Sex is Intimate, But Sex is NOT Intimacy.

GROWN A*S MEN NEED TO UNDERSTAND THIS SHIZ ABOUT WOMEN…and Sex!
 
Yesterday I read Johnie Jay’s World post on intimacy and I was like,
F-CK YES! – This is exactly what I coach and educate on ALL the time.
 
Men walk into my office so often unsatisfied with their woman.
Saying, ” Kendal, fix her. She has no interest in intimacy any more. I am starving for it and she just does not get into it.”
 
When asked what they mean by intimacy,
these men look at me puzzled and say, ” Well sex.”
And they follow it up with,
 
I want…
 
to be touched.
to snuggle.
to kiss.
to hold each other.
I want blow- jobs.
I want more sex.
 
And then when asked,
“How do you court your woman?”
 
Again they look bewildered.
They say…
 
Well we have been together for a 5 -10-20 years…
We are so busy…
We have kids…
She works long hours…
I work long hours…
 
“Okay, so what do you do to connect with her?”
Scratching his head….
 
Ummmm….
we eat dinner together.
We go to church together.
We watch ____________ show together.
 
And my response…
So how do you expect her to feel safe with you,
have desire for you,
be turned on to the idea of sex,
let alone have it with you if you cannot court her,
spend time connecting with her, create intimacy with her, learn about her, know whats going on in her internal or external worlds?
 
She is NOT YOUR PRIORITY.
Everything else is.
And she has met you after all this time with exactly what you have been giving to her,
NOW everything else in her life is priority over what you call intimacy.
Which is NOT intimacy.
It’s “getting off,”
It’s ” using her as your masturbation tool.”
 
If you want her to want sex with you…
Then sir,
you gotta take the time and let her feel you want her for more than her sex.
 
You have to start to give a shiz about her as a human being,
as someone that you claim that you care about,
love even.
 
And you need to get RIGHT WITH WHAT INTIMACY IS and IS NOT.
 
Sad truth of the matter is this…
Most supposed grown a*s men out there,
of all back grounds, nationalities, financial statures, education levels HAVE NO EFFING CLUE what intimacy is.
And Johnie Jay’s World stated it perfectly.
 
Let’s see how the grown a*s men who follow me out there who enjoy sex and woman and claim you want intimacy or connection feel about this…
 
“YES, SEX IS INTIMATE BUT SEX ISN’T INTIMACY. When she says she wants intimacy, it means she wants YOU. YOUR energy, YOUR time, YOUR patience, YOUR ear, YOUR voice, YOUR undivided attention, YOUR ( non-sexual) touch. Something is horribly wrong if the only time you want to be close to her is during intercourse. SHE DESERVES TO KNOW THAT SHE IS JUST AS IMPORTANT SIMPLY SITTING BESIDE YOU AS SHE IS WHEN YOU HAVE HER LYING ON HER BACK! #GrownManish
 
You see she ain’t broken.
She does not need fixed.
She is not crazy.
She is not being needy.
She is not hormonal.
She is not too old.
She is not..
is not…
not anything that you think.
 
She is however,
Hungry AF for true intimacy.
 
And if you man the F-ck Up and give it to her then she will be your MOFO dream girl,
and if you don’t…
 
Well then don’t be shocked when another supposed grown a*s man comes along and opens her heart.
 
And her legs.
 
Grow the F-ck Up Men.
Court Your Woman.
If you don’t have time to court her,
no matter how many years you have been together,
and if you have no desire to slow the f-ck down and take time to BE with her,
THEN YOU SHOULD NOT BE WITH HER.
 
Let Her Go.
She deserves better then what you are giving.
 
As Always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
” Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”
 
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YOUR NEGATIVE FEEDBACK SHOWS JUST HOW OUT OF ALIGNMENT YOU TRULY ARE.

YOUR NEGATIVE FEEDBACK SHOWS JUST HOW OUT OF ALIGNMENT YOU TRULY ARE.
 
But thank you anyway for sharing it.
 
Many moon’s ago I learned this little bit of spiritual wisdom and it has made all the difference in how I deal with others and has helped me to soften my reaction to other as well.
 
After learning it,
I became more compassionate as I simply saw their judgments, opinions, criticisms and ideas about my life and ways,
even who I was or was not,
as a message as to how they actually saw themselves and just did not recognize it.
 
It is always so much easier to witness in others,
that, that we have challenges with ourselves on the most.
 
We see this all the time while driving.
People with road rage,
or people who quickly get defensive or frustrated on the road typically are the one’s who are not wanting to drive,
believe that people are bad drivers always,
believe that there is always way too much traffic,
that people don’t know how to merge.
And you catch these individuals yelping about everything negative on the road.
They also are the one’s who will get right up on your ass and honk,
will flip you off for no good reason,
will pass you quickly and push their way in to exit instead of just moving with the flow of traffic.
 
They enter the experience of driving with an energy about them.
 
It is the energy of pissed off frustration.
And they drive accordingly.
And they see it in all their fellow drivers even more so.
 
And it is just this way,
because THIS is what they are FOCUSED ON.
 
Focused on the negativity.
Focused on the anger that they feel.
They will say, ” I just don’t like crowds or people.”
But what they are saying is, ” I don’t like myself.”
or ” I am nervous, insecure around people.”
 
And their focus on the negativity,
on the fear,
the uncertainty,
the control that they desire,
makes them judgmental of everyone around them and keeps their eye’s open to only THAT that they are looking most for.
 
WHAT IS WRONG IN THIS WORLD.
 
What is wrong with you.
What is wrong with anyone.
 
And to make matters even more worse,
these fine folks with their critical eye want to help FIX IT.
And they KNOW they have the answer needed,
because they have been on the outside looking in and they see how to go about it.
 
They see the TRUTH.
Your TRUTH.
They have it all figured out.
And they WANT TO HELP.
 
Never realizing that they cannot help from the place that they are witnessing from,
because they are witnessing an illusion,
or at best an old version of the situation or of you.
They are witnessing the events from a place of scarcity, doubt,
a need to control.
They are witnessing from a place that is not whole.
That place being themselves.
And because their focus in on the negative and a need to fix, control, change things,
they are revealing just how they feel about themselves at the deepest of levels.
 
Because you see a person who LOVES THEMSELVES,
a person who is connected and aligned to SOUL,
a person who is respectful of being human,
a person who is compassionate,
a person who has true confidence and self-esteem,
who know’s how powerful they really are,
that sort of person has…
 
NO DESIRE TO JUDGE OR CRITICIZE.
 
When we judge.
When we criticize.
When we try and change or tell another how or who they are.
When we try and convince another that they are wrong on their path.
We in fact are attempting to CONTROL them.
And not loving them for just who they are, as is.
 
When we do these things,
we may use tactics such as guilt, shame or fear to get the results that we feel are right,
and in so doing so,
we cut down the heart and soul of the other person.
And if you get right with yourself,
you will realize just how crappy that actually feels to bring someone down.
 
No matter how good your reasoning may be,
it does not feel good.
 
And that is because
YOU ARE OUT OF YOUR OWN SOUL ALIGNMENT
in these moments.
 
So what do you do when you find yourself wanting to fix, judge or change someone?
 
You breathe and look at what is really coming up for you.
Instead ask yourself,
 
” How do I truly feel about myself right now?”
 
I mean really go there.
Don’t take that first response of,
” I feel great!”
That your ego will spout off.
 
If you want to connect to people.
If you want to enjoy life.
Be happy.
Be received from others.
If you want to know yourself and feel good about who you are.
To be loved and to love.
 
Then you owe yourself the TRUTH.
 
How do you feel about the person you are right now?
How do you feel about the life that you have right now?
 
Start there beautiful.
And take your focus off of everyone’s challenges.
Because whether they have them or not,
it does not matter.
 
Those challenges and issues,
those problems and wrong doings or beings,
that you perceive.
Are NOT YOURS to fix in any other than YOURSELF.
 
Start There.
 
And As Always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
 
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”
 
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STOP EFFING AROUND WITH THAT THING THAT IS HOLDING YOU BACK! – LET GO NOW.

I know how much you want it.
That THING…
 
That THING that you crave at your core.
You can taste having it, right.
You body tenses from the idea of getting it.
Excitement.
Nervousness.
The WHAT IF?
 
What if I get it,
what if I achieve it?
 
But even more so surging through your core,
through your veins is the WHAT IF of NOT having it.
 
And this my love is causing you the resistance that you feel.
The holding back of all that is yours for the having.
 
Your intense interest in having it is actually leaning mores o into the NOT HAVING IT.
 
Have you been wondering WHY?
 
Why is it not showing up?
Why is it that no matter how much focus you apply,
no matter how much attention you give it,
alignment work that you do,
journalling, ‘meditating,
fantasizing,
and “trying” to make yourself believe that it is coming,
BUT STILL…
 
It does not show up.
 
Have you been wondering WHY?
 
And no matter how hard you work at getting it,
how much you “feel” in the flow,
its just not there.
It’s just not happening.
 
And that love is SCARY as shiz, right?
 
I mean this is something BIG AF.
This is something you feel passionate about.
That you can FEEL at your CORE.
And you see others doing it.
Having it.
And living it.
 
But for some reason it just is not happening for you.
And you cannot figure out what the THING is that you need to do to get it.
 
So what is the THING love?
 
Okay, come here…
lean in love,
let me share a secret with you.
It is the answer that you have been looking for,
it is the answer that you already know,
unfortunately.
And you most likely are resisting it,
because you don’t know how to do it.
 
It’s YOU LETTING GO.
 
Your interest and focus on gain this THING is what is keeping it away from you love.
 
You are so caught up on the MUST HAVE,
that the energy that you are putting out is NOT HAVING.
And because you are feeling the void of not having it,
you are getting NOT HAVING IT.
 
This is your FEAR.
Right?
 
You fear what life is going to be like if you don’t get your dreams and goals,
if you don’t succeed at your dreams.
You fear being told that you were wrong,
silly, stupid, naive even,
for “think” that you could do it, have it, achieve it.
 
Yes THIS IS THE THING that is holding you back love.
 
It is your intense focus on the NOT HAVING.
 
And your fear of not getting it.
 
You have GOT TO LET THIS SHIZ GO NOW!
 
Number one success rule to having your dreams come true:
 
FEEL THEM WITH YOU NOW.
 
You have got to be in the vibration ALREADY,
in order to have the relationship of your dreams,
the money that you want,
the lifestyle that you desire, ‘the health and well being,
the JOY….
 
Yes,
in order to have anything that you want you have to be in the feeling of it already.
 
In simple terms,
you have got to NOT NEED IT.
 
Vibrationally,
you can not be in NEED.
 
NEED will keep you in resistance to having it.
 
That is why it is so easy to watch things that are unimportant to you JUST SHOW UP in ease and with speed.
 
Have you noticed that?
 
How quickly do the things that you just lightly want,
or toss around with no real attachment,
just show up?
 
You are manifesting them into existence all the time.
But these things show up because you are not in NEED of them.
 
You just felt them,
was in alignment to them,
and LET GO.
 
And THIS IS THE THING….
That YOU MUST DO….
To have the THING (s) that you WANT.
 
Start Today.
Let Go.
Play.
Laugh.
Enjoy Your Now.
DREAM.
 
 
And As Always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”
 
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Just Another Day in Paradise… Or Is It? Not for all OBVIOUSLY. ( Is This YOU?)

Just another day in paradise.
Just another day living,
breathing.
Nothing happening here.
Or is there?
 
I think there is luv.
I think there is so much happening here.
 
And what is happening here is something that I know you long for.
I know that if you knew how to achieve it,
how to have more of it,
how to keep it,
YOU WOULD.
 
or would you luv?
 
Because maybe you would not.
Maybe you would say,
“yeah, yeah… that’s nice for her, but…..”
 
Maybe you just don’t think you can have it.
Maybe you believe that it is something you only capture small moments of in this life.
Maybe you think it requires ton’s of money.
Or sex.
or something else outside of yourself.
 
I don’t know.
But I wonder if I told you the God’s honest truth about it,
and I shared the secrets to obtain it,
would you go after it?
 
Or would you shrug your shoulders,
frown and carry on as is?
 
Here I am in paradise.
Here I am with an amazing man.
This resort we are staying is so beautiful,
the people are sweet and personable,
I have nothing to complain about except that I would like to say a few days longer than planned originally.
But that is always the case when you are enjoying a new destination and escaping all that troubles you, right?
 
Laughing and playing is easier here.
Lounging and letting go is simpler.
Smiling and being care free comes more naturally.
Connecting and just being present just is.
And is beautiful.
 
Or at least it should be.
But so many people I watch from a far,
and they frown,
they walk slumped and humped over,
they look bored,
stressed,
anxiety ridden still.
or even just dead.
They are not laughing and enjoying.
They are not connecting and letting go.
They do not look happy.
 
How can this be?
 
It just is because these folks who refuse to let the joy in here,
here in paradise,
have no idea how to open up to joy in any way.
They are so accustom to pain and suffering that even when attempting to enjoy life they still manage to not.
 
And then there is the crowd who is drinking themselves into laughter and letting go.
The one’s who are still running from their pain even here.
Who cannot let go of the stress,
they live in their minds,
in their fear,
and they drink to mask their worry.
They bake themselves mentally and physically,
they eat all the food they can,
to make sure they get their full dollars worth.
In scarcity they live and remain.
Even here in paradise.
 
This luv is not healthy.
This is not THRIVING.
This is far from living at all.
And it does not encompass joy.
 
I share with you this because today,
today my lover asked me while sitting on the beach watching the waves roll in,
he asked me if there was anything that I wanted to change in my life?
 
He said, ” I know you have goals on your income and stress level, your time and what you want to create, but outside of that do you want to change anything?”
 
My answer:
 
NO!
 
I love my life just as it is.
I love my life even if my goals are not met with my business, finances, time or physical body.
I am HAPPY just as I am and if I remain in these very shoes the next decade I am happy.
 
I want for so much and I am building with great intent and focus just for those dreams and desires.
Each day I feel my life moving the direction that I want.
Steady and strong.
I do not fear tomorrow.
I appreciate yesterday.
I adore today.
 
And no matter what,
TODAY I AM HAPPY.
 
Today my heart is full of joy.
Today my heart is in gratitude.
The new people that walk into my life,
the experiences,
the love,
the connection.
The opportunity.
Each and every day is a new day.
It is a new opportunity to have it all.
and all of it is not somewhere out there,
out there where I don’t have it…
 
No.
It is not out there at all.
It is RIGHT HERE.
In my mind,
in my heart,
it is soul lead.
And it is felt.
 
My eye’s radiate with this joy.
My face beams with it as well.
My calmness,
my flow.
It is all because,
I have committed to it.
But luv,
the answer to having it is not some riddle or maze through all of time and space,
it is not found buy the purchase of something great,
or by the search even of the very thing that it is.
 
No luv,
to have this JOY.
To have this HAPPINESS.
 
All you ever need to is commit.
It is here.
Here within you right now.
You must learn to feel it.
You must learn to love yourself.
To trust in this life,
in God and your SOUL.
 
Here you will discover all that you wish.
But you must commit.
 
COMMIT TO YOU.
To JOY.
 
Will you commit?
Let’s Go.
 
And As Always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”
 
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We Are Meant To Live In The Magnitude of Awe-ness…

Travel, its something I love.
And if you follow me then you already know this.
But you may not know why I adore travel so much.
 
I love travel because of the growth it gives me.
Travel expands my thinking,
my understanding of self,
of others,
of life.
 
Travel opens me up to knew ways of viewing the world.
My world and the world around me.
 
Travel is healing to the soul.
 
Last night we were laying out under the stars on the beach here in Riviera Maya,
little crabs crawling across the sand,
the waters sloshing up against the shore line,
and a sky so full of stars.
We laid there in silence for some time,
just witnessing the magistracy of the sky.
So vast.
So impressive.
Every now and then a shooting star would stream across,
and my inner child would make her wish.
 
There we lay with the breeze of the warm summer night against our bodies.
 
So small against the immense sky above,
and yet I felt powerful.
There I laid feeling the magnitude of the creator moving through me in that moment.
 
And I was in Awe.
 
That is why I love to travel.
 
This morning we were up and back to the beach,
snorkeling gear in hand and off to the small coves that lined the shore.
 
Out into the turquoise waters we swam,
following colorful fish of all sizes,
and then upon the reef line we floated,
just watching the wonders below.
Again, the magnitude of this space.
A whole world around us.
Immense, powerful and full of life.
As the waves crashed upon my back every so often,
as I swam across the reef,
watching the sea creatures,
the fish flock and flurry,
I felt so small,
so unimportant.
 
And yet I was deeply aware of the power I was holding inside myself.
I could again feel the magnitude of all of life,
of the creator move through me.
Wash around me,
and make itself known.
 
And I was in Awe.
 
That is why I love to travel.
 
No matter where I have traveled in our beautiful world,
I found a people to love.
I have found beauty in their smile’s,
in the meeting of another’s eye.
I have found compassion in the witnessing of life somewhere foreign.
I have found peace and joy in bonds that make us all human.
I have seen so many a beautiful people,
embrace me as I travel,
and I am in gratitude for them and for these experiences.
 
And I feel small,
unimportant,
I feel like how could I ever make any ripple worth anything.
And then the words of a stranger come upon me,
and I smile.
I feel the message of God.
The message that we are all human.
We are all family.
And just my witnessing and embracing of this,
is a ripple.
The connection experienced with this people,
with just this one soul,
it changes us.
It expands us.
And we grow.
 
I feel the love of the creator move through me in moments like this.
I feel the compassion,
the adoration and gratitude.
I feel the bonds of being human.
And I smile.
 
I am in Awe.
 
This is why I love travel.
 
In the arms of my lover I smile,
laughing and enjoying the moments.
Allowing the energy of life to move about us.
Yes, here too is a reason to love travel.
For all the magnitude of this world,
of the skies and seas,
for all the diversity of its people,
here too,
just between him and I is a world to be discovered.
And in moments such as these,
as we travel,
we reveal knew aspects of ourselves.
We drop our guards just a bit,
we allow a softening of our hearts,
and opening of the connection.
And here with no one else to interfere,
we explore.
 
We travel perhaps not to some strange land,
but still we explore.
The land that resides within each of us.
The land here that is revealed.
 
Laughter.
Connection.
Conversation.
Touching.
and
Experiencing this world.
 
And as our eye’s meet,
as a smile crosses each of our lips,
we too are forever changed because of this moment.
Because of this travel.
Expanded.
 
And I am in Awe.
 
So many people say no to travel.
They refuse to venture out into the world,
they keep themselves closed to the adventure known as life.
They keep them shut away from the people of this earth,
out of fear they remain hidden,
and in their fear of the adventure,
of the people,
they also show the fear in their hearts.
They choose to remain closed.
They choose to remain small.
Never feeling the true magnitude of this life.
The true bounty of this earth or the vastness of God.
 
This life was meant for the taking.
The taking of the adventure.
the communion of the people.
This life was meant for the Awe.
 
And here,
here is where you will discover just how powerful you really are,
but first you must want for it.
First you must crave the Awe.
The power.
It is there.
In your heart,
in your soul,
in the people of this earth.
 
Dare to travel and you will see.
You will meet the creator in every step of your journey.
And you will be in Awe.
 
As yourself,
“If not now, when?”
 
Life is too short to stall.
 
As Always,
“Stop Existing & Start Living”
Coaching for Grown A*s Believers
 
Expand your life,
expand your thinking.
Expand your heart.
 
As you open you grow.
And here is where you meet your power,
and your joy.
 
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WHY FAKING IT UNTIL YOU MAKE IT IS A BAD IDEA….

WHY FAKING IT UNTIL YOU MAKE IT IS A BAD IDEA…
 
A long time ago I remember sitting in a self-growth workshop in Sacramento, California.
I remember my eagerness,
my excitement,
my desire to learn the fundamentals to achieving everything that I wanted to manifest in life and business.
 
And like any young, turned on, impressionable person, I found myself a sponge to everything the speaker had to offer.
I took pages of notes and went home to put my head down and get to work on what I assumed would require a lot of hard work.
 
THE GOAL:
 
$100k a year.
Freedom and flexibility in schedule.
Travel.
Connected relationships and amazing experiences for my family and self.
 
THE REALITY:
 
One broke AF situation.
Exhaustion.
Zero travel except to live with family because at times we could not make ends meet.
Disconnect relationships and fighting.
Fear.
Doubt.
And lots,
and lots of hard work.
Cold calls, paper advertisements, door knocking.
Training’s, meetings, cold prospecting,
a feeling of overwhelm and bondage.
 
Ye I wanted to believer that I could go from here to my desired life.
 
I believed that if I smiled,
pretended and just kept to the hustle that I would have a break through.
 
After all I was building my story.
 
I believed that I needed to work harder.
I needed to apply myself more and figure out the “trick” to getting the client and keeping the client.
 
I believed all of this,
and at the same time my inner voice laughed at me and let me know loud and clear daily that I could believe in myself,
I could speak the words and play the part,
all of it, but under it all was a core foundation of a scared, poor little Northern California girl who had no concept of what abundance in money, time, freedom, love even felt like.
 
That this girl did not know much about herself even.
This girl did not know about connection or even trust that any of it could happen.
 
Matter a fact if I had gotten real with myself back then I would have discovered what I now refer to as “empty desire” because I had nothing in my life experience to support it.
 
What I did have was bills, bad credit, small children and tons of stress. I had frequent fights with my spouse, fear and a deep concern of not making it work.
 
A fear of not succeeding.
 
But I smiled.
I looked pretty.
And from the outside appeared as though I had some seriously good shiz goin’ on.
 
But it was all FAKE AF!
 
Contrary to popular belief “Fake it till you make it,”
simply does not work.
 
It does not work because you cannot FAKE YOUR VIBE.
 
You cannot fake your thinking,
what you are focusing on.
 
You cannot lie to God.
No matter how you dress yourself up,
no matter how big your smile,
no matter how abundant you may appear,
when you are faking it,
your not vibing in authentic abundance.
 
Because if you were vibing in abundance then you would not have to fake it.
 
It just would already be so.
You would see it showing up in your life RIGHT NOW.
And that smile and joy would not be fake.
That gratitude you keep spouting out would be more than words.
Your vibe would truly be turned up and turned on,
not a mask from fear of not succeeding and making all the naysayers correct.
 
If you were not faking it you would not care what everyone who doubts you says or thinks.
 
You would have certainty and confidence that it just was and so it just would be.
 
So how then do you go from this place of frustration, fear, doubt and not having but desperately wanting to authentically have your dreams, goals and desires JUST SHOW THE EFF UP?
 
How do you feel good when you got nothing but debt, anxiety and overwhelm hanging over your head?
 
How do you take yourself to the next level when you feel like your crashing for all the trying that you are doing?
 
Everything your wanting for is a FEELING.
 
And the feeling translates to vibration.
The vibration magnetizes itself to an equal or similar vibration of manifestation.
 
SO the trick that you are looking for is not to fake you outside appearance.
 
Vibration has no care about what name brand your clothes are or what type of car you are driving.
 
Vibration knows you intimately.
It knows your heart – where your desire resides.
And it knows your thoughts – where you do the true work of creating those desires.
 
Those thoughts turn to feelings.
And those feelings are your GPS to achieving with ease and grace your desires.
 
SO the answer,
the answer you are looking for is to NOT FAKE IT!
 
But instead to find good thoughts.
 
No matter how big or small they are,
no matter how general they are,
no matter if they are on the subject of your life you want to create AMAZING in or not,
 
JUST FIND GOOD THOUGHTS.
Find them.
Focus on them.
Feel them.
Take yourself into that,
make it a real feeling.
And watch the magic happen.
 
You got this!
It’s Yours So FEEL IT.
 
And As Always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”
 
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You are worthy of the life you desire.

Your Neediness Is Stopping Your F-ck Yes! Life.

I know that you want it baby.
I can see it in your eye’s.
I know that you desire for that F-ck Yes! Life.
You want the connection,
you want the passion,
you want the happiness and direction.
I can see your desire.
It washes across your face as you speak.
It is a hunger,
and you are starving for it.
 
But luv,
here is the issue,
here is the challenge that you cannot see for yourself.
This hunger that is pulling at you,
it has you blinded to what you are missing.
 
And that my luv,
is not what you hunger for,
NO.
What you are missing is the presence,
the release,
the surrender.
You are missing your own allowing,
out of the fear that you miss all that you hunger for.
You fear that by letting go,
you will loose.
And what you are causing is the very lose of what you want so deeply for.
 
You are desperate and hungry luv.
You are a ravenous beast.
You are dangerous.
You are pushing away everyone and everything,
because of your fear.
And this has you even more hungry, does it not.
 
The answer to what you desire,
the way to getting it for certain.
It is not in you chasing.
It is not in you demanding.
It is not in you threatening,
or shaming,
or manipulating.
No you will never achieve what you want in these futile attempts.
This sort of immaturity may make you feel powerful,
it may show you evidence of you getting for a moment,
but you will loose it all quickly,
if you do not allow yourself to have it through your true power.
 
And that power is felt in your love.
It is seen and experienced in your presence.
In your opening to understanding that your self-centeredness is holding your desire at bay.
 
You want to be seen.
You want to be felt.
Understood.
You want to be wanted.
 
And you can have all of this and more.
Life wants to give to you luv.
But in order to have it,
you MUST allow it.
And this will come when you let go.
 
Let go of your neediness.
Let go of your control.
Let go of your hunger.
In your trying,
you are resisting.
 
You are missing all that you can be.
You are missing all that you can have.
You are missing all that you can give,
can share.
 
Because luv,
yes,
it is all about you.
You are for certain the most important person in the room.
But your importance,
must rest assured in confidence not need.
You cannot demand the spot light at the cost of the room.
You cannot fear your own light to the point of hiding from your shadow.
 
The way to have it all.
The path to your F-ck Yes! Life…
It is through your release of the NEED.
 
Ask yourself today luv,
where am I holding on? Where am I resisting all that I can have by insisting on my need?
 
And As Always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”
 
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How Does Your Garden Grow Baby?

I like to move it…
move it…
 
I like to move it, move it…
 
I really do.
I like to move it,
until I don’t like to move it no more.
I push,
I run,
I jump,
I leap forward without thinking often.
My SOUL just get’s a hold of me and blurts stuff out and I am like,
“Well, I guess that is what we are doing now.”
 
And then once cast out there into the sea of the universe for all to hear and see,
and for God to deliver back to me,
I sometimes loose my luster and joy for it.
I sometimes go,
“Well, F-ck! I am just not feeling it now.”
 
And so I start to procrastinate.
I start to change my focus to something else.
I feel that the splash of passion that I had in that moment of alignment,
is gone.
 
And I feel constriction.
I might even feel a low grade sadness.
You could say depression even.
And I count myself lazy AF.
And then the fear kicks in even more so,
it kicks in because now what was just a mood of not feelin’ it in that moment has turned into me becoming certain that I am not good enough,
that I am to lazy to make it happen,
don’t really know what I am doing,
that what I am doing is a bad idea and that no one even want’s it.
 
And once taken hold,
this thought,
this fear it steals the fire right out of who I am at my core,
it steals the passion from feeling good,
from making it happen.
And in turn it applies all that passion,
all that focus onto what I fear the most.
 
The not happening of it.
The lack of moving it.
The lack of not getting,
and I step fully into scarcity.
Here then is where my passion is focused.
Here is where I am applying myself,
and here is what happens…
 
I GET EXACTLY WHAT I AM FOCUSED ON.
 
I get exactly what I am applying myself too.
 
I get exactly what I am putting my passion toward.
 
I am a MOFO Amazing manifestor!
 
Can you relate beautiful?
 
I bet you can.
We all do this.
The question comes as to what extent we manifest our fears vs. our dreams.
 
Those of us who get it,
like you and I, we know our power.
We know our strength,
and we BELIEVE.
 
That’s what makes us unique.
We are not blind.
With this sight of knowing though,
it’s all the more important for us to pay attention,
to do our inner work,
to listen the eff to our SOUL,
and to get into alignment with it.
 
It’s important because we have this thing,
this thing called our message.
It’s what we cannot, not do in this life if we are to feel complete.
 
It is our ART.
 
You have it beautiful.
You feel it at your SOUL.
And you know.
I know you know that you MUST,
you must do this THING.
And the only thing holding you back beautiful,
is this focus gig you got goin’ on.
It’s time that you accept your power beautiful.
It’s time that you realize once and for all that you are pulling yourself under the currents of restriction,
you are the ONLY ONE not allowing yourself to have all that you want.
And you are doing it by applying yourself to that, that you fear.
By having more passion toward what you do not want,
then what you desire with your heart and soul.
 
You are a powerful manifestor BABY.
 
And because of your power,
you create so quickly.
You know you do.
The evidence is all around you.
And your focus is intense.
 
Yes beautiful,
you know who you are.
It’s time for you to EMBRACE YOUR POWER.
 
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It’s f-cking AMAZING to be able to say that you live life the way you want to.
 
It’s f-cking AMAZING to be able to look into someone’s eye’s and just drop down into your body and show up however you may feel, without any fear of being accepted or not.
 
It’s f-cking AMAZING to embrace your gift’s and talents and experience God/Universe supporting you in your commitment to soul alignment.
 
It’s f-cking AMAZING to wake up and to feel proud of yourself for the decisions that you have made and for the results that life is giving you because of them.
THIS IS MY LIFE.
Can you say the same of your’s?
Do you live like this?
How would you describe your life?
Are you a .01%er person who COMMANDS in your life experience and blessing or do you just settle in and let life wash over you however it feels?
Do you look for opportunities to grow, expand and heal or do you surrender yourself to blame, guild, shame and regret?
What is your norm?
 
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Stop Feeling Cowering and Shaming Your Greatness! – Let Your LIGHT SHINE Baby.

Oh baby you know you can do it!
You are truly unstoppable when you put your mind to it.
When you commit and allow yourself to SHINE,
when you feel that passion,
that excitement and you take that leap into what you know will expand you,
carry you,
level you up to WHO YOU KNOW YOU ARE.
 
Yes, Baby…
Yes,
you are truly unstoppable.
I love witnessing your passion,
I adore watching you create.
 
That sparkle in your eye,
that smirk on you face,
I can feel the enthusiasm,
the joy lights up your face.
 
Yes, this unstoppable version of you is so beautiful.
So truly amazing.
And when you let this version of you SHINE,
the heavens rejoice in your spender.
 
because it is here….
 
HERE…
this wonder and beauty that you allow the world to see’
it is YOU.
 
It is here is this magnificence that you open up to your greatest manifestations.
 
It is in this state of being,
that YOU,
yes you…..
FEEL YOUR POWER.
 
And Baby,
You are UNSTOPPABLE!
 
You know what I speak of.
I know that you do.
Don’t hide your face,
don’t cower to your greatness,
there is no shame in showing your LIGHT.
You my beautiful were born for greatness,
and those of us who know that we were born for a greater calling,
that we have something special inside of ourselves to offer this world,
yes we know the importance of letting our magic be seen and felt.
 
So whatever you do gorgeous,
do not hide.
Stop questioning your greatness.
Stop denying your worthiness.
Your presence,
your gifts,
your voice is needed.
 
It is expected of you to SHINE.
You have upon you a massive calling that this world cannot go without beautiful.
And you FEEL IT.
 
I know you do.
Any of us who have this calling cannot ignore this feeling.
It is the feeling of I must….
It is the feeling of knowing…
It is the feeling of burning passion coming from your depths,
it is the feeling that you cannot, not speak it, sing it, play it, share it, write it, be it….
 
Although you may have spent years trying to disregard,
you have spent a decade ignoring it,
you may have run from that which you know,
and you may have tried to settle into that THING called average and ordinary,
 
But no matter what you have done,
no matter how you hide,
how you fear this FEELING,
 
it just continues to tug at your SOUL.
And NOW….
 
Now you just know,
because you have tasted,
you have tasted your own wonder,
you have tasted your own power,
you know that the same power that moved through Moses to part the seas is moving through you as well.
 
You FEEL IT.
 
I know you do beautiful.
And if you do not bow to this power,
if you continue to not surrender yourself to it,
you will suffer.
 
But you cannot, not surrender.
Your SOUL is demanding your release.
It is demanding its RAPTURE.
 
And you are scared.
But beautiful,
this is the path of every soul warrior,
this is the path of the greatest souls that walk this earth.
You will loose yourself.
You will feel like death is at your doorstep.
You will never be the same once you surrender.
 
And it will be perfection.
It will be the glory that your SOUL desires.
 
Because baby,
you are UNSTOPPABLE.
 
In your alignment with all that you feel called.
In your attention to who you really are,
you will fly.
 
And your magic will change this world.
The changes that you desire to see in this world,
will seep first from you.
 
Its is upon you beautiful,
to speak your message,
to let your voice be heard,
to let your calling be felt.
You are UNSTOPPABLE.
 
So STEP now and forever more into WHO YOU TRULY ARE.
 
You know what to do.
You know the step to take.
The step that you cannot, not take.
 
Yes, that step.
 
And become UNSTOPPABLE.
 
As Always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
 
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”
 
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WHAT YOU WANT YOU CAN’T GIVE 100% OF THE TIME.

You know what you are looking for in your life?
You know what you are wanting in your relationships?
 
It’s the very thing that is so hard to give.
We all have trouble offering it 100% of the time.
And in truth we simply will never be it 100%.
 
We can’t be it all the time,
because we are works in progress,
always getting to know ourselves a tad bit deeper.
And it is a scary ground to walk on.
But geeze do our souls desire it so.
 
What could I be speaking of beautiful?
 
Well its not more sex.
It’s not even love.
It’s not a pat on the back.
Or more money.
 
No.
 
The thing that we often desire is a little thing that you can not hold in your hands,
you can feel with your skin,
you cannot guarantee ever.
But you want it.
You want it, this I am sure.
 
That thing I speak of beautiful is:
 
TRUTH.
INTEGRITY.
HONESTY.
AUTHENTICITY.
 
So often I hear people say,
” I am an honest person.”
 
” All I want is to know the truth.”
” I hate drama and manipulation.”
” I am a person of their word.”
” I am just being me.”
 
Mmmm- Hmmmmm….
 
Is that so?
Is that true?
 
Perhaps it may feel that way to you.
And perhaps you may actually believe that you are.
And in many moments you most likely are.
But today I offer up the pondering of the possibility that maybe, just maybe you are not as authentically honest and truthful as you believe you are.
 
Perhaps you are human,
just like the rest of us out here.
Perhaps you are on a journey to discover who you are and even though you think you know,
you still find yourself waking up to new aspects of who you actually are each time the shiz hits the fan and you are triggered.
 
Every time someone asks something of you and you make an excuse.
Every time, someone shares something with you in confidence and you share it just once with this good friend over here.
Every time you get triggered and your words escape your mouth before you have thought them through.
Every time you blame and point that finger.
Every time you weep in feeling you are alone and story tell to yourself the lies that support.
Every time someone does not react the way that you desire and so you say something to make them change their mind…
 
Yes every time.
 
Every time you tell your lover something that is not true.
Every time you look down from yourself in the mirror.
Every time you shut down your heart from feeling what you said.
Every time YOU ARE ASKED TO STEP UP and speak your truth.
 
Oh, beautiful every time.
 
These are all moments when we choose to step back from that which we desire so deeply to have.
 
And by stepping back from our own truth,
we lean just a tad into that vibe of illusion.
And we lie to ourselves.
We lie to others as well.
It often feel’s so small,
it should not matter.
But each time we step away from our truth,
we close off AUTHENTIC COMMUNICATION.
 
We shut ourselves down to love.
Because often beautiful,
in moment like these,
love is there.
Just on the other side of our illusions,
where we choose to lift our head,
say no to the ego of trying to get out of something or to manipulate.
 
Yes on the other side we find love.
We find freedom.
We find confidence.
And we regain trust.
 
You will never be a trustworthy person if you cannot stand in your own integrity,
even when you have fallen,
to stand in integrity is to give yourself grace enough to say,
“I was wrong.”
 
Where have you stepped away from that which you desire so much?
 
And how can you step back into authentic relating with those you love and care for?
 
As Always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”
 
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