I HATE YOU…. YOU EVIL PIECE OF SH*T!
I will show you my pain.
I will make you feel how badly you have hurt me.
I can’t believe you ever loved me.
I can’t trust you ever again.
You need to pay for what you have done.
I am broken because of you.
You owe me closure, explanations.
I want to hear it from your lips.
How dare you do this to us.
And so many other things that we say in the midst of break up and tossing our pain out there in the world at the ones that we proclaim to have loved and lost.
Often in break up we fall prey to the belief that we need to be a victim in the break up.
We want to appear the victim.
Or at least we think that we are the victim,
that we are not an active game player in the relationship destruction.
After all WE DID EVERYTHING POSSIBLE to make it work.
It is the other person’s doing that things are crashing down.
It is the other person’s fault that we are hurting, lost, angry.
We blame the other person for the chaos, the violence, the hatred.
And something inside of us wants the other to feel piss poor about the break up and show their pain to us, fight us, antagonize us, maybe even beg for the relationship and want us.
Yes we want often in relationship break up to do the most painful thing we can think,
and that is to get our partner to want us back,
to get them to see their wrongs and then we want to CRUSH THEM.
And if they do not stand in the fight with us then we do everything in our power to instigate their pain and anger.
We antagonize, and we fully step out of alignment with who we really are.
In all of these ego based reactions to break up,
we forget the most important thing in the relationship.
We forget the two people who love each other.
We forget our hearts.
We forget our cores.
And we hand over ALL our personal power and self- respect by acting immaturely and acting out in rage and hatred.
We believe that we need to show how badly we are hurting,
how much our hearts desire to be united with this other person or how much we want and need them by leaning fully into our pain bodies and stepping away from WHO WE TRULY ARE.
And so we become a Taylor Swift song and we slash tires, throw bricks, carve our names in furniture and cars, flatten tires, destroy our lovers property, try to deface them through slander and attempt to destroy their worlds, their relationships by letting the world know our pain.
We act out and we attack.
Whether we are the one’s doing the breaking up or the one’s getting broken up with, often at least one party if not both believe that break up can only happen if they turn the other into a persecutor and themselves into a victim.
But folks THIS IS NOT LOVE.
And if you truly ever loved someone,
if you wanted and could see a life with that person,
if you had a life blossoming with them,
if you found yourself in your heart,
expanding, growing, exploring love and relationship,
and you want to do so much good for that person and for yourself then WHY do you want to dishonor the relationship, yourself, them and most importantly LOVE in this fashion of becoming a victim?
Emotional maturity in relationship is a powerful tool,
no matter the events occuring in the relationship.
If we have a strong standing in who we are as individuals and if we truly have self- love and respect then we may feel the anger, the pain but having emotional maturity and respect for self and for the love will guide us. We will also be able to see our role in the relationship break up.
Because there are no such things as victims in a relationship break up. Even in the worst break ups, where physical violence has occured ( and I have had this happen in my lifetime) we each play a role. We are active participants in the events that are happening to us.
Emotional maturity, spiritual maturity, maturity in general is about taking responsibility for self.
If you think you did not have that coming….
Think again love.
You are a co-manifestor to your reality.
You are an active creator to your life.
Your lack of knowing yourself and upholding who you are,
not doing your own internal work and getting right with YOU,
loving you unconditionally, accepting you unconditionally, lying to yourself and using your partner and others, life as a mask to your own internal issues,
PLAYED A MF BIG A*S ROLE IN THIS MOMENT.
In your pain.
The reality is this love…..
Break ups MUST happen in relationships that are OUT OF ALIGNMENT with the people who are in the relationship.
Relationships have expiration dates.
Even the lifetime one’s come to a physical end.
The sooner we humans get right with the fact that all relationships end, the better our relationships can be. The more fulfilling, loving and the more harmonious our breakups can be.
Imagine ending a relationship in love instead of hatred and pain?
Imagine two people loving themselves so much so that their love for each other and the relationship allowed them to end it in love as well.
And did not mean that they needed to destroy the other to prove their love.
Because destroying the other IS NOT LOVE.
It is ego.
And it is not love to self or honor of self either.
It is fear.
It is not soul based.
It is ego based and immature.
But instead imagine realizing that the relationship has served its time and purpose, finding gratitude for all this it taught you, openned you up too, brought into your life and helped you gain clarity around.
Imagine being in love with the time and lessons that were shared.
And knowing that its expiration was upon your doorstep, but that it did not mean that you had to be in pain or anger.
Instead that you could love this other person and yourself so much that you could let go and move forward in confidence that all things happen for a reason.
This is love.
And ending relationship in love uplifts both parties.
Ending relationships in love supports the lives and future relationships of both parties.
Ending relationship in love expands who we are,
heals us, opens us and is one of the greatest gifts that we can offer OURSELVES.
Imagine this relationship break up and ask yourself today,
How mature am I my relationships?
Do I take responsibility for myself in them?
Do I truly act from love or do I let my ego get in the way and become a victim?
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My heart felt like it was being crushed.
My chest had a weight on it that no matter how I tried to calm my breathing,
no matter the stretching and massaging that I provided my chest,
the pressure and constriction simply would not stop.
There was this low grade level of anxiety rising in my system as I could feel my body fighting with me.
But why was this happening?
I was not fearful of travel.
I was not feeling out of sorts with my lover who was sitting right there with me.
There was nothing that I could consciously come up with in this moment that would support the pain that I was in.
Fast forward a few hours….
We had landed. Gotten our car. And made it to the fauntleroy ferry in West Seattle. I was feeling far calmer now then just a few hours prior in the Uber ride to the airport.
However as soon as our Jeep rolled onto the ferry and we got parked the overwhelming feelings of being crushed and the anxiety made themselves known again.
Breathing deep as I could in the moment I quickly walked myself to the upper deck of the ferry and called my breath as I looked out over the harbor to Vashon Island. The wind encompassed me with the soft smell of sea salt in it,
the waves crashed up against the sides of the ferry, the sun let me feel delicate moments of warmth on the skin that was revealed and here I was in this moment,
There was no reason in this moment to stand here on this ferry and cry,
yet the tears came anyway.
And as they did the release into whatever was holding in my chest and begging me to let it go left with them.
Here on the ferry overlooking the water I surrendered to the unknown.
I let myself go into what logically made no sense.
I was happy.
I was excited to share my love of Washington with my lover for a few days.
I was feeling relaxed until I was not.
And my mind wanted answers.
My mind wanted to become Sherlock Holmes and figure it all out,
make reason for the pain,
and my holding of it.
But my soul and heart understood its truth.
My body and mind had been arguing you could say.
They were not in alignment.
And THAT is what was causing me to suffer.
WIthout realizing it I was not surrendering to the beauty and release of this trip. I was holding onto an old concept,
I was holding onto the version of me who used to live here in Seattle all those years ago and STRUGGLE in life.
who missed so much of the greatness of this place.
Here I was 15 years later, holding onto these fragments of self.
Not letting myself release fully into who I have become.
Who I have grown into being and the life that I have today.
The fear of the old me was actually creating physical pain in the current. The old thought programs and beliefs around money and relationships that I use to try to exist in life were being unmasked in my energy and my current state of who I AM was being asked by my old sabotaging thoughts and ideas to lay down and shut up.
And here was the significant constriction that I was feeling.
The feeling like I could not breathe.
The feeling like my chest was going to explode and my ribs were being broken from the inside out.
The agony in my gut.
And the intense headache that came with it all as my whole being just wanted to flee the idea of this trip I had planned.
I was not surrendering to me.
I was not surrendering to this moment.
I was not surrendering to life or what it was blessing me with.
And I was not surrendering all because of an old concept and old beliefs that were trying to make themselves current.
I was out of alignment.
The issue with my alignment was causing me the pain and the fear.
The only thing that could save me was my own surrender into the depths of the unknown,
into this moment.
into this experience.
into life and what it was offering me.
And as I did so,
the tears streamed down my face,
the wind whipped itself around me,
the waves crashed against the ferry boat,
the sun shone through the clouds and asked to warm my skin,
and I took a deep breath letting it all go.
My world was right again.
My body let go of everything that it was holding,
and it let go of the need to falsely try and control what it could not control.
It let go of this moment in life and allowed the moment to JUST BE.
Without a need to know what was going to come next.
Without the need to hold onto the moment and ask that it never change or leave.
My SOUL was again in the driver’s seat,
and in it I was aligned.
Some would look at moments like this or times that they feel these same constrictions and fears, anxiety and “gut reactions” as signs to turn and go another direction.
and sometimes they can mean just that for sure,
However often they are signs that we are on the tipping edge of everything that we desire to be birthed into our world and our old versions of self are there testing us.
Asking us if we are sure that we truly want everything that we have proclaimed that we do.
Many people at this moment misread what their body, mind and emotions are speaking to them and they turn away from EVERYTHING.
They will say,
“That’s just too risky.”
“I need to see it to believe it.”
“I need to know that this person is as invested as I am.”
” I don’t want to hurt so and so or get hurt.”
“Timing is wrong, I can feel it.”
And they step away from life.
They step away from some of the best moments of living.
They turn away from the experiences that will grow them into that next version and they do it all in the name of “having a feeling.”
They do it based on logic.
They do it because they look at the suffering and pain,
the anxiety as a symbol that THIS IS NOT THE PATH.
When that is not at all what is being said.
Your SOUL is saying this FEAR that you are having right now is here telling you that THIS….
THIS is the perfect path that will transform you into that next beautiful version of who you were born to become.
This fear that you are having is here because you have control issues and life is not for controlling, it is here for you to love and enjoy,
and in your loving and enjoying of each delicate moment and your release into the unknown you BIRTH YOURSELF.
And you BECOME.
But you must SURRENDER.
In the small moments as well as the big ones.
Because the universe/God is not looking at the size of the moments,
but at your ability to be in alignment with SOURCE.
That is the meaning of FAITH.
That is having CERTAINTY that you will always get what you want for and need.
That is how you make MAGICK in your life and THRIVE.
Can you surrender to life?
We are all being asked to do just this.
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SOME DAYS YOU QUESTION…
IS IT EVEN WORTH IT?
You know those days where your chest feels so tight it hurts to even try and take a shallow breath,
and you know that what you really need to do is to breathe deep and force yourself to just relax,
but you can’t.
It hurts too effing bad.
You feel like your chest is going to erupt at any second from the pressure that it is under and your heart is beating faster than it should,
you woke with enough anxiety for two countries of people,
and your mind won’t stick to anything positive.
worry dances around you assuring you that today is going to suck,
just like life is sucking. And you question….
Is any of this even worth it?
Does anyone really care?
Do I matter?
And if I do, is it just so I can be of service without support coming back? Am I only here on this planet to be used?
The blame game is a nasty one,
and you know it’s not even accurate,
but there you go anyway,
down that rabbit hole,
feeding yourself another solemn tail of defeat and suffering.
Your mind is a chatter with how you need to just put an end to your suffering,
you have no reason to continue so it appears,
your heart is shattered and no one sees it,
You are lost.
Lost in your pain.
Lost in your inability to love yourself.
Lost in your fear of change.
Lost in desire to control and you cannot see it.
Your ego has you by the balls,
and there is a strange fulfillment in it.
Shhhh…. don’t tell anyone that in your pain you are comfortable.
But it is true.
You are happy here in this suffering,
it is serving you for the time.
It is gaining you the attention that you desire,
it is getting those who are around you to notice you somehow.
Your vibe is so low that they feel a need to check in on you,
to inquire and at very least pretend that they care.
And to this there is an inner smiling.
But not for long.
Quickly you dismiss it.
And move on to another thought of your inner suffering,
pointing more fingers,
spewing out hatred and pain to anyone who will listen.
Confirming your misery.
And controlling that it will not leave you.
Yes my love,
Did you catch that?
You are controlling your pain.
You are forcing it to stay with you.
You are the one who is hanging on to it.
You are truly that powerful,
that you have chosen to put yourself into this bondage.
You are truly that genius to have devised a life of suffering that is so masterfully planned out that even you yourself can no longer see it for the mastery that it is in your power.
Choosing blindness over sight.
Choosing to remain harnessed to the inner demons that you feed with your thoughts and actions.
Choosing to control them,
through your dictatorship of what you cannot do.
But if you could just breathe.
If you could just allow yourself to settle down into that cavity of your heart and feel the beating of its beauty and power.
If you could if only for today allow yourself a moment to release all the emotion that resides there,
let the tears stream without attachment,
without a need to think about them,
but to just let them go.
If you could do this and breathe.
Deeper and deeper,
letting yourself feel yourself and love,
love you for all your humanness,
and your tender beauty and powerful soul,
then perhaps you would be able to turn the corner to this self inflicted suffering.
Perhaps then you could come from your strength.
From that place deep inside of you that knows its worthiness,
embraces its power and see’s how it is truly the creator of your life.
If you could do this for only one minute today,
just one focused minute imagine the glorious thing that could stem from this place?
Imagine what it would be like to ALLOW yourself to turn that corner and to STOP the suffering game that you are playing with yourself.
Imagine what life might be like if instead of denying yourself the ability to feel good,
you in turn started to say yes to yourself with the things that you know you desire, crave and need.
You question your worthiness…
yet you do not treat yourself with any worth.
You question if you should continue on…
yet you deny the allowance of living from a yes point to self.
You roll in the muddy contamination of your thoughts claiming that you are shackled there while holding the key to your freedom.
And the reality is the same for any of us…
We will only make a change when we are ready to make that change.
When we are done with the service that pain offers.
When we are done controlling from this vibrational level and we are ready to truly step into our power of self love.
Ready to surrender to your true nature,
to create a life of thriving.
But first you must question…..
How is this suffering serving me?
Why am I so attached to this pain?
How is controlling my life through pain supporting my current desires?
And you must go deep with yourself if you are to unblock yourself from what you claim you no longer want.
You must get authentically raw with yourself and be willing to see those inner shadows for what they are….
for how you….
YES YOU ARE THEIR MASTER.
Are you ready to turn the corner?
Because this world needs your light.
And you my dear,
YOU ARE WORTHY OF A LIFE OF THRIVING.
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THERE IS A LIE WE BELIEVE THAT CHANGES ALL OF OUR UNDERSTANDING….
With all the worlds chaos and turbulence,
I am witnessing a massive amount of said “lightworkers,” christians, believers of faith and LOA, genuianly “good” souls fall prey to the misconception around a lie that they have bought full heartedly into,
and that lie is AWARENESS = ALWAYS BEING POSITIVE
It is funny how we humans are so eager to jump down one another’s throats in ego and pain,
we point fingers of blame and cuddle up in our victimhood statues of reasoning,
quick to accuse others of being blind, low vibe or even spiritually bypassing issues and feelings,
but then in the same turn of spewing out all these negative charges,
show frustration and even fear toward truth that does hurt.
Toward truth and awareness that does not fit into what we call “spiritual” or “high vibe.”
We shun the concept of awareness that is not always uplifting.
As if seeing the true pain, sorrow, or darkness that does mask each of us in it’s own way and the world in general can just be ignored fully and by ignoring and ONLY focusing in on the good that we will somehow make the evils go away.
It is sort of like the child who is afraid of monsters in the closet so they hide their head under the blankets of their bed and tell themselves as long as I think happy thoughts then there will be no monsters,
but in reality the monsters they are hiding from are their abusive parents fighting in the hallway.
We will never make the evils of this world go away.
That is the truth.
What we perceive as evil is here for a reason,
it is upon this planet to create contrast.
Without contrast in our world we can never know what we desire or want for,
we would not evolve and expand.
It is only through contrast that we fully experience living.
But here is the conundrum for humanity,
how are we to manifest good if we witness the bad and get caught in it?
The key is getting caught in it or not.
There is this concept that feeling sad, angry, upset or any emotion that is not even keel is not good, is not natural.
It is encouraged in many belief structures and in how we raise our children to hold in the pain and anger and not let it out unless we want to be perceived as weak.
This is a falsity and one of the most unhealthy programs that we teach.
WIth this we have enwrapped ourselves in the idea that AWARENESS ….
is only and always to be UPLIFTING.
And when we share awareness that is not uplifting that we are in turn trying to fear monger.
Now don’t get me wrong, what we are all witnessing in our world of current and for many generations is just that from our leaders and media,
we are for sure being programmed by our trust in them and through television programming systems,
just as planned by those that control.
I am not speaking of the agendas of those who crave more power and are corrupt to the core,
I am speaking about the rest of society waking up to the truths that these dark souls are hiding in plain sight from us.
I am speaking about the fact that in order for you to heal anything or make powerful uplifting changes that you must….
First, become AWARE of the issue. And this may not be uplifting to awaken to the reality of a nightmare.
And second, see what the contrast that this nightmare is offering to your level of desire.
From here we can make significant change.
And yes focusing in on it after this point,
getting caught in all its entrappings of fear and darkness will not change it to what you desire for instead but, rather help it to gain power through the momentum of your fear around any such troublesome topic.
Your awareness transformed to true sight of what the opportunity that is actually being offered,
which is a desire for something better,
for love and peace,
equality and safety,
can then be fully embraced.
It is here in this AWARENESS which is uplifting when we empower ourselves with our true heart,
that what we focus on grows.
Here we can now CONSCIOUSLY move ourselves from witnessing the nightmare to putting our focus on what is good in our world.
When we consciously choose to move our focus and experience onto good we create more good.
And we do not get caught in the nightmare although we are aware of it existing.
This is not spiritual bypassing or ignoring of any sort,
it is being proactive with our life expression, thoughts and feelings.
It is not just hiding our heads under the covers and “trying” to think good thoughts,
but in turn moving ourselves authentically into good feeling experiences which means to focus on the sun coming up each day, the people in our lives who love us, our dog excited we are playing fetch, our child hugging us, our lover desiring us, the food in our fridge, that our car works, our heart is beating, the birds are chirping, Ozarks has a season 4….lol
Whatever makes you genuinely feel good.
That is the ticket.
And to hold this good feeling though for just one minute each day without doubt.
Did you catch that?
Doubt destroys the feeling.
Doubt pulls us back to the fear and the hiding,
and from there we fall into our pain bodies and fight amongst ourselves which in turn keeps the fires of our world burning ever so more greatly.
To create the world and the life that we desire most for,
we must become AWARE and we MUST learn to find the beauty and empowerment in our own darkness,
When we can be grateful for our darkness we will then be able to see its truth in its offering to us and make conscious choices to breathe into life the world we crave most for.
Embrace the contrast.
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The grass is always greener where you choose to water it.
This statement came up on my Facebook memories from 2009.
I read it and smiled.
It was not just a smile to acknowledge a good and accurate statement, but a smile to my deepest self to say,
“You even got it back then.”
And because of this understanding back in 2009,
when my life was completely opposite of what it is today,
I created the circumstances that I am now living.
And I did so consciously.
I did so on purpose.
Prior to 2009 however I was consistently teetering back and forth in my ability to create my circumstances.
I was still playing the blame game and finding great reasons as to why my life was the way it was.
I was still feeling as though life was uncertain and consistently liked to change it up on me.
I found myself asking, “Can I just catch a break already?”
Not embracing my worthiness to live the life that was being called forth from deep within me.
Not realizing that I did not have to react to the circumstances that were all about me and get caught up in their mess,
because the circumstances that I was reacting too,
were only there to show me what I had been focused on in days gone by.
You see I had created those circumstances too.
I was choosing to look at the money that I did not have.
I was choosing to look at my hardships and my pain.
I was choosing to wake up each morning and ponder why life was so effing difficult and questioned its purpose even.
I was the one who was holding myself in this way of living.
I was the one who was holding myself in my suffering.
But something happened in 2009.
It was spectacular and at the same time miniscule.
I woke up!
Now I am not saying that my eyes opened up and I realized it was daytime so I got to work.
No I woke up to what I had always known,
but kept forgetting and kept allowing everything and everyone else to get in the way of.
I woke up and realized that my life was moving forward with or without my attention to it.
My life was happening.
I could try and push pause all day long,
I could sit and have deep debates and contemplate the what ifs and shoulds and woulds.
But none of that mattered.
I could sit and shame and guilt myself for everything I had done wrong or where I could have done better,
and I could really sink into all of that suffering and regret,
but my life….
my life was still moving along.
It had no care if I was caught on those items or not.
It was just going.
And with it, my opportunity to LIVE was going as well.
I looked out over the span of all the years that I had struggling and harping on myself and others to try and get things to go the way I wanted. I looked at what I was doing with myself each day, at the seeds I was planting and the care I was giving them.
And what I discovered was that I was a great seed planter.
I had big and loft dreams for abundance in all good things.
I wanted the castle in the sky and the knight in shining armour to boot. I wanted the health, the joy, the connection.
I wanted it all for self and for my loved ones and I wanted to leave my mark on this planet.
I wanted to touch people’s lives in a positive way.
And I looked to soil to plant in,
I found it often.
Opportunity was around every corner.
And I was great at having hope in it.
I was good at tilling the dirt and planting the seeds.
Doing what was required to build that life that I wanted.
And knew I could have.
But you know what I discovered that I sucked at?
I forgot to water my grass.
Consistently I would get side tracked by the weeds in my life.
And without realizing it I would start to water them.
I would wake up each morning thinking and worrying about the weeds,
I would talk about the weeds all day and share my opinions about them with others,
I would point them out and get everyone else’s thoughts about my weeds,
and I would go to sleep stressed and anxious over the damn weeds,
and do it all over again the next day.
This was me watering the weeds.
And forgetting all about my grass,
Yet if someone had asked me if I was tending to the grass and my garden, I would have confidently assured them that I was.
Because I was making sure that those weeds were being dealt with, I knew I had a great opportunity in this and I knew what I wanted to achieve and there was no effing way that I was going to let those damn weeds mess up what I was working on,
However sadly, everytime the weeds took over and my garden failed and I suffered. I was hungry and broke. I was lost and worn out. I was exhausted from all these weeds that mother nature just kept tossing my way, and even though I was a believer that these weeds were trying to teach me a lesson, that I was to grasp delayed gratification, that I had to have patience and that hard work would get me there,
I questioned just how long and how much paying the price I would have to do and if I could withstand it,
or if I was going to just be broken from the whole thing?
Well in 2009, I realized what the lesson of the weeds was.
They were there not trying to build my stamina,
not trying to get me through all the hurdles and teach me a plethora of lessons so I could be my best,
it was not about paying some price or proving myself or even earning it,
The weeds were there because I was feeding them.
I was focusing on them with more passion and care then what I was giving to my dreams.
And you know what I chose to do?
Yep you guessed it.
I changed my focus.
I took my attention and I started to apply that same passion and consistent time toward what I wanted.
I started creating opportunities to sit and ponder the joyous moments, the laughter and happiness.
I started to look at how awesome my kids and family were,
I allowed myself to get caught up in health and fitness,
I allowed myself to date, to enjoy sex and to fall in love.
I allowed myself to explore me.
And I appreciated all the goodness and abundance that started to flow in.
Now I was watering my grass and garden.
And mother nature did a really cool thing once I started doing this,
mother nature expanded my garden,
my grass started taking over more land,
it called for more and more of my attention because it was no longer a small plot of land in my life, it was now everywhere.
And flowers were blooming that I had only dreamt of.
I had created new circumstances.
And I am living those circumstances today,
at this moment.
Now there are plenty of weeds for me to look at if I choose,
but I am choosing to water my garden and grass instead and in turn I consistently keep reaping a plentiful harvest in all areas of life.
I chose to LIVE.
I chose to CREATE.
I chose to not be reactive but instead to know my power and worthiness and plant more of what I want each day.
My question to you sweet reader is simple…
Are you being reactive to circumstances or are you creating them?
Weeds or Grass,
Where is your focus?
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I want you to close your eye’s and imagine yourself not wanting for anything.
Imagine yourself not stressing or worrying about anything that you may currently be focused on in your life.
Can you do that?
Many people have a tough time with this simple exercise.
Many people when I ask them to calm their fears and their thoughts around what they do not have look at me as though I have three heads and state,
” I can’t do that, it must be nice though for those who can.”
Is this what you are feeling at my request as well beautiful?
Or are you among the not so average and ordinary who understand and practice the calming of your hyperactive mind and fears?
If you are like the first option then this message is certainly for you. If you are the latter well this message is still for you and it will serve you well to get some extra reinforcement and confidence in your power.
Earlier today my thirteen year old son Levi came to me sharing his desire to learn meditation as he believes after much research and reading that it is the key to him being able to manifest the things that he wants quicker then what he has been doing and that it will also open him up to divine insight. He told me that it scares him to death to think about doing it because he does not know what he is capable of or what messages from soul will come through to him but he is committed to taking on this practice and exploring it.
How beautiful is that authentic truth share he offered to me today as well as the courage and commitment that he is showing to manifest his desires?
And he is thirteen!
I share this because I want you to know that his simplistic understanding and belief is all any of us ever need.
He is more then accurate in what he is believing around meditation and if he chooses as he states to apply himself with focus to the practice then he will reap rewards that he is not even aware of.
People ask me all the time what I do in a coaching session with someone? What they could expect for results in working with me.
The truth is the results depend on the person not on me.
My role in the scenario is to guide and to share what I KNOW works with application and commitment. How coachable someone is has nothing to with me.
One of the main things that I work with people on is the above. Helping them to realize how powerful their thoughts are and how those thoughts translate to feelings and actions.
You see, often what we do out of comfort in habit and false belief is the VERY THING that HOLDS US BACK from our success in having the life that we want.
If you feel unsettled around getting out of your comfort zone.
If you feel nervous about committing to something that is calling to you at a SOUL or CORE level.
If you get excited but then quickly move yourself into doubt about your abilities, worth, etc to make it happen.
If you find yourself with a million and one great reasons (a.k.a. excuses) as to why you cannot do it at this time.
Then beautiful it is time for you to GET REAL with yourself!
You are scared of your own success.
You are fearing your power.
You are fearing how amazing you really are.
You are terrified at what you can create.
And somewhere inside of you,
YOU KNOW that you can have it all.
But the fear of loosing it,
the fear of stepping up to the plate and owning that life that you want is trapping you.
And you are settling for comfort.
Settling for excuses and reasons.
And you because you are ALLOWING this way of living and being you will continue to have what you have.
It all starts with you finding your happy place.
It all starts with you being able to laugh at yourself and show yourself some compassion.
It all starts with you being able to make friends with yourself.
To find the stillness within and let it wrap its peace and flow around you.
STRUGGLE will prevail.
So what do you say beautiful?
Are you ready to claim your life?
I sure AF hope so.
But its starts with YOU GETTING OUT OF THE COMFORT ZONE and tapping into your mystery.
Let Go and Let Flow Baby!
And As Always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
” Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”