I remember the days when I had to almost literally be drug out of bed to go to my J-O-B.
I am serious.
I was drug like a kid out of my bed.
The last “real” job I had was back in the 1990’s when I sold large appliances for Circuit City. I was 18 years old and fresh out in the world. Planning my wedding and working 40+ hours each week at a job that I hated.
I remember looking at my pay checks,
part of me proud and part of me so frustrated.
Two weeks worth of work.
80+ hours of my time and energy.
Living at a place that my heart and soul hated,
learning to sell extended service programs that I did not believe in.
And all of this soul sucking for a whopping $650 every two weeks!
I look back at those days and I wonder how I survived such disgust. But I did.
Until one day, a week before my wedding when I had a meeting with my manager ( who was so very grumpy herself, a woman who was owned by the company).
She pulled me in her office to informed me that even though I had requested a week off to get married and enjoy a few days honeymoon months before,
and we are talking many months before,
matter a fact it was at my hire.
That after consideration, management had decided that I could not have the time off as I had not worked there long enough to take a vacation…
I had been giving all my time and energy to this place.
I had made good sales,
sold the freaking extended service programs that were crap even, and was now informed that I had to choose between my job and my wedding….
Yeppers I chose my wedding.
I watched all my fellow colleagues work their bumbs off,
and sacrifice their families, their holidays, events and very life to make sure to be there for this place of business.
They felt that it was a duty, it was loyalty, it was responsible.
They had too.
And I saw these same people a few years later,
looking for anything to ease them.
Alcohol. Drugs. Sex.
The addictions grew and they stayed addicted to this soul sucking life experience, called their J-O-B.
As time went on, I learned and grew.
I got education around psychology, mindset, habits and so much more.
I explored multiple opportunities to expand myself and my pocket book. Hoping to get rich overnight almost ( with a little hard work of course too). Some were partially successful, some not so much. All had a system, a pre-created pattern to success in this business or that.
None felt in alignment to my soul or heart, but I kept trying to drink the Koolade.
No matter what I tried, if it was not in alignment it did not take long for my whole being to feel drained and lost in life.
I could not figure out what was wrong with me.
Surely not all of these opportunities were bad.
It must be something I was doing.
And it was something that I was doing.
I was sacrificing my soul,
my life for something that someone else had built, created and told me was the way to get what I wanted, instead of following my heart.
Soul suck after soul suck,
I felt addicted to trying this or that out in the attempt to achieve SUCCESS.
I wanted nothing more than to just be me.
I wanted to be a BIG earner in some company.
I wanted to speak and share, educate and help others in some fashion or form.
Be a thought leader.
I wanted to make positive changes in this world, and help people feel good, live an abundant life. And I truly believed that I had to do this through someone else’s way. That I did not have the skills, ideas, education, know how to be an influencer.
And so I continued for years to explore companies that promised so many beautiful things but all felt so empty to my soul at the end of the day because they were selling something that in my opinion did not really change lives the way that I desired to change lives.
They were not my purpose work.
My soul was not captivated by any of them.
But they did soul suck the life out of me and I was honestly addicted to this process without really realizing it.
Much like many are addicted to going to the J-O-B and making sure the BOSS man is happy, or that the company is taken care of but not even truly believing in what they are doing. Or perhaps one day many years ago they believed in the greatness of this or that company, they were on board with the mission, but now today, it is a paycheck. It is a bonus check. It is relatively easy work, but still empty.
And they feel drained.
Lost in their lives and choose to mask and cover the pain of a life that is empty with something that eases the pain.
Proclaiming that one day, one day they will do that thing.
That thing that they would love to do.
You know the thing.
The thing you desire.
The thing that turns you on.
The things that makes you wish you could be working at it, creating it, building it, putting yourself into it.
Yes that thing.
Not a thing that is soul sucking,
but is life giving.
Will make you THRIVE.
And if you applied yourself to this thing,
would not only make your soul sing,
but bring you abundance in so many ways and HAPPINESS.
Yes that thing.
Well that is where I got to pretty damn quick in my life.
I looked out at this world of lost souls, hungry people who craved more but was addicted to the suffering.
Who did not know how to change.
How to escape this track they had gotten on.
Where they would find their happiness, or if it was even okay to contemplate happiness.
I could not do it!
I could not settle.
I could not sell my soul to this way of existing.
I had to speak who I was, be me and do my own thing.
Feed my soul.
And I want you to know that you too can feed your soul.
I want you to know that if you are one of the very many people out there that want for so much more in life, dislike where you are sitting at in your life, in your work, your relationships, your happiness level or anything else, but feel CALLED to go another path. To be something that you have always wanted but are unsure as to how….
That you are only a decision away.
You do not have to give up everything you currently have and do to have it either, but you MUST be willing to STEP FULLY into who you are.
To listen to your SOUL and to stop hiding.
Stop masking and avoiding.
The steps to a fulfilling life, a life that you have claimed and are living authentically may not mean to quite your job, or move states or countries, or change partners. No it may not mean any of that. It more than likely means none of that. But what it does mean is that you stop taking your own crap. Stop hiding from your desire to be something you know you were born to be.
Do you have a calling that you have been avoiding?
A mission that your soul knows is yours?
A passion that ignites your very soul, but currently you are lost as to how to expand it, make its successful, make it stand out and touch lives? Touch this world?
You can have it.
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Who will you be in 2019?
Here is the question that my mentor asked me recently.
At first when I heard it I wanted to jump to the answer.
I wanted to confidently state all my dreams and goals as though they were already.
But as I sat with this question,
truly sat with it and allowed it to settle into every cell of my being I could feel great emotion bubbling up with it.
I could feel myself not simply wanting to state with confidence my dreams and goals,
No, I wanted far more than this.
I wanted to truly feel myself expand.
And I was already being gifted this beautiful idea of expansion in being asked,
Who will you be in 2019?
And here is what I came up with.
I will be a woman on fire,
on fire for her life.
I will be a mother,
present, in love and compassion,
showing my children how to live fully,
and how to fly.
I will be a lover,
learning what I truly want for this next season of my intimacy. Committing to my true heart and core.
I will be a thought leader,
helping those who feel aligned to me to expand who they are and tap into the f-ck yes life they deserve.
I will be the soul crusader that I have always known that I am.
Never allowing for settling,
willing to rock the boat,
to stand in the face of that which is uncomfortable and THRIVE.
I will be a content creation magician,
open to my aligned intuitive desires and letting them unfold in ease.
I will be SOUL ALIGNED,
I will be ONLY a F-ck YES to myself,
at all cost.
I will live from a place of ease, grace, gratitude and joy.
I will be vulnerable, open and turned on.
I will be SOULFUL.
I will be magnetic.
I will be AUTHENTIC.
I will be deliberate.
I will be a mother f-cking bad a*s!!!!!
I will be a Rock Star in my business and in my life!
The truth is love,
my goal is to make 2019 a year that I am so effing proud of that I cannot help but brag about.
And what is wrong with that?
I know that some people cringe at the words,
brag and proud or pride.
I know that it may sound cocky to say that this is my desire, to be a F-ck YES! only to myself.
I know that to some,
who I aim to be for 2019 is not desirable,
and the thing is that I don’t really effing care.
And neither should you love.
because who you are.
Who you want to be.
Who your soul is screaming at you to get into alignment to becoming,
is most likely not going to please the majority of people.
And the sooner that you get right with this fact.
The sooner you realize that when you firmly,
confidently and unapologetically step into your true self,
that the majority of the world will not approve.
And the reason,
although it does not ultimately matter,
I will share with you for clarity and understanding.
The reason so many will hate on you.
The reason so many will mock and point,
will show their cruelness and even shun you.
Is because your light will be so F-CKING BRIGHT that it will reveal to them all that they are hiding from and do not have the courage to become.
Yes my love,
the more you SHINE,
the more the haters will make themselves known.
The more the darkness will try and take you down.
The average and ordinary,
never like the ones who CHOOSE to LIVE UNBOUND.
The ones who choose to be free,
to be turned on,
and in SOUL ALIGNMENT.
SO know this my love,
know that as you answer this question for yourself,
that the only right answer,
is the one that makes you squirm,
makes your feel as though you are hanging on the edge of cliff and taking in all the beauty.
It is the one that makes you shudder,
not from fear but from the thrill,
the thrill that you are FINALLY being a F-ck YES! to yourself.
Ignore all those naysayers.
Ignore all their threats.
Ignore all that they may throw at you,
and walk forward into this year.
This year of your GREATNESS.
This year where you make yourself proud.
Let your LIGHT be seen brightly.
Let your SMILE beam in joy.
Let your LAUGHTER shake fear into their walls of misery,
as you BRAG in GRATITUDE
of this F-ck YES! Year.
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Stop with all your excuses.
There are 51 weeks left in 2019,
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Respect your effing time!
Respect your effing time!
Over and over again I am reminded of this lesson.
Through the years I have been asked why I charge for consults?
I often get asked if I can do consults with potential new clients for free or discount.
I get asked if I would consider working at discount because this is a good cause.
If I would do a favor for a friend.
Or since I am such a sweet person, do it all for free.
It is frequently assumed that if I really want to build my business or help others build theirs that I should do the above.
I think not.
My response on some days to this inquiry is simple:
“Would you go to work and put your whole heart and soul into a job for no return?”
“Would you work for your job for free?”
Then why do expect me or anyone else to do this?
The truth is. I love my career. I cannot ever see myself doing anything else. And if this world did not run on the green stuff, then I would do what I do anyway. I often tithe coaching to people who I am called to do so with, but it is soul driven, NOT requested of me.
I respect myself, my time and your journey enough to know that by taking the step forward and putting your money where your mouth is out of play, is only going to cause roadblocks down the road for you and cause respect issues as well.
Years ago I use to do all of the above and then some.
I use to not only do free consults but I would also drive all over the Dallas area to meet these people.
I believed that I had too.
I believed that in order to build my empire I needed to stress.
I needed to put in the time.
I needed to stretch myself like this.
I had to pay the price.
Oh my f-cking God!
I was so effing wrong.
Well still today I occasionally get caught off guard.
I go and do these things.
Every now and again I find myself revising this lesson.
I should know that these maneuvers will never lead me to the life I desire nor will they help the people that look to me for direction.
The lessons need revisted I suppose.
Here I sit at one of my favorite restaurants
Enjoying a Cucumber Basil Smash cocktail and some lobster and shrimp stuffed mushrooms.
Deciding on what to order for lunch.
(I think I am going with the lobster bisque today)
And how did I end up here.
Well I am relearning the above lesson you see.
Yes I did a favor.
And I understand that things come up in life.
With that said,
Respect your effing time!
And mine too.
But you know what I truly think?
To be able to revisit my personal respect for myself and my most valuable treasure, my TIME.
Gratitude for being here at location I love, enjoying the food and drink I have chosen.
Gratitude that I can share with you this lesson, in hopes you can gain from it.
Gratitude that nothing ever really gets me,
Lemons to lemonade.
Here I sit.
A little behind my schedule sure.
Now with my lover,
Enjoying my drink and food on this Sunday.
And knowing that I took a disrespect of my time and turned it into an experience of bliss and positive manifestation.
Here’s to loving your life.
Here’s to honoring your time and life.
And as always,
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