I am looking for a girlfriend experience….

I am looking for a girlfriend experience…

I can’t help it, men wake up with cum on the brain…

It’s your fault, you are so hot, I just cannot control myself…

You teach tantra, so that means that you will have sex with me…

I want to sex you…

So what do you think? (insert below average unsolicited dick pic here)

And so many other statements that we coaches, educators, tantra teachers and WOMEN GET DAILY.

And I have left some of the more raunchy ones off of this list.

If I shared what gets stated and shown to me frequently via Facebook messenger and other lines of social media and randomly to my email or phone I would get kicked off of Facebook. Funny little note here, if I report someone on Facebook for sexual harassment or aggressive statements or out of standard pictures I get to keep the pictures and messages, it is left up to me to dispose of them. But if I say one word that someone scrolling through see’s and is upset about then my posting is trashed and I am booted for three days…FAIR????🤔

My rant here is because I want to bring to light the ill ideas that so many have of women in general.

How so many (sorry men, but it is effing true) men think it okay, normal, ACCEPTABLE and even appreciated to message and make the comments that they do to random women they do not know or even ones that they do know.

The above leading statement, “I am looking for a girlfriend experience.” was recently messaged to me here on Facebook from an old client of mine who after yesterdays communications has been blocked and is on the cusp of having a restraining order served if he does not simmer his ass down.

YES! He took it that far.

It is hard to rattle me.
It is difficult to get to me with the distasteful pictures and comments.
I typically just delete after a good laugh. 🤣🤣🤣
With no message back.
Every now then when I am hormonal or just in a bitchy mood and had enough of the shenanigans that these pervs who seem to be dressed up as adult men send out,
on these days,
these days I get a little sarcastic.
And fire back something. 📣🤣🤦‍♀️
I consider it tossing my ego some breadcrumbs.
As I do so much work to keep light on my ego and stay aware of where it is and how it is trying to control me.

But then this shiz 💩happens.
An old client solicits me for sex.
Assuming it is okay.
Assuming that I would I guess be excited at his proud offer.
And then to his dismay, I say – NO! 😱

Sorry sir, I don’t do that.
I don’t sleep with my clients.
I don’t do sexual things with my clients.
If you want to do a coaching appointment over dinner, yes we can .
If you want and extended coaching session, yes we can do that too.
You want me to listen and give you connection that way, yes we can do that too.
You want a hug. – yes I will give you a hug if you need it.

Oh wait, you want me to come to your hotel room and stay the effing night????? ( scratching my head as I wonder where he got this idea from🤔)

Ummmmm…. let me see if that is in my pay grade? or desire grade?

Ohhhhhhhhh…..

F-CK NO!!!!!!!!!

Yeah.
And yet so many men out there think that we women will be ecstatic to just have a guy message and say, ” I wanna f-ck you.” or ” I love you. So lets have sex. Let me touch you here and there. Do this and that to you. I can show you want a real man is like.”

And we women are to go weak at the knees I guess.
And get wet, and be like “Oh my God, my soulmate has arrived! YES. YES. YES. Please, take me. Let me bend over for this two pump chump that I have been dreaming of.”

LOL.
Right?

Oh I know what will make it better.
This chick she is hot and she teaches on sex.
I will offer to pay her for the two pumps.
That will be appealing.
That will seal the deal.

SERIOUSLY GUYS?

And these same men will proclaim themselves Conscious Men.
Spiritual Men.
Emotionally Mature Men.
Wise Men.
Understanding Women Men.

Of which none really apply.

I am a woman who loves men.
I love supporting men.
I love working with men.
I love seeing men become better men.
Having the love, the relationships, the sex and abundance that they want.

But with someone that is not me.
Unless you are my boyfriend. My lover.
Which FYI is NOT an easy place to get.

Women can be easy for sure.
Some more than others.
And this has a lot to do with a lot of things.
But most women who love themselves, respect themselves and KNOW WHAT THEY WANT.

Will not bed easy.
Or with just anyone.
And for certain not with these FOOLS!

Sorry wantabe gents, I only provide a girlfriend experience to my boyfriend.
And he is my boyfriend because he is at least wise enough to not make these stupid assumptions.

SO this rant, is for all you ladies out there.
Single or taken.
No matter your relationship status,
no matter your body type,
no matter your background,
religion,
career,
education level,
or ethnic background.

I know we all get this SHIZ consistently and it sucks.
So the next time a dude sends you a unsolicited dick pic and says what do you think baby?
Simply say, ” I think you should not be sending me child pornography and I am reporting this.”

Guys, you can call me whatever name you want right now, and if you are calling me names and taking offense then you might be one of these dudes I am speaking of.

In Jeff Foxworthy terms, “Here’s Your Sign!”

This may be a controversial post…
This may have some anger and frustration attached,
and I am NOT claiming that all men are this way ( thank goodness you are not or we women would be very upset and lonely) What I am saying is that –
💩💩💩THIS SHIZ IS NOT OKAY!!!💩💩💩

Guy’s you have got to realize that if all you think you have to offer is that little picture and some fowl words, some begging and then some anger when you get NOTHING but crickets or go the eff away….

That YOU have got some inner work to do.
You have got to learn some things about women and life.
We don’t owe you anything, certainly not our sex.
Maybe a blocking on social media… but our thanks and appreciation for this crap is not owed.

You want to have a chance with a women,
appeal to her mind and heart.
Women DO NOT operate like men.
Your pictures will not captivate us and make us want you.
And we typically don’t let sex rule our lives.
Or our actions.
And if you really want a woman,
then you need to F-CKING EARN HER!

Become a man.
Start there.
We are not babysitters.
We are not wanting the immaturity,
the disrespect

Your dick….
Your sexual comments are NOT A TURN ON.

Got it?
I sure as eff hope so.

But sadly the men who need to read this,
WILL NOT.

And to the rest of you men out there,
who this does not apply too.

THANK YOU!!!!🙌

Keep doing you!
The world needs more GOOD MEN.

Okay rant over.

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5 Replies to “I am looking for a girlfriend experience….”

  1. What I can say is that we men need to wake up and show up as the real gentlemen we claim we are. It’s really unacceptable that some people like the fellow who Kendal writes in this article feel so free to be so gross and blind to his stupidity. Where is the decency protection! When Social Media will really stop those virtual rapes to women???? Sorry, but this is what we all are idle and doing nothing: Virtual Rape. This has to end and now! You have all my support, Kendal, and you are really brave come forth with such honest and bold statement.

  2. Thank you Richard D. for your support and comment here. I adore this titling that you have given it, Virtual Rape. How powerful. Expect to see me write and talk on this very topic. Stealing your statement. 🙂

  3. Hi Kendall,

    As a man, I’ve never really understood men like you described, and not sure I would call them “men” at all. They are more like a horny teenager, and even when I WAS a teenager, so LONG ago, I still didn’t behave like that. I think this behavior has gotten progressively worse with the “supposed” anonymity of the Internet, and people thinking they can say whatever they want to whomever they want, without worrying about any repercussions. The funny thing is, most of the idiots you describe, wouldn’t have the nerve to say some of the things they do if they met the other person IN person.

    Don’t get me wrong, I do have “Sex on the Brain” as much as any other guy, but I have the common sense to know not to say the things that may be in my head, because it is disrespectful and not going to get you the results you want anyway. Women and the female form fascinate me and always have, but I’ve learned to appreciate them silently. In today’s culture, you can’t even honestly compliment a woman’s outfit without potentially offending them or being accused of sexual harassment, so I’ve found it is better to NEVER deviate from professional discussions into personal ones. I take this same approach with men or women, and whether or not I know someone well or not. I’ve always responded to people with yes Ma’am or yes Sir, and no Ma’am and No Sir, and today I find people taking offense to that. It makes me just want to be a hermit. LOL!

    You always give such great advice, and I can only hope that more people are exposed to it, both Men and Women. Honestly, I wish it were possible to TEACH Common Sense, but I’ve found that I would probably have more luck turning lead into gold than teaching someone common sense that doesn’t have it. HA!

    Thank you for a great article, and I hope that men will take heed to what you’ve said and stop harassing you and other women in such degrading ways.

    Take care,
    Lynn

  4. Kendall –
    I am a 58 year old woman that has been single for about 12 years now after a 25 year marriage. The messages and pics you refer to are what I receive almost daily for the past DECADE! I have almost given up hope that there are any truly good men out there. It seems impossible to communicate the fact that I would enjoy a healthy, adventurous sex life with a man, without them reacting in the most immature and insulting way. I have joined almost every internet dating site at one time or another, and have not found any distinguishable difference between them as far as the men I meet. Your rant is spot on, and I know that most single woman that are seeking a relationship are nodding along with everything you have said. We all keep stating the same things over and over, and hopefully, one day we will communicate it in a way that will get the message across. Thank you for everything that you do.

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