Have you ever noticed how much time and energy you spend arguing for your limitations?
Even after you get what you want.
Yesterday I co-taught a class for men on consciousness and development of their masculine energy in their relationships, sex and life.
A running theme that I heard come from the men’s mouths was the clarification and owning of excuses as to WHY they could not have what they wanted for.
Later in the day,
I worked with a few clients/friends on similar issues.
As I sat listening to them I found myself internally shaking my head in amazement at how they could not see their fear over getting and having exactly what they had been wanting for all these years.
And so they in turn argued for their limitations in having it.
Putting up roadblocks everywhere and getting angry about the roadblocks.
I was doing a coaching session with a client,
and in our conversation his verbiage about life and self was focused on the inability to say yes to himself,
yes to life,
yes to his desires and dreams,
and how he fully owned that he was not worthy of such good things because he felt that he had not done what he needed to do to receive it.
His every other word was condemning himself for basically being human,
and he sat there convinced that it just could not be so.
As I brought this verbiage into light for him and inquired,
“How is this serving you?”
He would agree with me on topics and even the awareness of what he was speaking into manifestation,
but then without a second thought fall right back into speaking the shit that was not serving as though it must be this way.
All the while admitting that he had a great life,
full of blessing,
but that he was unable to see it or feel his own happiness in it,
because he did not deserve it for this or that childish reasoning of a need to be perfect and not be human.
That what he wanted was for sure there,
but not showing up the exact way that he wanted it too.
I was chatting with close friends about their relationship and some of the things that are coming up for them in their communication and sex.
they were arguing for their limitations in their love and connection.
Now they were not arguing with each other,
As of yet at least,
but the argument to find what they did not want for was there and ever present.
So much so that they had each retracted back into their critical minds, away from their heart centers and were viewsing their relationship and love from a place of fear.
Fear of not getting it right,
fear that they are broken,
fear that the other is at fault or will do what a past lover has done,
fear that they are not worthy of what they have called into manifestation.
And so they sat there with me,
terrified of self and of each other.
In ways pointing fingers at one another energetically,
recreating old wounds through the applied fear in thought of triggers,
their energy was shut down and snippy even.
At points I was feeling like I was tapping on a bed of needles in trying to share what I witnessed and help them to open to love and their own humanness.
The emotion on all fronts of my day yesterday was immense.
The room of men who shared from their deepest heart centers and revealed such beautiful vulnerability to a group of strangers. Their tales of truth and challenges.
My client who danced in his ego proudly while fighting for why it was not okay for him to be human or to be happy,
and his pain and fear around allowing himself to have what he wanted for.
My friends, who love each other dearly and manifested this incredible connection and fairytale romance,
who are fighting internally to keep distance from their hearts and desires,
by literally creating roadblocks inside self to prevent connection and getting angry about it.
All of the tales of yesterday had three things in common:
1) A wanting/desire to manifest what they already had
2) An arguing for the limitations that they felt they needed somehow
3) Anger around having what they wanted for but not having it exactly the way they wanted it
And so it is.
These are the common issues with us humans.
In all subject areas of our lives we do these things.
We want, we manifest, we argue for limitations, and we get mad that what we want is not exact to plan.
And even when it is exact to plan we get pissy about it because we feel like we are not worthy of it coming to us with ease,
or at all often.
we throw away what we want so badly for while making excuses as to why we must get rid of it.
We humans spend more time arguing about getting what we want while it is present in our lives then appreciating what we want and how it is already here with us,
so that we can live our lives in bliss and happiness.
Imagine if we just stopped this shit.
And got grateful for how amazing we are at manifesting what we want.
Instead of trying to kill our dreams and desires when they arrive like they are some sort of evil that is invading our homes in the middle of the night.
Why do we do this?
Why do we fight with our manifestations with such insistence that we cannot have or keep them?
It’s really quite simple.
We fear our worthiness.
If we stop fighting for our limitations,
we have to own our worthiness,
which means that we have to embrace the fact that we are powerful.
We can no longer point fingers of blame to God and other people and outside influences for us not being happy or having the life that we want,
we have to actually own ourselves and be responsible.
And so it is the easier path to toss the towel in frequently and say it did not work,
or that we are not good enough,
we don’t have the time or understanding,
that someone else is not doing their part,
that the economy sucks or government prevented us from it,
our church, family and state are to blame,
But this is what cowards do frankly.
Make excuses and argue for limitations.
I don’t believe that any soul that I sat with yesterday is a coward.
Nor do I believe that if you are reading this today,
that you are either.
I do believe that we are all guilty of not knowing how to SURRENDER to receiving.
We fear it truthfully.
We look at surrender,
we feel a tad into what we perceive it to be and it feels dangerous and triggers us to old wounds from our past so we find ourselves constantly saying no to the life that we want and to our happiness,
even when we have successfully manifested it.
Today I ask you to do one thing.
Today I ask that you bring attention to where you are arguing for your limitations in receiving the happiness and things you desire for.
I ask that you just begin the process of witnessing those thoughts and the feeling they create for what they truly are…
your rebuttal against your joy and receiving.
In doing this you will start the process of letting them go.
And create a new space to open the door to having.
You may find yourself shocked at what you discover,
and the truth that in many ways the life that you are craving for is knocking at your door and may already be with you in some ways,
but your insistence of not having it is blinding you to its manifestation.
So stop being snippy with your dreams.
Stop denying your joy in your pursuit for suffering.
You are worthy.
God/universe does not create anything that is not worthy and your life is not meant to be one of struggle.
That is a lie we humans tell ourselves to entertain our ego’s.
Your soul knows the truth.
Trust, surrender, and breathe deep,
your desired life is happening now.
A few years ago I was out at a local pub that my ex and I would pop into and have a drink. It sorta was his “Cheers” for anyone who can remember the show.
You know a place where everyone knows your name.
And I was sitting down enjoying a martini with a woman that my ex was friends with her and her husband for years prior.
We were chatting about all sorts of stuff, among which was professionalism.
She informed me that she could NEVER work with someone who had tattoos.
She went on to tell me that tattoos make you unclean.
And that only under educated people had them.
Her passion about the subject was powerful,
She certainly had a hatred toward tattoos and it sounded like she looked down on anyone with them no matter whom they were.
Yet she counted me as someone to go out to see Andrea Bocelli with,
to kick back and enjoy drinks and dinner with by the pool,
to share her relationship issues with,
and amazingly she even hugged me to say hello and goodbye.
In the midst of her deep sharing on her hatred and disgust toward people with tattoos and how unprofessional and unclean they were,
I sat there with my hands and arms on the table not inches in front of her,
baring both arms with….
You guessed it.
TATTOOS on them…
Yeah, she was preaching her disgust to her friend.
I shared with her that I worked with many people who had tattoos, and she said yeah but those are people who need life coaching, help in life, not people who are professionals.
Because my clients have always been those who are professionals, business owners, CEO’s, doctor’s, attorney’s, poloticains, fellow coaches and therapists, etc.
85% of my clients are in the upper 2% of America.
And guess what?
They have tattoos.
Many of them do.
When I shared this with her,
she huffed and said,
“Well, if I ever found out that my doctor had a tattoo he would not be my doctor anymore. I cannot have someone like that touching me.”
Yet she hugged me hello and goodbye.
Her logic made no sense.
As most critical, judgemental people who are caught up in
“it’s my way or no way, and you are stupid and need to shut up or be removed from humanity if you think, feel or act differently then I do, ” rationalize.
These same people will turn and point fingers and call everyone who is not caving to their beliefs and fears self-centered, bad citizens, using their privilege, elitists.
In my line of work I get hate from time to time.
And I actually am grateful for it,
because it shows me area’s that I can improve my own inner world. It also show’s me that I am speaking from a perspective that is not average and ordinary.
And that thrills me because I do not want an average and ordinary life,
Living a F-ck Yes! Life and changing others lives to having that as well requires you to not go with the attitude of average and ordinary.
There ain’t now THRIVING in average and ordinary.
There is not GREATNESS in it either.
My mission is to help ignite as many people to their power and worthiness and tap into their abundance and flow with God as I possibly can in my lifetime,
and this unfortunately stirs many of the ordinary thinkers and perceivers of life out there to want to strike me down for many reasons.
“You need to shut up because…”
“You are not professional because..”
“You are wrong because….”
“I can’t trust you because….”
“You are stupid because….”
From my typo’s to my purple or blue hair,
from my open relating and tattoos to my I don’t give a f-ck what you think and use of the “F” word,
my authentic relating drives average folk crazy mad that they cannot control it and that despite all my flaws and my typo’s and tattoos I am THRIVING in relationship, money, health and making a positive mark in this world because I CHOOSE to do so.
I write this today,
because at waking my thread was bombarded with my fellow coaches and leaders out there being under attack for all the above reasons and more.
The judgment and criticism spewing around in hatred is like a storm that has no way to settle,
and it is sad to me that so many people in the world right now are living with such disgust and rage in their heads and hearts that they find a need to try to tear down another just because of differences of views, desires, beliefs or even looks.
This kind of stinking thinking WILL NEVER solve any problems.
It will only keep the fires burning and cause more pain and suffering.
When we can come back to actual critical thinking,
using logic and heart in harmony,
viewing our fellow human as just that,
another human with their own dreams, desires, fears, beliefs and opinions,
and that, that is perfect,
that being human does not mean that we are all cookie cutter the same,
then we will be able to heal ourselves and our world at a deeper level.
Until then we remain blind to love.
Blind to healing.
Blind to true world or local community.
Until then we have lost our humanity,
and are slaves to our fear of difference.
Where are you at in your judgements of your fellow humans and how are you desiring to control those who are the same as you?
Can you imagine what life would be like and who you would actually be if you put down all your fear based thinking and just allowed yourself to be YOU?
This is your truth love.
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”
Ready to stop your stinking thinking and claim your true power now?
Let’s chat. Message me for deet’s on how to get started.
It’s a THING.
And it’s a thing that you gotta get some of if you want to have the life that you claim that you want.
We have been raised to have shame over loving ourselves.
We have been raised to believe that it is wrong or even bad to think highly of ourselves,
or to brag.
And it is “selfish” ( meaning bad) to ask for what we want, need or desire.
But instead the correct path to happiness is to look like this so we have been raised to believe…
Talk like shit about yourself,
hate on your body,
on your thoughts,
in your life.
Be SUPER effing critical about everything and never admit to your glory.
Downplay everything good and hype up everything that is not perfect in your life.
Make sure that you are NEVER offending everyone else,
yes you are responsible for everyone else’s feelings, ideas, perceptions, thoughts and actions,
so make sure to never mess up or have an opinion that does not match whomever you are with.
Put others before yourself at all costs.
Exhaust yourself and keep giving,
but don’t bitch that you are at your breaking point.
Suck it up.
Don’t show your emotions,
any of them but “blase.”
Indifference is the best path,
even if it’s not true.
hide because it is too effing much for the world around you.
And know that you are most likely at fault for the crap no matter what,
and if it’s not you then feel offended instantly,
if anyone says different or God forbid
goes against all of these rules of how to live a happy successful life.
And just be happy with it already,
‘cus this baby is what life is all about.
This is living the dream.
This is success.
F-cking crazy as all hell is’nt it?
I mean when I write it out like that,
unless you are blind, dumb and stupid,
then you have to admit that anyone who actually thinks or feels this way is NEVER going to be thriving,
going to experience success or empowerment,
never going to feel confident.
Most likely only be used and hurt frequently,
will have a crappy backbone,
will not know themselves or anyone else for that matter,
and will simply not ever touch happiness.
So what is the answer?
Get a f-cking THRONE-TOOD!
There I said it.
It is high time that you started to value yourself.
Claiming your life, ‘calling in your blessings,
being a conscious co-creator,
manifesting a life that is full of wonder, love and success,
REQUIRES YOU TO PUT YOUR CROWN ON.
As long as you keep disrespecting God’s glory and power and not allowing his power and will to move through your life,
then you will keep falling prey to this stinking thinking love.
As long as you keep believing that God wants you to walk looking down at the ground,
tripping in misery over all that you have lost and ignoring the joy that your life could be,
then you will never feel the wonder of walking with you head held high,
your eyes meeting others in unconditional love and acceptance,
or the witnessing of the miracles that happen daily,
IN YOUR LIFE.
As long as you keep being available for scarcity,
and never picking up that crown that God has handed you,
then you will continue to suffer by your own hand.
And you will forever remain a slave to the enemy known as fear.
Oh, beautiful, don’t you see the path that you are too walk.
Can you not feel the call in your soul?
Now in our world we need more than ever before for you to RISE UP….
But that means that you have to accept that many who choose to remain in darkness and pain will be disgusted by your choice.
They will call you names,
they will hate on you and shame you,
they will want to tear you down in any way they can,
and they will make you doubt your path.
It will require you to have courage,
to love yourself more than you thought possible and to walk in FAITH.
And if you choose to step away from the many who still remain in fear,
if you choose to instead embrace your power,
and the love that the universe/God has for you,
then your life will be one of bliss and glory.
THAT is what we are each to do.
That is how we celebrate life,
Are you ready, love?
Are you ready to finally say F-ck Yes! to yourself and your dreams and stop making excuses and sharing the thousands of reasons as to why you cannot do/be/have?
But instead just step firmly in faith on this path before you that is calling you?
Are you ready to stop giving your power just lip service but acting in faith on it?
I can tell you that many people say they are light workers,
they claim to be abundant,
they proclaim their faith,
and they say they believe in magic and miracles,
they even proudly state that they get manifesting and that they are powerful manifestors….
and they are.
But, if you are struggling,
if you are suffering,
if you are feeling lost, tired and lonely…
Then baby, you are not really claiming your crown.
If you are not happy, (truly)
then you still have not figured it out,
and it YOU that this is written for.
It is you that need to KNOW YOUR WORTH.
It’s time to pick that crown up and have a THRONE-TOOD….
Because the life that you want for DEMANDS IT!
So Get One.
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”
Ready to step forward and say yes to your crown love?
Ready to stop being available for suffering, pain and misfortune?
Let’s speak today about no more reasons and excuses,
and get that crown picked up and put where it rightfully goes.
Message for deet’s.
WTF Did you do over the weekend?
Did you live?
Did you THRIVE?
Each day we gain a new opportunity to do just these things.
And each day so many people choose to just get by.
To survive the day.
Does that sound fun to you?
“I am going to survive this day.”
What have you got going on?
So you see luv,
if you desire to live that F-ck Yes Life,
then you have to flip the switch to living it….
cuz surviving your life is never going to happen,
and no moment is ever promised to us.
If you don’t choose to flip that switch to living the life of your dreams,
regardless of what your friends and family say or think,
no matter what is happening in our governments, economy, or what debates are up,
then you will simply NEVER,
let me repeat that for you….
NEVER have the life that you claim that you desire.
Matter of fact you may even find yourself among the many who sit back and dissect and analyze all those who are out there living.
You may discover yourself so far out of alignment with your truth and your worthiness that you get caught up being a judgy, critical and even upset about others lives, person.
About what they choose to do or not to do.
You may discover that you are caught in the drama and chaos of the world that is always around us,
falling prey to its life stealing ways,
believing that, that is what you are to focus on.
Never realizing that it’s sabotaging you from the gift that you were given from God….
YOUR LIFE TO LIVE.
And living is not about just getting through the day and paying your bills,
about appearing to do what is expected,
or about people pleasing to the degree that you have nothing left to give to yourself.
Living is not about you doing anything that someone else deems appropriate or right for you.
Did you get that luv?
Living IS NOT about you doing what someone else “thinks or believes” is right for you.
They are not living your life.
And if you believe that you are here to please and be liked by everyone else,
then you’re simply being silly.
This way of “wantabe living” will only land you in a depression, exhaustion, emptiness, lost, and feeling unworthy, unloved, and broken.
It may feel good to help others,
and don’t get me wrong,
It’s a damn good thing to be compassionate and helpful.
But, if you are being helpful to the point that you have lost your boundaries and value,
then you are not helping anymore.
You cannot help those around you when you yourself are empty.
And the way that you fill yourself is by LIVING.
Is by THRIVING.
The more you do this,
the more you have to give.
The more you can be compassionate and in love with all.
I am a firm believer that the reason there is so much anger, hatred and jealousy in our world,
is because we have been raised to believe that loving ourselves, giving to ourselves, taking care of self first makes us a bad person. However, we crave just that at our core.
And so we hate ourselves.
ANd when we feel this shitty about ourselves we have no space for love for someone else.
We have no tolerance for our differences,
no ability to agree that we can disagree and still remain friends or lovers.
You see it is impossible to see clearly the world around us, when we are not thriving.
Any point outside of thriving, (which BTW is exactly what your life was intended to be about, it’s your set point if you allow it),
Any point other than thriving is you viewing the world from your pain body. From your trauma, your fear, your ego, your need to control, because you cannot fathom letting go of the suffering.
Thriving is a foregin concept to the majority of the world.
To the point that we finger point, try and shame, hate on and dissect those that are doing it. It scares our ego’s.
Because thriving means that you fully accept yourself, love yourself and KNOW WHO YOU ARE. You also, get that you cannot control others, nor should you desire too, that’s not loving….
That you cannot give to the point of exhaustion and crossing your own boundaries.
You understand that the best you,
is the you that loves you.
And that you are not going to be a wonderful person to the majority, simply because you are not doing what they want you to do.
THRIVING my love is about you expanding horizons,
getting to know yourself and falling in love with that amazing soul who looks back at you in the mirror,
NO EFFING matters what anyone else says or thinks about you on this planet.
THRIVING is about you surrendering to your heart,
and enjoying your life to the fullest.
THRIVING is about you accessing your DESIRE and knowing that you can have it,
that what you desire, desires you as well.
THRIVING is about being in alignment to God/Universe.
There are only two kinds of people on this planet….
Those that are in alignment.
Those that are not in alignment.
We are all both of these at times, the true question comes down to where to reside most of your life?
If you have no clue….
look at your world.
Let yourself get real with how you perceive this world,
how you truly feel about it.
Are you in love with your life?
or something other than?
It’s time to JUMP INTO THRIVING.
You are so worthy.
You are so ready.
Make the leap now and claim it for yourself.
The magic is all you baby.
***Side note: This picture was taken yesterday during my first jump, such a thrilling experience that I aim to repeat in the near future 🙂 but the weekend was loaded with adventure, from doing a ghost hunt in an 1845 jail, to exploring deep connection with my lover, staying in VRBO chicken coop, just because it sounded interesting, showering outside under the starry sky and more…No matter your life situation love, you can live an adventure, I know because I have done so. I have had to raise five children on $17k a year, I have been homeless and camped for months pretending that we were just having a summer adventure when in truth I could not afford a roof over our head or food, I have stood over the ER bed of my child who was in a sever accident and wondered if there were a God, I have been diagnosed with painful illnesses, been through miscarriages, years of depression, divorce, rape, physical violence that broke my body, and more…. and you know what? My spirit said, “LETS THRIVE! You are worthy.”
And today, my life is totally different. So different that people dislike and judge me for THRIVING and sharing it.
So much so different, that I think about something and it easily manifests in days. My life is now magical because I get that thriving is who I AM.
And you are too.
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”
Ready to leap into a life that you love?
Lets connect and get you expanding and saying F-ck Yes! to your thriving life now.
It’s time you stop just getting by.
You are worth so much.
Message me for deet’s.
Today I stayed in my nighty till 1pm.
Why? Because that’s what felt good for this moment.
Seems like a who the eff cares sorta thing, right?
Cuz’ it does not ultimately effect anything.
But that’s not true.
It effects everything.
Because its all about my vibe.
About how I am feeling right now.
The other day I was out at my community pool…
(And f-ck yes! We are happy our community is opening back up.)
And the water 💧 was so freaking cold.
My youngest two kids were yelping for me to get in the water and play and I was really not wanting too.
But wanting…. not so much 😕.
I did want them to be happy.
I wanted to enjoy a fun moment with them.
But as I ventured into the cold depths of the pool I felt my body tense. My limbs tightened,
My heart ❤ starting beating faster and I found myself holding my breath.
I was now constricting my energy.
I was withholding my truth.
I was locking myself up.
And I felt frustrated that I was in this coldness.
My ego instantly started to play its games with me…
“You need to smile and bear this, don’t let them see your pain, frustration, or lack of wanting to be here.”
“You have to do this.”
“F-ck! This is too cold. Wish they did not want to do this.”
And my emotion to these statements?
And as I got splashed, and jumped on,
I grew sad because my body was hurting.
And I was feeling trapped.
I was feeling like I had no choice or that if I stated my truth that I would upset my loved ones.
Which was NOT the emotion that I started this afternoon with.
It was however the emotion I was choosing for this moment,
By the actions I was allowing myself to take that I was not a 💯 percent too.
I also, in this action 🎬 allowed my vibe 😎 to totally be changed.
And if left unacknowledged,
And consistent action to follow where I chose to what perhaps I was willing to do,
But not willing,
Then my mood would stay low vibe.
My emotions would be darker, full of blame,
It would remain constricted like my body was feeling from the 🥶 cold.
I would remain tense to life.
Tense to my desires.
Tense to those I am around and love.
Tense to my truth.
And then you know what 😳 happens?
I end up magnitizing and manifesting more things into my life that cause me to remain constricted.
More things that I may be WILLING to do…
But am not WANTING to do.
And so instead of living this life the way I enjoy 😉 the most,
Which is in ease and flow,
With tons of laughter, play, connection, joy, love, abundance of good shit…
I would shut it all out.
Granted my little tale to you today is only that…
It was a flicker of thought and emotion that went through my being and announced the path that I was potentially stepping on.
But I recognized it.
I saw what those seemingly meaningless thoughts and emotions were saying.
And so I got my booty out of the 🥶 cold.
I went and did what felt good.
Laying in the 🌞 sun.
And my week has been gentle with me.
Full of what I enjoy.
It could have been different.
And often people come to me with a desire to live their f-ck yes life, and they want to know HOW 🤔.
It always comes down to these seemingly meaningless moments.
These thoughts and emotions that are left uncensored,
And how they will lead us astray.
So if my tale speaks to you today.
Here is your HOW.
Here is what you MUST start to realize.
And what is most important.
Do what you enjoy.
Don’t be led astray by what you “think” you need to do to appear a certain way to anyone else,
Or to make someone else happy,
Especially if you are a F-CK NO!
Time to get really baby.
Time to know your truth.
Its with you always,
You just have to listen and act from there.
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers ”
Let’s do this thing luv.
You and me.
Stepping into who you really are and claiming your F-ck Yes!Life now.
Message me for deets.
OMFG! Do I ever have the travel bug up my butt!
Here I sit, the sun is out,
it’s freaking beautiful outside,
and my soul,
which likes to hop a plane every 5 weeks or so to go somewhere in our world is stir crazy from just popping around the back yard, a few parks and lakes and hanging with my closests peeps.
I am sure you can feel me on this.
I just want my feet in the sand,
or to breathe in the crisp air of the mountains,
or hike through a rainforest.
I don’t need to go popping through a city or even a village and meet new peeps.
I need mother nature,
and I need it outside of my own backyard.
I need to be set free.
And I am sure you do too.
But you see, freedom is not something that we gain from the outside.
Much like love, compassion, empathy, worthiness, or forgiveness,
freedom does not come from the outside first.
It is a feeling.
Just like all the other feelings I just listed.
And if we focus on the feeling,
and we just enjoy it for what it is,
and that is what we want,
then we already have at any given moment what we desire.
But we tend to get caught up with saying that we want this feeling…
whatever that might be,
or we might even go as far to claim that we already have it,
and say that we are so grateful for it,
but when it comes down to it,
we are looking for the results of something physical to happen to support that feeling that we were playing with.
And that’s just the issue.
We play with our feelings.
We don’t just have them and enjoy them and let them be the seeds to the life that we want,
we play with them and toss them all about,
then as with anything we are playing with,
we get tired of them,
or we drop them and…. oops, they shatter.
When we drop a feeling we do it by taking our focus off of the enjoyment of the feeling just being with us and start to look for physical evidence of the feeling,
such as the money in the bank,
the lover in our bed,
the return of a healthy body,
And when we do this,
crash… the feel leaves us and we are left with doubt.
We are left with fear.
Because now we fall back into the concept that we have to have this outside “thing” to be the feeling.
And if that “thing” is not there then obviously we cannot be the feeling we want.
So we attach our feelings to objects and relationships.
We attach our joy and happiness to these things and we steal our beautiful life from ourselves when we do this.
I will not lie,
I want to travel. And I want to get out of dodge quickly,
I am antsy as all heck.
And I will most likely book myself and family a VRBO on the gulf of Mexico sometime in the next two weeks.
Cuz, that’s the way I roll.
But, until that, I am not going to focus on the not happening right now in the physical aspect.
Because the reality is…
MY LIFE IS EFFING AMAZING.
and I am free.
I am free to think the thoughts that I want.
I am free to think and feel good vibes.
I am free to increase my vibration.
I am free to smile.
I am free to laugh.
I am free to grow.
I am free to enjoy the people that I want to enjoy.
I am free to delight in life.
I am free to share my joy.
I am free to focus my attention to the life that I am calling in and the life expansion that I want for.
I am free….
Because I feel free RIGHT NOW.
And it will stay such as long as I keep my focus on feeling it NOW.
IT’S EFFING TIME!
It’s time to cut loose.
It’s time to say lets get a move on.
It’s time to open up and stop feeling so much reservation about everything.
It’s time to know your power.
It’s time to stop being fearful of everything.
It’s time to make some shit happen.
It’s time to call it all in and live it.
It’s your time.
It’s time to own your freedom.
Own your worthiness.
Own your lovability.
Own your power.
But you have to be willing to want for it enough to let yourself have it right now,
because THAT is the only way you will ever attract it in physical manifestation.
Are you ready to set yourself free?
And As Always,
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It is frequently assumed that I go on many dates with many men..
It is assumed that to be a coach who teaches people how to have more, and deeper better sex that I must be loose or easy to bed.
That sex is something I am addicted too even.
Its often assumed that because I am the mother of seven that I am uncontrollable and quenchless in my thirst for sex or orgasm.
People often say to me,
” you would think that a sex coach would have figured out what causes pregnancy by now.”
Many look at me with horrified questioning eyes as they inquire if I will have any more children or why I am not currently married.
The assumptions roll through thier minds and almost escape thier lips.
Perhaps even you dear reader and follower wonder and question.
Perhaps you are among the assumers.
And I want you to know that I thank you.
I thank you for all that you feel.
All that you think.
And all that you sometimes goofily share in your assumptions.
I see your humanness.
And I do not judge it.
As you judge me.
I know what my truth is.
I know whom I love.
I know that my heart,
My message and my calling is felt and seen by those it is meant for.
Not everyone can be like a taco as my best friend would say.
And even though I may have a body part that resembles,
I am still not a taco.
I write this musing this evening to shed the light on how we judge what we do not understand.
How we cast stones with certainty,
But are enraged when they are thrown back without due reason in our opinion.
Today I share with you from a place I choose to call the labyrinth of mirrors.
This is the place where we can choose to see ourselves in ALL we come in contact with on our life journey,
Or we can turn away from them,
Look downward and become lost in the maze of our own fears and self criticism.
What do you choose my sweet human?
To be judge and jury to all in your life
And that you meet on your path.
Or to be human.
To be human means to be compassionate.
To self and to others.
To know that we do not know what anothers shoes are like.
What the path they have traveled took them through.
To be human means that you stand as witness not judge.
And to witness another is one of the greatest gifts we can ever offer.
To allow ourselves to be witnessed is the next.
Just yesterday I was working with a dear client of mine. This man has love streaming from every energy fiber he has. And yet he struggles with allowing himself the simple pleasure of recieving that love back.
I left him with the words,
” One day I hope you give me the gift of you allowing yourself to recieve my love.”
Now that statement may instantly bring up assumptions and judgments in you about me.
Or my coaching practice.
What does Kendal do with her clients?
Is she in romantic relations with them.
And you can assume.
You can judge.
And you can cast your head down and keep stubling through your maze.
Be my guest.
What I can tell you is that each day it is revealed and I am reminded of the deep intimacy I hold with these souls that are labled my clients.
They are not my clients.
They are my lovers.
I love each of them deeply.
The intimacy, vulnerability, rawness and depth that they trust me with is without messure one of the greatest gifts of this life time for me.
I love my clients.
I love them for thier willingness to stop bouncing off the walls of thier maze and instead to sit still and let them selves be revealed through the mirrors that are presented on thier path.
I love them for thier courage to catch thier inner judge and jury and fire them daily,
While loving themselves at a more intense level.
I love them for the tender moments that they give grace…
I love them for the humor and laughter as they learn how to skip through thier errors and self defeating patterns.
Yes they are my lovers.
And I love them for the blessings that they are.
Now back to that dating thing….
I have dated a few men in my time.
And I have dated many at the same time.
But the men of my current…
The men I choose daily.
These men you may or may never meet…
Some can be captured in picture.
Others in story.
More than one?
Yes in deed.
And does it matter whom they are to you?
Well lets just see if you have been listening.
They have your answer.
But the mirror will never lie.
As Always My Loves,
Stop Existing & Start Living
Coaching for Grown A*s Believers