This is WHY I love my haters, nahsayers and skeptics….
I just want to say that I love you!
I truly do.
Without those of you who live for the fight,
for the ego, for the anger and the sadness,
there would be no mission to bring light and love into this world.
Without all of you who are super critical,
who find more value and worth in trying to be right then focusing on beauty and truth.
For all of you who feel the need to judge, criticize, make fun of, and attempt to squash,
there would be limited exploration into self,
into deeper awareness and understanding.
Without you who adore darkness and hatred,
who live for the putrid thoughts and ill feelings,
there would not be contrast,
showing what love is and what love is not.
Revealing what walking on the path of soul is and what it is not.
For those who speak of their belief,
their faith and their loyalty,
to something greater and grander,
how they live the words of masters of our past,
yet weld the words of inner demons and sadness.
This void that you choose to bless the rest with,
is a blessing sweet soul.
It is a blessing,
and for this I love you.
I love you,
the skeptics that choose to follow,
and cast stones that are not yours to cast.
I love you for showing the path that hatred and self-contempt can take any of us down,
for sharing the void that you must feel,
the lostness that eats at your soul.
I hear your pain sweet one.
I see your pleas,
Your desire to be recognized,
to feel some sort of worth.
If even from a negative source.
Much like a small child,
who acts out to receive attention,
you too act out to be seen.
I tell you here,
I tell you from my heart and my soul,
although you may not want to believe,
to hear or to receive.
I tell you now,
I LOVE YOU.
You are worthy.
You are beautiful.
You are deserving of happiness and abundance.
No matter how lost,
or sad or traumatized you may be.
YOU are worthy.
One day your soul will speak,
and you will choose a different path.
You will choose to hear the words,
the words of your worth.
You will realize that in order to fill that void,
that gaping hole that resides inside of you,
you will have to lean away from hatred,
away from judgement,
away from the casting of the stones.
You will have to embrace that we are all part of the same race.
We are HUMAN.
And we have our misguiding’s.
Our ego catches the best of us,
but still God wants for nothing more,
then EVERYONE of us to LOVE life.
To love thy neighbor as thy self.
To know that none walk without sin.
To know that we are loved.
To know that we are worthy.
And to OWN the very truth that LOVE,
Love is the answer.
This is why I love my haters, my nahsayers and the skeptics that choose to follow me.
That choose to condemn.
That choose to hate as they preach.
I love you sweet haters.
Thank you for supporting my mission.
Thank you for supporting my soul work.
Thank you for the opportunities to share,
and from this authentic space,
that as I sit in stillness,
and listen to the calling.
I know who I am .
I know how important it is…
to STAND firmly,
to speak in love,
to share the message of a life worth living.
The life that we are all here to LIVE.
A life of THRIVING.
For anything other is not giving praise to our creator.
I love you haters, nahsayers and skeptics.
Thank you! Thank you for your sharing.
Without YOU there would be no reason.
I share with you now one of my favorite messages,
the one that most aligns…
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.” – 1 Corinthians 13:4-8
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You can’t jump right in!
You have to make her feel you
You have to slowly earn her trust
You have to stroke her heart until she opens
And when you think she is open and you have found your way in… keep going because you’re not even halfway there.
There are a million barriers and blocks that are still in place and your ability to hold her in every sense of the word, earn her true trust, and expand her heart are the only way past these walls.
You think that because you’ve had her body that you have her heart. You are a fool.
You haven’t even tasted a drop of her sexual depth and you won’t until you hold her…
I mean really hold her!
Stand in the heat of her fire and don’t run
You spout pretty words but these words mean nothing to a heart that has heard them before. The feminine doesn’t want your false promises. The feminine wants your presence, your truth, and to be explored in all ways.
You MUST keep the dance going.
You MUST keep diving deeper
You MUST throw her into ecstatic bliss outside of the bedroom as much as inside the bedroom.
You say you want her…. prove it.
You say you desire her… show it.
You say you hunger for her depth… then stop being lazy AF with her heart!
You can’t just walk into a woman’s world and expect her to give herself to you. The beauty of a woman is also her complexity. There are so many layers and they won’t be shown to you until you have proven yourself trustworthy to be shown these depths. And then…. SURPRISE!!! You will find more depths to be explored.
Let me share a quick story.
I was with a man that I had known lightly at an intimate level. In all honesty, we didn’t know each other at any great depth but the energy was intriguing and so we explored.
Though in conversation one day he told me he wanted me to share the depths with him of things that had been going on… to trust him, to rip my heart open for him, to see behind my walls.
I got PISSED!!! Yes, I was severely angry at this moment.
How DARE he ask this of me!!!
He hadn’t done a bit of work to earn my heart.
What made him think he was worthy of my trust when there was no stroking at all.
He wanted to “Dry F*ck” my emotions.
No thank you!
That doesn’t sound pleasant.
So I could be left sore, bleeding, and damaged on the ground when he walked away for months not to speak to me again?
He spoke beautiful words
He was amazingly attractive
He was seductive in his touch
He was playful
But I wasn’t into games with my heart
And he didn’t put the effort in of truly stroking my depth
Allowing the true awakening of my arousal.
And if you drop a woman… you close her off even deeper and put your own barriers in the way.
This isn’t about sex… a woman can give you sex. We can easily go in and have what appears to be amazing sex but it’s only the tip of the iceberg of what you could have.
If you want her and I mean really and truly want her…
You have to be willing to go all in.
You have to take the time to open her up.
And I promise you that when you think she is opened to you, that there is more to still be explored.
And the second you stop exploring is the second you will be locked out of heaven!
Go explore your woman’s depth and I promise you will find your depth.
But unless you want to release her fire towards you…
Don’t expect or demand a depth you have not earned.
Yes, you have to earn it!
Sending you all …
Love, Light & Blessings,
“I want a man who is faithful.
I want a man who is dependable.
A man who is kind.
Who loves my children.
And is strong in integrity.
I want a man who is confident.
I want a man who is passionate.
A man who makes me laugh.
And generous with his time,his resources, his love.
I want a man that listens, that I can tell anything too.
A man that is romantic.
Good in bed.
A man that will help around the house and can cook.
I want a man who has a purpose and is driven.
Is financially stable.
I want a man who is tall.
I want a man with a handsome face.
I want man who cares for his body.
Is muscular and makes me feel safe.
I want a man who has a good sense of style.
I want a man who loves the outdoors.
But also loves fine dining and has good etiquette.
I want a man who loves adventure.
Who wants and can travel the world with me.
I want a man that has freedom.
I want a man who will treat me like his queen.
I want a man who respects me.
I want a man who does not want to control me.
I want a man who is spiritually sound.
And I want it ALL from YOU!”
Read that list ladies and gents.
I could write it about what men want as well.
It’s hard to read that list and believe that one person could fulfill all of those desires.
It’s hard to believe because no one person can.
Sure we can fulfill some of those all of the time,
and other’s of those some of the time,
but can one person ever fulfill all of those all of the time?
And should it be put on someone to do such a thing?
A hefty list of expectations I do say.
And it’s my list.
And my list has about thirty more very specific things on it as well.
And what I am looking for at the end of my list is more important than any of the specific things on it.
And that is alignment.
I want a man who is aligned to his purpose.
I want a man that is SOUL ALIGNED.
What this desire will give is all of the above and then some, but in the perfect harmony that is right for him and for myself.
Perfect for the moment.
I also, do not expect for a man to have everything on my list.
There are things that I am willing to look at,
to not need because they are not high priorities.
And then there are the things that are CRUCIAL.
And how do I know that these things are crucial?
Because I am like Goldilocks in dating.
I have come to realize that dating is about figuring out what you like,
what you don’t like,
what is cool,
what is not cool,
what aligns to you or not.
Dating is about sampling everything you can at the buffet and figuring out what has that more flavor and what makes you want to puke.
The biggest challenge in dating is that it takes time and energy.
It requires patients.
It requires one getting to know yourself.
And getting right with who you are first, before trying to find someone else to fill in your gaps for you.
Dating offers you the ability to meet yourself in so many ways.
I f-cking LOVE dating!
And maybe that is why I am so good at it.
And why I have no issue finding incredible men of all types with a flip of my hair it seems.
It’s true though.
I am often shocked at how many people have difficulty with dating.
And often after speaking to them about it,
the basis of their issues is that they don’t really like people or they don’t really love themselves.
Often some combination of the two.
How are you to ever meet someone worth while,
someone that has anything you want from your list,
if you hate people.
All you will ever discover is characteristics that you hate.
Because that is what you are focused on.
Or if you don’t have self-esteem or love of self,
then how will you ever meet someone who is confident, passionate, loving, giving or takes care of themselves?
You have to be matching what you want to call in.
So back to the Goldilocks Mindset on Dating.
The concept here is simple.
Get to know what you want.
What you need.
What you desire.
And who the f-ck you are.
By dating many, many, people.
And DO NOT get committed quickly.
Dating is all about getting to know someone and letting yourself be revealed as you go.
These two things will never happen over night.
Matter a fact it has been proven that new relationship energy (NRE) takes about 18 months to 3 years to wear off. This is that energy that you feel when you are just getting to know someone one. Where the rose tinted glasses are still on. They can do hardly anything wrong and you make excuses for them left and right, make assumptions about things and don’t really see clearly the love that is before you. This is the time in a relationship that you are living a storybook.
And then one day you wake up and you meet this new person, you wonder where he/she has been hiding the last year or two, and who took away your beautiful mate that was oh so perfect. Now the real stuff comes out and you get to actually get into relationship with the person.
Well if you were dating like Goldilocks,
then you would not be putting all your hopes, needs and desires onto one person.
You would not be looking at the person you are just meeting with hungry eye’s of, “oh please be the one and make my misery of dating be over.”
You would not be so willing to sell yourself short of the quality of a mate that you so badly want.
You would not be so quick to change yourself to try and match someone who is not in alignment to your soul or heart,
and instead you would look at each person who you explored as a beautiful experience for the moment.
One that was there to reveal to you things about yourself.
About desires that you have.
About the life that you want to live.
The relationship that you want to have.
And you would be in gratitude for all the things brought to the table of you relating with them,
no matter how you perceived them in the moment.
If you were dating like Goldilocks,
you most certainly would not sell out to the first bowl of porridge that presented itself to you, or the first bed that looked good but maybe did not feel just right in some way.
No, you would love yourself enough to take your sweet time to get the relationship that was in SOUL ALIGNMENT.
You would try out many different scenarios.
You would explore lot’s of different flavors.
And you would allow yourself to gain clarity on what felt best to you.
You would be unconditional in your dating.
With limited expectations,
and only a desire to reveal and be revealed.
The Mindset of Goldilocks in dating is all about exploration.
It is a mindset of learning about self.
It is a mindset that does not entertain scarcity.
It is knowing that “The ONE” will come when you truly love self and know thy self. When you you are vibing at the level that you magnetize him/her to you.
Anything before then will be about seeing where you are vibing at and learning more about what you like or dislike.
And you would do it all in YOUR OWN TIME.
Not some predetermined social idea of when it should happen or guidelines as to what some story line says it “should.”
So for all you single’s out there who are looking for that special someone and believe that you are running out of time,
ready to give up or cut yourself short on what you want in a relationship,
let me share this concept with you and let me assure you that you are worth a beautiful relationship.
One that has so much of what you want and then some.
You can have it all.
And you will.
As long as you learn how to approach love and relationship with unconditional relating and a focus of self-love and honor first.
Remember that you call into your life that, that you focus on most.
So where has your focus gotten you?
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You know you are beautiful.
Just the way that you are.
You are so freakin’ dynamic,
you are a powerhouse of abundance.
You are magnetic.
You are lucky as sh*t.
You are smart.
You are AMAZING.
And yet you doubt yourself.
You listen to what this world tells you,
about it’s fears.
About it’s expectations.
You listen as though those statements need to be your reality.
You listen and you wonder,
what is wrong with you?
Why is it so damn hard to connect with others?
Why do you still feel empty?
And you blame yourself for everything.
You feel responsible for everyone.
Always looking at how you can help more,
be more, give more, sacrifice more.
But it seem’s that no matter how much you give,
you still do not achieve what you want.
ABUNDANCE in all things good.
You taste of these delicacies,
but they are fleeting.
They wrap themselves around you for moments in life,
but life is filled more with overwhelm, suffering,
struggle than all that you want.
WHY? You scream from the top of your lungs to God.
Are you not worthy?
Are you not enough?
Or are you too much for this world?
Perhaps too much for those in your world?
You sit and you think,
you over think.
and you feel yucky about how you are showing up.
About how you are not being all you know that you are.
And you fear loosing your life.
The years pass so quickly.
You watch your children grow and become parents themselves.
You watch your own parents age.
And the clock just keeps ticking.
Life does not change.
Moments come and tease you.
But they only linger for a few breaths.
And then they are gone.
At your core you know this is not right.
At your core you feel that you have missed a turn.
That it should not be this way,
You know that you were built for more.
You know that you were built to share a message,
to impact this world,
to teach your children through your living what life is to be like.
And it is NOT to be about paying bills and building companies for others.
It is not to be lived for the 5 o’clock hour.
Or holidays and weekends.
It is not for masking with drugs, alcohol, addictions and fear.
Life is for LIVING.
How does one thrive?
It’s simple my love.
It’s really freakin’ simple.
You get greedy.
You get selfish.
You become a YES not to this world and all of it’s inhabitants,
but to YOU!
You fall in love with yourself first before you go and try and find someone to fall in love with or to love you.
You get present and stop living in your past,
pulling it forward and recreating it for today.
You stop worrying about the future,
and get happy about your now.
Because your now is your future of yesterday.
Fill yourself up BABY.
Don’t wait to be filled.
Don’t wait for someone else to save you.
You don’t need saved.
You just need to open yourself up to your joy.
That thing that you have been hiding from all the while trying to be responsible and pay your bills and fit into the social norm.
I can tell you this love,
those who are focused on fitting into the social norm,
will never find all that you are looking for,
all that they are wanting.
No they will not.
They will only find more of everyone else’s troubles, ‘fears, judgments and hold themselves in the norm of surviving, but never THRIVING.
you want it all.
Your soul wants you to have it.
God will support you.
And all you have to do….
Is CLAIM YOUR LIFE NOW.
SO what are you waiting for?
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I don’t think you are where you think you are.
I mean you sit there and share with me everything that you want.
You tell me how talented, skilled and gifted you are.
You tell me how you understand the laws of the universe.
You tell me how much you know you must take that leap into your calling.
And yet in the same sentence you tell me how you are not worthy.
How you still HAVE to go through these challenges.
You tell me this and that.
And you are correct on all of it.
But I find myself questioning,
I question if you hear all that you share.
Do you hear your fear of change?
Do you hear how badly your soul wants more?
Do you hear the fact that you are pulling the trigger, when you keep denying all that you can be?
and only you are the one.
And I tell you this as your friend,
as your sister,
as your lover,
as one who is walking this path with you,
step by step,
you my dear are not where you think you are.
None of us are.
And yet we are.
We are where we are,
and it perfect right where we are.
But your perception my love,
is off kilter.
In so many ways you see yourself in a light that you have not yet opened too. It is within you,
but you have not embodied it.
Therefore, you are not there.
You are still hiding in your own shadow.
You are still wondering through the woods of your chaotic fears and thoughts.
Justifying each step as a lesson.
A lesson that you believe you must learn,
that you must move through,
in order to be worthy of stepping on your path.
And all you ever need to do,
is look at where your feet have already landed.
There my love.
Look where you stand,
and you will see that you are not lost.
You are not too small,
or too much,
You my love,
are already standing on your path.
There is nothing more that you must do,
to receive all that you crave.
You are ready.
Yes you are.
The only thing that is holding you,
is your fear of saying yes.
Yes to all that you desire.
Yes to all that you can be.
Yes to all that this world wants from you.
Yes to all.
To all that you know.
You are there my love,
you are right there at the gates of everything.
And yet you do not see.
You do not believe.
You insist instead that you are somewhere else,
and that your path is still to be found.
That you must search,
that you are lost,
that you ,
But assure me in affirmations,
that you know all that you need.
That you are a creator of your life.
That you can manifest with ease.
And that you know the steps that you must take.
And there you are,
with that lost look in your eye’s,
that fear in your heart,
and a smile on your face.
You hope that no one see’s.
But the stench of your illusion wafts through the room.
And the sweat on your brow,
shares more than a heat in your groin.
You are stuck my love,
you are stuck,
and you must know the truth.
The truth of how to unstick what is not glued.
Unstick what is not glued,
by standing up,
on your soap box,
and speak it loud.
Preach it to the empty room,
and as you preach ,
they will hear,
they will come,
and they will follow.
Your message my dear one,
is one that needs to be shared.
It is a covenant with God,
to share it,
authentically, unapologetically and with boldness.
Here my love.
Here you are.
in the mirror.
The mirror of your life,
of your message,
and on your path.
Step into your greatness my love.
And say F-ck Yes!
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“I’ve been praying.
I have been praying but it does not seem that my prayers are being heard.
They must be falling on deaf ears, or heaven has shut its gates to my plea.
I am in such need.
I am fearful, scared, and uncertain.
I have fallen to my knees, each and every night.
And asked for guidance, through this difficult time.
I’ve been praying.Lord, please help me.”
You may never want to read my words again, after you read this post.
Just a simple FYI.
I am going to preface this with, I am not condemning prayer.
I am not saying anything of the sort.
PRAYER is POWERFUL.
Prayer is wonderful.
Prayer is NEEDED.
However much like anything though, it is best when done in perfection, or as close to it as we can get.
And that is not to say that we cannot be human in our prayer and mess the eff up here and there.
But in order for us to get the answers that we desire,
which is WHY WE PRAY to begin with,
then we MUST do prayer right.
is not about the way you fold your hands,
or bow before an alter.
It is not about where you choose to go to pray,
or what faith you choose to follow.
It is not about the forgiveness of sins,
or the asking of such even.
is simply about VIBRATION.
When we pray we do so from fear.
We pray from a place of brokenness.
We pray from a belief that we do not have,
that we have done something to deserve this suffering,
that we are not worthy, and MUST ask for forgiveness.
That we must cower before the alter of our choice,
and we must make ourselves small.
We believe that whatever we are needing,
wanting or crying out for is not within our scope.
And so we pray.
We pray for help.
And this sweet one, is not the energy of God. This is not the energy of the divine..
This is not in love or of love.
This sort of prayer is one based in inverted pride.
No,this is not how God desires his people to show up.
This is not how we show off God’s power.
Proper prayer, as stated before is all about VIBRATION.
And vibration starts with your thinking.
Then your feeling.
Yes your emotions that are attached to those thoughts.
Proper prayer should ALWAYS be a prayer of GRATITUDE.
Find gratitude in the things that you have around you,
even if your life is sh*t.
Find gratitude in the life you have been given,
even if you are scared, suffering and lost.
Find gratitude in your struggle,
because it shows you where your work is at.
And that work that it is showing you is nothing more than a change in VIBRATION.
Gratitude is the ONLY proper prayer
.As any other will only lead you to further low vibe thoughts, fears, and concerns.
Thus you will embody suffering through the emotions that you feel based on this belief that it is out of your grasp to be FRUITFUL.
Prayer is about turning it over.
Showing your FAITH.And LETTING GO to GOD.
We do not let go, when we are attaching our inverted pride to any situation. Instead we are owning victimhood and a scarcity mindset.
In order for us to live in grace, abundance and joy, we must let go of our need to control through our fears and wounding.
Thus making every prayer a PRAYER OF GRATITUDE instead of FEAR.
Let God’s power show through you,
by leveling up your prayer life,
and step into CERTAINTY,
where all things are possible,
because God is GREAT.
This is the life of a believer.
And a prayer achiever.
Your VIBE Dictates Your Prayer.
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