NOT REALLY 100% INVESTED ARE YOU? AT LEAST NOT THIS YEAR – Maybe Next???
I ask a question of people on my applications to work with me, it goes like this:
Are you willing to invest in your coaching process fully if we decide to work together?
And the options are:
*Yes! Absolutely. I fully understand the power of investing into myself and committing to the process.
* I am unsure as to what I want or my commitment level.
* No, I am just exploring options at this time.
The majority of the people who fill out my application, no matter what their truth may be click on option one.
They proclaim that they understand the power of investing in themselves FULLY and what commitment is.
Funny thing happens though once they are faced with their truth. Or their financial situation. Or their lack of worth. Or their FEAR. This is a big effing one.
They make excuses.
They do everything they can to hide from the f-cking fact that they don’t want it bad enough for themselves.
Now you most likely are thinking,
“That’s not me, Kendal, I want it. I want it more than anything. I am 100% invested in whatever I need to do or make happen to have the life that I desire and know I was born to live. ”
Are you sure?
Because I am willing to wager that you are not as invested or committed to self as you believe that you are.
I am saying this because I see you.
I see you making the statements.
And proclaiming that you want this, and this and this too.
And I see you getting side tracked.
I see life getting in your way.
I see your beautiful,
logical reasons that you are offering up as to why you have not done this or that.
Yeah I see you.
I see how you are short changing yourself.
And here is the real deal beautiful,
YOU ARE WORTH SO MUCH MORE THAN WHAT YOU ARE ALLOWING FOR YOURSELF.
But you will NEVER have it if you do not stop effing around and avoiding the opportunities to have it because you are scared of having it.
You are scared aren’t you?
Its manifesting itself as concern.
Its coming up as worry, and fatigue, and chaos.
And you continue to pretend that everything is okay.
You run along and just keep acting like life is all groovy,
that you got your shiz in order and that you don’t really need the help. But then you say I need help. I don’t understand. I cannot get movement here, this is sucking over here.
You proclaim, “I AM READY FOR A CHANGE.”
And so you call in the opportunity.
And then you cry about the commitment.
You turn your nose up at the investment.
You make an excuse.
You know what matters more to you then your desire,
than your happiness,
than whatever it is that you are claiming you want?
The bottom dollar means more.
The what’s this going to cost me.
You walk into the land of change with the objection of price, and you are under some damn idea that it should be gifted to you and Oh Yeah It should not mean that you have to apply yourself to making the change.
Let’s not forget that.
You want me to do what?
Spend how much time on my inner work?
Commit to what with my partner/spouse?
You want me to actually take action?
Nah, I don’t want it that bad this year.
When I have made my million dollars then I will revisit this.
When I am stable emotionally, financially, physically then I will explore this.
I don’t have (fill in the blank) right now to do this.
Honey, if this is you I am writing about realize that with that sort of mindset and lack of commitment the thing you are wanting to have happen WILL NEVER HAPPEN.
Do you get how miracles happen?
They happen when we expect them too.
When we open ourselves through faith and putting ourselves up to the test. You have to not just step but LEAP if you want a miracle.
Making excuses will never get you this or the life that you want.
Matter a fact, if you want to know how much something of this potency is going to cost you here is the actual answer that you need to digest and sit with:
If you don’t do it – It will cost you YOUR LIFE. Your EVERYTHING.
Because you know what you have been doing,
You know where it has gotten you,
You feel what it feel’s like to be living this way,
and you are hungry.
So if you keep doing what you have always done,
YOU WILL STARVE!
So may people are under the assumption that if you just sit in a certain position,
think great thoughts and breathe a certain way that you never have to actually get off your ass and do something to manifest your dreams and goals.
So many other people, believe that if they just keep doing what they have been doing and work harder, scrimp more and freak out more that they will be successful in time and have the life that they want.
MOFO – NEWSFLASH!
Neither is accurate.
Neither will lead to your greatest, happiest life.
You are out of alignment in both cases,
and you are not taking the action that your SOUL wants you too.
So WTF do you do beautiful?
This is up to YOU!
My suggestion is get REAL.
Make the MOFO INVESTMENT.
Stop making excuses and continuing to do the same things expecting different results,
this is crazy.
But what do I know?
I don’t know you, and perhaps you don’t know you.
That is most likely the root of your issue beautiful.
And As always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
Coaching For Grwon A*s Believers
It’s time that you start to say YES to the most important person in the room beautiful. It’s time that you accept your worth, and step onto this path that your SOUL is calling you too.
I know how hard the steps may appear.
I know that you are fearful, that you doubt if you have what it takes to make this shiz happen for you or not.
But I promise you that YOU can do it.
You can have it.The first step though is to recognize that you must let go and have faith in your process of getting there.
Listen to your SOUL and follow it’s lead.
Imagine having a coach who has been on a similar path guide you, help you discover the deeper meanings of what soul is wanting you to know.
What would it feel like to have that sort of support and guidance?
You can have this.
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You say you are not afraid.
You say that you can feel the call,
that the desire is alive in you and that you truly WANT for something more in your life.
You say that you are not afraid, that you know that you must make these things happen.
You say that you are COMMITTED,
that you are READY.
You say that you WILL FIND a way, no matter what.
You say that you know,
you know how critical this is to your life.
You say a lot for someone who is doing NOTHING!
Just sitting there on the fence line of life,
waiting for something to change.
Waiting for life to improve enough for you to get committed and do the things,
the things that your SOUL is calling you to do.
And yet there you are beautiful,
proclaiming all of that.
Wanting all of that.
And still doing NOTHING.
The thing is baby,
what you are not fully grasping is that YOU are scared as F-ck about actually just leaning into your SOUL guidance and LETTING GO!
You are scared as F-ck to finally CLAIM YOUR LIFE!
Making it happen by having FAITH.
Yes! You claim a lot for someone who is scared of SOUL.
Who wants for so much,
but won’t actually STEP the F-ck into what YOU want.
You try and get the world to believe that you don’t know what you need to do,
or that you are already doing it all.
But at your very core,
you know the THING,
the thing that you must do.
That thing to step the F-ck all the way in on your life.
there you sit.
Saying that you need to do this or that,
saying that you feel the call.
The call of your SOUL.
And knowing that you are but one small yet HUMONGOUS step away from having all your dreams and desire manifest like magic.
But there on the fence,
Scared of saying YES!
Scared of Stepping the F-ck in.
Scared of your SOUL.
Sacred of your DREAMS.
If only you fully understood the power of LETTING GO.
If only you fully believed in your POWER.
In your WORTH.
In Just Stepping the F-ck IN.
But there is hesitation is there not?
You may claim that there is not.
And so if that is what you say,
what you truly think.
Then ask yourself,
“What then is holding me back from living the life that I feel called to live?”
that it is not money.
That it is not time.
That it is not luck.
That it has nothing to do with your education.
Or your work, relationship or even the amount of sex that you are having or not.
it is not body image.
It is not your religious beliefs.
It has nothing to do with your childhood wounding,
or who your parents are,
or how they treated you.
None of this is the REASON.
Some of it is the RESULT,
the result of what is actually holding you the f-ck back.
And you do know the THING,
the THING that is holding you back.
It is the same thing,
the only thing,
that ever holds you back.
it cannot be.
it is just so.
You must SURRENDER yourself,
once and for all to your SOUL.
Stop fearing it.
Stop hiding from it.
Just STOP and LISTEN.
Listen and Act.
Act only from here beautiful.
It is the space of all knowing.
It holds all your answers,
all your power.
Yes here beautiful is what you MUST do.
Once and for all.
Stop FEARING YOUR SOUL.
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”
Want to take that step?
I sure hope that you have come to realize that this fence that you are sitting on is not a fence of safety,
but a fence of saying no to self,
saying no to your dreams and desires and living the way God intended on you living.
It is time that you decide..
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Just this morning I was walking my kindergartner into his school. There I was in yoga pants, a tank top and sweat shirt off one shoulder. My hawaii flip flops on my feet and my hair tossed up in a pony tail. My son and I were goofing around like we do every morning, laughing and hugging, picking on each other as we crossed the parking lot and walked down the entry way of the school.
It was just another morning in truth.
And yet it was not.
Because this morning I was people watching more so than what I normally do for some reason.
And as always with people watching I always feel so separated from those around me.
I feel judgmental.
And maybe I should be ashamed to admit that here publicly, but living by my true style I am going to stand in my raw truth with you and just speak it.
I mean we are all judgmental and critical.
And anyone who claims to not be is hiding or lying.
What it comes down to in my opinion, is what you choose to do with the judgments and thoughts that come up.
Do you choose to observe them,
do some good inquiry around them,
and discover deeper messages about yourself?
Or do you choose to pick apart others and find fault and reason as to why you are suffering or how you are better than another in order to justify your worth or reasons?
So here I was,
walking in the school with my son like fifty other women,
and what I noticed was the lack of connection between these parents and their children. There was no laughter, only seriousness and rushing.
There were no smiles even, just pissed off turned down expressions.
Most walked quickly and with a hunched over frame, as though they were trying to hide.
And then there were a few who bee-bopped by looking like they had been up for 3 hours already. Very well put together, but walking in haste.
Entering the school,
music playing, teachers singing and welcoming children, I noticed how the kids lit up as they entered the school because the teachers were appearing excited and happy to start the day with them. The upbeat music caught your ear and made you want to sing along, which is what I do every morning.
But I was alone.
and parents looked at me,
casting their own judgement back.
Most likely wondering who this crazy woman is who dares be happy and sing out loud to her child and shake her hips at the front door as she kisses her kid good by and gives a big hug, then turns and chats with a teacher or two?
Yes, so there I was judging and being judged.
And as I turned and walked back to my car, I noticed how so many parents just seemed lifeless.
Now I was feeling pity.
And I don’t do pity very well.
My pity quickly turned to irritation and disgust.
I looked at these people,
and in my belief they each have a purpose.
They each have a talent.
They are each born for greatness.
They are worthy.
But all I see here is a lack of worth.
And the only effing reason for it is that they are allowing it.
And what are they teaching their children by accepting such a life of low vibe, low energy, dullness and disconnect?
They are teaching them to be the same.
Because our children 90 % of the time do not learn from what we tell them to do, but from what we show them we are doing.
You want an honest child.
Be honest with your child and others.
You want a compassionate child.
Be compassionate with your child and others.
You want a child that can stand on their own two feel and is not easily lead astray.
Then be strong in who you are and have good boundaries and speak your truth.
Whatever you are desiring your child to grow up to be,
realize that you are an example to them.
So back to my point.
Here as I walked I saw a bunch of people who had somewhere along the life trail gotten good with just existing.
Gotten good with their reasons,
their excuses and why’s.
They had settled into not having.
Settled into average.
And had forgotten that they could define what their average looked and felt like.
It’s crazy to think how close to all that we want each and everyone of us truly is.
And yet it is so.
It is no further away then what we are willing to accept for ourselves.
Willing to believe for ourselves.
Willing to expect for ourselves.
But WE have to actually want it bad enough to stop calling in all the reasons that we don’t have it or cannot have it.
Our reasons have got to mean less to us then our DESIRE.
So what are you settling for?
What are the core beliefs that you have that are creating things that you don’t want?
And are you conscious to them?
Let’s get real.
Let’s get raw.
And As Always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”
Sick and tired of settling for so much less than what you know you can have?
Accepting less in your success, your finances, your love, your relationships or your health?
Well STOP making excuses and TAKE the CALL TO ACTION TODAY.
Kendal I was bankrupt when I first met you. I had no idea how I was going to pay you. Working a dead end job, going through a nasty divorce and had lost everything. All I knew was that if I did not have faith right now and stand my ground that life was going to run me over. Thank God I chose this! Your coaching did not just help get me through everything, it transformed my existence. Today I am making three times the income I was back then. I am dating a dynamic woman and cannot imagine life much better. It is all because of your guidance and wisdom. I wish more people understood the true power of a mentor. Thank beautiful! – Timothy Gearst, Dallas Texas
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Could This Be You?
We all got them. We all know how bad they are for us. We all still can’t help ourselves. And so we make them. We use them. And we feel like we are justified somehow most of the time.
You know what I am talking about. It’s the damn thing that keeps holding you back. It’s the damn effing thing that you know you need to push right past but don’t.
Because it’s your child.It’s your mate.It’s your health.It’s your time.It’s your finances. It’s your level of education.It’s yeah, yeah, yeah…..
Alright we get it….You have a great reason.
Don’t we all?
You have a freakin’ great reason as to why you can’t. Why you should not.And how this or that is truly holding you back.Holding you still. You just need to pause. You just need to get out of debt. You just need to get ahead some. You just need your kids all in school. You just need to ease in before you approach your mate. You just need to make sure that you can make the time. You just…..
That’s all so true.
Its all bullsh*t.
You don’t need to wait for any of that to live the life you were born to live.
You don’t need any of that to create the abundance, the freedom, the happiness, YOUR DREAMS.
And you sure as f*ck DON’T need to WAIT.
But you are. And the waiting is getting old. The waiting is draining you. The waiting….will the waiting ever be over?
Or will life end before the waiting?
And that is what you should be worried about. You should not be worried about all these things. And if you are striving to have your dreams manifest for some of these excuses which are also your reasons, then why….
why my dear are you still sitting on your thumb waiting?
What do you think waiting will accomplish?
Will you wait long enough and suddenly have enough money to buy that business or write that book?Or will the money just come and go as money always does. And you will still be waiting, wishing you had not waited till now, but willing to wait till later still to do the damn thing that you know that you must do if you will live the life that your soul is calling you to live.
Or will you ever have the time or the energy to just add in another thing and build your dreams with the focus that you know it will take?
Or will you sit there, waiting for the time, waiting for the energy, waiting for the focus, and watch your life drift by. Just like it has been the last five years. The last ten, twenty or whatever the eff it has been…. Don’t you think, that if you had just said yes to yourself maybe somewhere back there, and done the damn thing, just got started that, maybe, maybe you might be closer to your dreams then where waiting has gotten you?
IDK, Maybe I am just being crazy. Maybe I am being irrational. I mean what do I know….
You know what I know…I know that my WHY can also be one of my biggest challenges to success. I know that if I allow my why to become my excuse, that it will quickly. and it will destroy the possibility of me manifesting the life that I want for myself, for my children, for all that I care for. I know that my WHY, can easily grow into a fierce darkness, stopping me from moving forward.
And I can tell you that I love my why enough to tell my why to get the eff out of my way and not hold me back.
I have chosen to make what feels like sacrifices in a way for a short period of time so that I can guarantee my success.
I have set my desires out, and I have written out my goals.I know that the excuses that I might have, and some of them are some damn freakin’ doozies at that, are not here to help me succeed. No matter how logical they may seem. No matter how heart jerking they might be.No matter how “in alignment” they may appear, they are still the DAMN THINGS that prevent.
Prevent us from living the life that God intended.Prevent us from SAYING YES! to ourselves.Prevent us from THRIVING.
So why do you keep allowing them into your world dear?Why do you keep making space for all that, that does not serve you?Why do you keep believing the falsities of this world and denying your power love?
You better figure it out.And when you do, hope you have not waited to long that your dreams became another’s and were lost to you this lifetime.
Because you my dear, came here with a purpose. And purpose was to SHINE.
You will never accomplish that by hiding underneath those beautiful excuses….
I mean reasons. 🙂
So as always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”
It’s all a f-cking head game!
Have you noticed?
Have you come to this conclusion?
I sure the f-ck have.
Here i sit on this sunny Dallas afternoon,
listening to music on the patio of some little cafe eating artichoke dip, having a glass of chardonnay.
The day is beautiful.
I have been blessed with amazing client appointments today.
Blessed with more support than I feel worthy of from family, friends and my lover.
I have been allowed and HAVE allowed
myself to simple just drop the effing reigns
of my life, the last month.
It feels like a lifetime has past.
I have fear.
I have doubt.
I have shame.
In writing this very musing to you.
Yet I know IT IS TIME.
I hear the call of my soul
Saying that I MUST.
I must take the step.
I must take the breath.
I must LET THE F-CK GO.
So very much has taken place the last month.
My world once again,
Has been shaken, rocked and flipped every which way.
Fear has penetrated my inner being on many days.
Causing me to hold myself back.
Back from being a f-ck yes to myself.
Back from doing what i know.
Back from being vulnerable and just revealing myself.
Back from CLAIMING my life.
Lord hold my hand and carry me sweet Jesus through this year.
A year that i KNOW i must find gratitude for.
A year so full of lessons.
A year from this VERY mortal human place I reside in at this moment has been perhaps the best and worst year of my existence.
I have shared some with you on the drama and trauma.
But this is a rabbit hole that keeps going.
I find myself questioning everything.
Trusting not anything.
I feel lost most days.
YET in the same breath i have great PEACE and a strange CERTAINTY.
How can i be both?
This is where it is folks.
Its all a f-cking mind game.
What do I mean by that?
I mean everyday.
Every f-cking day we make choices.
We choose if we let all the garbage of our lives suffocate us or if we plant our feet in the sunshine and sand and connect deeper to our SOUL MESSAGE.
We all have 10,000 reasons
As to why the eff we allow ourselves to be destracted.
Distracted from what really matters.
And sure those crazy, emotional, emergency items that take up our days bang on our mind and hearts.
Sounding off like they should be primary focus.
But I ask you this.
Is that true?
For me at least,
When I really hone in on my TRUTH
I know the reality is that I am AVOIDING
MY Mother F-cking Calling.
I know that i am blocking my desires.
I know that I am resisting my GREATNESS.
I am doing this by letting myself get caught up in everything else.
By putting my attention on the things I don’t desire to manifest and claiming I have no choice.
I say I am tired.
I say I am out of my flow.
I say I am distracted.
Thats all BULLSHIT.
The reality is that I hit a new level of ME.
AND it scared the shit out of me.
How can I.
Little ol’ me.
Shine that bright.
Say that much.
Smile through the storm.
Laugh and orgasm,
While chaos runs around disrupting the world.
Wanting to disrupt mine.
Like a spoiled little 3 year old
Throwing its tantrum.
Who am I?
I need to just drop out of this light.
And be NORMAL.
Do what is expected.
And just give in.
Well its been a month of that shit.
I FELL F-CKING HARD.
And I FORGIVE myself for falling.
Now is the moment.
Take my hand
Lets fly together.
You got your shit.
I got mine.
Sure it stinks.
But it does not have to hold us back.
It does not have to be us.
Its all a f-cking mind game after all.
And I am making my mind up to CLAIM MY LIFE.
Rock it out and realize there is a reason for everything.
So LET IT GO.
Stop Existing & Start Living
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