Say It With Me! Commitment Is Everything.

OMFG!

So there I was leg up on the lip of my shower,

shaving the back of my thigh,

hot water washing down my back,

irritating me because it was washing out my conditioner prematurely,

when it came to me.

 

I figured out why I have a resistance to love.

Not just to love,

but to allowing myself to fall deeply,

penetratively in love with my man,

with my life,

with ME.

 

I was flabbergasted at my realization. 🤦‍♀️

 

How could I be so silly to not have caught this before.

Perhaps I was just unwilling to see it.

Perhaps I was not ready to fully let go.

Perhaps a whole lot of shit to be frank about it,

and the reality is simple.

 

I,

Me,

have been holding myself back from the feelings and experiences that I have desired for the last two plus years almost.

 

Crazy as it sounds.

It is true.

And thanks to my shower today and now nicely shaved legs,

I was blessed with the ability to change it.

Because you see you cannot change something until you awaken to the fact that it needs changed in the first place.

Which is why life is the way that it is.

Sure we get ample opportunity to see what needs to happen,

we feel it at our cores often,

but we humans tend to disregard anything that is not smack dab in our faces presenting a challenge.

AKA a PROBLEM.

 

Which is why we create problems for ourselves.

We need them to expand.

To grow and to create the life that we are called to live.

 

Problems allow us to witness what needs attention,

what needs improvement,

change.

 

And often they rise up from our “feelings”

yes those nasty things that we are told to not pay much attention too because they will misguide us.

But the reality is that our feelings are there to guide us.

They are there to tell us when we are not in alignment to our souls path.

 

And that causes us pain.

Of some sort.

 

So what do we do?

We get into a sticky painful situation,

and we COMMIT to change our evil ways.

We commit to work harder.

Work smarter.

To not trust so easily.

To take better care of our bodies and our hearts.

We commit to trying harder.

And the list goes on.

 

And don’t get me wrong, commitments make our realities.

 

However, the trick is knowing what you committed to and if the commitment is in alignment with your soul’s desire.

 

You see, this commitment that I made about two and half years ago, was not ultimately in alignment with my heart or soul. It was a commitment made out of pain.

Intense pain, my heart was breaking and I was scared and angry at this for happening. I was not understanding why it was happening or how this could even be. And in my suffering I stated to the person who I blamed with great emotional attachment,

” I will NEVER love again.”

I went on to tell him that I would never trust a man again or surrender the way I had with him, that if this is what it got me then it was too big a price to pay and I was committing to not not allow myself to get hurt again at this level.

 

You may think that those were just words,

that I could just ignore and carry on.

That someone awesome could turn around and walk into my life and change my commitment.

 

And perhaps,

perhaps that might be so.

 

But it has not been so for me.

Instead my other commitments to myself that I wrote down prior to this one above, started to knock heads with this commitment and even though I had manifested a wonderful man into my world,

not just any man BTW,

but a man that I scripted out in my journal and who has 75% of my list of desires in a man,

yeah… not bad for a day’s worth of journaling work.

 

Yeah, not even he could break through this commitment to love.

And so, it has been that the last two years I have consistently kept myself “safe from love” not allowing myself to feel what I have wanted to feel fully and getting repeatedly upset with the world and my life and soul because of it but not catching the root of my issue.

 

MY COMMITMENT.

 

This morning as I thought about it,

and as life would have it all week long,

I have had plenty of opportunity to read through old journal entries as I clean up areas of my home.

 

My soul most certainly is on a mission to CONFIRM to me that I am really great at holding commitment to myself.

Especially commitments made with strong emotional attachment.

 

A few years back,

when I was struggling financially to get over the $100k a year mark in my practice, I committed to myself and wrote it faithfully for months on end in my journal that,

 

“I commit to make no less than $95,000 a year from this moment forward.”

 

That year I made $146k.

And I have not looked back since.

 

I also wrote,

” I commit to having my schedule booking out 4 months in advance.”

 

And it still remains so that my schedule is booking 4 to 6 month in advance.

 

” I commit to being recognized on TV.”

 

And shortly thereafter, was called by Lifetime TV to work on an episode of Married at First Sight.

 

My list of commitments is long.

My list of emotionally supported commitments is long.

Some emotions however, support my soul’s desires.

And some do not.

 

My shower realization is that although commitments are thought to be a good thing,

and they most certainly do mean the world.

That what we as individuals need to understand,

is the true power of our words.

 

Of our commitments to self.

And what we say in passion sticks with us and sometimes can get buried under our day to day lives and thoughts.

 

Sometimes these commitments we carry for a lifetime,

and they can be the root cause to us not thriving no matter how hard we work,

to not feeling love, no matter how hard we love,

to not feeling safe,

no matter how hard we try and make ourselves trust.

 

Commitments make our realities.

Let’s start being conscious of them,

and changing the ones that no longer serve.

 

As Always,

Stop Existing & Start Living

“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”

 

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Here Is Why You Are Not Receiving Your Blessings.

 

Blessings are abound my love,

but you refuse to see them.

 

Your life is expanding,

your fortune is growing,

your soul is speaking to you and guiding you with each breath that you take,

but you my love,

ignore and choose to focus on things of past that do not matter.

You choose to pull forth your fears instead of your blessings and desires.

Why my love?

Why do you insist on living a saga instead of a dream?

Why do you choose to suffer and rage,

to fear and struggle instead just simply letting go of all of those things that you were caught up in yesterday and last month or year,

and instead firmly step into what you want and who you truly are?

 

You question and huff why good things happen to everyone else and not to you,

you fixate on life being hard.

And ignore the blessings and abundance,

the quick manifestation,

the miracles that just seem to happen each day,

you ask for help and it is always there,

always showing up for you and never being acknowledged,

yet you say how important gratitude is to you,

you say that you are awakened,

you say that you are doing your best,

you say so much,

but what you are doing much of is fearing life.

 

And that, that you fear will continue to scare you.

You give it reason,

you give it purpose and strength.

You give it life my love.

And no one on this planet can ever help you out of this drama that you so eagerly keep yourself in.

 

The excuses and reasons,

the finger pointing.

The blame and bitterness,

it is nothing more than resistance to your blessings.

To your worthiness and an ignoring of the glory that is all about you.

 

Today.

And Always.

 

But you turn away.

You close your eyes,

just as you may choose to disregard this message and blame the economy,

the government,

the world crisis,

your health or another human.

you may blame your broken heart,

or your upbringing,

but all of that blame,

yes all of it,

is your resistance to your birth right of worthiness and well being.

 

You were not born to struggle.

You were not born to fear.

You were not born to live in such drama and pain.

 

Wellbeing is who you are.

Wellbeing is what life’s all about,

It is the natural flow of our lives as abundance in all things that we love, and bringing us joy are part of the natural tides of our lives.

 

So why do you resist your nature my love?

Why do you desire so to not live the glory that God wants for you and offers each moment?

Why do you keep fighting for your lack?

 

When all you ever need to do is say yes to your blessings.

Yes to you.

yes to everything that is always being offered to best support and love  you now.

 

Get out of your past failures and fears,

step away from the pain and know that you can put it down,

put your attention on what you want.

Bring your heart into alignment with joy.

Into alignment with love.

And let yourself triumph over the fear of yesterday.

 

You are a king.

You are a queen.

You are the creator of your day.

 

Today.

And Always.

 

So say goodbye to reasons and excuses.

Claim your life now,

the way that it has always been intended.

 

Say Yes — To YOU!

 

And As Always,

 

Stop Existing & Start Living

 

“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”

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Life Circumstances Getting To You? Here is what to realize.

The grass is always greener where you choose to water it.

 

This statement came up on my Facebook memories from 2009.

 

I read it and smiled.

It was not just a smile to acknowledge a good and accurate statement, but a smile to my deepest self to say,

“You even got it back then.”

 

And because of this understanding back in 2009,

when my life was completely opposite of what it is today,

I created the circumstances that I am now living.

 

And I did so consciously.

I did so on purpose.

 

Prior to 2009 however I was consistently teetering back and forth in my ability to create my circumstances.

I was still playing the blame game and finding great reasons as to why my life was the way it was.

I was still feeling as though life was uncertain and consistently liked to change it up on me.

I found myself asking, “Can I just catch a break already?”

 

Not embracing my worthiness to live the life that was being called forth from deep within me.

Not realizing that I did not have to react to the circumstances that were all about me and get caught up in their mess,

because the circumstances that I was reacting too,

were only there to show me what I had been focused on in days gone by.

You see I had created those circumstances too.

I was choosing to look at the money that I did not have.

I was choosing to look at my hardships and my pain.

I was choosing to wake up each morning and ponder why life was so effing difficult and questioned its purpose even.

I was the one who was holding myself in this way of living.

I was the one who was holding myself in my suffering.

 

But something happened in 2009.

It was spectacular and at the same time miniscule.

 

I woke up!

 

Now I am not saying that my eyes opened up and I realized it was daytime so I got to work.

No I woke up to what I had always known,

but kept forgetting and kept allowing everything and everyone else to get in the way of.

I woke up and realized that my life was moving forward with or without my attention to it.

My life was happening.

I could try and push pause all day long,

I could sit and have deep debates and contemplate the what ifs and shoulds and woulds.

But none of that mattered.

I could sit and shame and guilt myself for everything I had done wrong or where I could have done better,

and I could really sink into all of that suffering and regret,

but my life….

 

my life was still moving along.

It had no care if I was caught on those items or not.

It was just going.

And with it, my opportunity to LIVE was going as well.

 

I looked out over the span of all the years that I had struggling and harping on myself and others to try and get things to go the way I wanted.  I looked at what I was doing with myself each day, at the seeds I was planting and the care I was giving them.

 

And what I discovered was that I was a great seed planter.

I had big and loft dreams for abundance in all good things.

I wanted the castle in the sky and the knight in shining armour to boot. I wanted the health, the joy, the connection.

I wanted it all for self and for my loved ones and I wanted to leave my mark on this planet.

I wanted to touch people’s lives in a positive way.

And I looked to soil to plant in,

I found it often.

Opportunity was around every corner.

And I was great at having hope in it.

I was good at tilling the dirt and planting the seeds.

Doing what was required to build that life that I wanted.

And knew I could have.

 

But you know what I discovered that I sucked at?

Watering.

 

I forgot to water my grass.

Consistently I would get side tracked by the weeds in my life.

And without realizing it I would start to water them.

I would wake up each morning thinking and worrying about the weeds,

I would talk about the weeds all day and share my opinions about them with others,

I would point them out and get everyone else’s thoughts about my weeds,

and I would go to sleep stressed and anxious over the damn weeds,

and do it all over again the next day.

 

This was me watering the weeds.

And forgetting all about my grass,

Yet if someone had asked me if I was tending to the grass and my garden, I would have confidently assured them that I was.

Because I was making sure that those weeds were being dealt with, I knew I had a great opportunity in this and I knew what I wanted to achieve and there was no effing way that I was going to let those damn weeds mess up what I was working on,

However sadly, everytime the weeds took over and my garden failed and I suffered. I was hungry and broke. I was lost and worn out. I was exhausted from all these weeds that mother nature just kept tossing my way, and even though I was a believer that these weeds were trying to teach me a lesson, that I was to grasp delayed gratification, that I had to have patience and that hard work would get me there,

I questioned just how long and how much paying the price I would have to do and if I could withstand it,

or if I was going to just be broken from the whole thing?

 

Well in 2009, I realized what the lesson of the weeds was.

 

They were there not trying to build my stamina,

not trying to get me through all the hurdles and teach me a plethora of lessons so I could be my best,

it was not about paying some price or proving myself or even earning it,

The weeds were there because I was feeding them.

I was focusing on them with more passion and care then what I was giving to my dreams.

 

And you know what I chose to do?

 

Yep you guessed it.

I changed my focus.

I took my attention and I started to apply that same passion and consistent time toward what I wanted.

I started creating opportunities to sit and ponder the joyous moments, the laughter and happiness.

I started to look at how awesome my kids and family were,

I allowed myself to get caught up in health and fitness,

I allowed myself to date, to enjoy sex and to fall in love.

I allowed myself to explore me.

And I appreciated all the goodness and abundance that started to flow in.

 

Now I was watering my grass and garden.

And mother nature did a really cool thing once I started doing this,

mother nature expanded my garden,

my grass started taking over more land,

it called for more and more of my attention because it was no longer a small plot of land in my life, it was now everywhere.

And flowers were blooming that I had only dreamt of.

 

I had created new circumstances.

And I am living those circumstances today,

at this moment.

 

Now there are plenty of weeds for me to look at if I choose,

but I am choosing to water my garden and grass instead and in turn I consistently keep reaping a plentiful harvest in all areas of life.

 

I chose to LIVE.

I chose to CREATE.

I chose to not be reactive but instead to know my power and worthiness and plant more of what I want each day.

 

My question to you sweet reader is simple…

 

 

Are you being reactive to circumstances or are you creating them?

 

Weeds or Grass,

Where is your focus?

 

As Always,

Stop Existing & Start Living

“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers

 

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Show Me Your World & I Will Show You Where Your Attention Is Focused.

Show me the money!
Show me your love!
Show me your attention….
 
Yes,
show me your attention.
Because the money and the love,
they will come or they will go,
based on where your attention is.
 
You can claim all damn day long that you are dreaming about the positives.
You can say that you love this and that about your life or your partner,
you can say,
“But, Kendal, I AM – REALLY- I am looking at all my blessings.”
 
And I will look at you and smile.
Because the reality is just such,
if your world is not what you want it to be in love or money,
or any other subject for that matter,
then the ONLY reason that it is not…
 
Is because you BABY,
are looking for the evidence that those things are not there instead of living as though they already are.
 
This is the hardest concept for us humans to get.
We set our goals,
we feel our desires,
we hunger and thirst for them,
we search, chase and keep our head down to the ground working our bumbs off to make it happen.
And we consistently look for our good efforts to reap the rewards that we want.
 
We consistently,
dig those seeds that we are planting up and ask of them,
 
“WHY have you little seed I planted just this morning, foresaken me? Why have you not sprouted?”
 
And this is the issue that we have with goals and dreams.
We keep digging them up.
We keep unearthing them and not having patience for them to sprout.
Something inside of us makes us believe that if we keep looking at what has not sprouted that it will magically make it sprout,
and not just sprout….
 
No it will magically go from seed to full grown tree bearing a whole crop of all the fruit that we hunger for.
 
And when it does not…
we get ill spirited and frustrated,
we go into victim mode.
We point to the lack of sprouting and proclaim,
“You see…. the evidence always shows me the same thing. No sprouts.”
 
And so we support our self-sabotagging beliefs of lack of worthiness, and love. We support the ideas that we cannot have and that we are just not good enough.
 
We tell ourselves,
we are looking at what we want in the positive.
That we are counting our blessings,
showing our gratitude and not having expectations or a need to control how we gain what we desire.
 
Yes, we tell ourselves all of this and more.
But our outside world shows the TRUTH.
 
I ask and encourage you today beautiful,
to take a moment to get REAL,
real with self.
Real with where your true attention is.
Because I promise you that God does not make unworthy things,
it is our powerful ability to create anything that we focus on.
And if you desire to speak into reality a life that is full of magic, love and money,
then speak it baby.
But speak it with the intent,
the words,
and the feeling that it is,
and stop your ill concepts of looking for it to not be there.
 
Watch your words my love.
Watch your actions and your feelings about that,
that you desire so.
 
Show me your world and I will show you where your attention is focused.
 
 
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”
 
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You Are Not In Love With The Man, You Are In Love WIth The Stability.

You don’t want the man.
You want the stability.
 
Over and over again,
I witness this very scenario.
Living in Dallas,
I hear often about all the gold diggers and how it is such a “thing” here. But, it is not just a Dallas thing.
It just is the facts.
 
Many years ago, I dated a man from Germany and I recall on one of our first dates him sharing about some of the women he had, had a first time meeting with or corrisponded with over email. He told me how their main concerns and questions were:
 
👉Who do you work for and what do you do with them?
👉How much do you make?
👉What kind of car do you drive?
👉Where do you live? ( in other words what part of town are you in so I can figure out if its affluent enough).
 
He wanted to find love.
he wanted to find a partner.
And he felt like in order to do this he needed to show his resume.
 
So he bought a BMW sports car.
He moved into a prime location and got a fancy apartment on the 19th floor over looking the city scape.
He already had the great job and made multi-six figures.
So he was set.
 
And in turn as he dated he found that there was no depth to the women. There was no love. There was no truth in how they felt about him.
 
They were attracted to his lifestyle.
They were attracted to the stability.
They were attracted to him being the perfect guy to bring home to mom and dad.
They were attracted to everything that he could provide.
 
But they were NOT attracted to the man.
 
SInce then, I have worked with many men and women who have gotten married based on this very line up.
The woman was attracted to the stability and what the man could provide,
the man was attracted to her beauty and that he had scored the woman of his dreams, the woman out of his league. He was tired of being lonely and alone, he wanted to have that life partner, he wanted to have all that the relationship could provide and how she was making him feel like a king.
 
And so they said, “I DO.”
 
Years pass and life happens.
Children, work, health, stress.
And the relationship built on the above struggles for life because it was not based in love.
It was based on the desire of a need getting met.
 
When we get caught up in relationship that is based on desire for needs to be met or out of fear of running out of time, or not believing our good fortune so we commit prematurely to someone that we don’t know truly but fits a certain idea of what we “think” is ideal, but we do not truly have a desire for the person and who they are as a person.
 
Often we might find ourselves in thes emoments thinking:
 
“Oh, that part of them can be cahnged.”
“Or I need to say yes to this because of….”
“They are so sweet, so great, I don’t have to be attracted to them actually, they have all of this going on and thats more important.”
“But they treat me so wonderful, it’s okay that I am not that into them.”
“Better something then nothing and this is not a bad something.”
 
Then we are settling for a relationship based on a current idea of needs and fear not on a relationship that can withstand time based in love of who the person is and how they are in life.
 
We are settling for the desire of our needs in current vs our desire for the person.
 
If we do not have that spark,
that chemistry..
and if it is not on both sides,
then it will not last time.
 
Our desire for the person can ebb and flow over the course of the life of the relationship.
But if you get with someone because of what they can provide you with and not because of who they are and how you adore them as a person,
then know that your relationship is built on shifting sands.
Because our needs change over time.
And if you are not into your partner,
then you will not be able to surf these sands of change.
There will be no connecting strings to hold you together.
Instead you will find yourself in quick sand caused by years of not wanting the person but settling for the lifestyle provided.
 
 
And this comfort of all that you have,
WILL become VERY uncomfortable.
 
So much so,
change will be birthed from it.
 
Choose the man that you want for the man that he is TODAY,
not for what his resume in life says, or the money in his bank, or who you think he can become with you at his side.
 
Choose the woman that is real with you,
let’s you see her without all the makeup, the illusions and masks, wait for her to reveal herself over time, and do not grow hasty in catching what you feel you do not qualify for.
 
Time is a mirror that reveals all.
 
Pause before the “I DO.”
And know the person you are looking at.
 
As always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”
 
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Are Your Relationship Idea’s Making You A Prostitute?

Every woman wants a guy to have a rockin’ resume!

I mean all of us want that night in shining armor.
We want him to be tall, dark and handsome.
We want him to be rich.
We want him to be generous and compassionate.
We want him to be romantic and a good listener.
We want him to be world traveled.
We want him to be intelligent.
We want him to love our bodies as they are.
We want him to love our minds and hearts more.
We want him to just get us.
We want him to be passionate and playful.
We want him to be confident.
We want him to act like a grown up and take care of his responsibilities.
We want him to do everything right in the bedroom.
We want him to be a good kisser.
We want him to appreciate everything that we do.
We want him to respect us.
We want him to worship us.
We want him to be everything that we want him to be and just get it without us ever having to tell him what we want.

I mean if he just paid attention and was present,
if he inquired and asked the right question at the right times,
then he would know.

If he listened then all would be right in the relationship.
That is of course as long as he never pushed us to do or be anything that we did not want to do or be….

And he just accepted what he got for all that grandness that he is offering up.

Now we live in a world where sugar babies, paid hook ups and lies are just a way of relating.

We live in this world where if a woman wants something at work that she pretty much can get it for the right price.
And smart, well educated, go getter women EVERY DAY pay these prices with “respectable” bosses and elite men in power to advance themselves.

How can this be?
How can this be a designer relationship that anyone is happy with?
Its merely based in the man getting a place to stick his junk occasionally and release somewhere outside of the palm of his hand or the toilet and in return for this the woman gets taken care of financially or gains promotions, business advances, networking deals, or simply a monthly payment and some gifts and travel.

Either way its what many relationships for both single and married people are like.

I know many very affluent people who have mistresses of this nature. And I know many married women as well as single women who are gaining power and success in business and finances this way.

And its not even looked down on.
Where I live in North Texas just outside of Dallas,
its almost assumed that if you are a woman in her 20’s or 30’s that you have at least one if not two or three sugar daddy’s supporting your lifestyle, schooling and goals.

It is the sin that is not spoken of,
but is expected if you had an open raw unfiltered conversation with almost any man who makes decent earnings and if you sat with any woman who was “dating.”

That’s why such websites such as whats your price, sugar daddy, seeking arrangements and others of this nature are growing at the levels that they are.

So the question comes,
“What is the turn on to this style of relationship?”

Because obviously it may appear empty of true connection, love, friendship and a desire to be long standing. It is simply based on two people using each other to meet their needs.

Or is it?

Just last night this very topic came up on a double date I was on with a good friend. And as we conversed about it, the statement came around that these sort of relationships may perhaps be great examples of people doing what they “should” be doing no matter the relationship.

In such relationships, people:

* ask for their needs to be met
* set boundaries and non-negotiables
* discuss what the relationship is and what is not
* communicate about what is working and what is not
* keep a certain level of detachment
* lean in and trust the other to meet the proposed agreement
* don’t try and fake who they are or what they are there for

Unlike today’s marriages and committed relationships where both parties typically:

* don’t talk about needs unless they are fighting about them
* don’t understand boundaries and the only non-negotiable that is ever discussed is cheating
* Assume that the other side knows what they want from the relationship and assume they know what their partner wants
* don’t communicate about issues until its too late and therapy is needed, resentment has happened, one or both parties are feeling abandoned, misunderstood
* Think that co-dependency is love
* Have trust issues and use guilt and shame to try and control the other, the relationship and events
* Fake who they are and what they want on the front side of a relationship to get the relationship committed, then end up faking their intimacies with their partner and not willing to be authentic or have their partner be authentic
* Give surface level connection all the while saying they desire depth

Sounds exciting huh?

Yet it’s the truth of relationship in today’s world.

Today’s relationships certainly have their challenges no matter what labels , guidelines they may have set for them.

At the of the day what I want to focus you on is authenticity.
A good relationship is NOT based on that want list that a woman has.

A good relationship is not based on financials and quantity of sex or how adventurous the sex is even.

A good relationship,
a turned on, supportive, loving relationship is based in truth on the list that people who entertain “paid” relationships set.

The most important one being COMMUNICATION.

Because communication,
no matter how difficult it may be,
is the foundation to everything else.
The communication however, needs to be REAL.
And it needs to come from a centered place of KNOWING THY SELF first.

This will provide a level of maturity,
understanding and presence that the majority of people never achieve in their relationships.

But when we offer this sort of authentic relating we can then feel into the who we are even more, grow and expand mentally, emotionally and allow our partners the same.
We limit our expectations.
We speak our needs.
We respect boundaries,
and we take responsibility for our happiness.

Here is the ground to create a successful relationship based in unconditional love and respect instead of ego and need.

How does your relationship ideas, goals and ways of relating line up?

Are you exploring authentic relating or something else?

As Always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”

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It’s All About You Being Turned On BABY!

Turn it on BABY!
 
You can do it.
No matter what is happening.
No matter the storms that may be in your midst,
no matter what you fear,
what worries you and is scratching at your heals.
 
Turn it on BABY!
 
That’s where your power comes from.
That’s where the shift occurs.
That’s how you create the momentum.
 
It’s all about you TURNING IT ON.
 
This life of yours,
it’s your SHOW.
It’s all about you becoming you.
Learning you,
and you SHINE.
 
Those fears and doubts,
those worries that block you up and make you stumble,
that is not you baby.
That is but only your resistance to who you are.
That void that you feel rising up at times that trouble,
that void is only the separation between who you are allowing yourself to be and your SOUL.
 
Your TRUTH.
 
So TURN IT ON!
 
Because BABY,
You see when you turn on that light within,
when you tap into that powerhouse of energy,
when you let your SOUL SHINE,
you are truly UNSTOPPABLE.
 
You are a force in nature that cannot be shut down,
your heart,
your soul,
your beauty,
it is magnetic, true and divine.
And this baby,
this is who you are.
You have got to know,
you have just got t o know…
 
That feeling that resides,
deep within your CORE,
that voice inside,
that speaks those words,
they scare you because of their power,
they scare you because you doubt your worthiness,
but you KNOW.
 
Your desire is what keeps you coming back.
Your desire to feel this feeling.
This beautiful,
breathtaking feeling of your SURRENDER.
 
And what are you surrendering too baby?
 
To SELF.
To SOUL.
To that feeling.
 
And oh, how it washes over you,
like the breath of a lover,
your flesh ignites,
your heart pulse increases,
you feel flushes,
and excited.
You want to open to it,
you know you do.
Despite your fear….
 
You desire.
 
Desire this SURRENDER.
And so you must,
you must simply TURN IT ON.
 
But how do you turn on this light?
How do you just let go and allow all that you want to move through you?
How to surrender to your desire,
your dreams,
your POWER?
 
Simple, baby….
it’s about letting go of the reigns of control.
It’s about letting go of that which is so logical.
It’s about stepping into your messiness,
your chaos,
your creative vibe.
It’s about playing.
Laughing.
Being turned on to life.
And it’s about no longer doubting WHO YOU ARE.
 
Because baby,
you are magnificent.
You are powerful,
you are more than you can imagine.
And you are unstoppable.
 
But baby,
you know what you must do…
It’s the work of JUST DOING.
It’s doing that DAMN THING.
The THING that you fear the most.
Yes that THING…
and that thing is what is holding you back,
so let go baby,
and do the damn thing,
open up,
surrender to everything that you want my dear.
 
If you could only see,
that what you want,
wants you too,
and it there,
RIGHT THERE,
on the other side of your resistance.
 
It is there on the other side of the curtain that you are holding up,
blinding you from the life that you so badly want.
It is there.
But you must put your fears and doubts down.
You must allow yourself to FEEL.
You must surrender to your pleasure,
your TURN ON,
your WANTING of it.
And turn away from your fear of not having.
 
Yes BABY,
this is the thing,
the thing that you must do to have it all.
 
As Always,
Stop Existing & Start Living – GET TURNED ON!
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believer”

Stop Feeling Cowering and Shaming Your Greatness! – Let Your LIGHT SHINE Baby.

Oh baby you know you can do it!
You are truly unstoppable when you put your mind to it.
When you commit and allow yourself to SHINE,
when you feel that passion,
that excitement and you take that leap into what you know will expand you,
carry you,
level you up to WHO YOU KNOW YOU ARE.
 
Yes, Baby…
Yes,
you are truly unstoppable.
I love witnessing your passion,
I adore watching you create.
 
That sparkle in your eye,
that smirk on you face,
I can feel the enthusiasm,
the joy lights up your face.
 
Yes, this unstoppable version of you is so beautiful.
So truly amazing.
And when you let this version of you SHINE,
the heavens rejoice in your spender.
 
because it is here….
 
HERE…
this wonder and beauty that you allow the world to see’
it is YOU.
 
It is here is this magnificence that you open up to your greatest manifestations.
 
It is in this state of being,
that YOU,
yes you…..
FEEL YOUR POWER.
 
And Baby,
You are UNSTOPPABLE!
 
You know what I speak of.
I know that you do.
Don’t hide your face,
don’t cower to your greatness,
there is no shame in showing your LIGHT.
You my beautiful were born for greatness,
and those of us who know that we were born for a greater calling,
that we have something special inside of ourselves to offer this world,
yes we know the importance of letting our magic be seen and felt.
 
So whatever you do gorgeous,
do not hide.
Stop questioning your greatness.
Stop denying your worthiness.
Your presence,
your gifts,
your voice is needed.
 
It is expected of you to SHINE.
You have upon you a massive calling that this world cannot go without beautiful.
And you FEEL IT.
 
I know you do.
Any of us who have this calling cannot ignore this feeling.
It is the feeling of I must….
It is the feeling of knowing…
It is the feeling of burning passion coming from your depths,
it is the feeling that you cannot, not speak it, sing it, play it, share it, write it, be it….
 
Although you may have spent years trying to disregard,
you have spent a decade ignoring it,
you may have run from that which you know,
and you may have tried to settle into that THING called average and ordinary,
 
But no matter what you have done,
no matter how you hide,
how you fear this FEELING,
 
it just continues to tug at your SOUL.
And NOW….
 
Now you just know,
because you have tasted,
you have tasted your own wonder,
you have tasted your own power,
you know that the same power that moved through Moses to part the seas is moving through you as well.
 
You FEEL IT.
 
I know you do beautiful.
And if you do not bow to this power,
if you continue to not surrender yourself to it,
you will suffer.
 
But you cannot, not surrender.
Your SOUL is demanding your release.
It is demanding its RAPTURE.
 
And you are scared.
But beautiful,
this is the path of every soul warrior,
this is the path of the greatest souls that walk this earth.
You will loose yourself.
You will feel like death is at your doorstep.
You will never be the same once you surrender.
 
And it will be perfection.
It will be the glory that your SOUL desires.
 
Because baby,
you are UNSTOPPABLE.
 
In your alignment with all that you feel called.
In your attention to who you really are,
you will fly.
 
And your magic will change this world.
The changes that you desire to see in this world,
will seep first from you.
 
Its is upon you beautiful,
to speak your message,
to let your voice be heard,
to let your calling be felt.
You are UNSTOPPABLE.
 
So STEP now and forever more into WHO YOU TRULY ARE.
 
You know what to do.
You know the step to take.
The step that you cannot, not take.
 
Yes, that step.
 
And become UNSTOPPABLE.
 
As Always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
 
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”
 
Let’s get you to your desired F-ck YES! NOW.
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You Are Working With A Fake….

You are working with a fake!
Say what?
You heard me right…
 
You are working with a fake.
I know they told you all that hype.
I know you love them for just being who you think they are.
I know you have lofty dreams and goals,
you want it bad baby.
It’s so obvious.
 
But that desperation of desire that you are sharing with this world,
it has you vulnerable to deception.
It has you vulnerable and weak to making BIG time mistakes.
You may want what you want,
and you may want it to happen for you NOW.
I mean I get it.
 
You have been working for this THING for so damn long,
you are getting tired of it not manifesting.
You cannot figure out what most likely the oh so little tweak is that you need to make that pendulum swing over there into the promised land,
and so here they came,
the wolves in lion’s clothing.
They marched on in here,
confident and beautiful,
telling you EVERYTHING that you wanted to hear.
Telling you how if you do this,
and this,
and this,
things will be different.
And magically you will be making the money that you want,
living the life that you want,
having the relationships that you want,
living that freedom based life that you want.
 
And what did they focus you on?
Was it the money?
Was it the freedom that the money gives?
Was it the ease?
Did they tell you about the the BIG $30,000 dollar deal they just closed? And how they do that all the time…
Did they tell you that you can keep not showing up for your non-tribe and do the same?
Did they tell you to just increase your price point,
to focus on the numbers.
To focus on adds?
Funnels?
To go get another training in some field that you will never use in your practice?
 
You are working with a fake.
And that beautiful,
that should piss you off.
 
Because the more you buy into that illusion,
the more you allow yourself to be infected with the lies,
the more you will become like that.
And that WILL NEVER get you the life that you want.
 
People do things for just a few reasons:
Happiness
Freedom
Family
Money
Power
 
The umbrella item is happiness.
This is all of our WHY.
 
The interesting thing though is that we often will sacrifice our happiness because of comfort.
We will lean into comfort because happiness will challenge us to step out of what we have been doing and to do something that forces expansion, a.k.a CHANGE.
 
And the fake ass that has come along and sold you a pipe dream that you gotta change not much at all,
that you don’t gotta show the eff up,
that you don’t have to build a TRIBE,
not just numbers,
but an aligned TRIBE,
that wants to feel you,
know you and have you know them too,
is an effing fake who is ONLY in the hustle for the money.
 
Going after the financial reward will only serve you short term.
It will only build your business so big.
And if you are a person who wants to feel good,
feel in alignment to your SOUL,
and be a positive ripple in this world,
then you need to WAKE UP to the fake that is selling you that illusion over there.
 
Can they show you the numbers?
Do they have an aligned TRIBE?
Do they have the testimonies?
Do they message from SOUL?
How often do they show the eff up for their tribe?
Do they share authentically about life, themselves?
Can you feel them?
 
Or do they only flap their gums and type up words that are empty as F-ck?
 
Because baby,
anyone can play a good game.
Anyone can toss around numbers.
Anyone can speak about their up-lines successes like it’s their own.
But, if you are going to listen and do what they say,
in hopes that they have found the true path to making the SHIZ happen,
then perhaps you should verify that they are makin’ their own shiz happen first.
 
Because I gotta say,
there is nothing worse then spending time, energy and money on a fake.
 
It’s a trauma that can be avoided with a few questions,
with a little research and by opening your damn eye’s up.
 
I share these words with you,
because in my working with entrepreneurs and souls who desire to live a life of freedom over the last two decades,
that I have seen many a soul fall prey to false prophets.
And often they are lead astray because they themselves fear commitment, change and growth.
 
Those of us who know that we were born for something more,
that we are not the 99%,
but the 1%ers,
we know that we must CHANGE.
We know that this road less traveled will require us to face our shadow’s,
to expand our thinking and views,
to fully feel life.
We know that we can step in faith,
with ease,
and that giving ourselves grace is important.
We know that we have a purpose.
That this THING,
this THING that we cannot, not do –
is what breathes life into our soul.
 
And we know the power of showing the f-ck up.
We understand the value of calling in our aligned tribe, not just numbers,
we desire to be seen,
to be felt.
 
And we value AUTHENTICITY.
 
Not here to play games.
Not here to tell you lies.
Not here to paint false pictures that I heard from someones else’s lips or thought would convince.
 
Nope,
none of that crap here.
 
Just good old,
real world,
human to human,
sharing, educating, and experiencing,
with a desire to be a positive ripple in this world and faith that God will support that and the money….
 
The money,
that we all want and need to make sure that we can keep doing what we are doing and helping those we are helping,
yeah that money…
 
Well that money is the manifesting evidence as well as the lifestyle,
the vitality,
the health,
the well being,
the effing light in our eye’s,
that the universe is supporting of our efforts.
 
And that support,
it will easily be SEEN.
There will be no doubt beautiful.
 
Because those of us who do not desire to be fake,
those of us who just ARE,
you can feel our energy before we walk into the room,
you can see our glow a thousand miles away,
you can feel the connection in the words we write,
the words we speak,
our messages are unapologetic, clear of falsities and fear.
We stand in confidence,
we are stable in our energy,
because we KNOW.
 
And beautiful,
This is WHO YOU ARE.
 
You are worthy.
You are deserving.
You have a message to be shared.
 
But first,
you must wash that muck of falsity out of your energy,
clear it from your community,
and step into the desire of OWNING WHO YOU ARE.
 
Operate from Authenticity beautiful,
NOT FEAR.
 
As Always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
 
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers.”
 
Let’s get you to your desired F-ck YES! NOW.
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The Consistency Factor to Success, Happiness and The Life You Desire

Pish, posh…
Sometimes it will not be perfect.
Sometimes you will mess up.
Sometimes it just won’t carry the energy that you want it to.
Sometimes it will be blah…
and you will feel all humbug over it.

But that is just sometimes.
And those sometimes only build energy and power when you focus on them and give them such.

I have humbug moments all the time.
My energy ebbs and flows with the best of you.
Sometimes I write a musing or do one of my daily live streams and find myself asking,
“Why did I even do that? It was horrible.”

But you know what,
when you are building your empire,
and focused on creating that dream life that you know that you are worthy of on the days that you are not so humbug,
then what matters is not always the words that are coming from your lips or finger tips but the CONSISTENTLY to do the damn thing that you know that you need to do to call in the life that you know you are meant to have.

If this is around building a business,
then its about being consistent in your messaging and showing the f-ck up to your tribe a few times a day,
letting them feel you no matter where you are at.

If this is around relationships,
then its about consistently sharing your heart and being present in the relationship.

No matter the subject of your life that you are feeling all humbug about,
the thing to keep in mind is CONSISTENCY.

Without it you will get no where quickly.
With it you will move mountains.

And if you catch yourself feeling low vibe about the things you love so much all too often,
then you best check what kind of thoughts you are consistently thinking too, beautiful.

If you are focusing in on things that are not your core WHY,
are not coming from a place of soul,
or your heart then beware what might be taking hold of you and consistently preaching fear, doubt and worry into your system.

CONSISTENCY in your thoughts has the greatest power over your life.

Remember that.

What you focus on grows.

And often we do not have the self-awareness to realize that we are self- sabotaging with the conversations that we are having with ourselves. Often we choose to not do the most uncomfortable thing that we can,
and that is to LISTEN IN on the words that we speak to ourselves.

These statements that we share in our most deep and intimate space of self are the deciding factors to the paths that we take in our lives.

And anyone who has ever done something great has started cleaning up the habitual thoughts that cause the muck in clarity and truth finding.

As long as you choose ignore your thoughts and ignore taking responsibility for them,

As long as you deny your power to change them and to change the way that you are feeling right now,

You will continue to suffer and not create the life that you want.

Today is a new day beautiful.
Today is a day for you to call in the life that you want.
Today you can SAY YES to YOU.
And today you can CHOOSE what you focus on.

What is your focus for today?
or this week?
This year?

Ready to CLAIM YOUR LIFE?

I sure AF hope so!

As Always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”

LET’S CHAT AND GET YOU ON YOUR PATH TO A F-CK YES! LIFE TODAY.