Average cost of a divorce: $15,000 to $30,000
Average child support payment for one child: $430
Average alimony support percentage of highest earning spouse: 30% of income for up to 50% of time of marriage
Saving your relationship and working through your shit: PRICELESS
Remember the old commercial?
Well I sure do.
And this topic is near and dear to me in recent times.
But more importantly,
It is a possible reality to many of my couples clients.
Or potential couples clients.
The sad truth is that quiet often people go looking for help.
They sit in my office,
Wrenching their hands together,
Butterflies in their stomach,
Wanting to be heard.
To be understood.
And to be given hope.
They look at their spouse,
And they hope that they too have a sincere desire to heal the wounds of years gone by.
They hope that their partner is feeling at ease and will be open to the possibilities of getting help.
Often, tears are shed in my office by one or both parties as they recognize the pain,
They see the situation of their marriage clearer,
And they feel the tingle of hope spreading its wings inside them.
There they sit.
They share intimacies within this safe container,
Baring their truths of bitterness, of loss of desire, of financial pains, of feeling left behind and under appreciated.
They share their sins.
From adultery to drug usage to porn and anger.
They share their longing.
Their longing to reconnect.
To love and be loved.
And so they walk away from me,
Feeling connection and understanding.
Feeling as if they can recover.
They feel HOPE.
It is inevitable my follow up email with all my recommendations and observations comes into their inbox.
It asks them for their,
Many stand up to the plate.
But many steer away in fear.
They lean on objections.
From price to time.
They say they need to wait.
They say they think they can do it on their own.
They say this
And they say that.
But none of it matters.
They CHOOSE to not commit
And thus they choose to remain in their suffering and in the harsh reality that separation most likely will knock soon at their door.
But they feel like they cannot change the outcome.
Because it just is.
So they settle into victim mode.
And they loose HOPE.
How much does it cost to sacrifice your HOPE?
How much is it worth to step into COMMITMENT ?
It is priceless.
Thats what it is.
On both sides it is PRICELESS.
The only question
I ask these souls who choose to say goodbye is,
Are you happy?
At the end of any decision.
You must ask yourself.
Are you happy?
Here you will learn your truth.
Here you will learn about your fear.
And if you made the right choice.
No one can answer this for any of us.
It is between us and soul.
And it is PRICELESS.
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Relationships break us open.
Relationships unfold us to a life that is deeper than we could ever know possible on our own.
Relationships can be freeing,
Or they can be crippling.
Relationships are our defining energy of how we penetrate our lives.
They define how we surrender to the greatness of our lives.
They define how we allow ourselves to receive and create blessings and/or suffering.
Everything we do in life,
We do through relationship.
This last year I have been in this awakening of just this that I share with you today.
I have been coming into the beautiful realization of my truth and how it has manifested and shown me all the guidance I could ever want for through my relationships with lovers, friends and family.
My realization (and perhaps you may feel some alignment too) is that I have been resisting my truth.
I have been hiding from my own uniqueness and power thus of it.
In January I lost what one might say was the love of a lifetime. My heart died that day and I have been looking for a path of resurrection for it so that I can open again to the blessings that a fierce penetrative love can bless one with.
In May I lost my second primary relationship in a shocking 2 hour event that I am sure I will never understand. This relationship taught me so much about my desires, about emotion and stability. It taught me about detachment and harshness and it showed me my weaknesses in my boundaries and lienliance around many things and I was shown just how blind one can be in a relationship as well as how we NEVER know anyone truly.
These two relationships alone have revealed to me a beauty and a reality of who I am and how I have been choosing to show up in life as well as how I am willing to receive from life or not.
I have come to a realization of my set points.
Of my programs around abundance, value, love, money and joy.
I have come into a point of awareness that each of these relationships were holding me back from my full potential.
The healing must still manifest in its own way.
But the truth is that I have been blessed without measure. I have been provided with the opportunity to create the legacy that I desire for my life.
If I tried to hold tight to the energies (the relationships) that were lower vibe than what I wanted for my life, then I would only set myself on a path of further suffering.
As a former love above says, ” A reason, a season or a lifetime.”
So true is this statement.
As every relationship offers one of these.
And we never know what it is until we reach its end.
And even then,
As past has taught me,
Some relationships serve all of the above.
And everyone of them reveals more of who we are.
Everything is a relationship.
If you are struggling then all I have to say is that there is hope. You can have it all. You really can.
I swear to you,
That if this effed up single mom of of seven from the wrong side of the tracks can find hope,
Can discover her truth,
And can manifest a life that is beyond what I believed.
Then you too can have your dreams manifest into reality.
Look at your relationships,
See their beauty no matter the pain they bestow,
And embrace who you are.
Embrace your truth.
Embrace your desire.
Embrace your power.
And as always,
Stop Existing & Start Living.
The thing is this…
The thing is that EVERY F-cking thing is first conjured up in our mind, then we feel into it.
Can you IMAGINE?
An additional $27,000?
See this THING.
It is a F-ck YES! Lifestyle!
Stop Existing & Start Living
Isn’t that right Baby?
This is the THING,
THAT IS YOUR SOUL SAYING F-CK NO!!!!!
So Listen Damn It.
And as always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
You want to know the secret to your SUCCESS?
It is the same as the secret to my success,
or anyone’s success.
I am not speaking about the sort of success that is just about material items, although we love a nice house and car.
We all want the finer things in life, or at least those things that we crave, enjoy and make us feel a certain way. Provide us with the comforts that we desire.
Success is more than that.
A truly successful life is about feeling good about every aspect of your life even if it is not ideal in the moment you know that it is part of your harmonic flow. You see its vital impact on moving you toward your deeper self.
Notice I said deeper self not next level self.
is about having all of the material things you desire but also the relationships that you want. The connections to others that open you further and further and help you connect even more to who you truly are.
is about accessing the feelings and thoughts that keep you in your harmonic flow and recognizing them, being in gratitude for them, and focusing in on allowing more of them to manifest into your life.
are you ready?
% Soul Connection!
This is where you become the alchemist of your life.
This is how you command down the blessings that you know at your core that are yours.
This is how you fully step into your worthiness.
But you have to clear out ANYTHING that does not align to your Soul Connection.
And here is where us humans run into our resistance.
It can be referred to as “fear of success” or “self sabotage”
because it is both of those things.
It is one of the most difficult things to do because it requires us to face the reality of what our soul wants. It means that we have to become selfish. That we have to CLAIM our lives in full and without doubt of the future or loss.
It means that we must step fully onto the soul path and become that soul crusader where we learn ONLY TO SAY YES to our soul and have the courage, stamina and strength of heart to say no to all other calls that our world will try and enforce on us. This means that we will find ourselves in positions where we must break hearts, not show up the way others may expect or require for a relationship, and that we may have to even say goodbye to people, ways, systems and patterns that we have enjoyed but no longer serve our soul path.
Most people choose to stick with what has been.
Most people choose to stick with old relationships,
patterns, habits, feelings and comforts.
All the while “wishing” for something more because they feel the emptiness,
the lostness, of what they could be, do, have
if they just listened to soul and got in alignment to that.
But that would require a fierce connection to soul,
where hesitation to make changes did not exist or could quickly be overcome.
That would require a love for self-
and a self-worth that most do not posses.
This is why a true soul crusader is hard o find.
This is why it is the .01% of people who actually have TRUE SUCCESS in life.
Who die without or at least limited regret.
Who can say that they followed their hearts
feel like they are connected to the divine,
and living on purpose.
Is this you?
Is this what you crave?
DO you feel a warmth in your core,
a desire in your inner most being?
Does your heart tighten at the fear that you may let this life,
this precious gift that you have been given slip by without fully SAYING YES to your SOUL?
To God’s call on your life?
Then STOP saying no.
You were born for greatness baby.
It is all about you.
It always has been.
You are the center of your world and you are the ONLY ONE
who can CLAIM YOUR LIFE.
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If your happy and you know it…
Oh baby you know it is exactly what you crave.
It is what your soul wants for you in every waking moment and with every breath you take.
It is your birth right.
It is how you were designed to be.
And yet you do not have it.
You instead choose to suffer.
You choose to ignore your truth.
You choose to say NO.
And you fall asleep at night wondering why this life does not support you the way you need or desire.
You wake in the mornings with thoughts of fear, stress, and frustration.
Never realizing that YOU,
have all the mother f-cking power.
You always have had it.
It has never been any other way.
You are the one.
You are the BOSS.
SO why do you keep allowing what you allow?
Why do you keep disapproving of everything that your soul craves,
that your heart wants.
Why do you turn away from what ignites you?
You know what I am speaking of,
that thing that causes a great stir in your core,
that thing that makes your gut burn when you think about it,
that thing that if you leaning a little more into it and you admitted it,
TURNS YOU THE F-CK ON!!!!!
Yes that thing.
That thing that if you allow it to just f-cking sit there for the rest of your life like you have done since its conception so far, will LITERALLY
eat away at your soul.
So why are you willing to sacrifice your everything to avoid that which is your life mission?
Are you really the sort of person who is okay with walking away from your hearts truth?
Are you really good with dying with this sort of regret?
Are you really so f-cking content with your life of scarcity, fear and average and ordinary that you are going to continue to say no?
Or are you one of the .01% who decide to CLAIM THEIR LIVES?
I personally really don’t care what you decide,
I can hope for you,
like I do for everyone,
that you do what is best for your soul,
and in turn that will be best for everyone in your life,
and in our world.
But at the end of the day,
I know that there is no one that can get you to do it,
there is no one that can make a decision for you,
you can blame others,
you can sit around and say,
“Well if so and so had told me, had texted me, had spent more time with me, then I would have the passion, the drive, the knowing, the blah..blah..blah. that I need to embrace the life that I want. To do the things I know I need.”
The reality though is this:
YOU ARE THE MOTHER F-CKING BOSS OF YOUR WORLD!!!!
So start acting like it or don’t.
You can continue to sit around on your thumbs and blame, point fingers and cry in your whatever.
It won’t get you anywhere.
But you can certainly do it.
I can tell you that I won’t be there to support it though.
I won’t feel bad about it either.
I may empathize with you, as I have had plenty of moments like that myself,
but sympathy is a gift I will not bestow on you for your choice to remain a victim to your ego.
We all come into this world with the same opportunities.
You may disagree with me,
because you may look at the material world and think that just because someone is born into a life with money, more freedoms and liberties than another that they have some advantage over you.
But that is not so.
That is not what I speak of this morning.
Sure those luxuries are nice and may help make one’s experience on the front side more pleasurable,
But they do not make a person
And they do not guarantee that a person will live their
And these are the things your soul wants for you.
These are the things that keep you up,
make you feel the way that you do,
cause you pain, from not living.
Make you wonder if you know yourself,
or if happiness will ever happen for you,
have you feeling lost and though there is always something you must attain more of to try and fill this void that is with in you.
Baby you are wanting what all of us are wanting.
And you are the only person who can provide it for yourself.
You must learn to allow it.
and here is another secret for you,
(since I like to share little secrets with you)
That happiness that you crave from a deep soul level is
the very thing…
yeah remember that thing?
the thing that will give you all the abundance,
all the blessing,
that you desire as well.
You will not get the abundance and blessing first.
No you must first find your JOY.
Find your happiness.
And the money,
the material items,
will then follow.
It does not go the other way.
It is that simple.
SO why the f-ck are you denying yourself of what you were born to live?
Don’t worry, be happy
Just be it.
Be it now.
And as always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
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We were not born to sacrifice them at all!
You were born for THIS SHIT.
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Here is why I am a F*ck NO!!!! to working for less then my normal rate and why you should not want me too, or any self- employed, commissioned based or entrepreneur ever too again…
Can I get some advice from you?
I want your opinion on this thing…
These are a few of my NOT so favorite conversations to have with potential clients. Yet, they happen and they happen more often then you may believe.
I am writing this brief article on this topic, NOT to be a bitch about it but to bring to attention the craziness of asking for such things. And I say this as a person who is ALWAYS telling people to ASK FOR WHAT YOU WANT!
Here is the thing, you can ask, but asking DOES NOT assure that you will get. Especially, when you are asking someone to provide you with a service at a discounted or free fee.
Over and over again, I am talking like at least three times a week, I have to be a bitch and say, “No, I am sorry I am not working at a discount.” I mean, let’s look at this from the perspective of a salaried employee… or hourly….
You go to work, your boss says, ” Hey Sally or Rick…. listen, you are amazing and you have so much to offer the team. You are so knowledgeable and I really appreciate all that you do for the company, I am so happy that you are here. You are a valuable member to our team. However, listen, I had some set backs come up at home, my refinance did not go through and my kid had to have a surgery, my wife is stressed out and things are tough. So I was wondering if I could get you to keep doing the fantastic job your doing, maybe even take on a little extra responsibility by overseeing this department over here, but I need you to do it for half your normal salary for the next six months to a year and it would be even better if you would consider doing it for free. What do you say?”
So what is your answer?
Come on be serious…..
Yeah, your a F*ck NO!!! Right?
Because….. Your life obstacle or challenge IS NOT reason enough for someone else to earn less, work for less or give a discount. We all have obstacles and challenges.
If you are not a F*ck NO! to the above scenario, then you are a door mat. And that is a whole other issue. For the majority of people out there I am pretty sure that you are an absolute no to this scenario, however when it comes to going out and getting help from someone who is self-employed or on commissions, you may have no real issue having them work for less.
Right, think of your waitress at your favorite restaurant. She depends on your tips for her survival. Think of your car sales man, he depends on your purchase for his survival. Think of the man who sold you your insurance, your roof, or even your refrigerator. Guess what these people all work on commission. Sure some get an hourly rate, but after taxes, it barely covers their taxes. Now let’s look at consultants, coaches and small business owners. We pay up front close to 10k just to have a business, no matter how much we make and then depending on what bracket we fall into, well things just go upward from there in our taxes. Granted we get tax deductions if we keep track, there are plenty of expenses. But here is the thing, those business expenses do not pay our bills.
Now in truth, the taxes and the bottom dollar at the end of the day, has NOTHING to do with someone asking for a scholarship or discounted rate.
Nope, it does not.
But what it will potentially effect if one who ask’s for it get’s it is:
- Your commitment to your own growth.
- The one giving the the discount dedication and attention.
When someone gives something away, or at deep discount then it WILL NOT receive the same attention as the one’s that put full effort in on their side. Often, it is not about the money even. It is about the fact that it has been proven over and over gain, that if you give something away that it has less value to the one receiving it.
I wish this was not true, but it is.
Just this last 90 days, I gave away about $600 in courses to people that I knew needed the help. I actually tried to give away $1,000 but four of the people that I made the free offer too, never even bothered to respond and take me up on it. Out of the six who said, “Sure,” ONLY two accessed the course content so far. From the four who have not accessed the content yet, two have asked me questions and shared down trodden tales of how stressed they are, wanting even more free advice and help, but NEVER thought to access the hours worth of content already given to them that could help.
This is normal. This is how we all are when it comes to free shit.
And yes, it is FREE SHIT!!!
It’s just another download to save on our computer or in drop box.
Here is the thought, “If it was worth something, then they would be charging for it.” – Or- “I will get to it some day.” Hence the massive number of items many of us have downloaded and saved for FREE on our computers… self included.
Well, when we coaches give our shit away at discount or for free, we under value ourselves. We over populate our schedules. And we support our potential clients in remaining stuck in old programs and patterns of scarcity and lack. There is GREAT value in paying for help, education, and service. We value it more, we dedicate more of our time, attention and energy to it and we aim to incorporate the lessons into our lives better.
The way I look at it, is that if I agree to working for less then my normal fee I am doing a dis-service to you PLUS my other clients.
If you feel that working with me in whatever way it may be, is valuable to you and you would benefit from my offer and teaching, then there should be nothing stopping you from making this happen. Where there is a will there is always a way. Granted cost can be a barrier , I get that, I spend well over 25k a year in private coaching myself not including retreats or certification programs or extended education. That is just coaching! So I get that it can be expensive and it can give one butterflies, but here is the gig, every penny I spend on my coaches, I get massive break through’s in my life. Without these phenomenal people’s assistance and insight, I would not be as strong, confident and focused as I am. I would not have the direction that I do.
Nor the FREEDOM that I do.
Or the ability to help YOU.
Imagine if they ONLY gave me 50% of their knowledge, dedication, time, sharing that they do….
Imagine if they chose to not respond to my emails, or pay attention to them…
Coaching is all about moving forward through your shit. No matter what the topic of focus is, your moving through it. Having a coach at your side ensures that you have less set backs, that you get blindsided less, you get the unconditional tough love that you need from someone who HAS BEEN THERE and made it through. Or at least is far enough ahead of where you are at that they can show you how to get through what your in .
Asking for a discount or free service is dishonoring to the person that you are requesting it of. No matter how much you brag them up or tell them how much value you see in the service. Asking for a discount and asking them to over populate their schedule which translates to less time and energy to dedicate to each client, which in turn means that the coach is not able to be 100% their best with each client, but instead more like an over worked social worker who cannot keep a case straight and just wants to quit, has no heart in it anymore, is simply dishonoring to them, to you and all clients they have.
The best coaches out there average 6 to 15 clients max at any given time.
This is one on one clients granted. Group coaching will vary and on line training’s typically do not pull that much over all energy to cause any significant effect.
I have found that I personally cannot handle more than 25 clients on my schedule for one on one consulting without there being issues with me being able to keep up and hitting burn out. My ideal is 10 to 12 private clients.
Here I can make massive impact with the individuals that I am working with, not get burned out, keep my mind, heart and soul in the game and have a lot of SUCCESS STORIES…
And anyone who has worked with me over the years know’s how I LOVE SUCCESS STORIES!!! 🙂
After all, at the end of the day, we coaches don’t coach for the money.
We coach for the Success Stories.
We love seeing your success.
We love seeing you overcome the hurdles of your life challenges.
We love seeing you shining bright.
We love seeing you happy.
We love seeing you turned on, tapped in and tuned in to the F*ck YES!!! Life that you deserve and want at your core.
Yet often the only thing stopping you from having this, is that your being a little bitch about everything.
It’s the excuses or reasons that you give as an alibi as to why you cannot work with a coach and take these strides.
It’s the excuses that you have bought into that you are not good enough, not deserving of, smart enough or some other…
It’s your fear of change.
It’s your fear of failure.
It’s your fear of SUCCESS, that truly holds you back.
And no matter what your alibi is as to why you cannot get started, money most likely being your favorite one to lean on, it will ALWAYS come back to you, making a choice to say yes or to say no, NOT TO ME or any coach, but to YOURSELF.
So the reason I suggest that you NEVER ask for a discount, promotional special, referral discount or scholarship again is because you deserve MORE.
You deserve to say YES to yourself and fight for your YES.
You deserve to know that you want it as much as you claim and that you value the support, education, and guidance as much as you claim.
You need to have some skin in on the game, or you will continue to find other alibi’s to hold you back from your desired life.
Where will you choose to claim your life?
As always, “STOP Surviving and START Living, You only have this life. Claim it NOW”
What exactly is sexual empowerment? Does sexual empowerment mean that you will become some whore, slut or sex goddess/god? Does it mean that you will want to live out your fantasies or move from a once monogamous relationship into some alternative lifestyle with your sexuality? Does it mean that you will start to dress in a more seductive fashion? or watch porn freely?
Through the years of working with many couples and individuals I have been asked all of these questions, some come to me with great excitement and hope that the answer is “yes” others have a look of terror run across their face and pray that these things will not come to pass. Some are hoping that their mates will change in this fashion so that they can go play the field more without guilt, while others are just wanting to feel secure in themselves and have someone tell them that they are normal in their desires and wants and that what they choose to do in the manifestation of their sexual empowerment is ALL up to them. In all honesty, there is NO such thing as normal when it comes to our sexuality. There is no right or wrong. There just is the fact that we are sexual creatures and through the understanding and embracing of this incredible power within each of us that we can create a beautiful life. When we suppress our sexuality and hide it under the covers, in darkness or in the closet we are preventing bliss to flow through our lives in all ways. The links between our sexual empowerment and our ability to manifest abundance into our lives is ever so strong. The two are aligned. Napoleon Hill back in the 1930’s wrote the book Think and Grow Rich and in his discovery he found that all great leaders/change agents and millionaires had a few things in common. One of them being a high sex drive and an ability to transmute this power in their lives so that they were not just having incredible sex but that they were using this force to live out their desires/dreams in other areas of life and pull massive abundance to them. This too is YOUR power. But in order to make use of this universal law you must first learn that sexual empowerment is a must. Healing your sex is how you heal your life and live unbound, liberated and abundant.
It is becoming a more common belief and a well supported one at that, that sex and money are tied together at the hip. For all of you who are wanting to develop that dream business, live your dreams doing what you want, be on purpose and a motivator to the world, then focus on healing, expanding and empowering your sexuality FIRST. The underlying core beliefs that you hold toward sexuality manifest themselves into other core beliefs about life. The way you can surrender into yourself, be comfortable with who you are as a sexual being, ask for what you want, negotiate your desires, communicate your love and/or pain, listen, feel and support your lover as well as yourself and hold space all play a significant role in how well you will achieve your dreams and desires in other areas of your life. When you are all blocked up and addicted to certain beliefs and ways of being, hiding and suppressing in sex you will also do this in your work, spiritual practice, exercise/nutrition, parenting, and over all relating.
So what does a sexually empowered person look like?
- Is intimately connected to their sexual self
- Identifies and experiences wants and desires without crossing the boundaries of another
- Communicates needs, wants and desires without blame or shame
- Accepts rejection without taking it personally
- Feels at home in their self and their body
- Sets authentic boundaries and means it
- Is educated about how their body, pleasure and relationships “work”
- Knows and utilizes available options for sexual expression and erotic experience
- Feels fully sexually expressed and when they are not in full expression, they know how to get there
- Thoughtfully explores sex and sexuality so that they can make clear distinctions about what’s right for them and what’s not
- Develops and uses skills to make pleasureful, satisfying, fulfilling sex their norm
- Forms relationships and develops intimacy that supports the highest expression of their core energy
- Expresses a range of emotions in healthy ways that do not harm themselves or others
- Identifies defense patterns in relationships and works to overcome them and replace them with healthy ways of connecting to others
- Develops healthy coping skills for managing difficult emotions, grief and pain
- Engages in clean, clear communication
- Works to heal and release any shame, guilt or trauma about their sexuality
- Heals the need to be competitive with others and to release patterns of lack, deprivation and feeling like they “can’t have it all”
- Critically examines cultural messages about sexuality, gender and sex
- Rejects and challenges sexual stereotypes, assumptions, false ideas and cultural myths that hinder, impair, squash or dim their magnificent sexual self
- Identifies and experiences erotic authenticity even when socially popular ideas pressure them to do or like something else
- Explores and develops an authentic sexual identity and does not need to hide or shift that identity to feel comfortable and safe in their life
- Knows they never have to settle and that choosing one key desire and forsaking another is a false choice
- Makes authentic sexual decisions
- Experiences joy and pleasure regularly and as a norm in life
- Develops their confidence and sexual self-esteem
- Lives in alignment with their desires
- Shines their light in its full brightness & juiciness in the world
- Feels at home in themselves and moves through the world from a place of self-intimacy
As we learn to come out of the societal trap of “we can’t have” the life, the bliss, the love and connection that we dream of and that it is wrong for us to express ourselves in a creative fashion or live in comfort with our sexuality we experience a complete turn around in our lives. Our thinking and expressing is liberated and the weight of the world is released from us. we find ourselves smiling for seemingly no reason, seeing the good and beauty in all and instead of focusing on why the glass is half empty we know that there is a field full of cattle ready to share more milk for us. It is not a deprived, repressed way of living and thinking but instead one that says that in life there is more then enough with plenty left over.
Learn more about how to become sexually empowered through one of my coaching programs or workshops/seminars. After all that’s what I do. Embrace your authentic sexually empowered self TODAY. Your dreams and life are worth it. Live Unbound and liberated.
Empowerment list original posting and writing from Amy Jo Goddard