Laughter, Crisis and How To Move Forward.

Laughter is like a windshield wiper,

it doesn’t stop the rain but it allows us to go on.

In times like these it is vitally important to the well-being of your mental, emotional and physical health as well as the world’s energy to find joy and laughter in each day.

I cannot stress enough that THIS is how we heal this crisis situation.

Through finding the blessing in the cloud that is raining on our earth today.

THIS is how we move forward.

And we only ever have today to live,

so why make it a day that is fearful?

Why not focus on beauty?

Why not focus on connection?

Why not focus on your dreams and goals?

You can have your best life TODAY.

But you must look for it.

You must allow it.

You must give yourself permission to feel it.

I don’t know about you,

but it has been a rough few weeks.

It has been trying,

and hard to not get caught up in all the fear.

It is so easy to loose sight of hope when the storm clouds just will not go away.

But sadly if we focus on the storm and the floods that it is creating with fear,

then we never will be able to see the opportunities that are being presented by them.

And I promise you this….

There is ALWAYS an opportunity in the storm.

In order to find hope again,

we must first recognize where we have turned our attention.

And then guide our thoughts toward those that serve our best outcome instead of feeding our fear.

By applying our attention like this we open up the flood gates to creative thinking,

which allows us OPPORTUNITY to find solutions.

Much like the rain on our windshiled,

we cannot see the road before us or the turns that we must make if we get caught on the rain drops.

The rain drops that encompass our path today,

are our thoughts.

And these thoughts dictate our feelings,

and send us down the rabbit holes that we choose.

To clear that path,

to clear the fear,

the limiting thoughts and the seperation from our truth,

we must break the chaos with joy.

The little moments.

If we each take this time of isolation as an opportunity to reconnect to who we each are,

what really matters to us,

and become more present in our lives and bodies,

in our relationships and ideas,

then we WILL come out of this storm,

our fires will not be put out but instead we will be purged of all that does not serve us any longer and moved forward on our path as individuals and as a world society.

The stillness and silence that so many are fearful of is a beautiful mediative space to go within,

the slower life is an opportunity to do the things that you have put off,

to do self-improvement work,

to change habits to ones that support the life that you want.

A time to catch up on things that you have not had an opportunity for,

and to set goals for the back half of the year and for the next five years.

The slower lifestyle,

the “forced” staying at home and being with family is an opportunity to build strong family relationships,

to actually get to know those that you are sharing your world with,

and to take a moment to share with them.

The isolation that we have in current is a great opportunity to see what matteres most and start to focus more on just that.

The seemingly simple little things are actually the BIG things.

Smiling at a stranger,

making eye contact and allowing yourself to feel your heart,

Playing with your child.

Holding hands with your lover.

Laughing.

Breathing in the cool air on a sunny day.

Family dinners.

and so much more.

Today I encourage you to focus on the life that you want.

To bring your thoughts into alignment with what you desire instead of what you fear.

And remember that TODAY is all you ever have,

so why not make it the day that you want.

As Always,

Stop Existing & Start Living

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December 26, 2019December 26, 2019

Undervalue Me, Undervalue You – It’s All the Same.

Seriously WTF!
Here I sit working with clients today, the day after a yummy relaxing Christmas, where I find myself in total gratitude.
I sit here doing some marketing,
following up with my 1:1 clients,
signing a couple new 1:1 clients and getting them started with the onborading process,
when some misunderstanding soul,
reaches out and asks:

“So what do I get for the $197 that you are offering in your 12 Days of F-cking Awesomeness Bundle?”

Now you have to understand that we online coaches/marketers and educators welcome with open arms inquiry of all kinds,
and we love making sure that our followers are happy and getting exactly what they think they are.

Matter a fact today’s online world is ALL about giving away more in value then expected.

The smart online educators, coaches know the impact that they can have and offer up a massive amount of free or low cost education and content and are feeding their followers daily.

We aim to share massive value in our online courses and workshops. We want you expanding, learning, and being the best versions of yourselves and get that not everyone can afford our private rates.

So when asked the question above,
of course I shared that this was a massive savings.
I mean shiz, you are getting up to $1800 of value and then some, because the same content in private would cost you ten’s of thousands of dollars in coaching hours.

But RIGHT NOW you save even more and get it for ONLY $197.

It’s a no f-cking duh sorta thing!!!

Litterly you could take the next year to work through your chosen bundle and come out the other side with some massive shift in your:

Money
Sex
Health
Confidence
Relationships
and life in general.

But this sweet confused soul thought that I was offering up my private coaching for $197.

OMFG!
I would go broke and be homeless and a really shitty coach to boot for under valuing myself so much if I did that.

The reality of my private coaching practice is that I fall in love with my peep’s.
I get real, raw and authentically down to the core with them.
Knowing them at levels that they may have never been seen at before and teaching just how amazing they really are.
My clients become my friends,
my family,
my tribe.

I give to them random moments on any given day to lean on me.
We text constantly.
We talk on the phone through beautiful and tradgic moments.
We grow,
share and are deeply intimate in our vulnerabilty.

And although I wish I could offer this sort of relationship for such a price of $197 or even free,

it is honestly priceless and those who work with me I am confident would second my statement here.

A coach who does not chage what they are worth,
simply does not value themselves and has not stepped into their power or self- love yet.

A coach who does not know the power of their words,
their views,
their stories and gudiance,
and offers it for free or for some rediculous price because they feel that servitude should mean being a broke a*s who is struggling instead of thriving,
simply does not believe in the value of coaching.
Or the value of who they are and what they have to offer.

They themselves don’t get it and most likely don’t have a real mentor or coach in their lives pushing them up.

And I don’t know about you but,
but who would you follow?

The person selling you snake oil because they themselves don’t get it and don’t value it.

OR.

The person who leads by example,
lives it,
breathes it,
has evidence of it and
is not afraid to value themselves.
Their time.
Their energy.
Their education and experiences.
And demands that in order for you to work with them that the first step is to do the value yourself enough to INVEST.

We all need to start somewhere when we decide that we want to work on ourselves.

We have to choose where we can start.
And aultimatley it does not matter where you start.
What matters is:
1) you start somewhere
2) you value yourself enough to invest in YOU
3) you are coachable

Everything else will follow.

My question for you today is simple.

Do you value YOU?

If you are in business for yourself are you charging what you are worth? Or are you scared of your value?

If you are wanting change in your life in any area do you value that area of your life enough to say YES to the change?
And the helping hand that you most likely will have to hire in some format to guide you to your desired outcome.

You are worth the life that you want.
You are valuable in this world and to the people you share your message with and yourlife with.

Never undervalue the work that you do.
The art that you make.
The message that you share.
Or the changes that you need tomake to have the life that you want.

When we under value anothers help,
we thus under value ourselves too.

Realize that.

And KNOW You Are VALUABLE.

I love you.

As Always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”

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September 25, 2019

Exhaustion is a CHOICE.

YOU WORK FOR YOURSELF SO YOU HAVE ALL THE TIME THAT YOU NEED.

And other statements that show that you have no comprehension of life or the power of manifesting.

My entire life I have dealt with people telling me something.

Assuming something.

And thinking that they have it worse or better than I do.

The reality is that no matter where you are at in life,

there will ALWAYS be someone in worse shoes,

and someone in better shoes,

than yours.

You cannot go through life concerned about other people’s shoes.

Or choices.

Or time.

But to look at another person’s situation and use it to show WHY YOU CANNOT do what you need is crazy AF!

Yet this is a common occurrence.

Every week I work with people who come and sit down with me for coaching,

they tell me their tough stories on how they got to where they are at,

they paint pictures of suffering, fear and anxiety.

They paint pictures of how hard life is.

And how much they hope for.

They tell me their grand faith and love they have,

about their desires and dreams.

They affirm a strong commitment.

And then….

They say,

“Yeah, but how long is this going to take?”

“You just don’t understand, I have kids and a corporate job. I don’t have the time or the energy. I am exhausted.”

And they say this as though they should get some medal for living an exhausting life.

They believe that this is just how success is.

How life is.

and what is to be expected.

They also assume that the anxiety, depression, frustration and constriction…

the sacrificing of their dreams and selves is what a smart, responsible person should do.

NOTHING could be farther from the truth though.

This way of thinking and feeling holds you in a scarcity mindset and thus keeps you living a life of poverty. You may have money, but if you are exhausted and empty you are actually POOR AF.

As Brene Brown would say,

“It takes courage to say yes to rest and play in a culture where exhaustion is seen as a status symbol.”

And exhaustion leads you to anxiety.

It leads you to depression and hopelessness.

Exhaustion creates a massive void in who you are.

It is no status symbol,

it is a premature death sentence,

and you don’t have to be 6 feet under to be dead baby.

What you get is an UNLIVED LIFE.

Just think about that one for a second if you have the mental focus to do such after this long ass day.

Are you among the norm out there of this world?

Like most people who have two lives…

The one you are living and the one you keep denying?

The Unlived Life.

The reality is babe…

YOU GET TO CHOOSE.

The reason I have the energy and vitality for the life that I am creating is simply because I have chosen to LIVE not just get by and exist.

I have had years,

even a decade or two that I chose otherwise and that shiz almost killed me.

My SOUL was like WTF! We are outta here if you keep this shiz up girl.

And I had to CHOOSE LIFE.

Or say goodbye.

Sure I work for myself,

I make my own schedule,

I decide my value in my fee’s.

I have no thumb on me.

I have freedom and flexibility.

TIME.

And with all of that comes responsibility.

Dedication.

Commitment.

Desire.

I choose to focus on what I want to create and therefore it gets created.

A long time ago I said that I wanted to be a full time mommy.

That I did not want my children to have to go to daycare and be raised by someone else.

I also said that I wanted to provide home cooked meals for my children 80-90% of the time.

I also said that I valued dating my children, all 7 of them.

Spending 1:1 time with them.

I also said that I wanted to take them on experiences,

to adventure together, to laugh, read, play…

And that I wanted this frequently.

Now on the other side of things I said that I wanted to make a multi-six figure income.

That I wanted to build an empire.

I wanted to teach masses of people.

I wanted to work with the 1%.

I said that I wanted to look good and feel great as I age.

I said that I wanted to be healthy.

That I wanted to travel – A LOT.

I said that I wanted all of it and desired for more.

Knowing that my desires would grow as I created more and more of the life that I wanted.

I share this with you to make the point that I get busy.

Busy life.

Ton’s happening.

Chaos.

Drama.

It’s all part of the picture.

And being center hub for a bunch of people can be EXHAUSTING…

LOL.

The thing is that any of us can have a truly amazing, fulling life if we DECIDE to actually commit to LIVING.

This means to put the focus not on always working,

not making all those bills and creditors,

your boss or employee’s,

your clients,

the football game or candy crush,

more important than your Mother-effing Life!

Because that is just being average and ordinary.

And you are NOT THAT LUV!

You are EXTRAORDINARY.

So Own It!

And Live accordingly.

Are you living in alignment to WHO YOU REALLY ARE?

Or are you settling for something less than…

Be Real…

And Remember,

Stop Existing & Start Living

“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”

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April 13, 2019April 13, 2019

Your Attachment is Holding You Back, Why Are You Allowing This?

You ebb and you flow.
You wake up feeling effing amazing one day and then as if some sort of curse that you have no control of,
something happens.
Something takes over.
And you are lost within your own crazy chaotic brilliant disaster of a mind that is scared out of its comfort zone that it will loose itself.
That you will plummet into the rocks.

It’s like the scene from Princess Bride where Fezzik and Inigo Montoya are just setting off in the boat and enjoying a bit of rhyme,
“Are there rocks ahead?”
“If there are we’ll all be dead.”

Yes this is the tale of the story of worry and fear that plays in your head love.

I know.
I know how scary it can be.
I know how sh*tty it makes you feel.
The tension in your muscles.
The agonizing heaviness in your gut.
The NOT KNOWING.

And you hold your breath.
You FREEZE.
But all you truly want to do is run and hide.
To hide and cry.

You can feel that you are holding yourself back.
You are conscious of the thoughts and feelings that are swimming through you.
Its a mad house,
or maybe a war zone.
You want to try and control them.
You can sense the damage that they are causing.
You know the power of thoughts let loose.

What are you to do?
How do gain control again?

How can you go from this ill state,
and YES it is an ill state of being.
You are feeling ill are you not?
Your tummy is tight,
your breath is held.
Your palms are reacting,
you can not relax,
and that sadness that dances between depression and anger,
anger and fear,
fear and bitterness.

How do you escape this space that you have manifested?
How do you move back into that beautiful turned on space where life was in flow?
Where you were turned on.
Happy.
Full of creativity.
Love.
and
you could see all your dreams manifesting.
QUICKLY.

How?

You want to analyze how you arrived here.
You want to dissect it.
And try and fix it.
But you know that the more focus you apply to this dreary state of being the longer you will reside here.

The best you can do is LET GO.
The best you can do is LEARN.
Take note.
But DO NOT ATTACH.
Your attachment to this fear is what will hold you in this space for all if eternity of you allow it to persist.

SO STEP THE F-CK AWAY FROM IT NOW BEAUTIFUL.

Let go of this attachment.

Just lift up your hands,
do the scary,
seemingly impossible thing that you know you must do,
SURRENDER.

Surrender it all over to God.
Let is all go.
THIS IS THE MOMENT…

You must show your CERTAINTY.
You must show your FAITH.

You must LET GO.

You may not think that you are attached to the fear.
Attached to the these bad ideas, fears and thoughts.
I know it sounds crazy to be attached to such things,
but…
I assure you,
that you are beautiful.

It is so obvious.
You are attached because it is what you are holding on too.
It is what you are carrying in your arms,
you hold it out like a trophy,
this fear.
This wound.
This emptiness.

Yet it fills you.
It makes you feel alive.

Doesn’t it?

What would you do if you did not have to FIGHT for your breath?

What would you do if you did not have to scrap after everything,
and it did not take until the very last possible second for you to be saved?

WHAT IF?

And I am getting crazy now….
I get it I am.

What if,
You did not ever need to be saved?

Then what?
Then what would your life be like beautiful?

Would you seize to feel alive anymore?
Would you be bored?

I am pretty sure that you could find something else to entertain yourself with if you were not running around putting out fires all the time.

I am damn sure that you could feel just as a live THRIVING as you do SUFFERING.

But at the end of the day,
its all up to you beautiful.
It is a CHOICE.

How badly do you want to be HAPPY?
How badly do you want to live in ease and flow verse what ya’ got going on?

Sure there might be rocks ahead.
But you are steering your boat babe.

You can avoid those rocks with one simple maneuver.

FAITH.

Know you are beautiful.
Know you are brilliant in all you do.
Know you don’t need to become worthy,
you were born that way.

Know thyself.
And Claim Your Life Today.

As Always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
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March 21, 2019

You Offend Me. – Stop It!

That is IT!

I am DONE!!!!!

Done you hear me.

I cannot stomach it any longer.

Just the fact that you think that way and have the nerve to state it openly on top of everything.

So frustrating.

It should not be allowed.

I mean seriously,

you have no clue.

ARGH.

Stop already.

That is it!

I am clicking report and then I am unfriending you.

It sickens me that you shared that.

How little do you think of yourself to just put yourself out there like that?

Do you have no self-respect.

Self-care?

I bet you do this because you think you are oh so cool or hot, right?

Well it is obvious that you are just another attention hungry bottom of the pool feeder who has no real understanding about anything and just wants us all to bask in your glory.

Seriously.

I am DONE.

This whole thing is offensive to me.

It is offensive to all of your followers and friends.

How can you just keep sharing?

How do I make you STOP?

Don’t you see yourself?

Geeze….

Think much of yourself?

There you go again posting.

I cannot take it.

Seriously, I am going to unfriend you.

I am.

What’s this?

These people here are agreeing with you?

W-H-A-T?????

Come on people you are going to buy into this rubbish?

Really?

Okay now that is pushing it.

Now you have done it.

You are now making others believe this crap like you do.

Will you stop at nothing?

and on,

we go.

Okay dear reader, PLEASE don’t believe that any of the above is anything that I have personally outside of this post here ever written and meant or written at all.

Matter a fact just today I was doing a livestream and you could see my nipples I guess under my my shirt and a man responded, “nice nipples.” in the comments section.

Of which I said nothing to.

Then later a man private messaged me and asked if this other man’s comment offended me.

LOL.

F-ck No!

In order for his comment or anyone’s comment to offend me,

it would mean that their opinion of me mattered somehow.

As though how they judged me, viewed me or what they translated from my image or words had some effect on my self-worth, esteem or confidence.

As though their opinion should cause me to second guess, judge or love myself less.

That is funny.

I tell you I am laughing at a deep soul core level over thinking that someone making any comment, or doing something even as distastefulness as some of the pictures I receive or random advances that I get daily should have a true effect on who I am or how I feel about me is CRAZY.

Offended?

What does it take to offend one?

Well for some in today’s world it takes VERY little.

And for those poor saps who live in a world that is out to get them I feel pity, because they will never bask in the beauty and joy that life has to offer.

They will never be able to fully trust life.

Themselves. or anyone.

It is sad to watch so many people go straight into defense at the slightest little thing that ruffles their feathers.

And without any concept of what they are really doing.

Standing about,

pointing fingers,

getting mad at pictures,

at opinions of other’s,

at debates,

or feelings,

that are not theirs to begin with,

and truly believing that it is everyone’s else’s responsibility to make them happy, keep then safe from things that pull up fears, or trigger them in some fashion, or to make them feel anything at all.

Here is the cold hard reality.

NO ONE IS RESPONSIBLE FOR YOU BUT YOU!

And nothing can MAKE.YOU.FEEL

anything.

That is all an inside game.

The only thing you do when you feel offended is cower into the corner of the victim mindset and turn over your power to everything/one else,

putting them in charge of your happiness.

And then acting like a spoiled kid when you don’t get what you expect.

Sheer silliness.

Laziness too.

and emotional immaturity above everything else.

It is most certainly the topic of today.

Even a fellow coach/friend had a share of theirs taken down because it went against community guideline.

?????

Did she get naked and share a video or pic that was to out there like some of the things I see come through in some of the groups?

NO.

Did she cuss people out or call people prejudges names?

No.

Did she slander someone?

No.

Did she do ANYTHING offensive?

Well, yes.

Yes she did.

Well she must have.

Because her livestream was deleted for such.

It was not a community that she offended.

No.

She offended one person more than likely.

And much like my writing above,

this one took it upon themselves to save everyone from such nonsense that was in this livestream.

Mean while,

we have video’s running around with violent scenes,

men are sending very unattractive and unwanted pictures to random women in messenger,

people are being called names because of how they look,

or what race they are or church they go too.

We can openly watch a video with a squirrel having its nut’s ( yes actual nuts/balls/testicle’s) caught in a fence and we laugh it off.

All of this is okay.

Why because of the number of likes it has below it?

Or because it’s not happening to you.

Or you just don’t see it.

And still even all of this…

GUESS WHAT?

Yes even my fellow coach video being taken down.

None of it is offensive.

UNLESS YOU MAKE IT SO IN YOUR OWN HEAD.

Again…

No one is responsible for your happiness,

your feelings,

your thought,

or judgments,

other than YOU.

So why the rant today?

Because it is silly.

And as I shared on a comment thread about this very thing,

“It is a shame that our society is focused on being on the attack and can’t stand behind our right of speech and to share our options and thoughts. It is crazy, back in the 1950’s doing Roasts were so popular and it took a strong and stable person to be able to sit through the ego breaking moments of a roast. today’s society cannot handle someone just glancing over at them for no reason without feeling offended. Crazy it is. We have raised a weak society of wantabe adults.”

Today society cannot handle a ROAST.

Or a wrong look.

Or your opinion.

Let along your life.

Your hobbies.

Your likes.

Dislikes.

Beliefs.

The color of your hair.

or how you choose to dress.

We have become a weak culture.

We in WHO WE ARE.

Knowing ourselves.

And loving who we are.

We are weak in just allowing each to their own.

We have become STRONG in becoming the police for everything that has nothing to do with us.

We have become STRONG in sticking our nose into everything and playing the blame game.

Gotta Love the Blame Game.

Right?

Not.

So how do you rank love?

How easily offended are you?

Have I pushed you to the point of no return in this share and made you one of my haters?

Or are you EMPOWERED and conscious?

Share your thoughts below.

And As Always,

Stop Existing & Start Living

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December 2, 2018

The Small Things Are The BIG Things In Your Success.

Success happens with in the small things.

The small things is what makes all the difference,
because the small things are actually BIG mother f-cking things.

Have you noticed this?
I sure have luv.
I am sure that you have noticed how you can focus in on all these BIG ass boulders and you can spend your life trying to push those damn boulders up the mountain you are climbing,
with little to no movement,
and THEN,
then you do thi sone little thing,
that seem’s like nothing really.
It’s a no-duh sorta thing even,
it’s a thing that you wonder,
“Why did I never think of that?”
and you do it,
and it MAKES ALL THE DIFFERENCE.

Yes success happens with in the small things.

Failure happens in the small things too.
You may understand this one a bit better.
Think about the relationships that you have had that have failed.
Was it big things or a pile up of small things that destroyed the intimacy,
the connection,
the trust,
even the love?

It was the small things , right?
Small things.
They seem so small
and so unimportant often.
They appear as though they should be easy to move through,
to avoid,
to conquer even.
And we most certainly should get over them quickly.
Small things are small hurdles after all.

And they are!
They are IF,
IF….

we let them be just that,
and we are proactive about discovering them,
and doing whatever it is that we need,
to clear the small hurdle.

Often this means,
small actions.

And in the land of success,
and moving those boulders with ease,
you have to be willing to look into things that are in your shadow,
into things that you may already be doing, ‘but are not doing where,
with whom,
or exactly how you need to be doing them.

These sort of things, are the things that can take you from zero to 60 in under a minute flat.

These sort of things,
can make or break you.

The issue always come’s back to realization of them,
and how we choose to perceive them.
It comes back to ego.
It comes back to heart.
It comes back to alignment.
Which means…..

What feels good,
and yet pushes your comfort zone.

The answer though is always in it feeling good.
Anything that does not feel good will create a low vibe in you and create chaos and destruction.
So NEVER….
NEVER EVER do that which you “think” you should do for anyone else, if it makes you feel bad in shape.
Especially if it scares you ass it may be dangerous,
it may cause some emotional or psychological issue within you, such as shame. Or it leaves you with a feeling of bitterness or fear of loss if you don’t do it.

This is not following your joy.
This is not alignment.
This is not jumping over a small hurdle to some success of moving that boulder up the mountain.

NO.
It most certainly is not.
Instead this sort of pushing through will add other boulders to your process and prevent you from success.

So put simple,
Just don’t do it.

It is okay to be selfish and say no to something or someone,
as saying now is saying f-ck yes,
to ourselves.

And being a f-ck yes to yourself will keep you high vibing!

Guess what luv,
saying yes to yourself at all cost,
is one of the most important small things you can do too.
It is the one small things that is the BIGGEST thing you can ever do to get that boulder up the mountain with ease.

But it will take courage.
It will take compassion for self first.
It will take passion,
and it will take a hell of a lot of self- love.

But YOU ARE WORTH it.

You are!

So focus in on the small things that will make all the difference today.
Focus in on the self-love that you have been denying yourself.
Focus in on the things that make you feel high vibe, make you laugh, make you smile.
Focus in on the small things as they are not small at all,
they are the BIG things.

And your success is going to totally rock out of the ethers because of these things.

Just say yes.
Say YES…
TO YOU.

And As Always,
Stop Existing & Start Living

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November 30, 2018

Never Ready to Say Yes.

Epiphany Time.

Yep,

here it is folks.

Here is what no one want’s to tell you but you must know if you are going to have the life that you want.

If you are going to stop just getting by and start THRIVING.

Yes if that is what you are wanting in life,

if you want to wake up with a start,

fully ignited, charged up and turned on to life.

If you are wanting to have that deeply intimate relationship,

you know the kind that makes your heart shutter when you hear your partners voice.

If you are wanting to truly experience life.

Truly enjoy your family,

your friends,

the world,

good health,

ABUNDANCE.

then let me share with you this.

The fact is….

You will NEVER EVER be ready.

If I waited till I was ready to do anything,

I would do nothing.

I would have no where near the things that I have today.

I certainly would not have the relationships that I have.

The sex that I have.

The turn on that I have.

I would not travel the way I do.

I would not have the booming business that I have.

I would never launch a freaking program or workshop.

I would never write an article or do a vlog.

I would simply NEVER.

And therefore I would not have the life that I have.

I would not,

because I would have been saying NO,

to myself and to life,

to success and abundance,

to love and joy,

instead of saying YES.

I share this because ’tis is the season that we get bombarded with things.

We feel overwhelmed, frustrated, stressed and we want for more.

We want for more because all that we don’t have is smack dab in front of our faces.

Our children ask for so much,

we are asked to donate of our resources,

even if we have no resources.

It is assumed that everyone is “holly and jolly”

and that everyone can just keep giving.

Giving to everyone.

Except self.

Well,

take it from this single mom of seven,

who has had little to no assistance from co-parents,

and who run’s her own business, and is the primary financial provider not only for 4 children in home,

but also for my mother with dementia.

I get it.

I truly get it.

And you know what,

just the other day,

my grown ass daughter stood in my kitchen,

and proclaimed, “Mom you are rich.”

She then assumed that she and just about anyone was in the right to ask for their hearts desires from me,

and that I could cover it,

and that I would.

LOL…

At first I got a little upset at her assumption.

I wondered how she could just think this,

and then I realized that she was right.

I am f-cking rich!

I am rich in opportunity.

I am rich in energy.

I am rich in love.

I am rich in creative flow.

I am rich in abundance.

And this is all that matters.

because from this sorta mindset,

the world is my oyster.

So, I smiled.

And I agreed.

My ego screamed at me about all the responsibilities that she was unaware of or ignoring.

My ego yelped at me about giving too much.

My ego made very clear that it was still stuck in old programs of scarcity and fear.

And here is where “I” and only I could make the difference.

It was up to me in this moment to claim something different for my life.

I could say that I was broke,

that I was tired,

that I was overwhelmed,