COMING TOGETHER IN THE WOUND…
OR TOGETHER IN THE HEALING…
We meet our mirrors at different points in time on our life journey.
We are intrigued, even aroused by these meetings.
We sometimes catch the feels,
And get committed.
And often this is the exact case that creates a defined relationship in today’s society.
Two people living thier own life experiences,
Meeting and connecting from thier wounded selves. From a space of feeling broken, fearful, unworthy and incomplete.
And they find themselves drawn into another who is just this as well.
They find this other lost soul who has all these similarities and hopes.
They share thier pain, thier saga and desire to have something more.
And so like magnets they connect.
They feel supported feeding each other the understanding and love that they crave.
They feel seen, heard and like thier mate gets them.
And they do.
Because both are operating from the wound.
The wound remains to a degree for both,
It gets triggered here and there,
Bringing doubt and fear into the hearts of the couple.
But they come together and assure each other that they are there.
And then it happens…
One of them starts to feel better.
Stops masking thier pain,
Stops hiding in thier guilt and suffering and chooses to open up again.
Chooses to breathe life in again.
Choose to heal,
To grow and become whole yet again.
And when this happens thier mate is provided an opportunity to do the same or to burrow themselves into more sadness.
More frustration and fear.
And thus end the relationship.
Because you see when one grows and heals and the other does not then it is the destiny of the relationship to end.
Growth and healing increases your vibration.
It will have you feeling full, in love with life, good about yourself and have you desiring for more in all of your life.
When vibrations increase for one partner but the other does not match vibration any longer then the two will start to experience challenges in connection, understanding each other, there will become an irritation between them like sandpaper and unless one of them does something to change thier frequency then its inevitable that they will split.
Now granted the one who started to grow, heal, transform certainly could hault thier opening. They could work on shrinking themselves again, and grow slower but typically even though this is a possibility it rarely happens because the momentum of growth becomes intoxicating and neither party want a shrinkage to happen.
Even though it quickly becomes evident as to what will occur.
So obviously the best choice to maintain the relationship is for the other partner to take self- responsibility and lean into the scary land of transformation. But its tricky.
They have to lean in because they want the growth for self…
Not just to save the relationship,
Otherwise the vibration will become needy and cause even more irritation between the two.
You cannot lie about your vibration.
And you cannot manipulate your vibration.
On the other spectrum,
Coming together in healing…
Or in growing.
When we meet someone in this place,
Where we are each doing our work,
Learning to take responsibility for self, emotions and actions.
Leaning into our hearts and souls and catching the ego,
When we meet from a place of expansion we find ourselves again feeling deep connection, understanding, love and catching the feels for this other person who is meeting us where we are.
And it feels beautiful.
It feels supportive but not like the crutch of the wounded connection,
Instead supportive from a sense of freedom to be self and to be witnessed just as we are.
This sort of bonding,
As long as both parties continue to love self first, own thier emotions, thoughts and actions and keep leaning into thier individual expansions,
Then they together will connect deeper,
Be witnessed from a truly authentic level,
Experience a quickening in personal growth as well as a melding and accelerated joint growth and transformation which will with its individual vibrational increases also create a worm hole of momentum toward the couples unity.
Here a couple can experience the highest of relationship connectedness in vulnerability, intimacy and authentic unconditional love.
They will be able to cross through challenging waters together because they both built strong individual boats first and are sailing the choppy seas of life side by side, supporting each other but not trying to glue thier boats together in need which only creates instability and weakness in self and relationship.
True mature loving relationship understand and value self and growth first.
They choose to journey together because its a beautiful transformational path to share but they do not need someone by thier side to love the path they are on.
They do what they do because it feels good to them and for them,
Not because they aim to please anyone else.
Look at your relationships of today and yesterday,
Were they founded in the wound or in healing and growth?
What is your desire in your relationship story?
And how is the founding of your current expanding you or holding you back?
Time to get clear.
Time to be real.
Time to connect from strength.
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers ”
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Sometimes it will not be perfect.
Sometimes you will mess up.
Sometimes it just won’t carry the energy that you want it to.
Sometimes it will be blah…
and you will feel all humbug over it.
But that is just sometimes.
And those sometimes only build energy and power when you focus on them and give them such.
I have humbug moments all the time.
My energy ebbs and flows with the best of you.
Sometimes I write a musing or do one of my daily live streams and find myself asking,
“Why did I even do that? It was horrible.”
But you know what,
when you are building your empire,
and focused on creating that dream life that you know that you are worthy of on the days that you are not so humbug,
then what matters is not always the words that are coming from your lips or finger tips but the CONSISTENTLY to do the damn thing that you know that you need to do to call in the life that you know you are meant to have.
If this is around building a business,
then its about being consistent in your messaging and showing the f-ck up to your tribe a few times a day,
letting them feel you no matter where you are at.
If this is around relationships,
then its about consistently sharing your heart and being present in the relationship.
No matter the subject of your life that you are feeling all humbug about,
the thing to keep in mind is CONSISTENCY.
Without it you will get no where quickly.
With it you will move mountains.
And if you catch yourself feeling low vibe about the things you love so much all too often,
then you best check what kind of thoughts you are consistently thinking too, beautiful.
If you are focusing in on things that are not your core WHY,
are not coming from a place of soul,
or your heart then beware what might be taking hold of you and consistently preaching fear, doubt and worry into your system.
CONSISTENCY in your thoughts has the greatest power over your life.
What you focus on grows.
And often we do not have the self-awareness to realize that we are self- sabotaging with the conversations that we are having with ourselves. Often we choose to not do the most uncomfortable thing that we can,
and that is to LISTEN IN on the words that we speak to ourselves.
These statements that we share in our most deep and intimate space of self are the deciding factors to the paths that we take in our lives.
And anyone who has ever done something great has started cleaning up the habitual thoughts that cause the muck in clarity and truth finding.
As long as you choose ignore your thoughts and ignore taking responsibility for them,
As long as you deny your power to change them and to change the way that you are feeling right now,
You will continue to suffer and not create the life that you want.
Today is a new day beautiful.
Today is a day for you to call in the life that you want.
Today you can SAY YES to YOU.
And today you can CHOOSE what you focus on.
What is your focus for today?
or this week?
Ready to CLAIM YOUR LIFE?
I sure AF hope so!
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”
NOT REALLY 100% INVESTED ARE YOU? AT LEAST NOT THIS YEAR – Maybe Next???
I ask a question of people on my applications to work with me, it goes like this:
Are you willing to invest in your coaching process fully if we decide to work together?
And the options are:
*Yes! Absolutely. I fully understand the power of investing into myself and committing to the process.
* I am unsure as to what I want or my commitment level.
* No, I am just exploring options at this time.
The majority of the people who fill out my application, no matter what their truth may be click on option one.
They proclaim that they understand the power of investing in themselves FULLY and what commitment is.
Funny thing happens though once they are faced with their truth. Or their financial situation. Or their lack of worth. Or their FEAR. This is a big effing one.
They make excuses.
They do everything they can to hide from the f-cking fact that they don’t want it bad enough for themselves.
Now you most likely are thinking,
“That’s not me, Kendal, I want it. I want it more than anything. I am 100% invested in whatever I need to do or make happen to have the life that I desire and know I was born to live. ”
Are you sure?
Because I am willing to wager that you are not as invested or committed to self as you believe that you are.
I am saying this because I see you.
I see you making the statements.
And proclaiming that you want this, and this and this too.
And I see you getting side tracked.
I see life getting in your way.
I see your beautiful,
logical reasons that you are offering up as to why you have not done this or that.
Yeah I see you.
I see how you are short changing yourself.
And here is the real deal beautiful,
YOU ARE WORTH SO MUCH MORE THAN WHAT YOU ARE ALLOWING FOR YOURSELF.
But you will NEVER have it if you do not stop effing around and avoiding the opportunities to have it because you are scared of having it.
You are scared aren’t you?
Its manifesting itself as concern.
Its coming up as worry, and fatigue, and chaos.
And you continue to pretend that everything is okay.
You run along and just keep acting like life is all groovy,
that you got your shiz in order and that you don’t really need the help. But then you say I need help. I don’t understand. I cannot get movement here, this is sucking over here.
You proclaim, “I AM READY FOR A CHANGE.”
And so you call in the opportunity.
And then you cry about the commitment.
You turn your nose up at the investment.
You make an excuse.
You know what matters more to you then your desire,
than your happiness,
than whatever it is that you are claiming you want?
The bottom dollar means more.
The what’s this going to cost me.
You walk into the land of change with the objection of price, and you are under some damn idea that it should be gifted to you and Oh Yeah It should not mean that you have to apply yourself to making the change.
Let’s not forget that.
You want me to do what?
Spend how much time on my inner work?
Commit to what with my partner/spouse?
You want me to actually take action?
Nah, I don’t want it that bad this year.
When I have made my million dollars then I will revisit this.
When I am stable emotionally, financially, physically then I will explore this.
I don’t have (fill in the blank) right now to do this.
Honey, if this is you I am writing about realize that with that sort of mindset and lack of commitment the thing you are wanting to have happen WILL NEVER HAPPEN.
Do you get how miracles happen?
They happen when we expect them too.
When we open ourselves through faith and putting ourselves up to the test. You have to not just step but LEAP if you want a miracle.
Making excuses will never get you this or the life that you want.
Matter a fact, if you want to know how much something of this potency is going to cost you here is the actual answer that you need to digest and sit with:
If you don’t do it – It will cost you YOUR LIFE. Your EVERYTHING.
Because you know what you have been doing,
You know where it has gotten you,
You feel what it feel’s like to be living this way,
and you are hungry.
So if you keep doing what you have always done,
YOU WILL STARVE!
So may people are under the assumption that if you just sit in a certain position,
think great thoughts and breathe a certain way that you never have to actually get off your ass and do something to manifest your dreams and goals.
So many other people, believe that if they just keep doing what they have been doing and work harder, scrimp more and freak out more that they will be successful in time and have the life that they want.
MOFO – NEWSFLASH!
Neither is accurate.
Neither will lead to your greatest, happiest life.
You are out of alignment in both cases,
and you are not taking the action that your SOUL wants you too.
So WTF do you do beautiful?
This is up to YOU!
My suggestion is get REAL.
Make the MOFO INVESTMENT.
Stop making excuses and continuing to do the same things expecting different results,
this is crazy.
But what do I know?
I don’t know you, and perhaps you don’t know you.
That is most likely the root of your issue beautiful.
And As always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
Coaching For Grwon A*s Believers
It’s time that you start to say YES to the most important person in the room beautiful. It’s time that you accept your worth, and step onto this path that your SOUL is calling you too.
I know how hard the steps may appear.
I know that you are fearful, that you doubt if you have what it takes to make this shiz happen for you or not.
But I promise you that YOU can do it.
You can have it.The first step though is to recognize that you must let go and have faith in your process of getting there.
Listen to your SOUL and follow it’s lead.
Imagine having a coach who has been on a similar path guide you, help you discover the deeper meanings of what soul is wanting you to know.
What would it feel like to have that sort of support and guidance?
You can have this.
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You say you are not afraid.
You say that you can feel the call,
that the desire is alive in you and that you truly WANT for something more in your life.
You say that you are not afraid, that you know that you must make these things happen.
You say that you are COMMITTED,
that you are READY.
You say that you WILL FIND a way, no matter what.
You say that you know,
you know how critical this is to your life.
You say a lot for someone who is doing NOTHING!
Just sitting there on the fence line of life,
waiting for something to change.
Waiting for life to improve enough for you to get committed and do the things,
the things that your SOUL is calling you to do.
And yet there you are beautiful,
proclaiming all of that.
Wanting all of that.
And still doing NOTHING.
The thing is baby,
what you are not fully grasping is that YOU are scared as F-ck about actually just leaning into your SOUL guidance and LETTING GO!
You are scared as F-ck to finally CLAIM YOUR LIFE!
Making it happen by having FAITH.
Yes! You claim a lot for someone who is scared of SOUL.
Who wants for so much,
but won’t actually STEP the F-ck into what YOU want.
You try and get the world to believe that you don’t know what you need to do,
or that you are already doing it all.
But at your very core,
you know the THING,
the thing that you must do.
That thing to step the F-ck all the way in on your life.
there you sit.
Saying that you need to do this or that,
saying that you feel the call.
The call of your SOUL.
And knowing that you are but one small yet HUMONGOUS step away from having all your dreams and desire manifest like magic.
But there on the fence,
Scared of saying YES!
Scared of Stepping the F-ck in.
Scared of your SOUL.
Sacred of your DREAMS.
If only you fully understood the power of LETTING GO.
If only you fully believed in your POWER.
In your WORTH.
In Just Stepping the F-ck IN.
But there is hesitation is there not?
You may claim that there is not.
And so if that is what you say,
what you truly think.
Then ask yourself,
“What then is holding me back from living the life that I feel called to live?”
that it is not money.
That it is not time.
That it is not luck.
That it has nothing to do with your education.
Or your work, relationship or even the amount of sex that you are having or not.
it is not body image.
It is not your religious beliefs.
It has nothing to do with your childhood wounding,
or who your parents are,
or how they treated you.
None of this is the REASON.
Some of it is the RESULT,
the result of what is actually holding you the f-ck back.
And you do know the THING,
the THING that is holding you back.
It is the same thing,
the only thing,
that ever holds you back.
it cannot be.
it is just so.
You must SURRENDER yourself,
once and for all to your SOUL.
Stop fearing it.
Stop hiding from it.
Just STOP and LISTEN.
Listen and Act.
Act only from here beautiful.
It is the space of all knowing.
It holds all your answers,
all your power.
Yes here beautiful is what you MUST do.
Once and for all.
Stop FEARING YOUR SOUL.
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”
Want to take that step?
I sure hope that you have come to realize that this fence that you are sitting on is not a fence of safety,
but a fence of saying no to self,
saying no to your dreams and desires and living the way God intended on you living.
It is time that you decide..
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It is living by your motherf-cking TRUTH.
That is what SOUL alignment is.
And that is exactly why you look out into this world and hardly see anyone doing it.
It is effing hard as hell to do this.
You know it is.
You know that your soul is calling your a*s to step the f-ck up but then you get that butterfly feeling in the pit of your tummy.
The palms of your hands start to sweat and your heart starts to race.
Because you for a half a second contemplated what life would be like if you pulled out all the stops.
If you just broke it down to the ease that life is suppose to be and stopped making it all so effing difficult on yourself.
Fear rose up inside of you because that takes great courage to step the f-ck in,
like ALL the f-ucking way in.
No not just your BIG toe.
No let me test the waters.
No I will give it my best college try.
That is not what will ever do it.
that is not what will manifest your dreams.
You want what you want.
You desire that life over there,
and it going to remain over there as long as you keep living the way that you are living which is not in alignment with your SOUL baby.
And it is most certainly not in accordance with that life that you desire so greatly.
You might be speaking about wanting this or that,
but when it comes down to it you are still wavering.
And wavering will not do the dead love.
You ain’t never going to call in the big bucks,
call in that motherf-cking amazing life partner that you fall asleep dreaming about,
it will never get you the hot body you want,
it will never make you magnetic the way that you want.
And you know what it will never do for sure?
Make you proud of yourself.
Build your confidence.
Give you the creative energy,
the passion or the motivation that you want.
Nope wavering is for those who fear life.
Wavering is for those who take the biggest risk with life,
and that is the risk of never living it fully.
You want to get full on life.
Feel so full and complete in who you are,
have it all.
Then this requires you to step the f-ck all the way in.
This requires you to stop doing all the damn things that you have been doing,
that feel so comfortable, even though they may be the culprits of your average and ordinary,
not going anywhere way of living,
but surviving the day life.
Yeah it may be comfortable like that.
But if you have that SOUL CALLING goin’ on inside you baby,
then let me be the rude awakener to the fact that there is something far more important than your damn comfort..
And that is called your TRUTH.
Your life PURPOSE.
You need to get straight with the fact that you were born for something so much more than what you have chosen to be and the reason you feel so damn melancholy and lethargic about life,
is because your soul is f-cking bored with who you have allowed yourself to become.
How you have just simply settled for this survivor shit.
Get through life with no pain.
No bad stuff happening.
And to do it you risk everything that life was given to you for.
Are you serious right now?
Come on lovely,
you have got to feel that you are so much more than this little shadow of a being that you have told yourself that you are.
You have got to feel it in your bones.
I know you KNOW.
And yet you keep fighting.
You keep ignoring.
And some crazy affliction you have is causing you to believe that things are “just fine”
Well they are not!
You were not born to just settle.
You were not born to just get by.
You were not born to live small.
God did not make something unworthy of greatness.
He made you to stand in his greatness and thus your own
But you have got to step the f-ck in.
All the way in.
this thing you proclaim to call your life,
well it wants YOU –
Are you ready to want it back fully?
That is the question of today baby.
That is the question of each and every day.
And your answer need to not just be your beautiful words of commitment.
Life is demanding that you take ACTION.
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”
Let me assist you with stepping the f-ck all the way into your THRIVING life today. You are worth it love.
You deserve the best.
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