My heart bleeds for all of us in this world.
As a coach through the years I have heard so many tales of horror, of trauma, abuse and misunderstandings.
I have witnessed so many unable to stand in their truth,
scared to speak up for themselves,
and allowing others to run all over them in so many areas of their lives.
For the last 10+ years I have had my practice focused on sex and relationship coaching, helping singles and couples. Couples work has been a passion for me however.
Today my coaching practice has moved more into abundance and prosperity coaching thanks to my beautiful clients who requested my focus to change as they noticed that they would come to me to heal their communication, intimacy and relationship challenges and they had the side benefit of watching their lives change in their finances as well.
They discovered that in doing work around their intimate relationships that they were also lacking in other subject areas and what I was teaching them about their intimacy and sex also applied to money and purpose.
Well, here I am today in 2019,
with a beautiful practice and lovely clients who I adore so much and find myself in gratitude for daily. I woke this morning feeling a wobble in my energy around my practice, in what direction I wanted to focus RIGHT NOW, what was needed from me, where was I to step next to best help these souls that I share with daily and in truth I was lost.
God is amazing I have found.
Always getting those who desire to be in alignment back on path softly when we remain open to the messages.
And so my day has brought me full circle.
Wobble has drifted off and I feel directed, guided and clearer.
Back to where I have ALWAYS been.
My niche is SOUL!
And today my message is just about that.
SOUL Niche is where it is at BABY!
I have heard my own mentor speak about no niche,
and I logically got what she was saying and truly believed that I was doing just that,
but today something different has come up from the sea of knowledge and I get it a tad bit more as to what she means when she say’s no niche.
I am a “SOUL Solutions Coach” helping people move through the miscommunications that this world causes for us in ALL subjects of our life.
Bringing it back to humanness.
Bringing it back to love.
Bring it back to what is right will feel right and will not carry with it anger or hatred but love and connection.
When we come into any subject in our lives from SOUL and not ego,
we do not feel threatened,
we do not feel like we must prove anything,
we do not have a desire to control,
to blame, guilt or shame.
And we do not hold putrid thoughts and feelings toward anyone on this planet because their truth is not our truth and they choose to speak it in any fashion.
SOUL is respect for all humans beliefs, ways of being, and showing up.
SOUL is focused on building trust by not attacking with words or actions.
SOUL understands that each individual has boundaries and that we don’t have to agree with them but we do need to respect them.
SOUL understands that our words and actions play a significant role on the emotional, physiological, spiritual and physical bodies of self and others.
SOUL knows that our life is not about segregation but instead unity. Between people and subjects in our lives.
SOUL is about being captivated. Not by control or shame or anything other than SOUL – This being captivated means that you will feel CALLED to what you need, to the steps that you should take, to the lessons that you are to learn and toward love and gratitude, beauty and worthiness.
And so I come full circle today to the realization that I had so many years back,
“One Heart – One Soul”
This is how our world elevates its consciousness.
This is how we elevate our individual lives in all subjects.
To truly understand Namaste.
“I honor the place in you in which the entire universe dwells. I honor the place in you which is of love, of truth, of light, and of peace. When you are in that place in you, and I am in that place in me, we are one.”
And honoring the light of SOUL is all that we can ever do in some situations as some individuals are eaten up by hatred, fear of their own light and worthiness and desire to control, manipulate and terrify those they claim to love, those they desire to be like and those that test their beliefs and fears.
Still, the most beautiful thing that any of us can ever off is just this HONOR of SOUL.
Speak from here beautiful.
Look from here.
Touch from here.
Communicate from here.
Ignore the fear that your ego will toss before you on this path,
ignore the concept that anyone is better than another,
ignore the concept that you must bow to them and let them have their way even if they are the one you wake next too each morning.
Because the act of hatred will never be love.
The act of taking will never be love.
The act of shaming will never be love.
The act of blaming will never be love.
So never settle or allow yourself to believe that it is.
You are WORTHY.
You are LOVE.
And As Always,
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This is WHY I love my haters, nahsayers and skeptics….
I just want to say that I love you!
I truly do.
Without those of you who live for the fight,
for the ego, for the anger and the sadness,
there would be no mission to bring light and love into this world.
Without all of you who are super critical,
who find more value and worth in trying to be right then focusing on beauty and truth.
For all of you who feel the need to judge, criticize, make fun of, and attempt to squash,
there would be limited exploration into self,
into deeper awareness and understanding.
Without you who adore darkness and hatred,
who live for the putrid thoughts and ill feelings,
there would not be contrast,
showing what love is and what love is not.
Revealing what walking on the path of soul is and what it is not.
For those who speak of their belief,
their faith and their loyalty,
to something greater and grander,
how they live the words of masters of our past,
yet weld the words of inner demons and sadness.
This void that you choose to bless the rest with,
is a blessing sweet soul.
It is a blessing,
and for this I love you.
I love you,
the skeptics that choose to follow,
and cast stones that are not yours to cast.
I love you for showing the path that hatred and self-contempt can take any of us down,
for sharing the void that you must feel,
the lostness that eats at your soul.
I hear your pain sweet one.
I see your pleas,
Your desire to be recognized,
to feel some sort of worth.
If even from a negative source.
Much like a small child,
who acts out to receive attention,
you too act out to be seen.
I tell you here,
I tell you from my heart and my soul,
although you may not want to believe,
to hear or to receive.
I tell you now,
I LOVE YOU.
You are worthy.
You are beautiful.
You are deserving of happiness and abundance.
No matter how lost,
or sad or traumatized you may be.
YOU are worthy.
One day your soul will speak,
and you will choose a different path.
You will choose to hear the words,
the words of your worth.
You will realize that in order to fill that void,
that gaping hole that resides inside of you,
you will have to lean away from hatred,
away from judgement,
away from the casting of the stones.
You will have to embrace that we are all part of the same race.
We are HUMAN.
And we have our misguiding’s.
Our ego catches the best of us,
but still God wants for nothing more,
then EVERYONE of us to LOVE life.
To love thy neighbor as thy self.
To know that none walk without sin.
To know that we are loved.
To know that we are worthy.
And to OWN the very truth that LOVE,
Love is the answer.
This is why I love my haters, my nahsayers and the skeptics that choose to follow me.
That choose to condemn.
That choose to hate as they preach.
I love you sweet haters.
Thank you for supporting my mission.
Thank you for supporting my soul work.
Thank you for the opportunities to share,
and from this authentic space,
that as I sit in stillness,
and listen to the calling.
I know who I am .
I know how important it is…
to STAND firmly,
to speak in love,
to share the message of a life worth living.
The life that we are all here to LIVE.
A life of THRIVING.
For anything other is not giving praise to our creator.
I love you haters, nahsayers and skeptics.
Thank you! Thank you for your sharing.
Without YOU there would be no reason.
I share with you now one of my favorite messages,
the one that most aligns…
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.” – 1 Corinthians 13:4-8
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You dishonor who I am.
You dishonor my life.
You dishonor the love I have felt.
You dishonor my choices.
You even dishonor yourself.
And for what?
To proclaim that you are better than,
That you know,
you are more of a man.
You proudly stand before me,
claiming your love.
Never stopping to realize that I have felt a greater love then you can even fathom.
You will never know the love that has captivated my heart,
my soul and carried me into the heavens.
You will never know of it,
or understand it because you refuse to accept that I have ever even been loved.
In your proclamations of how you can show me love.
You can reveal to me how a woman is to be cared for.
What “real dating, courting” is about.
That you, yes you are the gentlemen that knows this better than any other who has ever crossed my path.
As you stand there,
with that glimmer in your eye’s,
with that smirk on your face,
with that smugness in your body,
and you vocalize how it should be.
And how you aim to show me.
You do nothing more than dishonor me.
You state with each word of disbelief,
a declaring that I have never felt anything worth anything,
that I am naive,
and have poor taste in men.
If this is true,
if you truly believe that no man has ever really loved me.
If you really believe that,
then why should I believe that you are any better?
And realize that we all have fears around love and being lovable,
so when you make such assumptions,
in an essence you support this fear that I am just that.
So if I have felt this deep.
If I have opened up in vulnerability to this level,
surrendered my very soul over to another,
smelled of this loves sweetness and been blessed to inhale the intoxicating scent of roses in my love making.
But none of it is true…
Then what possibly could you offer me sir?
You say I was nothing more than a pretty piece on his arm.
You say he wanted me only for my sex.
You say that he had never an intent of going the distance.
You say that he never brought true life experience to me.
You say that he never romanced me properly,
dated me properly.
You say a lot for man that has no clue.
That is blind.
That is making a lot of judgments based on only your own hopes that this is such.
But I will tell you this sir.
I will tell you that you have not a clue.
And because you come at me in such dishonor,
preaching of your love,
trying to kill what I hold dear.
Realize that you will NEVER succeed at killing off this love.
You will never destroy my heart.
your desire to control,
will never compare to that which I hold dear.
I welcome your childish attempts.
They do nothing but strengthen what has always been.
And so I say this loud and true,
please hear me now blind sir,
you have not a chance at ever captivating this heart of mine.
You refuse to listen.
You refuse to truly feel me.
You refuse to accept that in order to come into my heart that you will have to top this love,
and trying to destroy,
or make light of what my soul has felt,
is not the way to penetrate my heart.
But I do assure you,
it is the way out of my life.
You dishonor me with your fear.
You dishonor me with your desire to make me small.
You dishonor me with your hatred of my love.
And so we say goodbye.
I share this intimacy from my heart and soul today to all of you gentlemen and women alike who find a need to discredit someone’s past relationships.
No matter your relationship with someone,
but for sure if you have romantic interest in them,
please take heed to this poem here.
Never try to captivate their heart by attempting to destroy a past love.
This only show’s your weakness.
Instead listen to the sweetness that that love has brought to them,
allow yourself to hear,
learn what another has done and what your lover wants more of.
Do not be foolish enough to believe that because this love they speak of is not present in the here and now,
that it is any less than potentially the love of this person’s life.
Not all love is meant to be held for a life time.
But all love does expand us and transform us.
Never make judgments on another’s heart.
You only weaken or destroy your place in theirs.
Instead be –
And cherish this moment with them.
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Just this morning I was walking my kindergartner into his school. There I was in yoga pants, a tank top and sweat shirt off one shoulder. My hawaii flip flops on my feet and my hair tossed up in a pony tail. My son and I were goofing around like we do every morning, laughing and hugging, picking on each other as we crossed the parking lot and walked down the entry way of the school.
It was just another morning in truth.
And yet it was not.
Because this morning I was people watching more so than what I normally do for some reason.
And as always with people watching I always feel so separated from those around me.
I feel judgmental.
And maybe I should be ashamed to admit that here publicly, but living by my true style I am going to stand in my raw truth with you and just speak it.
I mean we are all judgmental and critical.
And anyone who claims to not be is hiding or lying.
What it comes down to in my opinion, is what you choose to do with the judgments and thoughts that come up.
Do you choose to observe them,
do some good inquiry around them,
and discover deeper messages about yourself?
Or do you choose to pick apart others and find fault and reason as to why you are suffering or how you are better than another in order to justify your worth or reasons?
So here I was,
walking in the school with my son like fifty other women,
and what I noticed was the lack of connection between these parents and their children. There was no laughter, only seriousness and rushing.
There were no smiles even, just pissed off turned down expressions.
Most walked quickly and with a hunched over frame, as though they were trying to hide.
And then there were a few who bee-bopped by looking like they had been up for 3 hours already. Very well put together, but walking in haste.
Entering the school,
music playing, teachers singing and welcoming children, I noticed how the kids lit up as they entered the school because the teachers were appearing excited and happy to start the day with them. The upbeat music caught your ear and made you want to sing along, which is what I do every morning.
But I was alone.
and parents looked at me,
casting their own judgement back.
Most likely wondering who this crazy woman is who dares be happy and sing out loud to her child and shake her hips at the front door as she kisses her kid good by and gives a big hug, then turns and chats with a teacher or two?
Yes, so there I was judging and being judged.
And as I turned and walked back to my car, I noticed how so many parents just seemed lifeless.
Now I was feeling pity.
And I don’t do pity very well.
My pity quickly turned to irritation and disgust.
I looked at these people,
and in my belief they each have a purpose.
They each have a talent.
They are each born for greatness.
They are worthy.
But all I see here is a lack of worth.
And the only effing reason for it is that they are allowing it.
And what are they teaching their children by accepting such a life of low vibe, low energy, dullness and disconnect?
They are teaching them to be the same.
Because our children 90 % of the time do not learn from what we tell them to do, but from what we show them we are doing.
You want an honest child.
Be honest with your child and others.
You want a compassionate child.
Be compassionate with your child and others.
You want a child that can stand on their own two feel and is not easily lead astray.
Then be strong in who you are and have good boundaries and speak your truth.
Whatever you are desiring your child to grow up to be,
realize that you are an example to them.
So back to my point.
Here as I walked I saw a bunch of people who had somewhere along the life trail gotten good with just existing.
Gotten good with their reasons,
their excuses and why’s.
They had settled into not having.
Settled into average.
And had forgotten that they could define what their average looked and felt like.
It’s crazy to think how close to all that we want each and everyone of us truly is.
And yet it is so.
It is no further away then what we are willing to accept for ourselves.
Willing to believe for ourselves.
Willing to expect for ourselves.
But WE have to actually want it bad enough to stop calling in all the reasons that we don’t have it or cannot have it.
Our reasons have got to mean less to us then our DESIRE.
So what are you settling for?
What are the core beliefs that you have that are creating things that you don’t want?
And are you conscious to them?
Let’s get real.
Let’s get raw.
And As Always,
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Could This Be You?
I share this tale with you today,
because it tells so much of our desire and need to know.
It show’s how difficult it is to just receive.
Receive without question.
And to let life be magical,
Yes, here I sit on day three of a mystery.
It is a BIG mystery at that.
Let me share with you the gist and what I have learned in the process.
Friday, like any day, I sat in my writing spot.
I wrote and people came through my space,
sharing their day,
their ideas and challenges.
I sat there and enjoyed them.
I enjoyed the moment.
And when the stillness came,
While writing the door bell rang,
my son answered and came back with a lovely bouquet of white roses and lilies.
He sat them down on my table and I read the note attached.
“I hope this makes an ordinary day, extraordinary! – Signed Me”
My heart smiled.
As I love getting flowers.
And I was just thinking how I needed new ones on my table.
It smiled because with these lovely flowers came a feeling of love.
I felt desired.
I felt like someone,
this Me character, knew what I needed in that moment.
As my days before had been challenging and overwhelming.
And here was just a breath of air.
And a very accurate desire to make my ordinary,
So whom was the me?
Whom could I give my thanks too?
My heart felt it was one person,
the flowers before me,
the bouquet choice,
seemed to say his name.
I sent a text in that moment,
as this person was out of town and state,
and I sent a text,
saying “Thank you, you just made me smile.”
It was received, but not acknowledged that it was a comment about the flowers.
Like any good woman,
who wants to know who gifted her.
Who wants to say thank you.
I sent a picture.
with a comment of, “Aren’t they lovely?”
And in response,
I got “Wow! yes they are. “
After sharing some, it came about that this man claimed not to have sent them my way.
as it was right up his line of action,
I found myself on the mystery bus.
And am still there.
three days later,
after asking almost all my old lovers,
and asking current men I share intimacies with,
and asking my children and friends,
I have come up with a loss as to whom,
sent these flowers.
And why does it matter anyway?
Why do I care so much?
I claim it is because I need and desire to give my thanks.
And that is partially true.
The reality is,
outside of the turn on that I have from the courting,
outside of the smile that it brought me,
outside of the romantic mystery,
and I do love a good mystery.
I want to KNOW.
Because I feel like I need to know.
But is that true?
What will it benefit?
What will it do?
Perhaps, the gift of the mystery,
is in the not knowing.
It is in the surrender.
this soul is asking for my surrender,
and asking me to just receive.
Much like the universe.
Much like God.
The request is simple.
Surrender and Receive.
Everything can be yours in so doing this.
But here I sit on day three.
Looking at my beautiful flowers.
And in my questioning,
I have discovered the answer.
The answer like with anything is always right in front of us.
Our soul always knows.
And the clues are right there.
The clues of heart and soul.
Of soul alignment.
Of getting EXACTLY what we ask for.
And just letting it be.
Be the beautiful, loving act that it is.
Letting that smile be seen.
The surrender be felt.
Here is where I sit.
I sit now,
still with a lingering question.
But knowing that I am being given my hearts desire.
that is all I ever need to know.
My gratitude will reach this “Me” whom sent the flowers.
It is felt already I am sure.
And this “Me” with a hidden smile,
in their knowing,
I thank for the soul lesson.
The lesson in receiving.
The lesson in true giving.
I feel great respect for this “me”
because they are not needing the pat on the back.
They are but just holding space.
And in that space they too are receiving.
the lesson remains.
Let It Go.
Let it go, and surrender to your receiving.
There is no need to know.
There is no need to thank.
The gratitude needed comes from the heart.
And this can be felt from any distance.
And now I have a question,
a question for you,
and I encourage you to inquire.
As it will change your world.
“Where are you not surrendering to your desire to receive?”
Where are you holding yourself back from all that you want, because you are scared of not knowing what will come?
Let this case of the mystery flower delivery,
be a lesson to surrender to the mysteries of God’s blessing and those that are used to manifest them.
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“I’ve been praying.
I have been praying but it does not seem that my prayers are being heard.
They must be falling on deaf ears, or heaven has shut its gates to my plea.
I am in such need.
I am fearful, scared, and uncertain.
I have fallen to my knees, each and every night.
And asked for guidance, through this difficult time.
I’ve been praying.Lord, please help me.”
You may never want to read my words again, after you read this post.
Just a simple FYI.
I am going to preface this with, I am not condemning prayer.
I am not saying anything of the sort.
PRAYER is POWERFUL.
Prayer is wonderful.
Prayer is NEEDED.
However much like anything though, it is best when done in perfection, or as close to it as we can get.
And that is not to say that we cannot be human in our prayer and mess the eff up here and there.
But in order for us to get the answers that we desire,
which is WHY WE PRAY to begin with,
then we MUST do prayer right.
is not about the way you fold your hands,
or bow before an alter.
It is not about where you choose to go to pray,
or what faith you choose to follow.
It is not about the forgiveness of sins,
or the asking of such even.
is simply about VIBRATION.
When we pray we do so from fear.
We pray from a place of brokenness.
We pray from a belief that we do not have,
that we have done something to deserve this suffering,
that we are not worthy, and MUST ask for forgiveness.
That we must cower before the alter of our choice,
and we must make ourselves small.
We believe that whatever we are needing,
wanting or crying out for is not within our scope.
And so we pray.
We pray for help.
And this sweet one, is not the energy of God. This is not the energy of the divine..
This is not in love or of love.
This sort of prayer is one based in inverted pride.
No,this is not how God desires his people to show up.
This is not how we show off God’s power.
Proper prayer, as stated before is all about VIBRATION.
And vibration starts with your thinking.
Then your feeling.
Yes your emotions that are attached to those thoughts.
Proper prayer should ALWAYS be a prayer of GRATITUDE.
Find gratitude in the things that you have around you,
even if your life is sh*t.
Find gratitude in the life you have been given,
even if you are scared, suffering and lost.
Find gratitude in your struggle,
because it shows you where your work is at.
And that work that it is showing you is nothing more than a change in VIBRATION.
Gratitude is the ONLY proper prayer
.As any other will only lead you to further low vibe thoughts, fears, and concerns.
Thus you will embody suffering through the emotions that you feel based on this belief that it is out of your grasp to be FRUITFUL.
Prayer is about turning it over.
Showing your FAITH.And LETTING GO to GOD.
We do not let go, when we are attaching our inverted pride to any situation. Instead we are owning victimhood and a scarcity mindset.
In order for us to live in grace, abundance and joy, we must let go of our need to control through our fears and wounding.
Thus making every prayer a PRAYER OF GRATITUDE instead of FEAR.
Let God’s power show through you,
by leveling up your prayer life,
and step into CERTAINTY,
where all things are possible,
because God is GREAT.
This is the life of a believer.
And a prayer achiever.
Your VIBE Dictates Your Prayer.
As always, Stop Existing & Start Living
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