Have you ever noticed how much time and energy you spend arguing for your limitations?
Even after you get what you want.
Yesterday I co-taught a class for men on consciousness and development of their masculine energy in their relationships, sex and life.
A running theme that I heard come from the men’s mouths was the clarification and owning of excuses as to WHY they could not have what they wanted for.
Later in the day,
I worked with a few clients/friends on similar issues.
As I sat listening to them I found myself internally shaking my head in amazement at how they could not see their fear over getting and having exactly what they had been wanting for all these years.
And so they in turn argued for their limitations in having it.
Putting up roadblocks everywhere and getting angry about the roadblocks.
I was doing a coaching session with a client,
and in our conversation his verbiage about life and self was focused on the inability to say yes to himself,
yes to life,
yes to his desires and dreams,
and how he fully owned that he was not worthy of such good things because he felt that he had not done what he needed to do to receive it.
His every other word was condemning himself for basically being human,
and he sat there convinced that it just could not be so.
As I brought this verbiage into light for him and inquired,
“How is this serving you?”
He would agree with me on topics and even the awareness of what he was speaking into manifestation,
but then without a second thought fall right back into speaking the shit that was not serving as though it must be this way.
All the while admitting that he had a great life,
full of blessing,
but that he was unable to see it or feel his own happiness in it,
because he did not deserve it for this or that childish reasoning of a need to be perfect and not be human.
That what he wanted was for sure there,
but not showing up the exact way that he wanted it too.
I was chatting with close friends about their relationship and some of the things that are coming up for them in their communication and sex.
they were arguing for their limitations in their love and connection.
Now they were not arguing with each other,
As of yet at least,
but the argument to find what they did not want for was there and ever present.
So much so that they had each retracted back into their critical minds, away from their heart centers and were viewsing their relationship and love from a place of fear.
Fear of not getting it right,
fear that they are broken,
fear that the other is at fault or will do what a past lover has done,
fear that they are not worthy of what they have called into manifestation.
And so they sat there with me,
terrified of self and of each other.
In ways pointing fingers at one another energetically,
recreating old wounds through the applied fear in thought of triggers,
their energy was shut down and snippy even.
At points I was feeling like I was tapping on a bed of needles in trying to share what I witnessed and help them to open to love and their own humanness.
The emotion on all fronts of my day yesterday was immense.
The room of men who shared from their deepest heart centers and revealed such beautiful vulnerability to a group of strangers. Their tales of truth and challenges.
My client who danced in his ego proudly while fighting for why it was not okay for him to be human or to be happy,
and his pain and fear around allowing himself to have what he wanted for.
My friends, who love each other dearly and manifested this incredible connection and fairytale romance,
who are fighting internally to keep distance from their hearts and desires,
by literally creating roadblocks inside self to prevent connection and getting angry about it.
All of the tales of yesterday had three things in common:
1) A wanting/desire to manifest what they already had
2) An arguing for the limitations that they felt they needed somehow
3) Anger around having what they wanted for but not having it exactly the way they wanted it
And so it is.
These are the common issues with us humans.
In all subject areas of our lives we do these things.
We want, we manifest, we argue for limitations, and we get mad that what we want is not exact to plan.
And even when it is exact to plan we get pissy about it because we feel like we are not worthy of it coming to us with ease,
or at all often.
we throw away what we want so badly for while making excuses as to why we must get rid of it.
We humans spend more time arguing about getting what we want while it is present in our lives then appreciating what we want and how it is already here with us,
so that we can live our lives in bliss and happiness.
Imagine if we just stopped this shit.
And got grateful for how amazing we are at manifesting what we want.
Instead of trying to kill our dreams and desires when they arrive like they are some sort of evil that is invading our homes in the middle of the night.
Why do we do this?
Why do we fight with our manifestations with such insistence that we cannot have or keep them?
It’s really quite simple.
We fear our worthiness.
If we stop fighting for our limitations,
we have to own our worthiness,
which means that we have to embrace the fact that we are powerful.
We can no longer point fingers of blame to God and other people and outside influences for us not being happy or having the life that we want,
we have to actually own ourselves and be responsible.
And so it is the easier path to toss the towel in frequently and say it did not work,
or that we are not good enough,
we don’t have the time or understanding,
that someone else is not doing their part,
that the economy sucks or government prevented us from it,
our church, family and state are to blame,
But this is what cowards do frankly.
Make excuses and argue for limitations.
I don’t believe that any soul that I sat with yesterday is a coward.
Nor do I believe that if you are reading this today,
that you are either.
I do believe that we are all guilty of not knowing how to SURRENDER to receiving.
We fear it truthfully.
We look at surrender,
we feel a tad into what we perceive it to be and it feels dangerous and triggers us to old wounds from our past so we find ourselves constantly saying no to the life that we want and to our happiness,
even when we have successfully manifested it.
Today I ask you to do one thing.
Today I ask that you bring attention to where you are arguing for your limitations in receiving the happiness and things you desire for.
I ask that you just begin the process of witnessing those thoughts and the feeling they create for what they truly are…
your rebuttal against your joy and receiving.
In doing this you will start the process of letting them go.
And create a new space to open the door to having.
You may find yourself shocked at what you discover,
and the truth that in many ways the life that you are craving for is knocking at your door and may already be with you in some ways,
but your insistence of not having it is blinding you to its manifestation.
So stop being snippy with your dreams.
Stop denying your joy in your pursuit for suffering.
You are worthy.
God/universe does not create anything that is not worthy and your life is not meant to be one of struggle.
That is a lie we humans tell ourselves to entertain our ego’s.
Your soul knows the truth.
Trust, surrender, and breathe deep,
your desired life is happening now.