It’s a THING.
And it’s a thing that you gotta get some of if you want to have the life that you claim that you want.
We have been raised to have shame over loving ourselves.
We have been raised to believe that it is wrong or even bad to think highly of ourselves,
or to brag.
And it is “selfish” ( meaning bad) to ask for what we want, need or desire.
But instead the correct path to happiness is to look like this so we have been raised to believe…
Talk like shit about yourself,
hate on your body,
on your thoughts,
in your life.
Be SUPER effing critical about everything and never admit to your glory.
Downplay everything good and hype up everything that is not perfect in your life.
Make sure that you are NEVER offending everyone else,
yes you are responsible for everyone else’s feelings, ideas, perceptions, thoughts and actions,
so make sure to never mess up or have an opinion that does not match whomever you are with.
Put others before yourself at all costs.
Exhaust yourself and keep giving,
but don’t bitch that you are at your breaking point.
Suck it up.
Don’t show your emotions,
any of them but “blase.”
Indifference is the best path,
even if it’s not true.
hide because it is too effing much for the world around you.
And know that you are most likely at fault for the crap no matter what,
and if it’s not you then feel offended instantly,
if anyone says different or God forbid
goes against all of these rules of how to live a happy successful life.
And just be happy with it already,
‘cus this baby is what life is all about.
This is living the dream.
This is success.
F-cking crazy as all hell is’nt it?
I mean when I write it out like that,
unless you are blind, dumb and stupid,
then you have to admit that anyone who actually thinks or feels this way is NEVER going to be thriving,
going to experience success or empowerment,
never going to feel confident.
Most likely only be used and hurt frequently,
will have a crappy backbone,
will not know themselves or anyone else for that matter,
and will simply not ever touch happiness.
So what is the answer?
Get a f-cking THRONE-TOOD!
There I said it.
It is high time that you started to value yourself.
Claiming your life, ‘calling in your blessings,
being a conscious co-creator,
manifesting a life that is full of wonder, love and success,
REQUIRES YOU TO PUT YOUR CROWN ON.
As long as you keep disrespecting God’s glory and power and not allowing his power and will to move through your life,
then you will keep falling prey to this stinking thinking love.
As long as you keep believing that God wants you to walk looking down at the ground,
tripping in misery over all that you have lost and ignoring the joy that your life could be,
then you will never feel the wonder of walking with you head held high,
your eyes meeting others in unconditional love and acceptance,
or the witnessing of the miracles that happen daily,
IN YOUR LIFE.
As long as you keep being available for scarcity,
and never picking up that crown that God has handed you,
then you will continue to suffer by your own hand.
And you will forever remain a slave to the enemy known as fear.
Oh, beautiful, don’t you see the path that you are too walk.
Can you not feel the call in your soul?
Now in our world we need more than ever before for you to RISE UP….
But that means that you have to accept that many who choose to remain in darkness and pain will be disgusted by your choice.
They will call you names,
they will hate on you and shame you,
they will want to tear you down in any way they can,
and they will make you doubt your path.
It will require you to have courage,
to love yourself more than you thought possible and to walk in FAITH.
And if you choose to step away from the many who still remain in fear,
if you choose to instead embrace your power,
and the love that the universe/God has for you,
then your life will be one of bliss and glory.
THAT is what we are each to do.
That is how we celebrate life,
Are you ready, love?
Are you ready to finally say F-ck Yes! to yourself and your dreams and stop making excuses and sharing the thousands of reasons as to why you cannot do/be/have?
But instead just step firmly in faith on this path before you that is calling you?
Are you ready to stop giving your power just lip service but acting in faith on it?
I can tell you that many people say they are light workers,
they claim to be abundant,
they proclaim their faith,
and they say they believe in magic and miracles,
they even proudly state that they get manifesting and that they are powerful manifestors….
and they are.
But, if you are struggling,
if you are suffering,
if you are feeling lost, tired and lonely…
Then baby, you are not really claiming your crown.
If you are not happy, (truly)
then you still have not figured it out,
and it YOU that this is written for.
It is you that need to KNOW YOUR WORTH.
It’s time to pick that crown up and have a THRONE-TOOD….
Because the life that you want for DEMANDS IT!
So Get One.
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”
Ready to step forward and say yes to your crown love?
Ready to stop being available for suffering, pain and misfortune?
Let’s speak today about no more reasons and excuses,
and get that crown picked up and put where it rightfully goes.
Message for deet’s.
So you think you can poly?
You think you can do open relationship?
Right now I have a bunch of couples coming to me with the desire to open their relationship up.
I have a bunch of singles who desire to get into an open relationship as well.
What’s up with all the openness?
I will tell you what’s up with all the openness…
Open relationships are effing amazing!
They are built on an unconditional love and acceptance that most monogamous relationships could only ever dream of.
Open relationships when done right,
are all about each partner giving themselves and each other the permission and support to explore who they really are and to get their needs and desires met how they feel fit without the fear of loosing their primary partner.
Open relationships encourage each partner to truly work on themselves and move through their limiting belief structures,
through their fear based needs and ideas around jealousy and control equalling love.
Open relationships are hardly ever about the sex.
Although sex is a big part of the relationship guidlines and agreements,
sex is never what it is ultimatly about.
And here is why…
Anyone can go get laid pretty easily.
If you are a female,
there is free, easy to get sex around every corner, no matter your age, looks or anything else.
If you are man, yeah it can certainly be a bit harder ( no pun intended..lol- okay maybe intended)
but at the end of the day if you truly desire it and have a bit of confidence then there is a chick who will hand it over pretty easily.
So sex is not difficult to get.
But thats just friction based, empty sex.
There is nothing too it.
No heart, no soul, no connection.
Its just skin rubbing skin ending with a pump, pump ooohhh, goo, moment.
And that is most likely part of the problem in the primary relationship that triggered this whole idea to open the relationship to start.
Heartless, quick, empty, friction based sex on one side or both.
Opening up the relationship is because one partner if not both feels lost in who they are.
They are starving to be seen, felt and understood.
They are hungry for a deep orgasm.
And that deep orgasm can only come about with care,
with some feelings attached to the person they are dancing with.
Or else, its pointless.
It’s empty and in truth sorta traumatizing to the mental and emotional houses.
Opening up is about realizing that not all connection is equal.
Realizing that NO ONE person will ever, or can ever fill all of our needs. That when we are closed that we will live out our lives only meeting one aspect of self as well.
When we open, it is more about us meeting all the facets of who we are, then about getting laid or having an orgasm.
Opening up is about allowing yourself to breathe into self,
to explore different venues of the mind, the emotions, the physical body.
If you have had sex with more than one person in your life,
then you can pause a moment and think about the different ways each partner made you feel. You can think about how you reacted, conversed differently with each person. How each person, taught you new things about life, or revealed different likes or thoughts, even personalities of the self.
This is why people open.
We grow weary and bored with the self.
We become numb to all this beauty we hold in ourselves,
and we forget who we are.
Our candles grow dim and we need someone to strike a match and help light us up again to all the treasure we have within.
A person who lives in fear of loosing their partner prevents themselves and their partner from ever authentically showing up in the relationship or in the sex. Fear creates an energy of neediness,
fear creates a desire to control outcomes,
and a belief that if our partner loved us truly then they would always put us first.
After all we are the primary partner.
We are the significant other.
We are the life mate.
In truth, the relationship that must hold center stage for any person,
is the relationship with self.
And when we choose to disregard the relationship with self,
we close ourselves to all we have to offer this life,
to offer our partner,
our family and friends.
And we slowly die within.
So yes, this may seem like I just said you need to be selfish in relationship and put yourself in front of EVERYONE else,
and I did say that.
You will never be able to fill the needs of those you love if your vessel is empty.
You must put self- care first.
and in open relationship,
this is understood and honored.
We best honor and love our primary partners and all relationships in our lives when we take care of self in all area’s first.
Now, don’t let this statement lead you to believe that open relationship is about partners demanding things left and right without care to anyone else’s feelings or needs.
Only a self- centered person does that.
And self-centeredness and selfishness are vastly different things.
No, in open relationship the partners discuss needs,
discuss ideas on how to best support each other,
and know that in order to remain deeply rooted in each other and keep their relationship primary,
that they MUST set healthy guidelines, boundaries and agreements in place and honor them.
They know the importance of setting aside time for connection daily and weekly with each other,
keeping the relationship that they claim as a primary,
but they do so by honoring themselves as well and speaking their needs and desires. Understanding that sometimes their partner cannot give them what they want or need in that moment.
Yes, open relationship equals difficult, real, raw conversations.
Open relationship means a willingness to see and hear your partners truth and know that you cannot always be the one to support them the way they need.
Open relationship understands that intimacy and vulnerability, truth and answers are not always pleasing or easy to step into.
But that it is what is needed if we truly love someone.
Today I ask you to look at your relationship,
no matter the label you identify with.
I ask you to look at your relationship and ask yourself these simple questions,
“Am I making my primary relationship, primary? And how am I doing this?”
“Am I acting out of fear and control in my relationship, or am I offering authentic unconditional love and support?”
“Do I feel that my partner owes me anything or is responsible for my feelings? If so how is this serving either of us or our relationship?”
And As Always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”
Want to learn about opening up in relationship or want to keep it monogamous but practice the conversations and relating skills of an open relationship? Message me today for deet’s on 1:1 coaching opportunities.
Pick me while I am ripe!
Suck all the juices from my flesh.
Let not a drop of me go to waist.
I want to fill you full of all I have,
all I can give and all you desire.
Sweet nectar pours from me,
each moment that I allow.
Sticky, sweet and refreshing.
This is how I want you to remember me.
Organic, raw and pure.
Yet satisfying and delicate.
A taste that make you crave more.
A taste of something rare.
Yes this is how I want you to enjoy me.
Pick me while I am ripe.
And let not a drop fall from this life,
without fully being consumed, devoured and enjoyed.
My life is worth nothing,
if not for the tasting.
Let your lips and mouth remember,
my flesh beneath them once more.
No moment can ever last forever,
no taste can be the same twice.
But this I promise you my love,
this taste will delight.
As long as you choose wisely,
let my juices flow from me,
Enjoy the sweetness they offer,
enjoy this moment.
Our lives are nothing,
they are worth not even a breath,
if we do not bask in the freshness,
the flavors that wash through.
sweet and juicy.
Is the only way to live.
Yet so many may dislike our fruit we bare.
Call it evil,
dirty and sinful.
How can anyone enjoy such rapture?
How can anyone delight in this flavor?
it is so putrid.
How can one swallow this?
It has contaminated our SOUL.
But this contamination,
this discomfort that you feel,
it comes not from the fruit or the juices,
in was here on your lips my dear.
This flavor that makes you ill,
was only brought to your taste,
by the sweetness that this life can offer,
but your fear will steal away.
Pick me when I am ripe,
let not any juice escape.
This life was for the rapture.
The pure delight of such.
When one who stands in their juiciness,
comes forth and speaks the truth,
the SOUL is contaminated.
Not of evil or sin,
but of its very TRUTH,
the truth that it is RIPE and waiting,
waiting to be enjoyed.
Consumed as a lover would wish,
enjoyed as the sweetness the angels bare true.
But you may fear this juice,
this truth and your SOUL.
Hide from it yet one more moment,
until it feel rotten,
lost and unworthy.
But never understand,
that this cannot be.
it is still connected to the vine,
the vine that has been blessed.
And all you need to ever do,
is taste it here,
taste its juice,
And yes my dear,
it is uncomfortable to know your truth this day,
to stand here in the garden,
and look the other way.
But know that you are juicy.
You are sweet and ripe.
Your fruit is for the taking,
and life will bare it.
your thoughts and feelings,
are what keeps your vine alive,
but so many are uprooted,
so many are frightened and hungry.
Thirsty for a purpose.
Lost in this garden.
Wake up beautiful,
wake up and feel your ripeness.
Let yourself leak your juices into your lovers mouth,
let your flesh be seen,
So water the roots,
water the vines,
water the fruit.
Open yourself to faith.
And let yourself be consumed.
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”
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