Here I sit working with clients today, the day after a yummy relaxing Christmas, where I find myself in total gratitude.
I sit here doing some marketing,
following up with my 1:1 clients,
signing a couple new 1:1 clients and getting them started with the onborading process,
when some misunderstanding soul,
reaches out and asks:
“So what do I get for the $197 that you are offering in your 12 Days of F-cking Awesomeness Bundle?”
Now you have to understand that we online coaches/marketers and educators welcome with open arms inquiry of all kinds,
and we love making sure that our followers are happy and getting exactly what they think they are.
Matter a fact today’s online world is ALL about giving away more in value then expected.
The smart online educators, coaches know the impact that they can have and offer up a massive amount of free or low cost education and content and are feeding their followers daily.
We aim to share massive value in our online courses and workshops. We want you expanding, learning, and being the best versions of yourselves and get that not everyone can afford our private rates.
So when asked the question above,
of course I shared that this was a massive savings.
I mean shiz, you are getting up to $1800 of value and then some, because the same content in private would cost you ten’s of thousands of dollars in coaching hours.
But RIGHT NOW you save even more and get it for ONLY $197.
It’s a no f-cking duh sorta thing!!!
Litterly you could take the next year to work through your chosen bundle and come out the other side with some massive shift in your:
and life in general.
But this sweet confused soul thought that I was offering up my private coaching for $197.
I would go broke and be homeless and a really shitty coach to boot for under valuing myself so much if I did that.
The reality of my private coaching practice is that I fall in love with my peep’s.
I get real, raw and authentically down to the core with them.
Knowing them at levels that they may have never been seen at before and teaching just how amazing they really are.
My clients become my friends,
I give to them random moments on any given day to lean on me.
We text constantly.
We talk on the phone through beautiful and tradgic moments.
share and are deeply intimate in our vulnerabilty.
And although I wish I could offer this sort of relationship for such a price of $197 or even free,
it is honestly priceless and those who work with me I am confident would second my statement here.
A coach who does not chage what they are worth,
simply does not value themselves and has not stepped into their power or self- love yet.
A coach who does not know the power of their words,
their stories and gudiance,
and offers it for free or for some rediculous price because they feel that servitude should mean being a broke a*s who is struggling instead of thriving,
simply does not believe in the value of coaching.
Or the value of who they are and what they have to offer.
They themselves don’t get it and most likely don’t have a real mentor or coach in their lives pushing them up.
And I don’t know about you but,
but who would you follow?
The person selling you snake oil because they themselves don’t get it and don’t value it.
The person who leads by example,
has evidence of it and
is not afraid to value themselves.
Their education and experiences.
And demands that in order for you to work with them that the first step is to do the value yourself enough to INVEST.
We all need to start somewhere when we decide that we want to work on ourselves.
We have to choose where we can start.
And aultimatley it does not matter where you start.
What matters is:
1) you start somewhere
2) you value yourself enough to invest in YOU
3) you are coachable
Everything else will follow.
My question for you today is simple.
Do you value YOU?
If you are in business for yourself are you charging what you are worth? Or are you scared of your value?
If you are wanting change in your life in any area do you value that area of your life enough to say YES to the change?
And the helping hand that you most likely will have to hire in some format to guide you to your desired outcome.
You are worth the life that you want.
You are valuable in this world and to the people you share your message with and yourlife with.
Never undervalue the work that you do.
The art that you make.
The message that you share.
Or the changes that you need tomake to have the life that you want.
When we under value anothers help,
we thus under value ourselves too.
And KNOW You Are VALUABLE.
I love you.
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You ebb and you flow.
You wake up feeling effing amazing one day and then as if some sort of curse that you have no control of,
Something takes over.
And you are lost within your own crazy chaotic brilliant disaster of a mind that is scared out of its comfort zone that it will loose itself.
That you will plummet into the rocks.
It’s like the scene from Princess Bride where Fezzik and Inigo Montoya are just setting off in the boat and enjoying a bit of rhyme,
“Are there rocks ahead?”
“If there are we’ll all be dead.”
Yes this is the tale of the story of worry and fear that plays in your head love.
I know how scary it can be.
I know how sh*tty it makes you feel.
The tension in your muscles.
The agonizing heaviness in your gut.
The NOT KNOWING.
And you hold your breath.
But all you truly want to do is run and hide.
To hide and cry.
You can feel that you are holding yourself back.
You are conscious of the thoughts and feelings that are swimming through you.
Its a mad house,
or maybe a war zone.
You want to try and control them.
You can sense the damage that they are causing.
You know the power of thoughts let loose.
What are you to do?
How do gain control again?
How can you go from this ill state,
and YES it is an ill state of being.
You are feeling ill are you not?
Your tummy is tight,
your breath is held.
Your palms are reacting,
you can not relax,
and that sadness that dances between depression and anger,
anger and fear,
fear and bitterness.
How do you escape this space that you have manifested?
How do you move back into that beautiful turned on space where life was in flow?
Where you were turned on.
Full of creativity.
you could see all your dreams manifesting.
You want to analyze how you arrived here.
You want to dissect it.
And try and fix it.
But you know that the more focus you apply to this dreary state of being the longer you will reside here.
The best you can do is LET GO.
The best you can do is LEARN.
But DO NOT ATTACH.
Your attachment to this fear is what will hold you in this space for all if eternity of you allow it to persist.
SO STEP THE F-CK AWAY FROM IT NOW BEAUTIFUL.
Let go of this attachment.
Just lift up your hands,
do the scary,
seemingly impossible thing that you know you must do,
Surrender it all over to God.
Let is all go.
THIS IS THE MOMENT…
You must show your CERTAINTY.
You must show your FAITH.
You must LET GO.
You may not think that you are attached to the fear.
Attached to the these bad ideas, fears and thoughts.
I know it sounds crazy to be attached to such things,
I assure you,
that you are beautiful.
It is so obvious.
You are attached because it is what you are holding on too.
It is what you are carrying in your arms,
you hold it out like a trophy,
Yet it fills you.
It makes you feel alive.
What would you do if you did not have to FIGHT for your breath?
What would you do if you did not have to scrap after everything,
and it did not take until the very last possible second for you to be saved?
And I am getting crazy now….
I get it I am.
You did not ever need to be saved?
Then what would your life be like beautiful?
Would you seize to feel alive anymore?
Would you be bored?
I am pretty sure that you could find something else to entertain yourself with if you were not running around putting out fires all the time.
I am damn sure that you could feel just as a live THRIVING as you do SUFFERING.
But at the end of the day,
its all up to you beautiful.
It is a CHOICE.
How badly do you want to be HAPPY?
How badly do you want to live in ease and flow verse what ya’ got going on?
Sure there might be rocks ahead.
But you are steering your boat babe.
You can avoid those rocks with one simple maneuver.
Know you are beautiful.
Know you are brilliant in all you do.
Know you don’t need to become worthy,
you were born that way.
And Claim Your Life Today.
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“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”
Want to learn how to capture these stinking thinking ways of being and living and change them once and for all so you can not just claim your life but live that F-ck YES! Life Now.
Don’t you think it is time you make yourself your #1 priority and do the success mindset work that is required to get your sh*t together and stop accepting so little for your brilliant self?
Success happens with in the small things.
The small things is what makes all the difference,
because the small things are actually BIG mother f-cking things.
Have you noticed this?
I sure have luv.
I am sure that you have noticed how you can focus in on all these BIG ass boulders and you can spend your life trying to push those damn boulders up the mountain you are climbing,
with little to no movement,
then you do thi sone little thing,
that seem’s like nothing really.
It’s a no-duh sorta thing even,
it’s a thing that you wonder,
“Why did I never think of that?”
and you do it,
and it MAKES ALL THE DIFFERENCE.
Yes success happens with in the small things.
Failure happens in the small things too.
You may understand this one a bit better.
Think about the relationships that you have had that have failed.
Was it big things or a pile up of small things that destroyed the intimacy,
even the love?
It was the small things , right?
They seem so small
and so unimportant often.
They appear as though they should be easy to move through,
to conquer even.
And we most certainly should get over them quickly.
Small things are small hurdles after all.
And they are!
They are IF,
we let them be just that,
and we are proactive about discovering them,
and doing whatever it is that we need,
to clear the small hurdle.
Often this means,
And in the land of success,
and moving those boulders with ease,
you have to be willing to look into things that are in your shadow,
into things that you may already be doing, ‘but are not doing where,
or exactly how you need to be doing them.
These sort of things, are the things that can take you from zero to 60 in under a minute flat.
These sort of things,
can make or break you.
The issue always come’s back to realization of them,
and how we choose to perceive them.
It comes back to ego.
It comes back to heart.
It comes back to alignment.
What feels good,
and yet pushes your comfort zone.
The answer though is always in it feeling good.
Anything that does not feel good will create a low vibe in you and create chaos and destruction.
NEVER EVER do that which you “think” you should do for anyone else, if it makes you feel bad in shape.
Especially if it scares you ass it may be dangerous,
it may cause some emotional or psychological issue within you, such as shame. Or it leaves you with a feeling of bitterness or fear of loss if you don’t do it.
This is not following your joy.
This is not alignment.
This is not jumping over a small hurdle to some success of moving that boulder up the mountain.
It most certainly is not.
Instead this sort of pushing through will add other boulders to your process and prevent you from success.
So put simple,
Just don’t do it.
It is okay to be selfish and say no to something or someone,
as saying now is saying f-ck yes,
And being a f-ck yes to yourself will keep you high vibing!
Guess what luv,
saying yes to yourself at all cost,
is one of the most important small things you can do too.
It is the one small things that is the BIGGEST thing you can ever do to get that boulder up the mountain with ease.
But it will take courage.
It will take compassion for self first.
It will take passion,
and it will take a hell of a lot of self- love.
But YOU ARE WORTH it.
So focus in on the small things that will make all the difference today.
Focus in on the self-love that you have been denying yourself.
Focus in on the things that make you feel high vibe, make you laugh, make you smile.
Focus in on the small things as they are not small at all,
they are the BIG things.
And your success is going to totally rock out of the ethers because of these things.
Just say yes.
And As Always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
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If that truly impacts your life then I sure the f-ck don’t want that sorta life!
Sometimes people just send me over my edge. You know what I mean?
They b*tch, mone and complain about their work, their finances, their kids, their spouses, their parents and friends, their health and the cost of gasoline.
They sit around day in and day out paying attention to this stuff that does not matter in the end.
They get more excited about the price of a gallon of gasoline, the $5.00 Victoria Secret Pantie sale, and what our beloved president is doing or not doing then they do about things that really matter.
Things that will impact them RIGHT NOW.
And because it will impact them right now,
it will carry over to tomorrow and the next day,
the next month,
the next year even.
I was out earlier today,
taking my son to school,
and my other son to the dentist for a check up.
While I was out I stopped for a coffee.
Standing in line there were two women in front of me,
discussing the price of gasoline.
The one woman was exclaiming her excitement about the fact that it was under $2.00 a gallon. How it made it so much easier on her to go places now and how she hoped prices would stay low. The second woman, agreed. Then they started talking about local elections and politics. As they spoke about politics I watched them each shrink.
They became hunched over, and their faces which were joyous over the price of gasoline just moments before now looked sullen and upset.
As they spoke about politics, they became agitated with each other to the point that one woman could no longer carry on the conversation and politely removed herself from the line to go to the restroom mid sentence of the other woman.
There they were two women in their 40″s maybe.
Business women from the way they were dressed.
And they had allowed gasoline and politics to dictate issue’s in their friendship and set an overall tone for the moment.
Potentially the day.
Now, here is the thing….
I know that gas has dropped in price.
I know that elections just happened locally.
I know what is happening in our world in multiple ways.
But I never focus in on it.
I don’t drive by the gas station and look to see which station has a better price.
So I can save two cents or ten cents.
I get gas when I need gas.
I get it at the most convenient stop for me on my path.
Because the truth is,
I have far more important things to think about then the price of gasoline.
The same is true with politics.
I pay attention to the point that I need too,
to make a decision in my voting.
But at the end of the day,
I don’t let it ruffle a feather one.
Because this too shall pass.
Much like everything.
It shall pass.
Gasoline will rise and fall as it does every year.
Politicians will lie and cheat,
tell truths and do what they feel is fit,
with whatever judgements they deem right for themselves,
Governments will move forward with or without my emotional upset or excitement.
The average and ordinary person will allow these things to guide their feelings, their thoughts, their mindset and thus their actions.
The average and ordinary person will get caught up in the pennies and loose the millions, because they are in scarcity mindset.
The average and ordinary person will think it is responsible to know where the best sales are on underwear, milk, and potato chips.
The average person, will think it their duty to wake up and watch the news, then check in on it again that evening, to even get updates to their phones.
Yes this is effing AVERAGE.
Letting Media Lead.
Maybe I just don’t effing care.
Maybe that means that I am a bad person for not giving two sh*ts.
it means that I have discovered that when I choose to focus in on things that support my mindset to be positive,
my emotions to be stable, and my focus to be on being and doing the things that I can be in control of that I am…..
Wait for it…
Yep there I said it.
I am HAPPY.
Because if that sorta thing really matters to your life picture,
then I sure the f-ck don’t want your life.
If saving five cents at the pump,
a dollar on milk,
or fifty cents on Lay’s potato chips
is what makes or break your day,
then maybe you need a little bit of a check in on
what life purpose is about.
Well I can tell you one thing,
if you are like these two women that I saw this morning at the coffee shop,
then you are being a sheeple.
You are allowing this world to dictate your mindset.
Which also means that you are most likely buying into the bullsh*t belief structures that you have to live pay check to pay check.
That being happy is something only Hollywood can make happen in a movie.
That you have to sacrifice your desires,
and be responsible by never doing what you want.
You more than likely also think that government has your back.
That the reason gasoline is cheap right now is because there is suddenly an extra reserve of it.
That saving fifty cents on milk will change your retirement fund.
Well, that is all a bunch of non-sense.
The truth is,
you are so effing POWERFUL.
You can have your hearts desires.
You can have all the abundance that you want.
And YES you….
Can be happy.
The trick is simple.
Let the f-ck go of your belief that this above stuff matters to your happiness.
Let go of worrying about gasoline prices and who in the white house is sleeping with who.
Let go of the belief that you have to be average.
Or that average will ever bring you joy.
Sure it might be comfortable.
But has it ever REALLY made you happy?
no it has not made me happy?
You want for more?
CHANGE YOUR REALITY.
Change will always be uncomfortable at the start.
You will never have anything close to happiness,
close to abundance,
close to success,
in any area of your life,
if you value comfort over happiness.
There I said it.
You Value Comfort Over Happiness.
Don’t shake your head at me.
I feel you shaking your head in disagreement.
All the excuses and reasons popping up in your mind right now,
as to why you have not done what you know you need and want.
Why you cannot have what you want and need RIGHT NOW.
Yeah I get it.
I have been there.
I go there still for moments.
But you have chosen to set up camp there baby.
You have bought the package deal,
where you give your life,
for something that steals your precious time here on this planet.
With your families.
And this thing I speak of is NOT your job.
This thing is your AVERAGE Thinking.
Average drive for life.
And you are doing it right now,
by remaining comfortable.
By paying more attention to facebook threads,
the media blah-blah,
and the price of gasoline.
SO as always,
It is your choice.
It always is baby.
It is up to you to have the life you want or to ACCEPT what you got.
What will it be?
I know what I choose.
FREEDOM Based Living.
A F-ck YES! Lifestyle.
And saying YES,
Yes to me.
Yes to happiness.
and to being uncomfortable for a time,
so that I can have the blessings I want.
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One of those mornings where it’s to freaking’ cold to get out of bed.
Where I just find myself not wanting to even venture to the bathroom to pee.
Talked Levi my 12 year old son into going downstairs and making mom coffee.
Such a sweet boy.
He made it, brought it up to bed side and kissed my forehead as he asked if he could snuggle after school with me some and then left to make it to class on time.
Yes it is one of those mornings.
It is one of those mornings, where I feel hormonal, tired and non-productive. My lower back is aching and my ovaries are screaming at me.
I can feel my energy drained even though I have not even started my day yet.
I can feel my temperament a little off as well.
I am sensitive.
Yes it is one of those mornings.
It is one of those mornings, where I lay here focusing in on my gratitude’s in life, on the blessings and the joys. I snuggle under my covers and think of all the beauty God has given me. The opportunity and the love.
I am grateful.
Yes it one of those mornings.
It is one of those mornings where my Our Family Wizard buzzes and I see that my baby daddy has messaged me bright and early, thinking our son is still ill like yesterday, I open the message to see what’s up and discover that I have a boundary being pushed on. That his desire is to control my world and dictate my day to me despite what I have already shared. My ego flares and my heart aches. Fear rises up inside of me as I feel suddenly overwhelmed and lost in life.
Yes it is one of those mornings.
It is a day of turning inward.
It is a day of standing up.
It is a day of honoring my body.
It is a day to remain present.
Like every day.
It is a day in life.
And the truth behind today,
is nothing greater than the truth of yesterday or a day last week or last year.
It is just a day.
Perhaps you have noticed that in life we are always offered many options as to how our day will unfold.
Thus how our week,
and our lives,
It comes down to the thoughts we choose to attach too.
It comes down to the games we decide to enter into with our ego’s.
It comes down to what we choose to focus on.
This is what makes all the difference.
I am often asked, ” But how do I stop thinking about this or that? It’s so bad, so stressful. It worries me. I am fearful of it.I cannot just not think about it.”
No you may not be able to stop the thoughts from coming through.
You may still feel the concern, the worry, the fear.
But here is the truth,
YOU and ONLY YOU make the choice to focus on it or not.
You are the one who chooses to attach to that thought, to that emotion and allow it to guide and even control your actions, your future thoughts, your future feelings and your life.
If you want to live a Freedom Based Life,
If you want to wake up every morning and feel in charge and in harmony with life,
In flow with your life and purpose.
And most importantly in love with who you are and where you are.
Then you must let go of the need to attach to these unsupportive thoughts.
You must let go of the idea that you are a victim to the thoughts.
Or a victim to anything.
You must let go of the idea that someone else or something outside of yourself has any control of how you choose to show in life,
If you want a F-ck Yes Life!
And baby you deserve this.
Then you HAVE to LET GO!
You have to KNOW that the only thing you can ever do,
is stay present and do everything within your power to focus on what makes you feel good.
This is your ONLY work.
It is one of those mornings.
It is a morning of snuggles,
a morning of sweet gestures,
a morning of love and kindness,
It is a morning of hormones,
of back aches and fatigue,
a morning of frustration,
of ego trying grab hold,
It is a morning of gratitude.
It is a morning of power.
It is a morning of self-love and acceptance.
It is a morning where once again the opportunity to Claim the life we want is at our bedside.
The only thing to decide this morning is,
Am I F-ck YES or a F-ck NO.
Will You Embrace Your Power and Claim Your Freedom Based Life?
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