This Is What Men Have Taught Me About Money, Abundance, Goals and Happiness.

This Is What Men Have Taught Me About Money, Abundance, Goals and Happiness.

Years ago, I was married.
I was married at age 18.
I had five children.
Struggled, lost homes, was burred under debt, my health suffered, my marriage suffered, my sex was nothing but duty. I hated my life! I was focused on the NOT having and I was buying into the concept of this is just how it was. This was normal and I had to just suck it up.

My husband then was in financial services, he worked for Primerica which was part of Travelers Group, originally Art Williams created the company back in the 1970’s and it was known as A.L. Williams Life Insurance Group. It was about term insurance and investments.

I met my husband in the company as I was working on my licenses to become a representative to sell for them and was interested in the structure of the system.

Well, fast forward past all that and the wedding and the child birth stuff and you found us BROKE. Chasing our dreams of becoming financially free. Our goal back then was to become Vice Presidents of the company and make a six figure income. Get the ring to show how great we were and the rewards of trips and such.

And so we listened to ALL the motivational stuff.
We went to the seminars.
We made the cold calls and followed the sales scripts.
We worked, worked , worked.
And occasionally made some sales.
Some would charge back, which put us in debt with the company and had to be taken out of future commissions.
some would stick.

For years we chased the DREAM.
For years we struggled.
We comforted ourselves with the concept that we were building a beautiful tale of overcoming the feats and obstacles but in the end succeeded.
We imagined walking on the stage and telling the story.
OUR STORY.

And we struggled.
Living on what averaged out to be $17,000 a year.
Raising children, scrimping buy.
Food Stamps, Evictions, State insurance, borrowing whatever we could from family to make ends meet and even sleeping on families couches when things got REALLY bad.

But we kept chasing that dream.

Until one day, I could not chase it anymore.
I was burned out. I hated my life.
I wanted it all to end.
And I spent the next two years of my life in the middle of deep dark depression, that still today I wonder how I made it through alive. I acted out, I drank too much alcohol. We fought like wild raging animals.

It was toxic.
It was unhealthy for everyone.
And it had to come to an end.

Fast forward.
I decided I was done.
I decided that I wanted a divorce.
I decided that we had too much water under our bridge.
And I chose to burn the bridge.

I decided that if it was up to me, it was going to be my freedom, my way, my flow, my self-discovery, my healing.

And so it was.

I had to let go of all the old ways though.
And I did, for the most part.
I dug in and started to do the inner work.
I decided that I was the most important person in the room.
In my life.
That if I wanted to be an AMAZING mom, I needed to feed my SOUL.

I reinvented myself.

So I started my practice,
it was nothing like it is today,
but it was my foundation grounds.
My learning grounds.
My healing grounds.
And with my practice came a desire to date and explore the masculine because I had never done that before.
I only had explored three men intimately up to this point and I knew I had a bunch of shame, guilt, self-image and fear wrapped around this area of life.

I was not overly caught up on dating.
It was just a desire that I had and if it came along,
then it came along.
I created some doorways for opportunities to happen and I did not really apply my focus there too much. I just knew what I wanted and let it be.
Something about dating and men felt easy to me.
Even with my fear.
I had a fascination, a curiosity that overcame the fear.
Men and dating felt playful to me.
It was a game,
new ground to explore.
An adventure.
My ONLY expectation was to enjoy it and learn.

And so I decided in that moment that I would NEVER chase men. There was no need. Because I wanted it to just be FUN.

And so it was.

As with men, I quickly discovered that money, abundance, goals and happiness were no different.

If I chased them.
They ran from me.

If I turned them into a fun game,
an adventure and let my curiosity run free,
then they flowed.

My advice to you today BABY is simple.

Stop chasing everything!

Wonder why it is running from you?
Well it’s not rocket science BABY.
It is running from you because you are chasing it.

I know that you have been told to chase your dreams.
I know that you have been told to make your goals happen.
I know that you have heard that there is no gain without the pain.

Yeah I understand.
I lived that way for so many years.
I still have those nasty lies pop up in my mind today and try and take me down.
Try and steal my joy.

But today I see them for the wolves they are.
And I know what to do to get back into my FLOW.

That is the power of doing the inner work.
That is the purpose of having a mentor.
That is why we who crave the f-ck yes lifestyle that is so much more than money,
its all about FREEDOM and HAPPINESS.

It’s about SOUL.

Yes we know the power of saying YES to ourselves and taking the ACTION to do the things that must be done.

Those things are internal 80% of the time.
Those things are the things that we AVOID.
We hide from.

But as long as you keep choosing to chase your dreams the old fashioned way, you will remain the predator to that, that you so desire and it will keep running from you.

Sure you can succeed this way.
You can keep chasing.
You can capture your dreams and goals and MAKE THEM HAPPEN.

But at what cost?

How much of YOU will be left?
And will you be truly happy, fulfilled and healthy?

There is an easier way BABY.
It’s called Ease and Flow.
It’s called SOUL Guidance.
But first you must learn to listen.

As Always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”

It’s my specialty beautiful!
It’s my purpose work.
My calling and my passion.
When I chose all those years ago to step into who I was and step into my ease and flow,
I chose to live a life of service and help YOU find your ease and flow.

But to do that you have to want it.
You have to be ready to get ready to RECEIVE it.
And that mean creating doorways for it to come through and releasing you from the predatory chains of your current beliefs and habits.

You can keep doing what you are doing.
Or you can grab a consult with me and make a different choice.
You can reinvent YOURSELF.
Which is actually just unveiling YOURSELF.

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Let Your Light Shine Mama!!!!

Motherhood.
Woman-hood.
Womb-man-hood.
 
We are creators.
We are lovers.
We are sensual and strong.
Vulnerable and edgy.
Nurturing is at our core.
As divine creators of miracles,
of life itself we tap into the energy of the universe and we become one with God in these moments.
But we can access this power every day of our lives, beautiful!
 
I see so many women in this world, shutting themselves off from the juiciness that is theirs for the enjoyment.
Fearing that if they allow themselves to be seen,
to be heard and experienced as the sensual women that they long to be,
that they will be perceived as something that they have no desire be.
 
The trauma and pain that is held within the female mass ego is something that needs light revealed upon it. It is not just something of this day and age but of the last few thousand years.
 
But beautiful, it is up to you and I and all of our sister’s to heal the mass ego of women.
 
We do this by taking on the mission within ourselves first. We do this with our desire to have a F-ck YES! Life.
To let our purpose shine bright.
To let our divine feminine energy flow in it’s own unique authentic way.
We do this by letting our music, our talents, our voices, our love be seen and felt.
 
When we step into being our AUTHENTIC RADIANT SELVES we shine bright.
 
The world, other women even, may try and cause us to doubt, to hide this beauty but it just the mass ego’s pain and fear protecting itself. In an attempt to protect us, and not realizing that it is hindering and hiding our greatness, our power.
 
We DO NOT GAIN OUR POWER by destroying the masculine.
We do not recover who we are by male bashing.
We do not make what has been wrong right by doing what has been done in return.
 
No.
 
We help our men by raising them in respect.
We help change our world by teaching both our daughters and son’s that we are all humans and deserving of respect and love. We teach our youth to love themselves and to love others. This is spoken of but not lived, therefore not experienced or taught.
 
Remember that words do not teach.
Experience does.
 
To heal our world,
we must heal both feminine and masculine.
We must exhibit self- love and respect.
We must respect our differences.
We learn to speak our truth.
Our needs, our boundaries and honor another’s as well.
This does not mean to give what is not in alignment to self.
It means to simple see another for the beautiful soul that they are,
the path they are on,
the healing that they need.
And support them by being authentically us.
Standing firm in WHO YOU ARE.
 
 
 
Today is mothers day.
Whether you are a mommy or not,
this message goes out to you beautiful.
This message is about YOU.
It is a CALL TO ACTION to step the f-ck up and NEVER DIM YOUR LIGHT!
 
It is a CALL TO YOUR SOUL –
to scream your worth,
to claim who you are,
to never lean away in fear of yourself.
To keep expressing.
To keep being beautiful in all the ways that you are.
Do not hide.
Do not feel shame or guilt.
In who you are.
 
Allow yourself to be soft.
To be powerful.
Allow yourself to receive.
The abundance,
the love,
the blessings.
They are all around you lovely.
Open and receive them.
 
Only your shut down blocks them.
 
It is time for YOU BEAUTIFUL to STEP INTO WHO YOU ARE.
 
Don’t accept the excuses,
the reasons or fears,
turn away from the doubt.
 
You ROCK!
You are WORTHY.
You are BEAUTIFUL.
 
This world NEEDS YOUR POWER and INFLUENCE.
 
Authentically Be You.
 
And remember,
Stop Existing & Start Living!
 
Happy Mother’s Day to everyone! This morning I woke up with an even BIGGER desire to GIVE.
I want all of you lovely women to be able to do the inner work, the mindset training and abundance training.
You are so deserving of greatness beautiful!
 
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Are You a Momprenuer or an IMPOSTURE?

Hey Momprenuer Are You Being An IMPOSTURE?

It’s time that you decide beautiful.
It’s time that you make up your effing mind,
and choose to just say YES.
Your SOUL is sick and tired of your excuses.
You are brilliant and beautiful,
when you let your light shine.
But you are terrifying and ugly,
when you walk in fear.
So why do you keep torturing yourself?
Why do you keep wishing for what you are not dedicated too?

These words that you toss out at the world,
they are pointless,
they are meaningless and disgusting.
As nice as they may sound,
as smart as you may appear,
these words are not a teacher,
they are not the truth.
And THIS is the issue that you are facing.

YOU are an IMPOSTURE!

You stand there hiding yourself behind your screens,
behind your makeup,
your words and all that you use to cover yourself.
You hide.
And hiding is all you can do,
because you know the TRUTH.
You know the lies.
The lies that you have been telling,
telling all those who listen.
And even though you speak of goodness,
you preach what you know is right,
because you CHOOSE to ignore you speak not the truth.

Your SOUL is begging you beautiful.
To step away from this land of comfort in misery.
And recognize, that you are WORTHY.

But instead,
you keep choosing to get lost in your fears.
To run into the arms of pain and worry.
Instead you desire the opposite of what you speak.
And you settle.

YOU are an IMPOSTURE!

You have a mission.
You have a message.
It is there upon your sweet lips beautiful.
Speak it!
Live it.
Love it.

You MUST BE IT though.
Or you will remain,
remain and be an IMPOSTURE.

Look at the world.
Look at all those that you touch,
that you influence.
They deserve your best,
and YOU deserve your BEST!

You share,
you want to spread light
and love.
Positive messages.
You want to empower humankind.
You want to help all be set free from the bounds that hold them.
And you know the path.
You know the truth.
Yet, you choose to ignore.
To ignore your own lessons.
To ignore the lessons of your mentors, your teachers and those that you look up too.
You hide from your SOUL.

What good will come of this way of living?
This way of being beautiful.
If you KEEP CHOOSING to be an IMPOSTURE.

The funny thing is, that this con artist gig that you have going on….

IT IS NOT YOU.

It is just a negative thought.
A negative thought that has you by your balls,
it is holding you in its terrorizing grip.
It makes you feel as though you cannot breathe.
As if you are safer in the arms of doubt,
then where you know you belong.
And you understand the POWER that you have.
You understand that YOU can change it all.
With one deep breath.
One long minute of focus.
One desire to FEEL GOOD.
YOU can stop this game you are playing.
You can BECOME who you are.

But you have got to BELIEVE in yourself beautiful.
You have got to see that all that you are doing is valuable.
That you really are unique.
You really are powerful.
You are brilliant.
You have a message.
A mission.
And this world needs you!

This message that I share with you today,
its for all those beautiful momprenuers, who doubt and fear. Who hide and mask. But consistently step up everyday.
As you look at all that you do,
and the reasons that you do it.
That sweet child looking at you,
sleeping safety in their bed.
Yes that sweet soul and the KNOWING.
The knowing that YOU are beautiful and have a PURPOSE.

You were born to THRIVE.
This message today from one momprenuer to another,

It is effing time gorgeous that you stop allowing so little from yourself.

It is time that you level up your belief.
It is time that you open up that wounded scared heart.
And START RECEIVING.

You Rock beautiful mama!

So rock out of this hard spot,
and flow into your GROOVE BABY!!!!

As always remember,
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”

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Until you DO THIS THING you will never succeed in any area you want. Jacked but true!

What if I told you that the one thing you are sitting around and contemplating,
the one thing that you are procrastinating on,
and have been this whole time,
is the THING.
 
The THING that until you deal with it,
until you put your head down and JUST DO,
until you STOP the insanity of attempting to ignore it,
when your SOUL is screaming,
begging and doing everything it can,
to get you to pay attention and JUST DO IT.
Is holding you back.
 
Yes beautiful!
 
This THING,
and you know the thing.
You know you know the thing.
 
Until you do the THING,
you will not have success anywhere else.
 
That is a hard pill to swallow.
And you may say, but the thing is so small.
The thing has NOTHING to do with anything else.
The thing is unimportant.
The thing cannot have that big of an impact on my life.
No the thing,
it cannot be that THING.
That is just silly.
 
But what if….
Seriously now,
what if this thing IS the reason that you are struggling so damn hard in the areas of your life that you are?
 
What if the procrastination,
the excuses,
the fears and worries about this thing,
and the avoidance of doing this thing,
is truly enough kink in your abundance hose,
your ability to manifest the life that you want in all areas.
To make it seem like you are not worthy.
Not good enough.
Not whatever….
 
What if it’s like setting the coordinates of an airplane off by one degree?
 
Can you imagine where a plane would end up if that happened.
 
One degree over the course of time,
just a short period of time at that,
would make the planes destination completely change.
The goal may be New York,
but they might land in Beijing.
And what challenges would come of this one degree difference on the set path?
Perhaps not having enough gas.
Among many other issues.
And then they would land at a destination they were not wanting.
 
Yes, beautiful.
What if you thought about the THING that you have been procrastinating on like this.
What if you just for a few days, a month or whatever time needed to see results, changes happen, did a little experiment with this THING.
 
What if….
What if you just did the THING?
 
Crazy.
 
What if you did the thing,
and in doing the thing,
all your other things,
magically fixed themselves.
The things you wanted to manifest,
just happened to manifest with ease.
 
What if because you no longer were procrastinating about this thing,
were no longer running from it,
hiding from it,
as if it were some monster,
that you looked in the mirror now with confidence.
With certainty.
With love.
 
What if this very THING,
is what is holding you back from THRIVING beautiful?
What if it is the ONLY effing reason that you are not living the life that you want right now?
 
Is this thing worthy of stealing your greatest life ever?
It is worth you sacrificing your joy,
your love,
your abundance over?
 
Is it?
 
Well is it?
 
Go and ponder this thing today beautiful.
Look at it truly and ask yourself if it is that big of a mountain to climb,
that scaring of a feat to tackle,
that enormous of whatever the eff it is,
that you are going to continue even for the rest of this beautiful day,
full of life and opportunity,
allow….
 
Allow it to take away everything that you desire and want for yourself.
 
You have the power beautiful.
It is nothing more than a choice.
It is your choice.
No one else’s.
 
You cannot keep making the excuses that you have been making and avoiding this thing any longer,
if you step into listening to that beautiful heart of yours.
You say that you are committed.
You say that you really want it.
You are doing all the work that it takes.
You are so focused.
So motivated.
So brilliant.
 
But beautiful,
your f-cking it all up.
 
By NOT doing this thing!
 
So take a big breath right now,
stand up from where you are at,
and take no more crap from yourself.
 
And do the THING that you have been procrastinating on all this time.
 
Destroy what is holding you back,
by stepping into yourself that much more.
 
Bye bye avoidance.
Bye bye procrastination.
Hello SOUL.
Hello manifestation.
 
You are magic.
 
And remember,
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”
 
Want to take that step?
I sure hope that you have come to realize that this fence that you are sitting on is not a fence of safety,
but a fence of saying no to self,
saying no to your dreams and desires and living the way God intended on you living.
THRIVING.
 
Yes BABY.
It is time that you decide..
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The Soul Sucking That You Are Addicted To.

I remember the days when I had to almost literally be drug out of bed to go to my J-O-B.

I am serious.
I was drug like a kid out of my bed.
The last “real” job I had was back in the 1990’s when I sold large appliances for Circuit City. I was 18 years old and fresh out in the world. Planning my wedding and working 40+ hours each week at a job that I hated.
I remember looking at my pay checks,
part of me proud and part of me so frustrated.
Two weeks worth of work.
80+ hours of my time and energy.
Living at a place that my heart and soul hated,
learning to sell extended service programs that I did not believe in.
And all of this soul sucking for a whopping $650 every two weeks!

WTF!
I look back at those days and I wonder how I survived such disgust. But I did.
Until one day, a week before my wedding when I had a meeting with my manager ( who was so very grumpy herself, a woman who was owned by the company).
She pulled me in her office to informed me that even though I had requested a week off to get married and enjoy a few days honeymoon months before,
and we are talking many months before,
matter a fact it was at my hire.
That after consideration, management had decided that I could not have the time off as I had not worked there long enough to take a vacation…

Excuse me?

I had been giving all my time and energy to this place.
I had made good sales,
sold the freaking extended service programs that were crap even, and was now informed that I had to choose between my job and my wedding….

LOL.

Yeppers I chose my wedding.

I watched all my fellow colleagues work their bumbs off,
and sacrifice their families, their holidays, events and very life to make sure to be there for this place of business.
They felt that it was a duty, it was loyalty, it was responsible.

They had too.
And I saw these same people a few years later,
looking for anything to ease them.
Alcohol. Drugs. Sex.

The addictions grew and they stayed addicted to this soul sucking life experience, called their J-O-B.

As time went on, I learned and grew.
I got education around psychology, mindset, habits and so much more.
I explored multiple opportunities to expand myself and my pocket book. Hoping to get rich overnight almost ( with a little hard work of course too). Some were partially successful, some not so much. All had a system, a pre-created pattern to success in this business or that.
None felt in alignment to my soul or heart, but I kept trying to drink the Koolade.

No matter what I tried, if it was not in alignment it did not take long for my whole being to feel drained and lost in life.
I could not figure out what was wrong with me.
Surely not all of these opportunities were bad.
It must be something I was doing.

And it was something that I was doing.
I was sacrificing my soul,
my life for something that someone else had built, created and told me was the way to get what I wanted, instead of following my heart.

Soul suck after soul suck,
I felt addicted to trying this or that out in the attempt to achieve SUCCESS.

I wanted nothing more than to just be me.
I wanted to be a BIG earner in some company.
I wanted to speak and share, educate and help others in some fashion or form.
Be a thought leader.
A visionary.
A crusader.

I wanted to make positive changes in this world, and help people feel good, live an abundant life. And I truly believed that I had to do this through someone else’s way. That I did not have the skills, ideas, education, know how to be an influencer.

And so I continued for years to explore companies that promised so many beautiful things but all felt so empty to my soul at the end of the day because they were selling something that in my opinion did not really change lives the way that I desired to change lives.

They were not my purpose work.
My soul was not captivated by any of them.
But they did soul suck the life out of me and I was honestly addicted to this process without really realizing it.

Much like many are addicted to going to the J-O-B and making sure the BOSS man is happy, or that the company is taken care of but not even truly believing in what they are doing. Or perhaps one day many years ago they believed in the greatness of this or that company, they were on board with the mission, but now today, it is a paycheck. It is a bonus check. It is relatively easy work, but still empty.

And they feel drained.
Lost in their lives and choose to mask and cover the pain of a life that is empty with something that eases the pain.
Proclaiming that one day, one day they will do that thing.
That thing that they would love to do.
You know the thing.
The thing you desire.
The thing that turns you on.
The things that makes you wish you could be working at it, creating it, building it, putting yourself into it.
FULLY.

Yes that thing.
Not a thing that is soul sucking,
but is life giving.
Will make you THRIVE.
And if you applied yourself to this thing,
would not only make your soul sing,
but bring you abundance in so many ways and HAPPINESS.

Yes that thing.

Well that is where I got to pretty damn quick in my life.
I looked out at this world of lost souls, hungry people who craved more but was addicted to the suffering.
Who did not know how to change.
How to escape this track they had gotten on.
Where they would find their happiness, or if it was even okay to contemplate happiness.

I could not do it!
I could not settle.
I could not sell my soul to this way of existing.
I had to speak who I was, be me and do my own thing.
Feed my soul.

And I want you to know that you too can feed your soul.
I want you to know that if you are one of the very many people out there that want for so much more in life, dislike where you are sitting at in your life, in your work, your relationships, your happiness level or anything else, but feel CALLED to go another path. To be something that you have always wanted but are unsure as to how….

That you are only a decision away.
You do not have to give up everything you currently have and do to have it either, but you MUST be willing to STEP FULLY into who you are.
To listen to your SOUL and to stop hiding.
Stop masking and avoiding.

The steps to a fulfilling life, a life that you have claimed and are living authentically may not mean to quite your job, or move states or countries, or change partners. No it may not mean any of that. It more than likely means none of that. But what it does mean is that you stop taking your own crap. Stop hiding from your desire to be something you know you were born to be.

Do you have a calling that you have been avoiding?
A mission that your soul knows is yours?
A passion that ignites your very soul, but currently you are lost as to how to expand it, make its successful, make it stand out and touch lives? Touch this world?
You can have it.
You can.

And remember,
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”

Want to know how I help people move from a soul sucking existence into living their calling and speaking from their soul? I help mompreneur and entrepreneurs of all back ground not just create a freedom based life but live a F-ck YES! Lifestyle doing whatever their SOUL calls them to.

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