Are You Arguing For Your Limitations? I Bet You Are.

Have you ever noticed how much time and energy you spend arguing for your limitations?

 

Even after you get what you want.

 

Yesterday I co-taught a class for men on consciousness and development of their masculine energy in their relationships, sex and life.

A running theme that I heard come from the men’s mouths was the clarification and owning of excuses as to WHY they could not have what they wanted for.

 

Later in the day,

I worked with a few clients/friends on similar issues.

As I sat listening to them I found myself internally shaking my head in amazement at how they could not see their fear over getting and having exactly what they had been wanting for all these years.

 

And so they in turn argued for their limitations in having it.

Putting up roadblocks everywhere and getting angry about the roadblocks.

 

I was doing a coaching session with a client,

and in our conversation his verbiage about life and self was focused on the inability to say yes to himself,

yes to life,

yes to his desires and dreams,

and how he fully owned that he was not worthy of such good things because he felt that he had not done what he needed to do to receive it.

His every other word was condemning himself for basically being human,

and he sat there convinced that it just could not be so.

As I brought this verbiage into light for him and inquired,

“How is this serving you?”

 

He would agree with me on topics and even the awareness of what he was speaking into manifestation,

but then without a second thought fall right back into speaking the shit that was not serving as though it must be this way.

All the while admitting that he had a great life,

full of blessing,

but that he was unable to see it or feel his own happiness in it,

because he did not deserve it for this or that childish reasoning of a need to be perfect and not be human.

That what he wanted was for sure there,

but not showing up the exact way that he wanted it too.

 

Fast forward,

I was chatting with close friends about their relationship and some of the things that are coming up for them in their communication and sex.

 

Again,

they were arguing for their limitations in their love and connection.

 

Now they were not arguing with each other,

As of yet at least,

but the argument to find what they did not want for was there and ever present.

So much so that they had each retracted back into their critical minds, away from their heart centers and were viewsing their relationship and love from a place of fear.

Fear of not getting it right,

fear that they are broken,

fear that the other is at fault or will do what a past lover has done,

fear that they are not worthy of what they have called into manifestation.

 

And so they sat there with me,

terrified of self and of each other.

In ways pointing fingers at one another energetically,

recreating old wounds through the applied fear in thought of triggers,

their energy was shut down and snippy even.

At points I was feeling like I was tapping on a bed of needles in trying to share what I witnessed and help them to open to love and their own humanness.

 

The emotion on all fronts of my day yesterday was immense.

The room of men who shared from their deepest heart centers and revealed such beautiful vulnerability to a group of strangers. Their tales of truth and challenges.

 

My client who danced in his ego proudly while fighting for why it was not okay for him to be human or to be happy,

and his pain and fear around allowing himself to have what he wanted for.

 

My friends, who love each other dearly and manifested this incredible connection and fairytale romance,

who are fighting internally to keep distance from their hearts and desires,

by literally creating roadblocks inside self to prevent connection and getting angry about it.

 

All of the tales of yesterday had three things in common:

 

1) A wanting/desire to manifest what they already had

 

2) An arguing for the limitations that they felt they needed somehow

 

3) Anger around having what they wanted for but not having it exactly the way they wanted it

 

And so it is.

These are the common issues with us humans.

In all subject areas of our lives we do these things.

We want, we manifest, we argue for limitations, and we get mad that what we want is not exact to plan.

 

And even when it is exact to plan we get pissy about it because we feel like we are not worthy of it coming to us with ease,

or at all often.

And therefore,

we throw away what we want so badly for while making excuses as to why we must get rid of it.

 

We humans spend more time arguing about getting what we want while it is present in our lives then appreciating what we want and how it is already here with us,

so that we can live our lives in bliss and happiness.

 

Imagine if we just stopped this shit.

And got grateful for how amazing we are at manifesting what we want.

 

Instead of trying to kill our dreams and desires when they arrive like they are some sort of evil that is invading our homes in the middle of the night.

 

Why do we do this?

Why do we fight with our manifestations with such insistence that we cannot have or keep them?

 

It’s really quite simple.

 

We fear our worthiness.

If we stop fighting for our limitations,

we have to own our worthiness,

which means that we have to embrace the fact that we are powerful.

We can no longer point fingers of blame to God and other people and outside influences for us not being happy or having the life that we want,

we have to actually own ourselves and be responsible.

 

Well f-ck!

 

And so it is the easier path to toss the towel in frequently and say it did not work,

or that we are not good enough,

we don’t have the time or understanding,

that someone else is not doing their part,

that the economy sucks or government prevented us from it,

our church, family and state are to blame,

our upbringing,

etc.

 

But this is what cowards do frankly.

Make excuses and argue for limitations.

 

I don’t believe that any soul that I sat with yesterday is a coward.

 

Nor do I believe that if you are reading this today,

that you are either.

 

I do believe that we are all guilty of not knowing how to SURRENDER to receiving.

 

We fear it truthfully.

We look at surrender,

we feel a tad into what we perceive it to be and it feels dangerous and triggers us to old wounds from our past  so we find ourselves constantly saying no to the life that we want and to our happiness,

even when we have successfully manifested it.

 

Today I ask you to do one thing.

Today I ask that you bring attention to where you are arguing for your limitations in receiving the happiness and things you desire for.

 

I ask that you just begin the process of witnessing those thoughts and the feeling they create for what they truly are…

 

your rebuttal against your joy and receiving.

 

In doing this you will start the process of letting them go.

And create a new space to open the door to having.

 

You may find yourself shocked at what you discover,

and the truth that in many ways the life that you are craving for is knocking at your door and may already be with you in some ways,

but your insistence of not having it is blinding you to its manifestation.

 

So stop being snippy with your dreams.

Stop denying your joy in your pursuit for suffering.

You are worthy.

God/universe does not create anything that is not worthy and your life is not meant to be one of struggle.

 

That is a lie we humans tell ourselves to entertain our ego’s.

Your soul knows the truth.

 

Trust, surrender, and breathe deep,

your desired life is happening now.

 

As Always,

YOU WILL NEVER HAVE THE RESOURCES IF YOU DON’T COMMIT!

YOU WILL NEVER HAVE THE RESOURCES IF YOU DON’T COMMIT!

 

This is the simple truth.

We are given the opportunity, repeatedly to commit to things that can forever change our lives and worlds for the better,

but in order to achieve the results that we desire,

we MUST COMMIT.

 

Commitment will push you to go past the point that you feel you can stretch.

 

Commitment will often cause you to feel nervous about saying yes to your dreams and desires, because you fear failure.

 

Commitment will cause you to know your truth to greater levels,

because until you actually commit the DAMN THING that you want so badly for,

you will forever feel empty around it.

 

Because you see,

the biggest gift that our commitment offers each of us,

is GROWTH.

 

COMMITMENT = EXPANSION

 

Expansion is what you are here for.

It is your SOUL calling you could say.

The universe/God lives and breathes,

expands through YOU.

 

By you expanding yourself,

pushing yourself to do what you are called to do from deep within, you honor life.

You honor God.

 

And you know what is even more important to understand about commitment?

 

You will never be called to do something you are not ready to do.

 

But you will be asked to step up,

to level up your vibe to meet it.

Because what you want for requires YOU to expand more into your power,

into your trust of the universe.

 

And you will never exercise your trust in the universe/God by

arguing for your limitations.

 

As long as you say that you:

👉Have no time.

👉Don’t have the funds.

👉Don’t have the energy.

👉Are unsupported by family, partner, friends, etc.

👉Dependant on others thoughts about whatever IT is…

 

You are spitting in the eye of life.

You are disrespecting your desires, your soul, God.

Because honey, that THING that you want for,

it wants you too,

but it is outside of the low vibe that you are currently residing in,

it is asking you to step into your truth,

into your worthiness,

into trusting your resources.

 

I know how scary it can be to say yes to what you are called for. I get that feeling at the pit of your stomach,

when something comes up and you get a tug from your core followed up with fear that you can’t have/do it or possibly even worse you eff up your whole world by “committing” and then realize that you OVERCOMMITTED.

 

And of course all the people in your life who know about all the stuff in your life,

they will only be ever so quick to support that you overcommitted, and that will only make you feel sicker to your tummy,

right?

 

So you are right….

WHY THE F-CK BOTHER?

 

Just keep waiting till the right time comes around for you to commit.  I mean surely if you keep waiting and fighting for your limitations,

SOMEDAY….. yes someday, the right time to commit to you will happen.

 

But just not TODAY….

 

Because of (fill in the stupid blank reason here.)

 

Do you feel better honey?

Does it feel better to get permission to give up on your dreams for the time being and to keep struggling the way that you are,

but hey, check out that list of limitations you got there…

 

They are some mighty fine reasons as to WHY you cannot say YES TO YOU NOW.

 

And those reasons, they are not going anywhere.

That I do promise you.

Those reasons, logical as they may be, will always be there because you are focused on holding on to them no matter what,

say WTF?

 

Yeah you are honey.

You are holding on with dear life because you are speaking about them loud and clear, ‘telling everyone about them,

painting those tales,

looking for where they are at any given moment,

fearful of them never going away,

or it taking too long for life to change,

so that you can ……

 

FINALLY SAY YES TO YOUR DESIRED LIFE.

 

LOL….

Good luck with that.

 

Every soul who ever achieved their dreams,

who ever felt a calling and felt that tug of fear that came with it but SUCCEEDED at making it happen….

 

Said F-ck the FEAR!

F-ck the OPINIONS of others.

F-ck my LIMITATIONS.

 

I AM DOING IT ANYWAY.

 

I believe in ME.

I believe in God.

I believe in the UNIVERSE.

 

I trust that this is here because I AM READY TO SAY YES TO IT NOW.

 

And everyone else,

well they are still fighting for their limitations,

and getting by in their struggles.

They are where they are,

hopeful maybe,

but not THRIVING.

 

The time is now love.

Say YES.

Say YES TO YOU.

 

No matter your background,

no matter your race,

no matter your religion,

no matter how much money you have in the bank or debt you have,

no matter your sex,

no matter your relationship status,

no matter your health,

or age…..

 

 

YOU ARE WORTHY.

WE ARE A CHOSEN PEOPLE.

 

All of US.

HUMANS.

 

YOU.

ME.

 

We are in a time in our world that WE need to realize this.

More than ever before.

 

With all my love today and always to YOU my fellow HUMAN.

YOU ARE WORTHY OF SAYING YES TO YOUR DREAMS.

 

And As Always,

 

 

Stop Existing & Start Living

 

“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”

 

 

 

Let’s do this!

 

You and me,

 

this summer.

 

Break free from your shiz once and for all and fall in love with the dynamic, powerhouse that YOU are.

 

No one is like you.

 

And you have a life worth sharing,

 

worth enjoying.

 

You have one life love.

 

One.

 

Let’s make it a F-ck Yes! One NOW.

 

Message me for deet’s on how to do this.