You Know That Feeling. Yes That Feeling.

You know that feeling…
That feeling that you get when you just cannot sit still.
When you have wanted for something,
you sat and conjured it up in your head over and over again,
the excitement of the WHAT IF?

Yes that feeling.

That’s it right there, love.

That feeling that heats up your groin.
That feeling that makes your body pulse.
That feeling that makes your heart flutter like you just kissed someone for the first time.
That feeling that makes you blush like really good sex.

Yes that feeling.
Right there, love.

You know that feeling don’t you?

Waking up in this feeling is one of the best things EVER!

It just ignites the whole day.

It’s almost like you feel like you are walking around with a magic wand in your hand and just asking for what you want and flicking your wand and BAM –

It’s there.

You can feel your manifestation,
RIGHT THERE,
even though you cannot see it in this moment.

YOU FEEL IT.

Yes that feeling.
That feeling right there, love.

So juicy.
So yummie.
It just makes you want to keep asking for more all the while basking in what you have coming.
What is there with you now.

It is exciting!
It is blissful.

It is all YOU.
And you KNOW it.

You feel your power in these moments.
Yet there is great AWE as well.
And GRATITUDE,
in this expectation.

It’s like you don’t want to over think it,
or you will kill the energy.
You don’t want to try and figure out what you are doing,
no.

You just want to bask in it.
Take it in.
And eat it up.

Because it is there.
It is asking you to STEP FULLY into your manifestation.
It is asking you to keep on BELIEVING.

Keep on CLAIMING.
Keep on ASKING.

And most importantly keep on BEING READY.

Those thoughts,
that get you feeling this juicy yumminess that life has to offer when you are OPEN.

When you are ALLOWING.

Yes that feeling.
That feeling right there, love.

That is what I want you to FOCUS on today and always.

I know how hard it can be.
You feel like it is too simple.
It cannot be that easy to have everything that you want.
Yet when you paint that picture,
when you feel that feeling.

And it MAGNIFIES.
It intensifies and you can FEEL it as though it is.
You just know in these moments,
don’t you.

So it is that simple.
That easy.
It is all you ever need do, love.
To just STEP THE F-CK IN and say YES.

Yes to that F-ck Yes! Relationship.
Yes to that F-ck Yes! Cash Flow.
Yes to that F-ck Yes! Health.
Yes to that F-ck Yes! Freedom.
Yes to that F-ck Yes! Sex.
Yes to that F-ck Yes! __________(Fill in your desire)

You know that feeling…
That feeling that you get when you just cannot sit still.
When you have wanted for something,
you sat and conjured it up in your head over and over again,
the excitement of the WHAT IF?

Yes that feeling.

That’s it right there, love.

Now FOCUS.
Work Your MAGIC.

And As Always, 
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”

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Wanting to get really activated in your manifestation powers.

You are in luck love.
That is what I do.
I help special people just like you,
who know, who crave, who desire so much more and just need a little guidance.

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Life, Death and Authentically Being You.

Life, Death and Being Authentically YOU.
 
The last two weeks of my life have been a roller coaster of life changes. Some have a direct impact on my world, some not so much but do because they effect my children or my extended family.
 
Two weeks ago my eldest daughter gave birth to her little boy.
 
Last week, my youngest two son’s grandfather passed away.
 
And today,
Today I sit and desire nothing more than to just continue being authentically me.
 
I look at the changes, the life, the death and I know it is all beautiful. But there is this sense that I get that I am expected to be more emotional about things then what I really am. As though I am not putting on a grand enough show for my world.
 
Silly as that may sound, it does come in to me from outside sources and these little obnoxious voices that sound off in my head here and there that want me to focus on things that really have no significant impact on my life joy or happiness or fear for that matter.
 
Since the birth of my grandson two weeks ago I have been hit with the question, ” How does it feel to be old enough to be a grandma?”
 
And “Wow! Top of the totem pole. Enjoy him while you have the energy.”
 
It is like because I am a grandmother now,
even though there is the blessing of this sweet baby in my life that society believes that life is all down hill when this milestone happens. That you are almost around the corner from the grave.
 
And then,
last week my kids grandfather passes away unexpectedly from heart failure.
 
The thing society worries about.
DEATH.
Croaking.
 
And as a grandparent one must add this fear to the daily worry list I assume….
 
I think NOT!
 
But if we did not fear death enough as it is,
such events as a birth and then a death can bounce it around a tad more than normal.
 
It is my opinion that the reason we fear death so much is because we do not believe in who we really are. We give lip service to this thing called SOUL or SPIRIT and to the desire to believe in something greater than ourselves such as source, divine or God. But when we really get into it,
when we are faced with it, we question our belief and we find ourselves in a negative vibe of “hope.”
 
Now many believe that hope is a positive.
I not so much so.
 
To me hope is a negative word,
with negative energy attachments.
It is disempowering.
 
Just feel these statement-
 
” I hope I get a new job.”
” I hope I overcome this illness.”
” I hope she graduates school.”
“I hope nothing bad has happened.”
 
verses
 
“I know that the perfect job for me is around the corner.”
“I know I just need to support my body and take some time for me.”
“I know she is working hard to achieve her goals.”
“I know that things always work out for everyone’s highest and best good.”
 
Which side of the fence feels better to you?
Which side feels stronger?
More powerful?
More like it is focusing good vibes toward something vs. negative vibes?
 
 
We do this in so many ways.
Bring ourselves down.
Bring others down ( often without realizing the power of our words)
and focusing in on the negative all the while BELIEVING we are giving our best wishes or highest vibrational thoughts and focus.
 
But it ain’t true.
 
If we really believed we had a SOUL.
If we really believed that there was a God or something greater than self and it has a plan,
then we would only desire to live our life to the fullest and that has nothing to do with living in fear of death.
 
Fearing death disables us from being present in our life.
It has us act from a place of scarcity.
A place of disembodiment.
We tap out and try and hide from life.
All in the pursuit to live longer.
To not feel pain.
To not suffer.
To not have bad things happen.
 
But this is sheer craziness.
These suppose bad things are here to help us clarify what we want in life and from life.
 
These “bad” things help us discover who we are, want to be and they are blessings.
 
Not all blessings come in pretty little boxes.
Not all are sweet and sugar topped.
 
Without the contrast we never truly authentically get a chance to meet who we are.
 
Avoiding the contrast is for the weak.
It is for those who believe that they can somehow outsmart death.
They think that death is an ending.
When what if….
Croaking just was another step on our life path for our soul?
 
But hoping for survival in our current state of experience is silly.
What one can do,
is COMMIT to LIVING presently.
To loving this moment.
To expanding into their fullest potential and giving this amazing world their VERY BEST.
 
You will never achieve that,
living in FEAR.
You will never have that presence if you are trying to avoid death.
But you will miss out on all your BLESSINGS.
No matter how you perceive them.
 
And the even worse part is that you will never taste the raptures of your AUTHENTIC SELF.
 
You are beautiful.
You are powerful.
You are amazing.
You have so much to give this world.
 
Don’t let fear and worry of what you cannot avoid,
what you have no control over hide your light any longer love.
 
It is time for you to step up.
Claim Your Life.
And Stop Existing & Start Living
 
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”
 
Are you ready to commit to your SOUL?
Desiring something more in your life?
 
If you are someone who looks in the mirror every day and knows that you have so much more to offer this world, but feels stuck in how to go about revealing it, then perhaps we should speak.
 
If you feel a call in your gut and you know you need to just get the tools and find the support to step the eff up in your life once and for all and let your light shine in…
relationship.
work.
purpose.
 

That Child Like Enthusiasm Is Key.

Enthusiasm.
Goose bumps of knowing you are doing it.
The thrill.

The JOY. 
Want to know when you are in alignment to receiving all you desire?
These are the things to look for.
These are the characteristics of allowing a miracle to flow into your life.

We all have fear.
We all doubt.
We are all uncertain of our worthiness.
And we want to figure out the 1-2-3’s to guarantee our success.

But much like when we first learn how to ride a bicycle we can get it all right.
Put our feet on the pettles.
Balance our butt on the seat.
Make sure the path we are riding on is flat, straight and without to many obstacles.
We can even ask and get help to support us.

But inorder to really take off and ride.
Free.
By ourselves.
We have to risk falling.
We have feel the adrenaline of not having the support.
We have to let go of our need for attachment of safety.

This is the freedom.
The faith.
That is required.
And with it.
The enthusiasm.
The goose bumps.
The JOY.
Of allowing it to happen.

Make a miracle happen today!
Allow yourself to feel life move through you.
Allow your heart to race.
Your emotion to be felt.
Allow yourself to be happy instead of so serious.
Allow yourself to play.
Allow yourself to expand.

If you fear the risk of falling,
Realize this….
You thus fear the risk of succeeding.

Everything has two sides.
Put your attention on what you want to have happen.
Allow the feeling of having your desire.
Feel it.
Be EXCITED.
Be in JOY.

AND THRIVE.

As Always
Stop Existing & Start Living
Coaching for Grown A*s Believers

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Everyday You. That Is All You Have To BE.

“F-ck Yes! You Rock Kendal! Powerful. Intuitive. Compassionate. Funny. Real. Smart. Eye Opening. Thank you for it all and just being you. Keep doing what you do best! Changing lives.” Mike W., Small Business Owner, Florida

 
I love testimonies from my amazing clients.
I do what I do because it is just me.
And it must come out of me.
 
It truly is that simple.
I look into the eye’s of the people that I work with,
and I see their greatness.
I feel their passion.
Their worth, even when they do not.
And this is what I do.
 
I SEE.
I see them.
The SOUL that longs to be revealed.
To be felt.
To be heard.
 
And I encourage.
 
That is all I do really..
See and encourage the soul of those that feel aligned to me to SHINE its truth.
 
And how lovely this is.
What a blessing.
A gift.
 
Blessed I am to be able to have this gift in my life with so many souls.
 
And if you are reading this,
and you wonder what that must feel like.
What it must feel like to feel yourself fully.
To express your soul.
To feel the connection.
To love yourself.
 

TO KNOW YOUR WORTH.

 
Well let me share this with you beautiful.
Let me tell you this fact.
It feels like you are alive.
 
Imagine feeling that way.
 
ALIVE.
 
Not just existing.
Not just getting by.
Paying your bills.
Going to your 9 to 5 and dreading Monday morning.
No.
 
That my beauty is not what you are here to do.
This is not what life is to be about.
It is not suppose to be dull, hard, a struggle.
Life is to be rich, full, complex yet in ease.
 
And the ease is not in you doing nothing.
It is not in being lazy. It is not just lounging about.
The ease is all about you just BEING YOU.
 
It is nothing more than that.
It is that simple.
 
You can thrive by just being you.
Being you is to be just like breathing.
 
Now I know that you may “think” that you are already doing this.
And you may actually believe this bullsh*t.
But I can tell you that if you are struggling,
if you are working hard at getting through.
If you are looking overly forward to the weekends, holidays and vacation,
then you are most certainly NOT living according to your SOUL.
Your soul wants that desire,
that enthusiasm,
that expectation,
and commitment.
In your EVERYDAY.
Not just in those things that your boss may tell you its okay to have it for and only on these days and at these hours.
 
No.
Your SOUL wants you turned on to your life EVERYDAY.
And you achieve this by doing what you do.
By being just you.
EVERYDAY YOU.
 
Without the fear of what others are thinking about you.
Without the concern about if you are getting it right.
(You cannot mess this up beautiful)
 
Just show up in your life,
letting that incredible heart be revealed.
Let yourself be felt.
Let yourself be seen.
 
Yes this is effing vulnerable territory.
I get it.
You may be sayin, ” Oh heck no!”
And I get it.
I truly do.
I have been right there.
I lived the first 31 years of my life just like that matter a fact.
Until one day, I realized that I was not happy.
I got real with the truth that I was hiding from ME.
And that was the ONLY PROBLEM that I had in my life.
All the other crap that was manifesting around me was all stemming from this one core issue.
 
HIDING.
 
And why the eff was I doing this anyway?
Simple, because it is what I saw in the world.
It is what was socially acceptable and almost expected.
But when I also looked out at everything I noticed something.
 
And this was BIG.
 
I noticed that the people that I wanted to be like.
The people that had it all goin’ on.
Who were living the lifestyles that I wanted for myself.
They were UNBOUND.
They were FREEDOM BASED.
They were THRIVING.
By just being EVERYDAY THEMSELVES.
 
WTF!
How is that possible?
 
Well it is and much like my lover said to me just yesterday,
“It’s awesome how you get to be paid for just being you and doing you.”
 
Yes that is freakin’ awesome.
And I get to live this way because I made a choice.
I made a choice to stand out in the crowd and do something that most choose not to do.
 
Be my EVERYDAY SELF.
 
Just BE ME.
 
And yes it is that simple.
But it is scary as f-ck!
It requires one to tap into themselves.
To dive off the deep end,
into a place that most do not want to venture.
Deep into the caverns of self.
And meet self.
Accept self.
 
FALL IN LOVE WITH SELF.
 
And then….
 
LET IT BE SEEN.
 
So come get freaky with me love.
Be daring.
Be adventurous.
And come to the party that is called THRIVING.
Your ticket in?
Is found in your SOUL.
Tap in.
Tune In.
Express and LIVE UNBOUND.
 

Let’s Connect.

And THRIVE.

 
As Always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”
 
What are you waiting for love?
Let’s get you back to your EVERYDAY SELF now.
Want to be living UNBOUND?
 
 
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” I came to you to heal my shame and guilt wrapped around sex and to restore my relationship with my husband. What I got was this ( and it a work in progress- but you are always there when I need you the most) BUT what I got as a side benefit was discovering my passion and purpose. I went from corporate America 9 to 5, struggling for a moment to breathe or enjoy my life to starting my own business that is now thriving in an industry that I am PASSIONATE about. Health & Well-being! Thank you Kendal for your compassionate, straight forward support and coaching. I could have never taken these steps without you!” — Geanna G. New York, NY.

Reasons or Results – Which Is Your Life About?

Just this morning I was walking my kindergartner into his school. There I was in yoga pants, a tank top and sweat shirt off one shoulder. My hawaii flip flops on my feet and my hair tossed up in a pony tail. My son and I were goofing around like we do every morning, laughing and hugging, picking on each other as we crossed the parking lot and walked down the entry way of the school.

It was just another morning in truth.
And yet it was not.
Because this morning I was people watching more so than what I normally do for some reason.
And as always with people watching I always feel so separated from those around me.
I feel judgmental.
Almost critical.
And maybe I should be ashamed to admit that here publicly, but living by my true style I am going to stand in my raw truth with you and just speak it.
I mean we are all judgmental and critical.
And anyone who claims to not be is hiding or lying.

What it comes down to in my opinion, is what you choose to do with the judgments and thoughts that come up.
Do you choose to observe them,
do some good inquiry around them,
and discover deeper messages about yourself?
Or do you choose to pick apart others and find fault and reason as to why you are suffering or how you are better than another in order to justify your worth or reasons?

So here I was,
walking in the school with my son like fifty other women,
and what I noticed was the lack of connection between these parents and their children. There was no laughter, only seriousness and rushing.
There were no smiles even, just pissed off turned down expressions.
Most walked quickly and with a hunched over frame, as though they were trying to hide.
And then there were a few who bee-bopped by looking like they had been up for 3 hours already. Very well put together, but walking in haste.
Entering the school,
music playing, teachers singing and welcoming children, I noticed how the kids lit up as they entered the school because the teachers were appearing excited and happy to start the day with them. The upbeat music caught your ear and made you want to sing along, which is what I do every morning.

But I was alone.
and parents looked at me,
casting their own judgement back.
Most likely wondering who this crazy woman is who dares be happy and sing out loud to her child and shake her hips at the front door as she kisses her kid good by and gives a big hug, then turns and chats with a teacher or two?

Yes, so there I was judging and being judged.
And as I turned and walked back to my car, I noticed how so many parents just seemed lifeless.
Now I was feeling pity.
And I don’t do pity very well.
My pity quickly turned to irritation and disgust.
I looked at these people,
and in my belief they each have a purpose.
They each have a talent.
They are each born for greatness.
They are worthy.
But all I see here is a lack of worth.
And the only effing reason for it is that they are allowing it.
And what are they teaching their children by accepting such a life of low vibe, low energy, dullness and disconnect?

They are teaching them to be the same.
Because our children 90 % of the time do not learn from what we tell them to do, but from what we show them we are doing.

You want an honest child.
Be honest with your child and others.

You want a compassionate child.
Be compassionate with your child and others.

You want a child that can stand on their own two feel and is not easily lead astray.
Then be strong in who you are and have good boundaries and speak your truth.

Whatever you are desiring your child to grow up to be,
realize that you are an example to them.

So back to my point.

Here as I walked I saw a bunch of people who had somewhere along the life trail gotten good with just existing.
Gotten good with their reasons,
their excuses and why’s.
They had settled into not having.
Settled into average.

And had forgotten that they could define what their average looked and felt like.

It’s crazy to think how close to all that we want each and everyone of us truly is.
And yet it is so.
It is no further away then what we are willing to accept for ourselves.
Willing to believe for ourselves.
Willing to expect for ourselves.

But WE have to actually want it bad enough to stop calling in all the reasons that we don’t have it or cannot have it.

Our reasons have got to mean less to us then our DESIRE.

So what are you settling for?
What are the core beliefs that you have that are creating things that you don’t want?
And are you conscious to them?

Let’s get real.
Let’s get raw.
Let’s define.

And As Always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”

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Accepting less in your success, your finances, your love, your relationships or your health?

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Life Call’s – Will You Answer? ( A Poem for the Masculine)

Playful.
Aroused.
She calls you in.
She wants your all,
And will not settle for less. 
She knows your core.
Your desires.
Your fears.
She hungers to give herself.

As she laughs and moans,
Expecting.
Anticipating.
And calling you in.
Yes she awaits you to say yes.
To her.
To yourself.
And come feast on her delights.
She is here.
And always will be.

Life.
Life awaiting your embrace.
Claim her now.
And as always,
Stop Existing &Start Living
“Coaching for grown a*s believers”

*Photo Credit to PhotographyinWonderland

What Makes You Giggle? Do Share. It Is Vital to Your F-ck Yes! Life

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To live with a child like soul. 
What does that statement mean to you?

To me….
It means to allow the silly in.
To not be fearful of play.
To embrace your day with enthusiasm and joy.
To get loud.
And passionate.
Let yourself be seen.
And LAUGH.

And most importantly to JUST BE YOU.
You know when a child starts to grow up and loose their life? Its when they get serious about who they are to be instead of who their soul proclaims,
When they start to worry about grades more than happiness and connection,
When they question not what makes them smile but how they are perceived,
When they avoid getting dirty instead jumping in the puddles.

This is when a child starts their transformation into the land of zombie adulthood.

I don’t believe this has to be true.
Back in the day….
Like when I was 25 and taking life so serious.
As a mom of 3 youngster’s back then,
I thought that being a good mom meant that I could not be me.
I thought i had to act,
Dress,
Speak,
Cook,
Etc. Etc.

A certain way.
Because the true me was not good enough.
Wise enough.
Stable enough.
Or anything else.

I thought I had to be more.
Someone I was not.
And I drove myself batty trying to achieve this version of someone that was not real.
A d so far from my soul.

But I looked like I had it all together.
LOL

Fast forward 18 years…
Now a 43 year old mom of 7 babies.
Soon to be grandmom or mimi as I am goin’ with,
And I am still serious.

Serious about BEING ME!
And that means there is no version of me,
Other than just who I am in any moment.
How I choose to show up in my life,
To live,
To raise my children,
Has NOTHING to do with anyone elses opinions or ideas.
It has everything to do,
With FEELING GOOD.

And what feels good?
To live outloud.
Passionate.
Playful.
Silly.
Enthusiastic.
Turned On.
And I now laugh.
At everything.
Especially me.
And my kids.
Like this little munchkin in this video.

Folks.
Its so effing powerful to tap into that inner child.
That inner child dreams.
Believes in magic.
Loves life.
And themselves.
And is fearless being themselves.

All the things needed to be a bada*s in life and THRIVE.

So tell me love…
Share in the comments here.
What makes you giggle?

As always, 
Stop Existing & Start Living
Coaching for Grown A*s Believers.

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WAITING the F-ck Around!

Don’t you think it is time?
Are you tired like I am?
 
You know what I get tired of?
 
WAITING the F-ck Around!
 
I am tired of waiting for my packages to get delivered.
I mean it is all on it’s way to me.
And to you.
And here we sit,
almost spinning on our thumbs some days.
WAITING the F-ck Around!
 
How much longer till I get what I want?
How much longer till the life that I want manifests itself?
Till the money is in the bank?
Till my true love, my soulmate knocks on my door?
 
How much longer till I fill satisfied,
happy and full.
 
I tell you sometimes I just get exhausted working my a*s off,
day after day,
list after list,
and speaking up,
speaking out,
sharing from the deepest parts of my soul,
and still it seems that things are just not moving at the speed that I desire.
 
It is like the hose is kinked somewhere.
You know what I mean?
 
It is crazy.
And maybe you get what I am saying and maybe you don’t.
 
I am speaking to those out there who seem to be kickin’ it like the bad a*s that you are,
the one’s who are putting in the time and the energy,
the one’s who are doing the mindset work,
the one’s who are not afraid of their shadow lands,
the one’s who get the power that resides inside of them,
the one’s who know how to call things in,
and are focused mother f-ckers like no other’s.
 
YES YOU.
 
I am speaking to you.
And you know what I am saying,
I am saying that it is high f-cking time that things HAPPEN.
No more WAITING the F-ck Around.
No more making excuses.
No more looking the other way,
no more saying, ” I just need to focus more.”
” I just need to work harder.”
“I just need to love myself more.”
” I just need to be more authentic.”
“Show up more.”
 
 
NO WAY.
JUST STOP THE INSANITY.
 
Doing more is not going to get you there.
I know that may seem opposite of what you have been told.
I know that you may be able to reason out that doing more,
working harder, smarter, and showing up more is where it is at.
 
But, NO.
You need not do this.
 
And here is why.
 
Because the more you do this.
The more you send energy into what is NOT HAPPENING FOR YOU.
 
And the more you end up turning all that you love,
turning your art,
your souls work and passion,
your hearts desires,
INTO WORK.
 
And now it is just a duty.
An end to a means.
It is no longer enjoyable.
It is no longer fun.
It no longer makes you happy.
You are not SMILING.
 
And this has you WAITING the F-ck Around!
For everything.
 
Now I am not saying break out the tub of ice cream,
and crash on the couch vegging out on your favorite NetFlix series.
 
No, this would be average and ordinary setting in.
And after a short bit of that,
sure you may feel more relaxed for a second,
but that monkey mind of yours will be working overtime on all those things that you “should” be doing.
And that will only land you back into the mental craziness.
( I mean if you are anything like me 🤪🤓)
 
And if that is not what happens,
then it means that you let laziness grab you by your dreamers balls and start to eat away at everything that you want,
almost believing that you don’t have to get up and get moving,
that the hustle is over rated and not needed.
And that is bullsh*t too.
Just another sidestep from your ego,
preventing you from doing anything else,
then what is needed.
 
And you know what is needed?
 
What is needed is for you to COMMIT.
Once and for all.
 
Just STOP THE INSANITY and of being available for this WAITING the F-ck Around!
 
You don’t have to do more.
You don’t need to sit on your thumbs and wait and pray.
But what you DO NEED to do,
is SETTLE into WHO THE F-ck YOU ARE!
 
And just Enjoy Your Day.
Enjoy your Art.
Enjoy BEING YOU.
 
Stop the insanity,
means stop hating on yourself.
Stop stressing your lush a*s out about everything.
Stop STOPPING your flow.
 
Stop making it all about WORK.WORK.WORK.
And what has NOT YET MANIFESTED.
 
You are acting like that four year old on a road trip screaming not 15 minutes into the journey,
“Are we there yet?”
 
And how beneficial is this?
Seriously.
I get it.
Really I do.
I do it as well.
All too much.
 
And the truth is the truth.
It is HIGH time that we STOP WAITING the F-ck Around!
And just simply embrace who we are.
 
Born leaders.
Born lovers.
Born creators.
 
Yes you Beautiful.
You are this.
And it is all yours.
And there is no waiting.
There is ONLY LIVING RIGHT NOW.
 
So Stop making yourself available for all this low VIBE sh*t,
and just CALL in your DESIRE.
You have the power.
 
It is called your CHOICE.
Your choice to focus on that which is AWESOME RIGHT NOW,
or to keep your eye on ALL that you don’t have.
Thus creating more….
 
WAITING the F-ck Around!
 
As Always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”
 
 
Don’t wait another one, two, five, ten years to start THRIVING.
Make 2019 the year of you claiming YOU.

Who’s Claiming You Love?

Well F-ck!
There you go again.
Chasing everything that you don’t want because you got caught up in everyone else’s stuff.

Thinking that, that is what you should do if you love them.

And what has happened to you love?
Oh, I know….
you lost yourself.

Yet again you forgot about the most important person in your life.

YOU.

You forgot to make time and space for you.

And look what has come of it.

Your world is in chaos.
Your exhausted and overwhelmed.
You are running on empty.

And as much as you want to point a finger outward,
and say that they made you do it.
Say that you had no choice.

You know that it is bullsh*t!

So what are you going to do about it?

You may want to put your head down and force your will.
You may want to fully retract yourself from everything and go into hiding.
You may think that you cannot stop this cycle and that you have to just keep on going.
You may still believe even that you need to do that.

But the reality,
is far from what you think it is love.
The reality is that it is HIGH time that you PAUSE and take a moment for YOU.

At all cost too.
Because the other cost’s are far too great if you let them manifest into existence.
I mean if you keep doing what you are doing,
what do you think will end up happening?

Suddenly things will change on their own?
Suddenly someone will stop everything and say, “Hey, no don’t keep doing all of this for me and everyone else, let me carry that for you, and you just go take a holiday for yourself…”

That is laughable.
And it won’t happen.
Because you are not allowing it to happen.
Because you somewhere in your crazy thinking and feeling believing that it cannot happen and that you don’t deserve it to happen,
even though at your core,
if you ask yourself what you truly want,
you may be shocked to discover that you believe and almost expect that someone will come save you from the choices that you are making and from the actions that you are taking and all that you are carrying.

And if you get really real with yourself you may even feel some anger or bitterness around this.
I mean look at all that you are doing for everyone else.
Right?

Seriously.
You do it all.
You carry all that load for everyone,
and surly they will notice.
Surely they will see it and want to say thank you.

Not just say thank you,
but REALLY say THANK YOU.

And then you will be happy!

Okay love,
this has got to sound a bit whacked to you.
I mean you know logically that it is not so.
You know that ONLY YOU can make the changes in your life that are needed.

I mean you get that you are responsible for your life.

I hope you do.

Because that is the only f-cking way out of this mess you have yourself in.
The only way out of it,
and the only way that you will be happy,
and feel confident, strong, and in love with your life and yourself is IF you,

YES YOU…

Claim your LIFE TODAY.
And claiming your life is more than just just talking about it.
It is actually meaning it at a deep SOUL LEVEL.
And then HONORING that and taking the steps that you are called to take despite everyone else.

As always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for grown A*s Believers”
www.kendalwilliams.com

The Goldilocks Mindset of Dating

“I want a man who is faithful.
I want a man who is dependable.
A man who is kind.
Who loves my children.
And is strong in integrity.

I want a man who is confident.
I want a man who is passionate.
A man who makes me laugh.
And generous with his time,his resources, his love.

I want a man that listens, that I can tell anything too.
A man that is romantic.
Good in bed.
A man that will help around the house and can cook.
I want a man who has a purpose and is driven.
Is financially stable.

I want a man who is tall.
I want a man with a handsome face.
I want man who cares for his body.
Is muscular and makes me feel safe.
I want a man who has a good sense of style.

I want a man who loves the outdoors.
But also loves fine dining and has good etiquette.
I want a man who loves adventure.
Who wants and can travel the world with me.

I want a man that has freedom.
I want a man who will treat me like his queen.
I want a man who respects me.
I want a man who does not want to control me.
I want a man who is spiritually sound.

I want….
And I want it ALL from YOU!”

Read that list ladies and gents.
I could write it about what men want as well.

It’s hard to read that list and believe that one person could fulfill all of those desires.
It’s hard to believe because no one person can.
Sure we can fulfill some of those all of the time,
and other’s of those some of the time,
but can one person ever fulfill all of those all of the time?
And should it be put on someone to do such a thing?

A hefty list of expectations I do say.
And it’s my list.
And my list has about thirty more very specific things on it as well.
And what I am looking for at the end of my list is more important than any of the specific things on it.
And that is alignment.

I want a man who is aligned to his purpose.
I want a man that is SOUL ALIGNED.

What this desire will give is all of the above and then some, but in the perfect harmony that is right for him and for myself.
Perfect for the moment.
I also, do not expect for a man to have everything on my list.
There are things that I am willing to look at,
to not need because they are not high priorities.
And then there are the things that are CRUCIAL.

And how do I know that these things are crucial?

Because I am like Goldilocks in dating.

I have come to realize that dating is about figuring out what you like,
what you don’t like,
what is cool,
what is not cool,
what aligns to you or not.

Dating is about sampling everything you can at the buffet and figuring out what has that more flavor and what makes you want to puke.

The biggest challenge in dating is that it takes time and energy.
It requires patients.
It requires one getting to know yourself.
And getting right with who you are first, before trying to find someone else to fill in your gaps for you.

Dating offers you the ability to meet yourself in so many ways.

I f-cking LOVE dating!
And maybe that is why I am so good at it.
And why I have no issue finding incredible men of all types with a flip of my hair it seems.

It’s true though.
I am often shocked at how many people have difficulty with dating.
And often after speaking to them about it,
the basis of their issues is that they don’t really like people or they don’t really love themselves.
Often some combination of the two.

How are you to ever meet someone worth while,
someone that has anything you want from your list,
if you hate people.
All you will ever discover is characteristics that you hate.
Because that is what you are focused on.
Or if you don’t have self-esteem or love of self,
then how will you ever meet someone who is confident, passionate, loving, giving or takes care of themselves?

You have to be matching what you want to call in.

So back to the Goldilocks Mindset on Dating.

The concept here is simple.
Get to know what you want.
What you need.
What you desire.
And who the f-ck you are.
By dating many, many, people.

And DO NOT get committed quickly.
Dating is all about getting to know someone and letting yourself be revealed as you go.
These two things will never happen over night.
Matter a fact it has been proven that new relationship energy (NRE) takes about 18 months to 3 years to wear off. This is that energy that you feel when you are just getting to know someone one. Where the rose tinted glasses are still on. They can do hardly anything wrong and you make excuses for them left and right, make assumptions about things and don’t really see clearly the love that is before you. This is the time in a relationship that you are living a storybook.

And then one day you wake up and you meet this new person, you wonder where he/she has been hiding the last year or two, and who took away your beautiful mate that was oh so perfect. Now the real stuff comes out and you get to actually get into relationship with the person.

Well if you were dating like Goldilocks,
then you would not be putting all your hopes, needs and desires onto one person.
You would not be looking at the person you are just meeting with hungry eye’s of, “oh please be the one and make my misery of dating be over.”
You would not be so willing to sell yourself short of the quality of a mate that you so badly want.
You would not be so quick to change yourself to try and match someone who is not in alignment to your soul or heart,
and instead you would look at each person who you explored as a beautiful experience for the moment.
One that was there to reveal to you things about yourself.
About desires that you have.
About the life that you want to live.
The relationship that you want to have.
And you would be in gratitude for all the things brought to the table of you relating with them,
no matter how you perceived them in the moment.

If you were dating like Goldilocks,
you most certainly would not sell out to the first bowl of porridge that presented itself to you, or the first bed that looked good but maybe did not feel just right in some way.

No, you would love yourself enough to take your sweet time to get the relationship that was in SOUL ALIGNMENT.

You would try out many different scenarios.
You would explore lot’s of different flavors.
And you would allow yourself to gain clarity on what felt best to you.

You would be unconditional in your dating.
With limited expectations,
and only a desire to reveal and be revealed.
Authentically.

The Mindset of Goldilocks in dating is all about exploration.
It is a mindset of learning about self.
It is a mindset that does not entertain scarcity.
It is knowing that “The ONE” will come when you truly love self and know thy self. When you you are vibing at the level that you magnetize him/her to you.
In ease.
Anything before then will be about seeing where you are vibing at and learning more about what you like or dislike.

And you would do it all in YOUR OWN TIME.
Not some predetermined social idea of when it should happen or guidelines as to what some story line says it “should.”

So for all you single’s out there who are looking for that special someone and believe that you are running out of time,
ready to give up or cut yourself short on what you want in a relationship,
let me share this concept with you and let me assure you that you are worth a beautiful relationship.
One that has so much of what you want and then some.
You can have it all.
And you will.
As long as you learn how to approach love and relationship with unconditional relating and a focus of self-love and honor first.

Remember that you call into your life that, that you focus on most.

So where has your focus gotten you?

As always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”

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