What Being On A Wild Goose Chase Is Really About.

 

Running around like a chicken with its head cut off?

Feeling like you are always on a wild goose chase?
Always looking.
Always searching.
Never finding.

So very lost in this new life you are trying to carve out for yourself.
Uncertain exactly where your path is or if you are on the right one.

So much is changing and yet nothing that you want is manifesting.

Doubt.
Fear.
Anxiety.

You have been working so hard to keep your head down and get the shiz done that you know needs done. You have been pushing through those limiting beliefs and surpressing boundaries,
And what do you have to show for it?

Just whole lot of effed up emotions.
A big mess of newness that you haven’t the foggiest where to start the clean up with.
A feeling of will this ever get easier?
Will I ever feel happy or healed?
Will I ever have the life I want?

Is any of this struggle getting me any where?
Or am I just on a wild goose chase?

Cuz it sure as “F” is not showing up!
And I am exhausted.

Yeah baby,
I get ya.

I understand and have been here so many times on this journey.

But what I know today that I did not know before is worth it all.

What I know now is that I am the damn goose.

Go ahead scratch your head in bewilderment of WTF is that chick talking about?

Shes the goose.

If she’s the goose then she is claiming I am the goose in my own wild goose chase.

And that just can’t be.
How can I be the goose?

I am the hunter.
I am the one searching.
Craving.
I am hungry for the life that I want.

Its sure AF not chasing me.
I am chasing it.

I am chasing my dreams.
Just like all the great goal setters have said to do.
I set forth my dream boat,
And now I am in pursuit of my dreams.

I am just getting tired.
Thats all.
I will catch my hundredth wind.
I will.
I always do.
And when I do,
I will continue to pursue.

I sit every day and think about how great it will be when I have my dreams.

When I have my dream relationship.
My dream income.
My dream home.
My dream body.

Yes WHEN….
I can’t wait.

Its going to effing awesome.

I just gotta do the work.
I gotta have the patience.
I gotta just wait.
My dreams are coming.
I have most certainly paid the price for them.

So you see,
I am not the goose.

Oh but you are!

I use to think and feel just like you.
I was waiting for my dreams.
I was building my story
I was willing to wait.
Willing to pursue.
I was searching.

And then one day it was like the heavens opened and God spoke…

“You are the goose you are chasing.”

And I suddenly got it.
I was the goose.
Because I was chasing the void of my dreams not being here.
I was 1000% certain that I had to wait.
That I had to pay some price.
That I was not happy.

I was certain that I had to chase my dreams.
And so….
The universe gave me just that.

I manifested EXACTLY what I was certain about.
Day in and day out.
Where I consistently put my focus,
Is what I consistently recieved.

And I wondered why?
Why was I always on this wild goose chase?

Yet I was just chasing the goose that I had created.
So on this blessed day that God spoke to me about my goose I decided that I would do one simple thing….

STOP CHASING.

And so I did.
And now my dreams are not dreams I am chasing,
But instead realities I am living.

What are you chasing love?

As Always Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers “

The Realness of What You Are Living.

What is it that you want?
What do you want for in relationship?
 
You want for ease.
You want for connection.
You want for this thing called love.
 
And perhaps you are not feeling these things today in your relationship.
 
Perhaps when I ask you the question of, “what do you want?”
You have an increase sense of pain, frustration, loss, fear, anger even.
 
These emotions rise up not because you are focusing in on what you want. They are present because you are actually looking at what you do not want.
 
You are looking at the void. The void you see of not having the relationship that you want. Of not having the ease you desire. Of not having the connection you crave fullfilled. Of not having the love you want for.
 
But knowing what you don’t want makes it easier to know what you do want too.
 
Think about it for a moment, close your eyes. Lets feel into the love that you are wanting for.
 
Its that kind of love that sweeps you off your feet, right?
Its that kind of love that makes you feel at peace, right?
It’s that kind of love that makes you feel good about yourself, right?
 
Its that kind of love that asks you to just be you.
You don’t have to try and be or act any certain way.
You just are accepted for how you are.
IT JUST IS.
 
What if I told you that you are looking for this in ALL the wrong places.
 
You are looking for this love to come from an individual. In doing this you are stepping out of your truth and power.
 
You are now a victim to another fickle human being who may change at any given moment.
When the answer is to go within and to God/Universe/Source.
 
When you look to another person as the cause of the love, for that feeling of love what you are doing is giving them credit for your alignment to SOUL.
Alignment to God.
Alignment to your TRUTH, your CORE.
 
What we humans do in our search for alignment through the feeling of love is that we keep searching for the “ONE” who will make us feel all that.
And so we keep replacing people in our lives to try and get this love that we crave so badly for,
when in fact what we need to be doing is not necessarily replacing people but finding true connection with God, with our TRUTH and from this place of being,
of living and feeling in love,
the person we have always drempt for will come.
 
The realness of what we are living,
the IS’NESS of our reality and us focusing in on just that is what keeps us from having the connection that we crave for.
 
The more we relate the lovely expereince of being in love,
and being loved to a person,
it leaves us in a place of searching for that state of well being,
and yumminess,
beauty in life and love, when we no longer have that person in our life.
Leaving us feeling lost,
empty, and abandoned.
And we sometimes choose to close our hearts to love.
We hide from it because it scares us of the potential of getting hurt from it. So we go into avoidance.
We numb ourselves,
we use detachment from relationship and our heart,
to protect us from the evils of loosing love.
Yet we do not cease to desire it still.
 
This is us looking in all the wrong places for love, and not understanding what love really is.
 
When we are feeling love from someone or for someone,
what we are being gifted is the ease of being in alignment.
It is our alignment to God though that is making us feel love.
Our alignment to our truth and core.
 
When we place responsibility on another for this feeling,
we are now living in a state of need for them to BE in order for us to expereince what is always with us.
 
The way it is for most people is that we need another person to act, to be, to show us love in just such a way and then we FEEL LOVED. And when they stop doing this or change how they are doing it, we feel unloved, undesired.
 
And when we are feeling loved we feel in alignment to life,
like you are walking on sunshine.
 
But it can all quickly change if the fickle human we have given all our power to changes directions or focuses and relates to us differently.
 
The truth is this:
When we find our alignment to God and SOUL, here we find love. True love that is sustainable and without question or need of anyone else.
 
And when we are in alignment and hold course,
the things we desire the most will manifest quickly and with ease.
 
They must.
 
Because this is the purest state of creation.
 
When we want for something with such passion in this state,
when we feel what we want prior to it manifesting in the physical, it does not take long for us to start allowing it into our physical life expereince so it can hosw itself. As we allow for it to be revealed to us with more and more ease, we create an avalanche effect of energy.
 
And life become blissful.
 
Here is where food tatste so delectable,
the world is bright and cheery,
we meet friendly people with smiles and helping hands in just the right moments around every corner,
we feel ignited and turned on to every breath we breathe.
We are living in a state of fulfillment with a consistent desire to expereince more.
 
And in this place of being,
we can have EVERYTHING we want for in relationship.
 
You are not being requested to stay in the emptiness of relationship that you may be in right now.
 
You are not being requested to be happy with this the relationship status that you have.
 
But if you truly want for the relationship of your dreams,
then the first tsep to achieving it is to find your alignemnt and love for life,
love for self,
and connection to God.
 
You can tell a person who is turned on to life.
Who love’s self,
loves life,
and is connected to God.
 
This persos radiates love and beauty.
This person glows.
And is magnetic.
You may think of them as lucky.
 
But all they have discovered is the secret,
the secret of alignment.
 
Where are you restricting yourself from love?
 
Let Go and Lean In.
Breathe and Allow.
 
And As Always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”
 
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Your F-ck Yes Life Depends on Your Flexibility and Willingness to Lean Into Your Edge.

I am going to be a guest on The Union – Real Talk About Personal Growth next week (January 14th). It’s been two years since my last appearance on the show and so much has changed in the course of that time.
 
This morning I finally got a moment to sit down and review some of the questions that was posted for us guests to reflect on.
 
I found myself in so much gratitude for the inquiry that was being offered as it allowed me to dig into this moment in time and where I am at, what I am currently being challeneged with.
 
The question that touched me at a deeper level than others asked was,
 
“What edge are you leaning into?”
 
I ask this question of my inner circle peep’s often, but sometimes admittedly, I forget to stop and inquire with myself on this topic.
 
Leaning into our edge is where we grow.
It’s where we expand ourselves.
It’s where we meet our soul.
And feel our heart.
 
Leaning into our edge in any area of our lives is what we all hunger for,
and typically feel this call to do just this around the turn of the new year.
 
It’s why we make the proclomations and affirmations that we do.
 
We set our intent with the DESIRE to lean into our edge and expand ourselves because we understand that without the leaning into our edge,
we can never have the life that calls to us.
 
But that edge is scary as F-ck!
Is it not?
 
It sounds so easy often to make changes,
we have this burning desire,
we have expereinced the consequences of where our current actions have gotten us and how it makes us feel,
the life path that we are currently on based on our ideas, views, beliefs and actions of yesterday,
and often we are not happy with where we are at or who we are in this moment.
 
We know that we are so much more.
And that this life of ours has so much more to give us.
 
So we hunger for change.
We desire personal development.
We crave healing.
 
And at our core,
at our core we get that the US of today cannot remain if we are to have the US of tomorrow that we want so badly for.
 
And so we lean.
Scared out of our minds,
our hearts race,
our tummies churn with anxiety.
We cautiously or hastely step forward hoping that we survive the ledge that we are on.
 
We fear falling.
We fear loosing.
We fear getting it wrong.
We fear not being accepted in our new skin.
We fear so much and it feels like we could die.
 
Many people in this leaning in back down from the ledge.
They slow their roll and get off the raggedy edge that shakes their internal cage of normalcy.
 
They step back into comfort.
Supported by excuses and good reasons as to why it’s just not time yet to make these changes.
 
Others, step a forward and pray that they survive.
Thinking to themselves that they can do it,
but doubting every step and looking at the potential risks with a passionate focus,
causing themselves to focus on the pain of change and development instead of bringing their attention to the beauty of the birth of themselves.
The raggedy edge shakes them,
and spins them until they are dizzy and exhausted.
Trying to hold onto the wheel of life they try to maintain course and control the outcome,
and then one day say,
“It’s not working!”
and lean back into the comfort of what they have always known.
 
And then there are others,
these others are CERTAIN of their SOUL guidance.
They are confident that the path is perfect and always leading them to a greater version of themselves.
Teaching them about the ebb and flow of life and how constriction leads to expansion.
They feel into all levels of emotion that rise from their own awakening into themselves and even though they may need to pause on the path to catch their breath,
they NEVER stop or turn back.
 
Pushing forward,
leaning further.
 
Allowing life to teach them the power of flexibility.
 
This is what today I came up with while jotting down my answers to the inquiries asked of me for next weeks show.
 
My realization is that this last decade,
and especially the last two or three years has shown me with great intensity the imporatnce of flexibility.
Of not getting caught up on anything and becoming ridgit to how I wish for anything to manifest or develop,
but instead to just breathe in the beauty of the transformation with certainty that it is moving me to my highest and best.
 
I bring this inquiry to you today as well.
And I ask you to really sit with the question,
 
“What edge are you leaning into?”
 
And if you have no edge,
then ask why no edge?
What am I fearing from leaning in?
And how is this serving me to be the person that I know that I can be and to have the life that I want so badly for?
 
Your power will be birthed from your flexibility in your mind and thoughts, your heart and emotions, your physical body and how you choose to move in it.
 
Lean with faith.
God/Universe has your back.
Trust in that calling you feel.
 
As Always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”
 
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Do You Feel Worthy Of Your Dreams?

NO ONE GETS TO DECIDE IF YOU ARE WORTHY! YOU JUST ARE ALREADY.

Worthiness.
Your worthiness.
Yes that thing that you may think you are lacking in or don’t even have any of.

But the reality love is that you were born with a massive amount of it.
So much so that it’s not in question,
not even a smidgen in question.
Not by God love.

ONLY BY YOU.

And that is what is holding you back.
It’s your lack of belief in your worthiness.
You for some reason think that your worthiness is up for debate,
that you have to earn it somehow.
That if you run around like a chicken with its head cut off that you will get more of it.
That if you live for everyone else,
and put yourself behind them all that THEN ,
then you will be a step closer to earning a little worthiness.
But even then,
even after you have buried yourself in commitments and exhausted yourself in the keeping of everyone else’s expectations and idea’s of you and for them,
YOU STILL FEEL without it.

I get it love.
I truly do.
It’s a daily battle you could say,
to wake the f-ck up and KNOW YOU ARE WORTHY without question.

But if you want all that you want.
If you are sick and tired of being sick and tired.
If you are READY to BE READY.
Then it time that you accept that you were born WORTHY AF!!!

Don’t you get it love?
God moves through you and I.
God creates with your hands.
Unfolds the evolution of this planet and its people through you and I.

This world moves forward because of what we manifest into existence.
And we can only create what we do with the guidance of SOUL.
And soul is the voice of God in us.

Together we create all that is and all that ever will be.
But is a joint work.
And because of this very factor and the nature of you and I being co-creators with God,
makes us worthy of all of our desires.

The desires that you want to manifest into existence were put there by the creator.
It is your hands,
your attention,
your focus,
your voice and eye’s,
that make it happen though.

It is through you that God has concentrated focus.
It is by your viewing of the world,
your world,
and you feeling of life,
and how it unfolds,
that desire is birthed.
And opportunity is seen.
As you move through this existence,
and you feel the ebbs and flows of all that can be created,
you gain a hunger for something beautiful to unfold.
You crave more.
You smile and you cry.
You get frustrated and you excited.
These are the emotions of creation,
because they birth desire.
And in the desire becoming aware in YOU,
God see’s it,
and evolution happens.

YOU WILL NEVER BE CONTENT.
You will never reach a point in your life where you desire for no more.
You will always want to create MORE.
This is the desire of God,
to CREATE.

The greatest artist.
Working with you,
through you,
to paint a breath taking picture,
called….

YOUR LIFE.

And because you are breathing love.
You need not ever question your worthiness.

Because you are hungry,
you need not ever question your potential.

Because you are feeling pushed and pulled,
you need not ever question your footing.

God is there love.
You just need to surrender to the path that is before you.
It is yours.

And in your stepping forward,
God will paint the path.

God does not make unworthy things.
And God does not work hand in hand or through unworthy things.

God is working through you,
FOR YOU.

So stop questioning so much.
Allow your blessings to flow.

BREATHE.
FEEL.
FOCUS.
STEP.

And As Always,
Stop Existing & Start Living – YOU ARE WORTH IT!

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It’s All About You Being Turned On BABY!

Turn it on BABY!
 
You can do it.
No matter what is happening.
No matter the storms that may be in your midst,
no matter what you fear,
what worries you and is scratching at your heals.
 
Turn it on BABY!
 
That’s where your power comes from.
That’s where the shift occurs.
That’s how you create the momentum.
 
It’s all about you TURNING IT ON.
 
This life of yours,
it’s your SHOW.
It’s all about you becoming you.
Learning you,
and you SHINE.
 
Those fears and doubts,
those worries that block you up and make you stumble,
that is not you baby.
That is but only your resistance to who you are.
That void that you feel rising up at times that trouble,
that void is only the separation between who you are allowing yourself to be and your SOUL.
 
Your TRUTH.
 
So TURN IT ON!
 
Because BABY,
You see when you turn on that light within,
when you tap into that powerhouse of energy,
when you let your SOUL SHINE,
you are truly UNSTOPPABLE.
 
You are a force in nature that cannot be shut down,
your heart,
your soul,
your beauty,
it is magnetic, true and divine.
And this baby,
this is who you are.
You have got to know,
you have just got t o know…
 
That feeling that resides,
deep within your CORE,
that voice inside,
that speaks those words,
they scare you because of their power,
they scare you because you doubt your worthiness,
but you KNOW.
 
Your desire is what keeps you coming back.
Your desire to feel this feeling.
This beautiful,
breathtaking feeling of your SURRENDER.
 
And what are you surrendering too baby?
 
To SELF.
To SOUL.
To that feeling.
 
And oh, how it washes over you,
like the breath of a lover,
your flesh ignites,
your heart pulse increases,
you feel flushes,
and excited.
You want to open to it,
you know you do.
Despite your fear….
 
You desire.
 
Desire this SURRENDER.
And so you must,
you must simply TURN IT ON.
 
But how do you turn on this light?
How do you just let go and allow all that you want to move through you?
How to surrender to your desire,
your dreams,
your POWER?
 
Simple, baby….
it’s about letting go of the reigns of control.
It’s about letting go of that which is so logical.
It’s about stepping into your messiness,
your chaos,
your creative vibe.
It’s about playing.
Laughing.
Being turned on to life.
And it’s about no longer doubting WHO YOU ARE.
 
Because baby,
you are magnificent.
You are powerful,
you are more than you can imagine.
And you are unstoppable.
 
But baby,
you know what you must do…
It’s the work of JUST DOING.
It’s doing that DAMN THING.
The THING that you fear the most.
Yes that THING…
and that thing is what is holding you back,
so let go baby,
and do the damn thing,
open up,
surrender to everything that you want my dear.
 
If you could only see,
that what you want,
wants you too,
and it there,
RIGHT THERE,
on the other side of your resistance.
 
It is there on the other side of the curtain that you are holding up,
blinding you from the life that you so badly want.
It is there.
But you must put your fears and doubts down.
You must allow yourself to FEEL.
You must surrender to your pleasure,
your TURN ON,
your WANTING of it.
And turn away from your fear of not having.
 
Yes BABY,
this is the thing,
the thing that you must do to have it all.
 
As Always,
Stop Existing & Start Living – GET TURNED ON!
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believer”

MONEY IS EVIL- PERSONAL SUFFERING IS FAITH BEARING, + OTHER BULLSHIZ IDEA’S ABOUT YOUR WORTHINESS

MONEY IS EVIL – PERSONAL SUFFERING IS FAITH BEARING, + OTHER BULLSHIZ IDEA’S ABOUT YOUR WORTHINESS
 
Why do you not get that you are WORTHY?
 
And why is it that you keep buying into the bullshiz that in order to be worthy you must suffer?
 
Or that because you are suffering that this proves that you are in faith?
 
It is silly gorgeous to think this way.
 
I am just going to break this down for you from a parental perspective,
and maybe you will not agree and I am totally cool with you not agreeing with my views and beliefs, hopefully in that case we can just be mature enough to agree to disagree.
 
With that said,
as a parent I am going make my plea on your worthiness.
 
Imagine your child is growing up and learning about what is good, bad, how to do things, what responsibility, truth is, what love is and is not.
 
Imagine your child makes mistakes. Gets into fights with peers, has opinions that you and others disagree with, experiments with things that you may not want them too, does not always tell you the truth, even bullies other kids or is harsh in judgments about other kids or people. Mocks people.
 
Does this make you love your child any less?
Does this make them NOT worthy of your love or support?
Does this make them less of human to you and worthy of you taking away your love, condemning and shaming them?
 
Imagine your child looses friendships, has heartbreak over their first love, suffers pain in relationships, fears not getting it right, fears not fitting in, fears telling you how they feel. Imagine they hate their bodies, feel misunderstood, outcast.
Imagine they don’t feel safe in some fashion at home or school, in their relationships. They believe that the world is out to get them and they must close themselves off from it to stay safe and make you happy.
 
Does this make your child more worthy of your love?
Does this show their faith in your love and support?
Does this prove their worth, their self-love, their personal power, confidence, self-esteem? Does it build those things?
 
Imagine you have a child that comes to you and says this is my dreams and desires. This is what I feel inside. This is what I want to do with my life and why. Imagine that they say I know that I have made mistakes, that i am not perfect but I know that I am lovable, that you ( mom/dad) have my back, I know that I have better in me and I want to show my heart to this world. I want to experience life and give back. I believe that people are good and we are all worthy of love and greatness. Imagine that this child is working two part time jobs and helping out people in need, that they have big opinions and they speak about what they are good with and what they are not good with. Imagine that they count their blessings. Imagine that this child looks you in the eye and says, ” I know that you don’t want me to suffer. You want the best for me and if I don’t want the best for myself and show my love for myself by standing up and being my best that I not only hurt myself but I hurt your heart too mom/dad.”
Imagine that this child goes out and becomes a a millionaire when grown.
 
Does this make you love your child less?
Does this mean that your child is a greedy, selfish a*shole who does not care about anything but money and self?
Does this mean that your child has been brainwashed into the evil ways of this world and they are a disappointment to you?
Does this mean that you will retract your love from this child because they are not bowing their head and feeling bad or suffering enough?
Does this mean that their happiness and success is a sign that they have sold their soul to the devil and are dishonoring their faith, their family, themselves?
 
OF COURSE NOT!
 
That’s crap, right?
 
So why are you letting yourself think this about your life?
Why are you buying into the concept that your suffering and loss,
your lack of cash flow,
your depression, body image issues, your guilt, your fear, your lost-ness is some sign of your greatness in God’s eye’s.
 
Why are you believing that it is pleasing to God to watch you suffer and that those who are living abundant lives are displeasing to God?
 
I am sorry…
(not really)
 
You are dishonoring God and yourself beautiful,
by NOT stepping the f-ck up to who you are and your worthiness.
 
You are dishonoring God’s great work in you by settling for so little and such unhappiness.
 
You are dishonoring God and his belief in you by continuing to remain available for the crap that you set yourself up for in the name of faith in suffering.
 
You are not being your best and therefore not only causing suffering to your heart but as well to God.
 
I believe that we are microcosm’s of the divine.
The things that we feel when we are coming from a pure heart and soul with our children and the things that we want for our children are the same that God wants for us.
 
A healthy, emotionally mature adult parent who is confident and strong in who they are DOES NOT want to see their baby suffer.
Does not believe that their child suffering is better then their child thriving.
Does not think that if their kid gets a good paying job or is strong in who they are that they are less worthy of love or are doing evil things.
 
Yet, for some reason in today’s world many adults are putting this same judgement out there on their peers who want to THRIVE in all areas.
 
These adults pretend to be holier then thou and are quick to point to their sufferings of years to proclaim that this is evidence of their worthiness and faith, all the while pointing fingers of blame, shame and hatred with remarks of judgement out to anyone who shares a message of abundance, self-love, personal empowerment and joy.
 
Silliness.
 
And perhaps, you do not agree with me.
Perhaps you are one of those souls that I am speaking of here today.
Perhaps you believe that the path of suffering is what God wants for you/us.
Perhaps you believe that it is a sad thing to witness people making money from what they love to do and feel called to do.
Perhaps you think that people laughing, traveling, talking about love, connected sex, relationships, money is evil.
 
Maybe you believe that using the “F” word will send God into rage and cancel out all your blessings and shows one’s lack of faith and love in the creator.
 
Perhaps…
 
And perhaps, the opposite is true instead.
 
Perhaps you are among those of us who believe that we are worthy of greatness and abundance,
that God wants us to THRIVE here in this mortal existence and to speak to those ears that listen. No matter the words.
 
The message of YOUR WORTHINESS and POWER and that you are LOVED is what matters.
 
Your beautiful SOUL being let fly is what is of value.
Your HEART seen and felt.
 
Yes.
Perhaps beautiful you BELIEVE IN YOURSELF and in God.
 
And have chosen to turn your back on the nay sayers and fear bots that try and stain your faith with doubt.
 
Perhaps.
 
And As Always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
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Up-level your business they say.
Scaling it up they say.
Have BIG goals they say.
Know your numbers they say.
Build a BIG following they say.
It’s all about your data base, your newsletter sign ups.
It’s all about your likes, your follows, and your conversion rates.
What funnel works best for you?
 
OMG! I can tell you from one mompreneur or entrepreneur to another I am effing sick and tired of all the numbers focus.
 
The other day I shared with a fellow coaching friend some of my recent growth numbers for my business. I was sharing the rapid growth that I am having around a few things that I am doing and the positive rewards that I am getting.
 
Now I shared my numbers growth as to follows and interactions not the dollar amount that anything is converting to in sales.
 
This coaches response was, “Yeah that’s great but is it converting to sales?”
 
With this singular statement I was allowed to see where her focus is at and what she is doing her coaching for…
 
THE MONEY.
Not the TRIBE.
 
And that is fine and dandy.
Don’t get me wrong,
anyone who says that they are not wanting financial reward from a business is full of bunk,
after all money is what allows us to keep doing what we love and do best.
Money is what provides us the freedom to live the lives that we want.
Money is a symbol of our alignment to what we are doing and the universes support of our efforts.
It is good to want money, to gain money and to want to grow our pot of gold.
 
But what I am talking about is not MONEY.
I am talking about TRIBE.
I am talking about IMPACT.
I am talking about being the change that you want to see in this world and making it so.
 
So when I speak about leveling up my business,
do I have money goals ?
F-ck yes! I do!!!
 
But my goals are based on the EMPIRE I desire to build
a.k.a. TRIBE
 
And what does tribe really mean to me?
Tribe means like minded, soul aligned people who want similar things and want to expand their lives to THRIVING in work, love and life in general.
 
So all the funnels and conversion talk irritates me after a bit even though I watch my conversion rates like a crazed golden retriever on too much caffeine.
 
Here is what I have learned,
and if you are anything like me and wanting to live a freedom based lifestyle making a positive impact on this beautiful world of ours and creating a dynamic future for yourself and your babies then you may want to LISTEN UP NOW….
 
Money will come when you feel good about money coming.
When you create a positive space for it to come into.
When you are not hunting it, attacking it and searching for it.
But instead when you ALLOW yourself to have it.
 
And if your WHY around your business is solely focused on the money that you will make,
you can make BIG money for sure,
but you will NOT be loving your life that you created and therefore you will find yourself trapped by the very WHY that you were doing it for.
 
Your WHY must be something more purposeful,
than money.
 
Those numbers they will convert to money as long as you stay committed to your message alignment.
 
Those numbers will convert to sales as long as you stay true and let your energy be seen and felt.
 
Those numbers will convert to profits as long as you have fun with them and build a TRIBE.
 
And building tribe is NOT about gaining BIG follows and likes.
It’s about quality and alignment not quantity.
 
I recently looked at a fellow coaches business page on Facebook and I was like,
 
” Holy crap! she went from zero to 9k likes! HOW?”
 
I wanted to know how she did it overnight basically.
Admittedly I felt a tad jealous for a half of a second.
 
LOL…
 
But then I did some detective work and I simply clicked on the fans of her page under one of her most viewed recent posts.
 
What I saw was a bunch a fans that were not real.
 
They were obviously low vibe,
not aligned mindset,
bought and paid for numbers,
that will NEVER CONVERT to anything other that irritation.
 
The hype of reach 10k biz fans on social media and it’s all over you will never have to look back is true and not true.
 
Because it is about quality and TRIBE ( aligned followers)
NOT quantity of trash followers or unaligned peeps.
 
So this message today is to all you beautiful souls who want that freedom based laptop lifestyle.
 
You can have it.
 
Yes you can.
 
But keep the focus NOT on the money goal but on the aligned tribe goal and the consistency of showing up daily in your messaging to them.
 
From that the MONEY will just show up.
 
Remember that people don’t buy a product,
they buy you.
 
And As Always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”
 
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Do You Know Your Pleasure Threshold?

Do you know what your pleasure threshold is?
 
For years I had no clue what that even meant.
I did not think of life, let alone my goals in terms of pleasure.
I mean you live,
you struggle,
you captivate a few precious moments,
you love,
you loose,
and you put your head down and do what you need to do.
 
That is how I was raised.
I was raised to believe that you must put EVERYTHING in front of yourself,
and for sure not focus on what felt good or turned you on.
That way of living was for whores, addicts and the not so responsible people who were selfish and immature.
 
Fast forward through a 20 year marriage,
the loss of houses, jobs and a bunch of debt,
the raising of at that time five children,
then a divorce,
a new relationship plus two more babies plus a bunch of other struggles and more stress,
and you find me believing another way.
 
That idea of pleasure is something now that I realize is a more accurate way of living and it is what God actually intended for us to live in.
 
Not the saga of suffering and loss.
Not the not having of our dreams and desires.
 
When we study the quantum field,
we learn that life moves with ease.
It is about getting into the flow of life,
the flow of soul.
And we do this with this thing called pleasure.
When we are allowing ourselves to receive pleasure we increase our vibration and we open up to the potential of miracles.
 
You have to realize that what you want, wants you too.
But it will not change it’s vibration to get you.
That is what your work is.
To increase your vibration and allow life to serve up your dreams to you.
AKA SOUL GOALS.
 
Think about it…
 
When you feel passionate about something,
when you feel those butterflies in your tummy,
when you feel turned on by something,
you are craving it.
But what are you actually craving?
 
Is it, it or is it the pleasure that it provides you?
 
It’s the pleasure baby.
You want whatever you want for how it makes you feel.
The feeling of something is the ONLY reason we go after it.
 
And what we are wanting is happiness.
Connection. Love. Intimacy. Joy.
 
All of these things equal pleasure.
It’s a different sort of pleasure though,
its SOUL based.
 
It comes from our SOUL not from the EGO.
The ego wants to experience pleasure to hide us from our truth and power.
The ego wants to enjoy pleasure to mask our short falls instead of focus us on our path.
The ego uses negative forms,
very 2D-3D forms of pleasure to derail us from success.
 
But why would the ego do this you may wonder?
 
Ego is trying to protect us.
It does have a purpose.
And that is a purpose of protection,
it is fear based.
And anything that is based in fear is not from the SOUL,
and not from God/Universe.
It is out of flow and it is a low vibration.
 
The ego does what it does because it fears change.
Change means transformation.
Change means expansion.
Change means growth.
And change can mean increased vibration.
 
But as your vibration grow’s so does your determination to remain in this thing called flow.
 
Because is FEELS SO DAMN GOOD.
And miracles happen here.
 
You think about something,
you feel how good it is,
you focus in on gratitude for being already in the flow that you are and BAM! you are given more to support that feeling.
 
But here is the thing that YOU MUST understand BABY.
 
And I want you to really pay attention to this.
 
Your goals can only manifest up to your pleasure threshold.
 
So if you are not yet manifesting like MOFO BOSS,
then look at how much pleasure you are allowing into your life experience.
 
Look at where you are denying yourself the simple joys,
where are you holding yourself back by continuing to buy into the bullsh*t concept that you are to suffer for a time frame in order to achieve your dreams.
 
You will be required to step the f-ck out of your comfort zone.
You will be required to make changes.
To transform and level up.
You will be required to break old habits and beliefs.
You will never be able to achieve that desired life you want in the same old shoes you have been walking this path so far.
 
And that will most likely scare the sh*t out of you BABY.
It may even feel too difficult.
It may even feel bad at points,
and you may “think” that is its painful to make these changes and build these muscles.
 
But if you don’t do the inner training,
if you don’t look into those shadows of self,
if you don’t learn to level up and get into flow,
then you cannot have what you want with ease.
 
You will STRUGGLE or you will SETTLE.
 
Either way it will not be in PLEASURE.
And that threshold will hold right where it is or even shrink.
 
The choice though is always yours.
I know that you are worthy of your dreams and living a high vibe pleasure threshold.
 
God does not make unworthy things.
and YOU BABY, are WORTHY.
 
Level Up Your Pleasure Threshold – Level Up Your Life.
 
And As Always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”
 

God Wants Your Legacy to Manifest.

Have you ever woken up feeling like you are in a strange land?
 
Like you don’t even know who this soul is that is looking back at you from the mirror as you brush your teeth.
 
That was me this morning.
Here I am on a workcation you could say enjoying a week in the Dominican Republic, teaching a powerful entrepreneur workshop on line about tapping into your play, your passion and your profits and I found myself on this incredible morning looking out at the white sands and brilliant blue waters questioning what I had been doing with myself the last year.
 
Taking my journal in hand,
moving my workstation to the VIP lounge where I could sort my feelings out while kicking back with a yummie mojito, soft music and a cool breeze I sat still for a few minutes while reading back through some deep inner work I did almost a year ago with my mentor in a expansion workshop.
 
As I read I became deeply disappointed with myself.
I felt the emotion and pain of what I wanted not manifesting,
and even worse,
the pain of not holding to my personal commitments.
 
There I sat,
on this lovely day,
wanting to weep in my rum over not stepping the f-ck fully up and doing what I know I must do to have what I desire and to share my message in the grandeur that I feel called.
 
You see the crappy thing about my work,
is that I KNOW.
I have no damn excuse to not know what I need to do.
I know how important commitment to self is.
I know how vital it is to believe that you are worthy of your dreams.
I know that all the fear of chasing after what my SOUL is calling me toward is just a silly illusion of my ego.
I know that God wants me to be brilliant and spread my wings.
So when I choose to ignore my SOUL,
I get really angry with myself.
 
And I have to quickly remind myself of the power of self forgiveness and that it is critical to our growth and ability to receive.
 
And so as I sat there a tad longer I looked at all that I have learned over the last year.
I looked at all that I did choose to allow to flow into my life.
I looked at the great abundance that life did bless me with.
Because you know what?
As long as I sat there and kept focusing on what I deemed I had gotten wrong and fallen down on,
the less understanding I had for my path.
The less love I was feeling for myself.
The less abundant and blessed I thought of myself.
 
And that shiz is not attractive to no body especially blessings and cash flow.
 
SO I sat there and I made a choice to STOP looking at my mistakes, at my let down and my flaws of not fully stepping in,
and instead to look at that commitment list I wrote up a year ago and be excited at how f-cking powerful of a creator I am.
 
I brought my attention to the fact that I got the car that I wanted,
just like I said I wanted.
 
I focused on the fact that I had my highest six figure earning year yet in my coaching practice and even though I missed my goal by $20k it really did not matter. That was nothing in the big picture.
 
I focused on the joy and pride in accomplishing getting my business fully moved over to where I wanted it to be. To calling in a whole new tribe and building my new improved brand.
 
I got centered in the feeling of calling in the beauty of a dynamic and heart centered love relationship the way I desired. And consistently remaining present and pushing my own boundaries and fear around intimacy with this man to move deeper with him and us.
 
I congratulated myself.
I congratulated myself on consistently stepping further and further into my truth, no matter how scary it has been,
and even though in this moment I sit here writing this to you as I look out over the white sands and ocean waves from my balcony in the Caribbean feeling like I woke up in a strange world,
that I know that it is only strange because it is a deeper version of myself.
It is a new vibrational set point of who I am.
It is a clearing of the veils that hid me away from my goals for years before.
 
And TODAY,
today is a new day.
A good day.
A day to commit once again to this process of getting closer to self and thus closer to my dreams.
That legacy my soul is leading me to,
it will only be created fully when I can stand firmly in who I am and who God has called me to be.
 
I share this message with you today to confirm something to you.
I share it to make you ask yourself if you too have something great in your soul that you are not fulfilling and if the reasons that life may not be fully ignited the way you want is because somewhere back there in your history book you started believing that you were not worthy of it?
 
I share this with you because you and I beautiful are no different.
 
God wants our legacy to manifest.
But he needs our trust in life.
He needs you to believe you can have it and stop resisting your blessings by insisting it has to be difficult and hard to achieve.
 
By focusing on what you have not yet accomplished and how you fell down.
 
It is just a choice beautiful.
Whatever energy and emotion you apply yourself to,
is what manifests in your life.
 
What are you feeling right now?
And how can you expand your boundaries of comfort to align to the highest version of who your were born to be?
 
As ALways,
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”

Your Waiting Around Energy Is Killing Your Dreams

Someday?
 
This morning I am going to tell you a little tale about a beautiful soul that said someday.
 
Every morning at waking,
stretching their arms open wide and yawning they would smile to themselves about the day ahead,
about their hopes and aspirations.
They would lay there thinking about everything they wanted for and believed that they could have but found themselves waiting on because of this reason or that.
 
Everyday they moved purposefully as possible,
they spoke the right lingo,
they read and listened to all the greats sharing with them the things to do to have what they wanted.
 
Everyday, they believed that it was coming.
This life that they were building.
 
Everyday they said,
“Someday, I will have that.”
 
 
And with each someday,
their dreams and goals just seeped through their fingers.
 
For you see,
with each “someday I will have that.”
with each “someday I will have the time.”
with each ” I am waiting for this or that.”
with each moment that they resisted their calling,
not realizing what they were doing,
they pushed all that wanted them as much as they wanted it away.
 
And soon,
someday turned into forever gone.
 
This way of believing that you may find yourself trapped in.
This way of thinking that if you work hard enough,
or wait long enough,
or push through this hurdle or that one,
and THEN….
 
then your magical life will happen.
 
Then all that you have been waiting on will just appear.
 
But first,
first you must get through this or that.
first you must learn this or that,
first you must prove yourself to be worthy.
 
It’s all utter bullsh*t BABY!
 
There is no waiting for your dream life.
There is no waiting for that THING…
that THING that is wanting you as much as you want it.
 
All there is is living as though it already is.
 
Don’t you get it?
 
Someday never happens.
Your life is playing out RIGHT NOW.
 
And in your belief of someday,
you hold your desires at bay.
You say no to calling them.
You remain in the belief that they are not with you now.
And THIS BELIEF is saying that you do not have.
 
There fore,
YOU DO NOT HAVE.
 
and all those objections, reasons, excuses, habits, fears and blind spots that are you holding you back from your desired life,
they are your forever company.
 
NOT YOUR DREAMS.
 
Saying someday,
pushes your dreams away,
and says clearly that you are not ready.
Not ready to RECEIVE.
 
So the question is not,
“When will I live this life?”
 
The question is,
“How can I start to feel this life today?”
 
Let go of your WAITING energy baby.
Let go of your belief that you are not ready.
Let go of the concept that it takes a certain period of time.
Let go of your need to believe that you have something to prove to earn it.
 
You can have it today.
I tell you that you can have your dream life.
It is wanting you to just open up to it and let it come to you.
 
But for you to do this,
you MUST ALLOW.
 
And allowing is one of the most challenging things.
Is it not?
 
It is scary to just allow things to flow to you.
It is terrifying to go what feels like blindly step by step on your path.
It is anxiety causing to say YES to that nudge in your gut or or that pull from your SOUL and not have any evidence that it will work out.
It is freaky as shiz to trust in the universe/God.
And just LET GO and ALLOW.
 
 
I know.
I feel you beautiful.
 
However this SOMEDAY shiz that you are sporting around is not getting you anywhere,
and perhaps…
perhaps, just maybe,
your SOUL knows a tad bit more than what your logical 2D – 3D mind can wrap its head around.
 
It’s a quantum thing baby.
And the quantum thing is about letting go and trusting the energy to carry you to your dream life.
 
So LET THE F-CK GO OF YOUR WAITING ENERGY!
 
You can be unstoppable and powerful beautiful.
You can open those wings and fly now.
 
Ready?
GO.
 
As always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”
 
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I have been in those shoes before all too many time.
But that fear is not going to stop you.
You are powerful.
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