your name.

 

And I was sitting down enjoying a martini with a woman that my ex was friends with her and her husband for years prior.

We were chatting about all sorts of stuff, among which was professionalism.

 

She informed me that she could NEVER work with someone who had tattoos.

She went on to tell me that tattoos make you unclean.

And that only under educated people had them.

Her passion about the subject was powerful,

She certainly had a hatred toward tattoos and it sounded like she looked down on anyone with them no matter whom they were.

 

Yet she counted me as someone to go out to see Andrea Bocelli with,

to kick back and enjoy drinks and dinner with by the pool,

to share her relationship issues with,

and amazingly she even hugged me to say hello and goodbye.

 

In the midst of her deep sharing on her hatred and disgust toward people with tattoos and how unprofessional and unclean they were,

I sat there with my hands and arms on the table not inches in front of her,

baring both arms with….

 

You guessed it.

 

TATTOOS on them…

 

LOL.

Yeah, she was preaching her disgust to her friend.

I shared with her that I worked with many people who had tattoos, and she said yeah but those are people who need life coaching, help in life, not people who are professionals.

 

I laughed.

Because my clients have always been those who are professionals, business owners, CEO’s, doctor’s, attorney’s, poloticains, fellow coaches and therapists, etc.

 

Affluent people.

85% of my clients are in the upper 2% of America.

 

And guess what?

They have tattoos.

Many of them do.

 

When I shared this with her,

she huffed and said,

 

“Well, if I ever found out that my doctor had a tattoo he would not be my doctor anymore. I cannot have someone like that touching me.”

 

Yet she hugged me hello and goodbye.

Her logic made no sense.

 

As most critical, judgemental people who are caught up in

“it’s my way or no way, and you are stupid and need to shut up or be removed from humanity if you think, feel or act differently then I do, ” rationalize.

 

These same people will turn and point fingers and call everyone who is not caving to their beliefs and fears self-centered, bad citizens, using their privilege, elitists.

 

 

In my line of work I get hate from time to time.

And I actually am grateful for it,

because it shows me area’s that I can improve my own inner world. It also show’s me that I am speaking from a perspective that is not average and ordinary.

 

And that thrills me because I do not want an average and ordinary life,

Living a F-ck Yes! Life and changing others lives to having that as well requires you to not go with the attitude of average and ordinary.

 

There ain’t now THRIVING in average and ordinary.

There is not GREATNESS in it either.

 

My mission is to help ignite as many people to their power and worthiness and tap into their abundance and flow with God as I possibly can in my lifetime,

and this unfortunately stirs many of the ordinary thinkers and perceivers of life out there to want to strike me down for many reasons.

 

“You need to shut up because…”

“You are not professional because..”

“You are wrong because….”

“I can’t trust you because….”

“You are stupid because….”

 

From my typo’s to my purple or blue hair,

from my open relating and tattoos to my I don’t give a f-ck what you think and use of the “F” word,

my authentic relating drives average folk crazy mad that they cannot control it and that despite all my flaws and my typo’s and tattoos I am THRIVING in relationship, money, health and making a positive mark in this world because I CHOOSE to do so.

 

I write this today,

because at waking my thread was bombarded with my fellow coaches and leaders out there being under attack for all the above reasons and more.

The judgment and criticism spewing around in hatred is like a storm that has no way to settle,

and it is sad to me that so many people in the world right now are living with such disgust and rage in their heads and hearts that they find a need to try to tear down another just because of differences of views, desires, beliefs or even looks.

 

This kind of stinking thinking WILL NEVER solve any problems.

 

It will only keep the fires burning and cause more pain and suffering.

 

When we can come back to actual critical thinking,

using logic and heart in harmony,

viewing our fellow human as just that,

another human with their own dreams, desires, fears, beliefs and opinions,

and that, that is perfect,

that being human does not mean that we are all cookie cutter the same,

then we will be able to heal ourselves and our world at a deeper level.

 

Until then we remain blind to love.

Blind to healing.

Blind to true world or local community.

 

Until then we have lost our humanity,

and are slaves to our fear of difference.

 

Where are you at in your judgements of your fellow humans and how are you desiring to control those who are the same as you?

 

Can you imagine what life would be like and who you would actually be if you put down all your fear based thinking and just allowed yourself to be YOU?

 

This is your truth love.

 

And remember,

Stop Existing & Start Living

“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”

 

Ready to stop your stinking thinking and claim your true power now?

Let’s chat. Message me for deet’s on how to get started.

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There Are Only Two Kinds Of People… Which Are You?

WTF Did you do over the weekend?

Did you live?

Did you THRIVE?

 

Each day we gain a new opportunity to do just these things.

And each day so many people choose to just get by.

To survive the day.

Does that sound fun to you?

 

“I am going to survive this day.”

 

What have you got going on?

“Nothin’ much.”

 

So you see luv,

if you desire to live that F-ck Yes Life,

then you have to flip the switch to living it….

cuz surviving your life is never going to happen,

and no moment is ever promised to us.

 

If you don’t choose to flip that switch to living the life of your dreams,

regardless of what your friends and family say or think,

no matter what is happening in our governments, economy, or what debates are up,

then you will simply NEVER,

let me repeat that for you….

 

NEVER have the life that you claim that you desire.

 

Matter of fact you may even find yourself among the many who sit back and dissect and analyze all those who are out there living.

 

You may discover yourself so far out of alignment with your truth and your worthiness that you get caught up being a judgy, critical and even upset about others lives, person.

About what they choose to do or not to do.

 

You may discover that you are caught in the drama and chaos of the world that is always around us,

falling prey to its life stealing ways,

believing that, that is what you are to focus on.

Never realizing that it’s sabotaging you from the gift that you were given from God….

 

YOUR LIFE TO LIVE.

 

And living is not about just getting through the day and paying your bills,

about appearing to do what is expected,

or about people pleasing to the degree that you have nothing left to give to yourself.

 

Living is not about you doing anything that someone else deems appropriate or right for you.

 

Did you get that luv?

 

Living IS NOT about you doing what someone else “thinks or believes” is right for you.

 

They are not living your life.

And if you believe that you are here to please and be liked by everyone else,

then you’re simply being silly.

 

This way of “wantabe living” will only land you in a depression, exhaustion, emptiness, lost, and feeling unworthy, unloved, and broken.

 

It may feel good to help others,

and don’t get me wrong,

It’s a damn good thing to be compassionate and helpful.

But, if you are being helpful to the point that you have lost your boundaries and value,

then you are not helping anymore.

You cannot help those around you when you yourself are empty.

 

And the way that you fill yourself is by LIVING.

Is by THRIVING.

 

The more you do this,

the more you have to give.

The more you can be compassionate and in love with all.

 

I am a firm believer that the reason there is so much anger, hatred and jealousy in our world,

is because we have been raised to believe that loving ourselves, giving to ourselves, taking care of self first makes us a bad person. However, we crave just that at our core.

And so we hate ourselves.

ANd when we feel this shitty about ourselves we have no space for love for someone else.

We have no tolerance for our differences,

no ability to agree that we can disagree and still remain friends or lovers.

 

You see it is impossible to see clearly the world around us, when we are not thriving.

 

Any point outside of thriving, (which BTW is exactly what your life was intended to be about, it’s your set point if you allow it),

 

Any point other than thriving is you viewing the world from your pain body. From your trauma, your fear, your ego, your need to control, because you cannot fathom letting go of the suffering.

 

Thriving is a foregin concept to the majority of the world.

To the point that we finger point, try and shame, hate on and dissect those that are doing it. It scares our ego’s.

Because thriving means that you fully accept yourself, love yourself and KNOW WHO YOU ARE. You also, get that you cannot control others, nor should you desire too, that’s not loving….

 

That you cannot give to the point of exhaustion and crossing your own boundaries.

 

You understand that the best you,

is the you that loves you.

And that you are not going to be a wonderful person to the majority, simply because you are not doing what they want you to do.

 

THRIVING my love is about you expanding horizons,

getting to know yourself and falling in love with that amazing soul who looks back at you in the mirror,

NO EFFING matters what anyone else says or thinks about you on this planet.

 

THRIVING is about you surrendering to your heart,

and enjoying your life to the fullest.

 

THRIVING is about you accessing your DESIRE and knowing that you can have it,

that what you desire, desires you as well.

 

THRIVING is about being in alignment to God/Universe.

 

There are only two kinds of people on this planet….

 

Those that are in alignment.

and….

Those that are not in alignment.

 

We are all both of these at times, the true question comes down to where to reside most of your life?

 

If you have no clue….

look at your world.

Let yourself get real with how you perceive this world,

your life,

how you truly feel about it.

Are you in love with your life?

or something other than?

 

It’s time to JUMP INTO THRIVING.

You are so worthy.

You are so ready.

 

Make the leap now and claim it for yourself.

The magic is all you baby.

 

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***Side note: This picture was taken yesterday during my first jump, such a thrilling experience that I aim to repeat in the near future 🙂 but the weekend was loaded with adventure, from doing a ghost hunt in an 1845 jail, to exploring deep connection with my lover, staying in VRBO chicken coop, just because it sounded interesting, showering outside under the starry sky and more…No matter your life situation love, you can live an adventure, I know because I have done so. I have had to raise five children on $17k a year, I have been homeless and camped for months pretending that we were just having a summer adventure when in truth I could not afford a roof over our head or food, I have stood over the ER bed of my child who was in a sever accident and wondered if there were a God, I have been diagnosed with painful illnesses, been through miscarriages, years of depression, divorce, rape, physical violence that broke my body, and more…. and you know what? My spirit said, “LETS THRIVE! You are worthy.”

And today, my life is totally different. So different that people dislike and judge me for THRIVING and sharing it.

So much so different, that I think about something and it easily manifests in days. My life is now magical because I get that thriving is who I AM.

 

And you are too.

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As Always,

Stop Existing & Start Living

“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”

 

Ready to leap into a life that you love?

Lets connect and get you expanding and saying F-ck Yes! to your thriving life now.

It’s time you stop just getting by.

 

You are worth so much.

Message me for deet’s.

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Is there “Life” in Your Years? Or Are You Just Shifting Paperwork?

Keeping it all together can be effing difficult,
can it not?
 
2020 has started with a BIG BANG,
and not the kind that equates to eye’s rolling in the back of your head as you gasp for air and claw at sheets while calling out OMG! in a state of orgasm or ecstasy.
 
The last ten days had been a roller coaster ride of emotions, events, must do’s, drama, hustle and a packed schedule plus a 23 hour road trip home from Tahoe to Dallas.
 
But I would not change it for the world.
And from the looks of my calander I would say that things are not going to chill out any time in the near future either.
 
Now I am a person who thrives in hustle and bustle.
I also thrive in calm and peace, with limited movement.
And I have learned that in order for me to be living at my maximum potential that I do best with a 70/30 split on these two.
 
Life has not always been like this though,
a little over a decade ago, maybe 13 or 14 years back,
(and thank you Facebook for your memories that you share)
I had more of the nothing happening then the hustle and bustle of todays busy schedule and family. What I also had more of was toxic thinking,
limited acting on goals and desires,
a feeling of lostness and emptiness,
a not knowing of self,
and limited “happy” moments.
 
Today, as I have been up since 5-AM and going strong,
I have been pondering this 70/30 balance of my current life and what it has to offer my desired dreams and lifestyle. What would I change? What do I crave more or less of?
Where am I not showing up the way that I want? Where am I allowing myself to be limited?
 
I was reminded by a quote I posted 9 years ago by Abraham Lincoln, ” And in the end, it’s not the years in your life that count. It’s the life in your years.”
 
About the importance of remembering to LIVE.
 
It’s not even about the hustle and bustle as I call it,
because we can get caught up in this hustle and bustle and busy work and “think” that it is living when in fact we are just shifting papers on the desk of life and getting no where in a hurry.
 
Living is not about business.
Living is about breathing in the moments.
Feeling fulfilled, connected, happy, sad, orgasmic, empty, creative, adventurous.
 
Living is about FEELING life move through you.
And when we are just shifting papers on our desk of life,
we are not living.
Sure we may have a clean home and our bills paid.
We may have three masters degrees and all the fancy electronic devices known to man.
But can you say you feel fullfilled?
 
Most people cannot.
Most people feel lost and without life purpose.
Searching for the elusive thing called happiness.
And this is because they are not focusing on putting life into their years.
They are filling years with busy work.
 
So what can you do to not expereince this empty hustle and bustle but instead put life into your years?
 
You can start with these basic focal points:
🔥Get Clarity Into Who You Want To Be In Life-
Who do I want to become as a person, and what do I really want right now in my personal and professional life?
What areas of my lacking in and why?
Where do I feel certainty at in my life right now?
🔥Get Real About Your Energy Levels-
Do I have the physical stamina and vibrancy to accomplish my goals and feel energized about life every day?
What are major factors contributing to the way I feel?
🔥Check In On Your Personal Courage –
Where am I stepping up and leaning in on my edge right now in life? Wheree am I backing down?
🔥Get Real About What Your Productivity Really Is-
Where am I getting sucked into distraction?
Where am I holding my focus and crushing it with my dreams, desires and goals?
How can I get better?
🔥What Does Your Impact/Influence Say About Your Life-
Do I have the level of influence/respect/intimacy that I need and want to accomplish my goals and dreams with my family, lover, friends, business co-workers/partners or anyone that I need for support to make my dreams/goals happen?
What areas of my life am I lacking influence/impact/respect/intimacy in that I need to accomplish my desired life?
 
I don’t know about you,
but I want to CRUSH 2020.
I want to totally 💃💃💃 ROCK OUT the year!!!
 
And in order to do that I know that my CERTAINTY and CLARITY in myself and my desired outcome needs to be formulated.
 
That means that in reality,
there is no effing time for the busy work of shifting papers on my life desk.
There is ONLY time to focus on LIVING, EXPANDING and ENJOYING.
 
And the successful one’s know this.
We get it.
You may wonder how we do it?
How do we balance and harmonize family, business, spiritual, health, travel, romance and all the other little shiz,
it’s simple….
 
We focus on putting life into our years instead of getting caught up on the dust in the corners of the desk.
 
We focus on being present, active and taking NO EXCUSES.
Especially from ourselves.
 
We know what we want.
And we don’t just give it lip service.
We step the F-ck IN on our desires and MAKE THEM HAPPEN.
 
I want your 2020 to be effing AMAZING too.
 
🎉🎉Are you ready to make it a year full of living?🎉🎉
 
As Always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”
 
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Too Busy Livin’ to Give A Shiz!

Too busy livin’ to give a shiz!
And that’s the way it is supposed to be.

When the rest of this world is caught up in competing with the Jones.
When everyone around is pointing fingers in judgement and lookin’ with a critical eye.

You will find me laughing.
Doing what feels best to my soul.
Connecting with the wild ones like myself.

When you look at me and compare your life,
Compare your relationship and your sex,
When you wonder how I live out loud and keep smiling.
When you convince yourself that I must have chosen the rougher path

Or that I am crazy.
Or somehow not happy.
That I am faking it.

You will find me making love on the golf course under the stars.
Drinking fine wine in a meadow watching fireflies light up the woods.
You will see me speaking my mind with out care,
Writing my life story,
The way that I want it.

Not the way that you or anyone else believes it should be.
No my sweet critic,
I once was you and I know the sadness that this need to judge, to compare, to try and control another or worse to try and control my own soul brought me.

I feel you.
I get you.
This virgo knows how empty you most likely feel,
And how the critical ideas of knowing more or a better makes you feel fulfilled.
Feel like a person who cares.
Who wants a better world.

I also know the expanding darkness of not seeing your own light by hiding from your truth that this way of existing brings.

You are hiding luv.
You are avoiding your truth
Your SOUL.

Insecure.
Lost.
Lonely.
Fearful.
Full of worry, wounds, and frustration.
This is the life you are choosing.
And all because you fear living.

You fear BEING YOU.
So you turn to me and you point your fingers in disgust.
You want to tell me how I should live.
Oh but honey,
I am too busy livin’ to give a shiz!
Too busy livin’,
Creating my moments,
Dancing into the masterpiece of my life and rolling in the wet paint to care what you think.

I may be messy.
I may have chaos.
I may show my feelings,
My highs and lows without remorse.

I may not be your version of perfect.
But there is something I have that you want.

I have my connection to SOUL.
I am livin’ my life.
In full expression.

And my advice to you baby,
Is to put down your judgements,
Your bitterness and your criticism.
Stop competing and comparing.
It only shows your seperation from self.

Step into love.
Step into compassion.
And give yourself permission to be YOU.

Stop hiding
And as always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers ”

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I Am Waiting For You. Stop Chasing Me. – A Message From Your Life.

There you are and here I am,
locked and anchored,
caught as one.

I see you wanting me.
I see you wanting all that you claim that you desire.
I see you craving, fighting for it and putting in the time.

But I don’t want you babe.
I don’t want your desperation,
I don’t want your fear and lack of worth.
It reeks, it is tainted and dark.
All I can see is your lack,
its like a smock that covers,
and you just choose to ignore.

So heavy.
So weighty.
So not true to your CORE.

You sit there and claim that you are tapped in,
you claim that you are ignited and turned on,
full of passion, play and courage.
You spout out statements like you know,
but it is clear my love,
you have no clue.

You are lost within yourself,
and until you wake the eff up and get real with WHO YOU ARE,
truly at your CORE,
you will continue to be lost.
You will not gain the riches, the wealth and abundance.
The JOY.

STOP CHASING ME!

Stop following,
stop pretending.
Those chameleon ways I see right through.
Your DNA does not lie.
No matter how much you change your words,
you smile,
you fake,
I still see who your are.
And in order for me to come to you,
YOU MUST FIRST KNOW YOUR CORE.

But you hide.
You hide under all of this falseness,
you create your smoke and mirrors,
not having a personality of your own,
not walking in your own shoes but of all those that you believe you can be,
but are not.
Such silly little games you play with your life.

Its clear my dear,
that you are not yet ready to receive.

And argue you may very well do.
Argue all you wish.

The truth is still the same.

When you are ready,
you will surrender,
not to me,
not to anyone,
but only to YOURSELF.

As long as you continue to search,
as long as you wake each morning in pursuit,
you will keep yourself away from me.

You seek more for where I am not,
then for where you can surrender to your truth.
And what you crave and look for will only come to be,
when you align to your CORE my love.

So when will you be ready?
When will you allow yourself to have the life that you desire and were born to live?

Because here I am….

LIFE.

YOUR LIFE.

Waiting for you beautiful.

To be ready.

As Always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”

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I have been in those shoes before all too many time.
But that fear is not going to stop you.
You are powerful.
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The Pendulum of Your Momentum Is Based In Your KNOWING.

It feels so great when at your core you KNOW,
not just think,
not just feel good,
but KNOW….
 
You know that feeling of knowing.
Knowing that it will happen.
Knowing that you have come through the toughest portion of something,
Knowing that it is down hill from here.
That you avoided being taken over by your fears,
Your doubts and that you GOT THIS THING.
 
It’s the THING that your SOUL cannot let you let go of.
It’s the THING that keeps you walking your path.
It’s the THING that scares the utter shiz out of you but also makes your feel more alive than anything else.
YES that THING.
 
And Now,
NOW you just KNOW.
You KNOW that you have it at your finger tips.
You can feel the shift of the momentum.
The pendulum was swinging the opposite direction before,
It use to feel like everything was wagered against you,
that you had no luck,
that your guardian angels all went to the bar and forgot about you or are laughing at your illusions of grandeur.
But NOW…..
 
Now there is something different going on.
You feel that beautiful.
That feeling of excitement.
That feeling of champagne bubbles in your gut,
that creative flow that is just lingering,
begging for you to play with it some more.
That feeling of joy.
That smile that you cannot let go of.
That giggle,
that tone change in your voice.
 
Yes YOU.
You are walking different now.
You are speaking different now.
You are showing up in your life with PURPOSE again.
 
It’s sort of like you rediscovered yourself.
 
Right?
 
I know.
I can feel it too beautiful.
You are radiant.
You are glowing.
Your turn on for all that you can give this world.
and for how life just simply LOVES you….
 
It’s all over you.
 
And it is your KNOWING,
that is causing it.
 
It is your passion,
It is your playfulness,
it is that radiant joy.
 
Yes that is the KNOWING.
It has been buried and hidden within your fear,
it has been covered by all the muck that you picked up on your journey,
those things that meant nothing,
but you chose to focus on anyway.
Yes you know the things.
 
Those very things,
they stole your momentum.
They took from you your joy.
They tossed you down another path.
And that path was comfortable,
was it not?
It felt familiar.
It felt like you had strolled there once before.
But as you walked it a bit,
your comfort in it reminded you of the suffering that it brought to you as well.
It was a path that was based on comfort,
based on average and ordinary.
It was your old path.
And old version of you.
 
But Beautiful you are far from that version anymore,
you no longer need to hide,
to fear or doubt.
and you KNOW this.
 
So here you are.
Feeling,
feeling confident and passionate,
tapping into your joy and play,
discovering a deeper version of who you are meant to be,
and reaching into yourself,
tapping into that SOUL that guides you.
Here you are,
facing your fear.
And instead standing in your KNOWING.
 
You got this!
 
Yes in deed you do.
So set aside anything that says else wise.
Keep your pendulum swinging into your abundance.
Keep it tilted to your SOUL alignment.
Listen to what your CORE says.
 
Here is where your momentum resides.
Here is where you gain your energy.
It’s all about YOU TAPPING IN.
And LETTING GO.
 
Yes you got this
Breathe beautiful.
Breathe it in and stay true.
 
As Always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”
 
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I have been in those shoes before all too many time.
But that fear is not going to stop you.
You are powerful.
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This is a once in a life time to work with me 1:1 from anywhere in the world.
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Stop Claiming Your So Truthful When You Really Are Hiding.

Scared to say NO!
You are afraid of facing potential confrontation,
you have painted an idea in your head that if you say no to someone about something that they will do further inquiry into why and you will have to get lost and caught up in the why, leaving the situation negative.
This fear of the negative has you feeling sick to your stomach, it has you nervous about speaking where you are at or possibly even having to admit that you are NOT READY.
 
You know that feeling.
We all have had it.
We all at points go through an inner struggle in saying no.
Because we have been raised to believe that its wrong in some fashion to not always be a yes,
and so we choose to disregard and ignore instead of standing in our TRUTH and be a no.
 
The issue with this is that we are not in true alignment.
It is not about your yes or your no.
It has NEVER been about what you answer.
It is ONLY about SOUL ALIGNMENT.
 
And when you choose to disregard and ignore instead of facing your true answer to something you STEP OUT OF ALIGNMENT.
 
That feeling in the pit of your stomach when you ignore something or someone when they are asking for your help,
asking for a decision,
for direction,
for anything from you and you just “PRETEND” and hide,
like you did not hear them or see what they were asking,
 
KEEPS YOU OUT OF YOUR TRUTH.
 
And when you are not living from this place of truth,
you are not vibrating at your highest potential.
 
You are BLOCKING YOUR POWER.
 
You may be wondering why things are not manifesting for you the way that you desire in your finances, your love life, your health or success or any other area,
but have you stopped long enough to see where YOU are holding your manifesting power back?
 
Can you honestly look yourself in the eye’s and say that you have acted and spoken from your most genuine space of being?
 
Can you say that you have been in integrity with self first and thus with others as well?
 
Have you taken on the challenge of stepping into your AUTHENTIC ANSWERS?
 
Or are you being like so many others who just ignore and hide.
 
Your life picture will tell you where you are at on this.
What are you wanting to create in your life?
Have you been settling for inauthentic answers and showing up in life or have you been stepping fully the f-ck in and being true?
 
Here is the thing beautiful,
it is okay to say no.
It is okay to not always be a yes.
 
Matter a fact in your acceptance of not always being a yes to everything and everyone else,
you actually are
 
💃💃💃BEING A YES TO YOU.💃💃💃
 
And you beautiful are the most important person in your life.
 
You are the ONLY person that you “should” ever be a yes too.
 
It does not matter how much you like or love someone else,
it does not matter how much they make you think you owe them something,
it does not matter how great a deal it is,
it does not matter what you “promised,”
it does not matter how hard you or they worked on it,
none of that matters.
 
Whatever the reason you are coming up with as to why you should say an inauthentic yes….
 
No matter what the reason,
as long as you are NOT IGNORING OR HIDING from your TRUTH,
but in turn standing the f-ck up and saying your authentic answer,
then your authenticity will set your manifesting power free.
 
SO often people come to me as ask,
 
“Kendal, what am I doing wrong? I am working so hard at manifesting things but nothing is coming through from me. Why?”
 
My response is always the same,
 
“Where are you not being you?”
 
And often this not being you is simply you not standing in your truth.
 
Not saying yes or no and meaning it.
Not speaking ( not just thinking – but actually saying out loud or in written word) your truth.
 
When you hide….
You hide not just from the fear of confrontation ( which FYI is most likely imagined anyway)
but you also end up hiding from your power to create the life that you want.
 
REALIZE THIS🤯
 
Hiding is giving your power away to fear.
 
So STOP THAT SHIZ!!!!!
 
And as always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
 
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”
 
It’s time that you start to say YES to the most important person in the room beautiful. It’s time that you accept your worth, and step onto this path that your SOUL is calling you too.
I know how hard the steps may appear.
I know that you are fearful, that you doubt if you have what it takes to make this shiz happen for you or not.
But I promise you that YOU can do it.
You can have it.The first step though is to recognize that you must let go and have faith in your process of getting there.
Listen to your SOUL and follow it’s lead.
Imagine having a coach who has been on a similar path guide you, help you discover the deeper meanings of what soul is wanting you to know.
What would it feel like to have that sort of support and guidance?
You can have this.
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