Well are you?
Are you ready?
Stop what you are doing RIGHT NOW.
Your lazy as f-ck and don’t believe it is for you.
Stop Existing & Start Living
You know the lie.
It’s that lie that you tell yourself everyday of the week, sometimes twice on Sunday because your dreading the following morning.
Yes that lie.
The lie that all you have to do to be happy is:
- Work Hard
- Get Good Grades
- Get into a Great College
- Get a Job
- Make Money
- Buy a House and Car
- Get Married
And Voilà Your HAPPY!
I am writing this article because I have a son graduating this year from high school. He is feeling such a tremendous amount of pressure from his peers, teachers, and counselors around HAVING to have his whole life planned out. None of them understand how he can not have a life plan yet. Some are even deeply concerned about his future and ability to do anything “worth while” because he has no plan other than to survive the rest of this school year.
I suppose they are all right, after all he is considered an adult now at age 18. He has had a sufficient amount of years on this earth to know who he is, what he wants and how to go about getting it. All the other seniors are making their life plans and sending in college applications for education in the industry of their hearts desire or at least have decided on a career path that will pay them well and they will be successful at.
So WTF is wrong with my kid?
Such a looser he is. Not having any of this stuff figured out.
Funny thing ya know, he is actually planning on packing his bag and moving to Maui, planning on hiking, diving, surfing and enjoying his feet in the sand. Planning on reading books he loves, and just hanging out and embracing life as it comes to him, moment by moment.
The ONLY issue with this plan of his, is that is DOES NOT fit the societal norm of SUCCESS.
And how the hell can anyone be happy if they don’t have a college degree? or 100k in debt? or are not getting up five days a week working for the man?
There is no freaking’ way someone can be legitimately happy just living life without ALL that!
No instead of all that my son has decided that he will work in the food industry while he learns more about himself and life. While he discovers what his passion is. He has decided that he would make some small investments into crypto currency and learn about flipping properties. Although he does have a passion for art and could easily also look at becoming a tattoo artist if he desired as well. Maybe he will do all of it? Maybe he will do none?
What he does know is that the way the average minded person works hard, goes into debt and gives away their life is NOT what he wants.
He knows that although his passion is with the ocean and marine life that what he really wants to do would take him until he was 40 to get the position he wants and he most likely would end up settling somewhere along the line for something much less than his hearts desire because he “had too.” After all life happens and with it come responsibilities.
Then life becomes all about duty.
Duty to pay the bills.
Duty to take care of the house and car.
Duty to get up and go and make someone else rich.
Duty to be a good person.
Duty to get into a serious relationship.
Duty to make your spouse happy.
Duty, duty, duty!
And then you die!
That is it. That is all this whole existence is about. Doesn’t that sound wonderful. Yes, so I guess he had best have that life plan in order in the next 8 weeks, before life comes charging after him and making him surrender to it’s will of living without passion, without true love, without purpose and without happily ever after.
Yep he had best just stand up and be a man and do what all young men do. Make their parents proud by doing what they are told and getting into the right college and then the right job. The job that will suck the very life from his vein’s and make him wish Monday would never come again.
Well NOT MY KID!
Guess it is the curse of having a mom who parents like God. I will love him no matter what he chooses to do and I know for certain that he can do anything he puts his mind too. I also know for certain that the lie that we have all been told is just that: A LIE.
I know this because I thought it was truth and I beat myself up for many years not feeling worthy because I had not done what the world said I should do. Instead I ended up becoming a young mother, married early and struggling. It was not a shock as to why I was struggling. I had not followed the plan above. And then, then I started to paint the picture of the plan and follow it some and guess what?
I was still struggling.
I was still unhappy.
I had the job. The house. The husband. The car.
And the debt.
I was being a good citizen. A good friend, daughter, mother, and spouse.
So why was I not happy yet?
I was not living for me.
I was not being me.
I was FAKING it all!
Just Like you are. Yep I am calling you out on this RIGHT NOW. I bet that you are within the 85%-90% of the population that is faking their lives. I bet that you dread going to bed on Sunday and getting up on Monday. I bet that you live for the 5 o’clock hour. You live for weekends, vacations and holidays. I bet that you have your responsibilities taken care of and that you feel like a ATM machine for your kids and family. I bet that you wish you could do something else, but believe that you could never do it because it would not pay the bills.
Last thing you want is to be irresponsible.
I bet that even though you have that debt, that you are pretty comfortable with it because that debt is a sign that you went to school, got a degree and did it right. It is a sign that you bought the house and the car. It is a sign that you bought the furniture and have credit! Woohoo!!!! for credit.
It is a sign that you are a effing ADULT and your adulting the right way too, damn it!
But does this mean your happy?
Seriously, ask yourself this now.
Am I happy?
Well, are you?
I feel you. I feel that stomach ache. The tension in your neck and shoulders. The mild headache coming on and the fear and the desire for happiness.
Face it you were designed for more.
That is why your not happy with just settling for paying your bills and being responsible. You were designed for greatness!
The only thing STOPPING you from this greatness.
Yes, actually NO. That is the issue, you keep saying NO to yourself. You keep saying that you can’t, that your not worth it, that your not smart enough. That you should not want more. That it is stupid to want more. To be more.
The issue is that you BELIEVE the lie still and you are WAITING for happiness to come from this lie.
The TRUTH BABY is this, that if you want happiness, then you are going to have to CREATE it.
And it DOES NOT come from living a small life, where you have settled for the lie. No it comes from you EMBRACING who you are.
Embracing that you were born WORTHY.
Embracing that you are POWERFUL.
Embracing that it is NOT what you choose to do as a career, but who you choose to be as a person.
Embracing your joy.
Embracing your YES!
And consistently asking yourself, “What makes me happy?”
Consistently, seeking out new layers of yourself and being curious in life.
Buying the Bullsh*t Lie that we have all been told since we were small, buying into the pain, the suffering, the “worker bee” mentality of average and ordinary, will NEVER make you happy.
So when will you start to say YES to your dreams?
To your heart?
To your joy?
To your happiness?
When will you START to be a F*ck YES to the Most IMPORTANT person you know- YOU?
I hope you say that today is your lucky day.
Because I believe in you.
And so does God.
What a lovely trip to Boca Raton Florida I had this last week. It is trips like this one that just make my heart smile. Having the privilege to work with a dynamic couple, enjoy connection, conversation, good food and being able to share powerful teachings with such high consciousness souls… THIS, this is a F*CK YES!
People ask me all the time what I do for work…
You know here is the truth.
I DON’T WORK.
I get to share.
I get to just be me and share the knowledge and gifts that I have been given and learned how to tap into through the last 20+ years of my life.
And I get to do this with people I truly adore.
Many days, I feel like I am playing.
Many days I feel like if someone actually “caught” me in my work they would wonder what the hell I am doing.
Because enjoying life this much and doing the things that one loves DAILY, is not understood in our world.
But is most certainly, the GOAL I believe for many.
And it is our God given right as well.
The freedom and bliss that we can have in doing our true work far passes anything that is just paying the bills and causing our heads to ache and our muscles to constrict from the stress.
No, doing your life’s calling is WHERE IT IS AT BABY!
This is what my week has been about.
Sure it had it’s sexy moments.
It had it’s heart pounding, tear jerking, stomach clenching moments.
But ALL of the moments were PRESENT MOMENTS.
They were captured in love.
And I was HONORED to be the one to do the “work” with these beautiful souls.
Honored to spend another week of my life LIVING my WORK, not just SURVIVING my week.
Can you say the same for your week?
I ask you this not to flaunt anything but to get you to ask a VERY important question about your life and where you are at in it.
Have you considered why you are settling for less than what God’s wish for your life is?
How does this question make you feel in your body when you read it?
Do you even know what greatness God desires for your life?
And how the heck can you figure out what this greatness is and how you can achieve it?
I promise you this…
This greatness is NOT about just existing and paying your bills, fulfilling your duties and being a “good” person. It is not about waking up Monday morning and dreading your day and week or looking at Friday with a “Oh, Thank Goodness.” No this is NOT living folks.
If you want to live that F*ck YES! Life, that is freedom based and full of desire and purpose then all you need do is to question your own heart. Truly just tap in and start to feel what resides as your hearts desire.
Many great visionaries, teachers and leaders through the course of time have told us to “follow our hearts, they will not lead us astray” yet we consistently allow our minds logic to rule over our hearts and find ourselves off of our true paths and living a life of duty, stress, and endless fatigue. We walk through our days and weeks like we are zombies and we wonder where passion for anything has gone.
If you are wanting to find your passion, your desire for life and the direction that God wants for you then it is up to no one but YOU.
Ask, Seek, Knock.
These words they stir a lot of fascination, desire and confusion for us humans. What does it mean to ask, seek and knock? Whom are we asking? God? How will he answer? How will we hear? This is the main question of concern because until we learn how to listen we cannot find direction in our lives. We simply are walking through our world blind. To ask and be able to listen, one must prepare themselves for the communication. This simply put means that YOU must make a commitment to find STILLNESS in your life and then eagerly and with expectation look for the answers to come to you. You MUST remain CONSCIOUS and listen with an active heart which will incorporate your thoughts, feelings, sight, hearing and experiences for the response from the Divine. If you ask and then go directly into your chaotic thoughts focused on your past experiences and fear based thinking then you will miss your messages and be lost.
How do you feel about spending 15 minutes a day in silence with yourself?
Does this seem like too big of a chore? Or are you hungry to listen to the path that is before you?
If you are hungry then the ONLY work you need ever do is to ASK and then LISTEN. You will be guided with ease and grace to your desired life. You were born for greatness and not for struggle. The reason we struggle is because we argue and try to control with our logical minds a force that is far greater than ourselves.
Stop handcuffing God.
You too can have a freedom based life. You were born to be free and to live a purposeful, desire based life full of blessing. If you fill yourself up with un-needed chaos, fear and worry then you prevent this life from manifesting for you and in turn you curse yourself with AVERAGE and ORDINARY. You curse yourself through your inability to SAY YES to your hearts desire and to the promise of God.
Ask and it shall be given.
God always say’s yes to us. It is our sabotaging ways that block the blessings from forming in this reality. Our doubt is the true culprit to our suffering.
And you know what will take much of your suffering away?
CERTAINTY in your heart.
CERTAINTY in your purpose.
CERTAINTY in your faith.
And Most CERTAINLY doing your life’s calling is WHERE IT IS AT BABY!
Dig in deep and find yours now.
You deserve to live on PURPOSE and FULFILLED.
This sort of work is pleasure.
What’s Your pleasure?
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YES, I am inviting you to say GOOD BYE Kendal.
Here is why.
2018 is a year of you could say transformation, but in truth it is a year of me saying YES to my AUTHENTIC SELF and my desire to be a crusader. My burning passion to speak the words that I have been holding back for my entire life that NOW want to be birthed from my lips and my finger tips. It is a year where you will see me make harsh but loving statements that may push you far past your comfort zones and even giving me the middle finger.
It is a year where you may say, “ OMG! Kendal went and got saved!” – LOL
And perhaps I did.
Or perhaps the possibility is that I am just choosing to allow 2018 to be the year that I STOP standing in the shadow of shame around my spiritual beliefs and desires and what I have come to learn from walking a path of CERTAINTY and opening to the blessings that are all around.
Perhaps, the possibility of 2018 is that my soul can no longer sit still and be quiet and give what society and many of my readers and followers “think” they need or want, where the focus is on sex and how best to stroke a clit or a cock.
Because ANYONE who has ever coached with me or worked with me in any capacity can bear testimony that my teachings are 98% based in CONSCIOUSNESS training NOT sexual skills.
Here is the thing, no matter what title I give myself, I coach the same. I speak the same. I praise the same. I work on the same issues, the same blockages, the same fear based thinking and habits that DESTROY your relationships, your intimacy, your sex, your ability to experience abundance, peace, joy, connection, health and vitality. NONE of this is changing, because it is my calling to help restore consciousness and connection between humankind and the creator ( whatever name you use). The principles and soul technology that I coach on remain the same. It has always been and always will be at the core of what I do and how I live my own life.
The difference and the REASON you need to STOP FOLLOWING me now, is because I am going to be a base ball bat.
I am NOT going to apologize for stating things the way I know them.
I am NOT going to hold back any longer.
I am NOT going to cower in the ego based fear of how you may receive me or not.
I am NOT going to allow the programs that many of us subscribe too, conquer me another day around how I should look, act, speak, teach, or coach.
So here is the thing…
IF YOU CHOOSE, to keep following me, you may grow even more discontent with your life and what you have CHOSEN to SETTLE for.
You may get very mad at my emails, my video’s, my conscious coffee’s, my articles, courses, workshops and talks.
You may start to ask yourself tough questions, such as, ” Why am I not happy?” – ” Why do I never feel truly connected, seen or loved?” – ” What am I really searching for?” – ” Why does my life feel like a chore?” and “Is this really all there is?”
You may start to observe things from a deeper state of calm, where the mind chatter starts to be put to bay.
You may start to truly feel life and yourself.
You may discover an orgasmic life, where you cannot help but smile from the joy coming from deep within.
You may start loving yourself. Forgive yourself and others.
You may awaken your compassionate heart.
You may actually start seeing the MAGIC in your daily life and OMG! You may actually EXPECT miracles to occur on a regular basis.
You may start living instead of just existing.
You may awaken one morning and say, ” It is TIME. Time for a change. Time to open. Time to love again. Time to STOP FEARING.”
Yes, you may do these things, but they will come with the price of having your ego pushed around. Your stubborn thinking patterns rearranged and the mental masturbation practices that you have grown so comfortable with as your truth and logic stripped down to what they really are: ILLUSION.
You see, I am trying to SAVE YOU the heartache of following me any longer. Why fill the space in your email, or on this screen with words that will cause you to QUESTION your reality. Your Thinking. Your heart. Your trust in something greater than yourself.
Why follow someone who believes so strongly in this mission, ” Be the change you wish to see in the world.”
Why continue to follow someone who BELIEVES YOU, yes you, deserve GREATNESS.
That is your natural state of being and that God desires nothing more than to grant it to you.
You must say GOODBYE.
Goodbye to ego.
Good bye to fear.
Goodbye to doubt.
Goodbye to those things that hold you back.
Goodbye to your disbelief that God wants you to be HAPPY and have what you desire most.
And that maybe your DESIRE, to JUST be AVERAGE and just get through the next day.
So in that case you may need to say goodbye Kendal….
Because, I want to THRIVE!
I want to call down my blessings. And every day, I am granted the beauty of magical experiences, beautiful people and opportunities. Many reasons to smile. And even more reasons to share my joy. My faith, my life work, my heart and my soul.
Will you stay or will you go?
I cannot say.
You have free will.
Choose NOW. Because NOW is all you have, all you will ever have. Do not build your life of fear of tomorrow, but on the blessing of TODAY.