Your Attachment is Holding You Back, Why Are You Allowing This?

You ebb and you flow.
You wake up feeling effing amazing one day and then as if some sort of curse that you have no control of,
something happens.
Something takes over.
And you are lost within your own crazy chaotic brilliant disaster of a mind that is scared out of its comfort zone that it will loose itself.
That you will plummet into the rocks.

It’s like the scene from Princess Bride where Fezzik and Inigo Montoya are just setting off in the boat and enjoying a bit of rhyme,
“Are there rocks ahead?”
“If there are we’ll all be dead.”

Yes this is the tale of the story of worry and fear that plays in your head love.

I know.
I know how scary it can be.
I know how sh*tty it makes you feel.
The tension in your muscles.
The agonizing heaviness in your gut.
The NOT KNOWING.

And you hold your breath.
You FREEZE.
But all you truly want to do is run and hide.
To hide and cry.

You can feel that you are holding yourself back.
You are conscious of the thoughts and feelings that are swimming through you.
Its a mad house,
or maybe a war zone.
You want to try and control them.
You can sense the damage that they are causing.
You know the power of thoughts let loose.

What are you to do?
How do gain control again?

How can you go from this ill state,
and YES it is an ill state of being.
You are feeling ill are you not?
Your tummy is tight,
your breath is held.
Your palms are reacting,
you can not relax,
and that sadness that dances between depression and anger,
anger and fear,
fear and bitterness.

How do you escape this space that you have manifested?
How do you move back into that beautiful turned on space where life was in flow?
Where you were turned on.
Happy.
Full of creativity.
Love.
and
you could see all your dreams manifesting.
QUICKLY.

How?

You want to analyze how you arrived here.
You want to dissect it.
And try and fix it.
But you know that the more focus you apply to this dreary state of being the longer you will reside here.

The best you can do is LET GO.
The best you can do is LEARN.
Take note.
But DO NOT ATTACH.
Your attachment to this fear is what will hold you in this space for all if eternity of you allow it to persist.

SO STEP THE F-CK AWAY FROM IT NOW BEAUTIFUL.

Let go of this attachment.

Just lift up your hands,
do the scary,
seemingly impossible thing that you know you must do,
SURRENDER.

Surrender it all over to God.
Let is all go.
THIS IS THE MOMENT…

You must show your CERTAINTY.
You must show your FAITH.

You must LET GO.

You may not think that you are attached to the fear.
Attached to the these bad ideas, fears and thoughts.
I know it sounds crazy to be attached to such things,
but…
I assure you,
that you are beautiful.

It is so obvious.
You are attached because it is what you are holding on too.
It is what you are carrying in your arms,
you hold it out like a trophy,
this fear.
This wound.
This emptiness.

Yet it fills you.
It makes you feel alive.

Doesn’t it?

What would you do if you did not have to FIGHT for your breath?

What would you do if you did not have to scrap after everything,
and it did not take until the very last possible second for you to be saved?

WHAT IF?

And I am getting crazy now….
I get it I am.

What if,
You did not ever need to be saved?

Then what?
Then what would your life be like beautiful?

Would you seize to feel alive anymore?
Would you be bored?

I am pretty sure that you could find something else to entertain yourself with if you were not running around putting out fires all the time.

I am damn sure that you could feel just as a live THRIVING as you do SUFFERING.

But at the end of the day,
its all up to you beautiful.
It is a CHOICE.

How badly do you want to be HAPPY?
How badly do you want to live in ease and flow verse what ya’ got going on?

Sure there might be rocks ahead.
But you are steering your boat babe.

You can avoid those rocks with one simple maneuver.

FAITH.

Know you are beautiful.
Know you are brilliant in all you do.
Know you don’t need to become worthy,
you were born that way.

Know thyself.
And Claim Your Life Today.

As Always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”

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You Know That Feeling. Yes That Feeling.

You know that feeling…
That feeling that you get when you just cannot sit still.
When you have wanted for something,
you sat and conjured it up in your head over and over again,
the excitement of the WHAT IF?

Yes that feeling.

That’s it right there, love.

That feeling that heats up your groin.
That feeling that makes your body pulse.
That feeling that makes your heart flutter like you just kissed someone for the first time.
That feeling that makes you blush like really good sex.

Yes that feeling.
Right there, love.

You know that feeling don’t you?

Waking up in this feeling is one of the best things EVER!

It just ignites the whole day.

It’s almost like you feel like you are walking around with a magic wand in your hand and just asking for what you want and flicking your wand and BAM –

It’s there.

You can feel your manifestation,
RIGHT THERE,
even though you cannot see it in this moment.

YOU FEEL IT.

Yes that feeling.
That feeling right there, love.

So juicy.
So yummie.
It just makes you want to keep asking for more all the while basking in what you have coming.
What is there with you now.

It is exciting!
It is blissful.

It is all YOU.
And you KNOW it.

You feel your power in these moments.
Yet there is great AWE as well.
And GRATITUDE,
in this expectation.

It’s like you don’t want to over think it,
or you will kill the energy.
You don’t want to try and figure out what you are doing,
no.

You just want to bask in it.
Take it in.
And eat it up.

Because it is there.
It is asking you to STEP FULLY into your manifestation.
It is asking you to keep on BELIEVING.

Keep on CLAIMING.
Keep on ASKING.

And most importantly keep on BEING READY.

Those thoughts,
that get you feeling this juicy yumminess that life has to offer when you are OPEN.

When you are ALLOWING.

Yes that feeling.
That feeling right there, love.

That is what I want you to FOCUS on today and always.

I know how hard it can be.
You feel like it is too simple.
It cannot be that easy to have everything that you want.
Yet when you paint that picture,
when you feel that feeling.

And it MAGNIFIES.
It intensifies and you can FEEL it as though it is.
You just know in these moments,
don’t you.

So it is that simple.
That easy.
It is all you ever need do, love.
To just STEP THE F-CK IN and say YES.

Yes to that F-ck Yes! Relationship.
Yes to that F-ck Yes! Cash Flow.
Yes to that F-ck Yes! Health.
Yes to that F-ck Yes! Freedom.
Yes to that F-ck Yes! Sex.
Yes to that F-ck Yes! __________(Fill in your desire)

You know that feeling…
That feeling that you get when you just cannot sit still.
When you have wanted for something,
you sat and conjured it up in your head over and over again,
the excitement of the WHAT IF?

Yes that feeling.

That’s it right there, love.

Now FOCUS.
Work Your MAGIC.

And As Always, 
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”

Wanting to take it a step further.
Wanting to get really activated in your manifestation powers.

You are in luck love.
That is what I do.
I help special people just like you,
who know, who crave, who desire so much more and just need a little guidance.

Let me show you some key ways to be a F-ck Yes Manifestor Now!

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That Child Like Enthusiasm Is Key.

Enthusiasm.
Goose bumps of knowing you are doing it.
The thrill.

The JOY. 
Want to know when you are in alignment to receiving all you desire?
These are the things to look for.
These are the characteristics of allowing a miracle to flow into your life.

We all have fear.
We all doubt.
We are all uncertain of our worthiness.
And we want to figure out the 1-2-3’s to guarantee our success.

But much like when we first learn how to ride a bicycle we can get it all right.
Put our feet on the pettles.
Balance our butt on the seat.
Make sure the path we are riding on is flat, straight and without to many obstacles.
We can even ask and get help to support us.

But inorder to really take off and ride.
Free.
By ourselves.
We have to risk falling.
We have feel the adrenaline of not having the support.
We have to let go of our need for attachment of safety.

This is the freedom.
The faith.
That is required.
And with it.
The enthusiasm.
The goose bumps.
The JOY.
Of allowing it to happen.

Make a miracle happen today!
Allow yourself to feel life move through you.
Allow your heart to race.
Your emotion to be felt.
Allow yourself to be happy instead of so serious.
Allow yourself to play.
Allow yourself to expand.

If you fear the risk of falling,
Realize this….
You thus fear the risk of succeeding.

Everything has two sides.
Put your attention on what you want to have happen.
Allow the feeling of having your desire.
Feel it.
Be EXCITED.
Be in JOY.

AND THRIVE.

As Always
Stop Existing & Start Living
Coaching for Grown A*s Believers

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Will You Recognize It?

Opportunities are like babies.
And now as a grandmother (OMFG! I just wrote that…yes I did. Breathing….🤯 Milestone!!!!! in my life here folks.)
As I look into the eye’s of my one week old grandson,
I have a whole new awareness for life come through me.
And it is all about the many beautiful, chilling, scary, and exciting opportunities that life provides us.
 
Holding this sweet angel in my arms just last night,
it came into my heart 💞
that opportunities are always all around us.
Years back,
in my twenties when I was part of a financial service company I was big into self-growth. I was off to all the major players events. Reading their books, listening to their audios and absorbing everything that I could.
 
There was this statement that was often said that I felt like I “should” believe.
 
But my SOUL always and still does say eff that sh*t!
 
The statement was,
“You only get two major opportunities in life. If you miss the first you better recognize the second, because otherwise it will be too late. Which is this one?”
 
I looked out at the people all around me.
My elders.
The leaders.
I saw so many people scrambling around,
working their bums off in a hasty attempt to make sure they did not miss the boat.
 
They were drenched in fear.
Their actions all came from this same place.
And they wondered why they were not being blessed with more abundance manifesting in their lives.
 
So they worked harder.
and harder.
They door knocked.
They went to every event they could that sold them on if you do this and this then all your dreams will happen.
They studied,
got all the licenses they needed,
they set daily, weekly, monthly, annual, ten year GOALS.
They happily got their a*s kicking in from the leaders.
The one’s who were making sh*t happen.
 
And they jumped into the game of healthy competition.
 
Ask someone back then in my circle how they were and you would get a script Tom Hopkins response, “Unbelievable!”
 
LOL.
 
But internally, behind the BIG effing smile.
Behind the BIG lofty GOALS.
Behind all the training’s and workshops.
Was a scared human being who desperately desired to just be seen, to be embraced.
Loved for who they were.
and PAID effing great for it too.
 
And they feared they were not WORTHY.
They feared they were not GOOD ENOUGH.
They feared that they were not SMART enough.
They feared so much.
 
But what they feared more than anything,
was that this was their second BIG opportunity to CLAIM their LIFE.
 
To make sh*t happen FINALLY.
To once and for all live life the way that God had intended for them.
The way that their SOUL wanted.
It was the CALL from deep withing that they feared.
They feared that they could not answer it.
That they would miss it.
And that all would be lost.
 
And you know what the sad truth is and was?
 
They were correct.
 
They were correct,
not because this was the last opportunity.
Not because we are only offered two opportunities in our life.
(that is sheer craziness anyway)
but because they were coming at life,
coming at this opportunity,
from FEAR.
And because they focused so hard on what they feared.
They created just that in their lives.
 
As I sat here last night at my daughters home,
children playing all around me.
Laughter in the air.
Good food and wine on the table.
And this sweet little blessing in my arms.
I realized that no matter how hard we try and eff it up,
no matter how often we turn our back on our SOUL CALLING.
No matter how much we fear life or the loss of it.
 
We are NEVER more that a thought,
an inspired feeling,
away from OPPORTUNITY.
 
From GETTING IT ALL RIGHT.
And what does getting it all right mean,
when you cannot get it wrong?
 
It means that you STOP FEARING,
and you simply START ACTING from HEART and SOUL.
 
Just as a baby nuzzles it’s face around looking for milk,
searching with anticipation,
hungry for satisfaction.
We too, must do the same with life.
 
The statement about opportunity is correct about one thing though.
 
“Will you recognize it?”
 
Well will you?
 
The main issue we have in our humanness is that we miss all the blessings,
all the opportunities that around us,
because we are blinded by our fear.
 
The only answer to you ever need really get,
if you are wanting to create a life of abundance.
A life worthy of your SOUL.
Is to STOP overly examining the IS that is in your current time frame. And start applying yourself to the life that you want.
 
Just like Einstein said, “Attention goes where energy flows.”
 
This is perhaps one of the most obvious manifestation tools.
It is foundational.
We claim to get it.
It makes logical sense. But we consistently have the greatest trouble grasping it truly.
 
But if you want to design the life of your dreams,
then you have to stop observing the life of your nightmares or your boredom.
 
What you focus on become’s prominent.
 
Opportunities are like babies.
Babies focus only on the moment and what they need to feel satisfied.
 
You and I both have many blessings around us.
We have much satisfaction.
Yet we often choose to focus on all that we do not have instead and then bi*ch about more of that showing the eff up.
 
Become like a baby in your focus on your dreams.
Nuzzle up to them and stay close.
Take everything else out of your mind and just sip away at all that life has to offer you.
 
Because it is so yummy.
And good for YOU.
Good for your SOUL.
 
This is alignment love.
 
As Always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”
 
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Well here is your opportunity love.
Will you recognize it? 😛
 
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Everyday You. That Is All You Have To BE.

“F-ck Yes! You Rock Kendal! Powerful. Intuitive. Compassionate. Funny. Real. Smart. Eye Opening. Thank you for it all and just being you. Keep doing what you do best! Changing lives.” Mike W., Small Business Owner, Florida

 
I love testimonies from my amazing clients.
I do what I do because it is just me.
And it must come out of me.
 
It truly is that simple.
I look into the eye’s of the people that I work with,
and I see their greatness.
I feel their passion.
Their worth, even when they do not.
And this is what I do.
 
I SEE.
I see them.
The SOUL that longs to be revealed.
To be felt.
To be heard.
 
And I encourage.
 
That is all I do really..
See and encourage the soul of those that feel aligned to me to SHINE its truth.
 
And how lovely this is.
What a blessing.
A gift.
 
Blessed I am to be able to have this gift in my life with so many souls.
 
And if you are reading this,
and you wonder what that must feel like.
What it must feel like to feel yourself fully.
To express your soul.
To feel the connection.
To love yourself.
 

TO KNOW YOUR WORTH.

 
Well let me share this with you beautiful.
Let me tell you this fact.
It feels like you are alive.
 
Imagine feeling that way.
 
ALIVE.
 
Not just existing.
Not just getting by.
Paying your bills.
Going to your 9 to 5 and dreading Monday morning.
No.
 
That my beauty is not what you are here to do.
This is not what life is to be about.
It is not suppose to be dull, hard, a struggle.
Life is to be rich, full, complex yet in ease.
 
And the ease is not in you doing nothing.
It is not in being lazy. It is not just lounging about.
The ease is all about you just BEING YOU.
 
It is nothing more than that.
It is that simple.
 
You can thrive by just being you.
Being you is to be just like breathing.
 
Now I know that you may “think” that you are already doing this.
And you may actually believe this bullsh*t.
But I can tell you that if you are struggling,
if you are working hard at getting through.
If you are looking overly forward to the weekends, holidays and vacation,
then you are most certainly NOT living according to your SOUL.
Your soul wants that desire,
that enthusiasm,
that expectation,
and commitment.
In your EVERYDAY.
Not just in those things that your boss may tell you its okay to have it for and only on these days and at these hours.
 
No.
Your SOUL wants you turned on to your life EVERYDAY.
And you achieve this by doing what you do.
By being just you.
EVERYDAY YOU.
 
Without the fear of what others are thinking about you.
Without the concern about if you are getting it right.
(You cannot mess this up beautiful)
 
Just show up in your life,
letting that incredible heart be revealed.
Let yourself be felt.
Let yourself be seen.
 
Yes this is effing vulnerable territory.
I get it.
You may be sayin, ” Oh heck no!”
And I get it.
I truly do.
I have been right there.
I lived the first 31 years of my life just like that matter a fact.
Until one day, I realized that I was not happy.
I got real with the truth that I was hiding from ME.
And that was the ONLY PROBLEM that I had in my life.
All the other crap that was manifesting around me was all stemming from this one core issue.
 
HIDING.
 
And why the eff was I doing this anyway?
Simple, because it is what I saw in the world.
It is what was socially acceptable and almost expected.
But when I also looked out at everything I noticed something.
 
And this was BIG.
 
I noticed that the people that I wanted to be like.
The people that had it all goin’ on.
Who were living the lifestyles that I wanted for myself.
They were UNBOUND.
They were FREEDOM BASED.
They were THRIVING.
By just being EVERYDAY THEMSELVES.
 
WTF!
How is that possible?
 
Well it is and much like my lover said to me just yesterday,
“It’s awesome how you get to be paid for just being you and doing you.”
 
Yes that is freakin’ awesome.
And I get to live this way because I made a choice.
I made a choice to stand out in the crowd and do something that most choose not to do.
 
Be my EVERYDAY SELF.
 
Just BE ME.
 
And yes it is that simple.
But it is scary as f-ck!
It requires one to tap into themselves.
To dive off the deep end,
into a place that most do not want to venture.
Deep into the caverns of self.
And meet self.
Accept self.
 
FALL IN LOVE WITH SELF.
 
And then….
 
LET IT BE SEEN.
 
So come get freaky with me love.
Be daring.
Be adventurous.
And come to the party that is called THRIVING.
Your ticket in?
Is found in your SOUL.
Tap in.
Tune In.
Express and LIVE UNBOUND.
 

Let’s Connect.

And THRIVE.

 
As Always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”
 
What are you waiting for love?
Let’s get you back to your EVERYDAY SELF now.
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” I came to you to heal my shame and guilt wrapped around sex and to restore my relationship with my husband. What I got was this ( and it a work in progress- but you are always there when I need you the most) BUT what I got as a side benefit was discovering my passion and purpose. I went from corporate America 9 to 5, struggling for a moment to breathe or enjoy my life to starting my own business that is now thriving in an industry that I am PASSIONATE about. Health & Well-being! Thank you Kendal for your compassionate, straight forward support and coaching. I could have never taken these steps without you!” — Geanna G. New York, NY.

Life Lives Through Us For No Other Reason Than This.

“Emotion rising up,
I can feel it strong in my chest.
Tears want to stream from my eye’s
and escape down my cheeks.
My heart is beating just a bit faster than before.
I am nervous,
I am excited,
I am feeling out of control of the situation.
I can do nothing to help truly,
but be arms to support
and words to hopefully lighten your heart.
Your fear.
My sweet,
I love you so dearly.
And all I can do is tell you this.”
 
It is moments such as this,
that I find myself being reminded of how powerful life is,
how it grabs hold of us and let’s us know it’s hunger.
It hungers for our depth.
It hungers for our passion.
It wants us to claim the moment.
To be present
and attentive.
 
This is where life LIVES.
 
These moments,
fleeting and yet lingering,
as they happen to each and every one of us.
We dance in and out of fear.
Even in the most beautiful space that we might find ourselves,
even in the moments when all that we have worked for
finally seem’s to be manifesting,
fear comes in.
It bares itself to us and makes us aware of how small we are.
How timeless each moment is,
how delicate each breath can be.
Our teacher.
Our conqueror,
it is there by our side.
A friend and foe.
 
And what must we do to escape it’s grip?
There is only one thing,
in any moment that must happen for us to awaken to our truth and lean out of the hold of fear in our life.
 
We must,
with certainty,
and no doubt,
we must feel deeply and know who we are.
For at our core,
at our deep soul level is where we discover all.
It is here in these caverns of our true self that we find all the armor that we need,
which is not armor at all,
but instead a revealing.
An allowing of our true divine selves to be unmasked and revealed, in true raw authenticity and truth.
 
Yes here,
here is where we rule.
Here is where we find our strength.
In all moments in life,
we are meant to expand,
we were born to breathe,
and to feel life living through us.
Only in our unmasking,
and accepting of our depth and truth,
can we do this and conquer fear.
 
But to step firmly into living a life on purpose,
one must consistently be getting ready,
to be ready.
 
And what does this mean?
 
To BREATHE.
To do the mindset work,
to consistently challenge ourselves to be all of who we are.
Not side stepping our truth,
not hiding from our feelings,
not masking our light.
 
No we might have been born to run,
but not to run away from life.
Only to run into its arms,
to have it wash over us,
and through us in each moment of our experience.
From our first breaths to our last,
life is here to cradle us and move through us.
Our only mission is to be it’s vessel in it’s eternal quest to feel what it cannot without us.
 
Yes,
moments such as the one that is breathing through me right now are what expands our potential,
opens our hearts,
teaches us our strength,
and reveals our soul.
 
Moments are all that we ever have.
And each moment is a footstep on our souls journey.
The end will be the arrival back to it’s beginning.
Full and complete.
Expanded into more.
Life living through us,
for no reason other than to feel.
 
And here my love,
is what you must remember,
the desire you feel in your heart,
deep down into your bones,
the passion,
the fear,
the certainty,
the courage,
the vastness and the tightening,
it is all your soul,
begging you to become your truth.
And just FEEL.
Allow yourself to FEEL GOOD NOW,
as your soul desires,
where all your dreams can be realized.
 

As always,

Stop Existing & Start Living

“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”

 
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This Is How You Attract a HIGH VIBE Woman.

You claim that you want a HIGH VIBE woman.
You claim that you want a woman that is confident, turned on, knows who she is, fun, loyal, no drama, non-manipulative, loves the things that a good life has to offer. Know’s her worth.
Is a Queen.

But your approach is that of a silly horny 16 year old boy who has not a clue about women, sex, relationship or life at all. 

You think that by asking us to spread our legs for you,
or telling us that you know how to use your tongue,
That you will access this connection,
this love relationship with a HIGH VIBE woman.

You think that saying,
“Hi Babe,” or “You are sexy.”
That we will puddle in our panties over your words,
and drop what we are doing for your silly advances.

You think that deep inquiry,
the stuff that does attract a HIGH VIBE woman’s energy to start is about inquiring about things that you can easily find out by using that thing you seem to be forgetting about…
Your Mind.
Your Brain.
Yes the BIG Head.
And instead you think that asking,
“Are you married?”
“Are you single?”
“How old are you?”
“Where do you live?
“What do you do?
When you have access to this information and more at your fingertips,
and it only makes us irritated because you have no respect of our time,
and show’s that you have not really explored more than a pretty picture’s worth of us,
that this would make us swoon?

You want a HIGH VIBE woman?
Do you really?
You want that woman,
that’s fruits taste so wonderful
Her mystery will stir you for a lifetime.
Her smile will ignite your soul till the sun burns out.
Her smell will haunt you a thousand lifetimes.
Her mind will bewilder you and cause you to want to know more.
You claim you want that woman.
That woman that MAKES YOU WANT:
to conquer the world.
To live your purpose.
to make her proud.
To make her smile.
To laugh.
And for YOU TO BE A BETTER MAN.

Is it that woman that you search for?
Well sweet man…
Let me share this with you…
here and now.

and LISTEN.
Listen carefully.

You Cannot Handle this HIGH VIBE woman.
You may want her,
but your VIEW is not of her.
You belittle her when you treat her like a child.
Thinking she will dance for you,
just because you show her attention.
You think that you can grab her heart,
by speaking about her nipples or butt.
You think that it is endearing and special ,
that you are unique in some fashion,
to open her door and demand that she speak to you,
when all you do is stumble in with words that mean nothing.
You think that by saying “Hi”
that she owes you something.
Or should take the time,
to get to know yet another random bloke ( common man),
who has not a clue who he,
himself is.

You are but a boy.
Trying to be a man.
Wanting to have a woman.
But not understanding.

A HIGH VIBE woman,
WILL NEVER….
Bow to your desires of her,
she will never swoon over your words,
she will never be so easily lead,
by some simple little compliments,
or meme’s.

A HIGH VIBE woman,
does not need you.

She is complete in herself.
She does not need your attention,
and she most certainly does not need your advances.

She is not interested.
Not in such a feet,
as you may think it is to say hi to her.

A HIGH VIBE woman,
will not drop her life for you,
because you bought her a Louis Vuitton handbag,
or want to take her around the world.

A HIGH VIBE woman,
will ONLY pay attention.
To a Conscious Mature Man.
A Man who KNOWS who he is.
Is on purpose.
Is centered in himself.

A man who does not need to be babysat with his emotions,
his time or energy.

A man who can stand in who he is while holding the space required for her to dance for him,
by the music of her choice.

A HIGH VIBE woman,
only desires a HIGH VIBE man.

And sir,
with your advances,
and school boy tricks,
are no where near this man.

So please do us each a favor,
and realize where you are,
and that is not in our garden,
where we can share anything.

If you truly want that HIGH VIBE woman.
As you claim that you do.
Then LISTEN here sweet man,
and listen close.

You must dig deep.
And first discover who you are.
Find your purpose outside of your groin.
Fall in love with the man you can be,
get ignited in life,
and know your path.
Stand firm in who you are,
comfortable in your own flesh.

Be confident not cocky.
Be compassionate not sarcastic.
Be intelligent not irritating.
Be playful not stupid.
Be turned on to life not to just her lady lumps.
Be emotionally mature not an emotional drama queen.
Be responsible for your self not responsible for everyone else.
Be a Hero not a victim.

And above all else…

Be PRESENT in the Now.
Not in what you may want of tomorrow or fear from yesterday.

We do not want your sob stories,
we do not care about how you have been wronged.
What a HIGH VIBE woman desires,
is a HIGH VIBE man Who IS ON PURPOSE and IN LOVE with HIS LIFE.

Become this…
and our fruit is yours to pick.
Otherwise,
Don’t let the gate to our garden hit you too hard.

As always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”

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What Makes You Giggle? Do Share. It Is Vital to Your F-ck Yes! Life

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To live with a child like soul. 
What does that statement mean to you?

To me….
It means to allow the silly in.
To not be fearful of play.
To embrace your day with enthusiasm and joy.
To get loud.
And passionate.
Let yourself be seen.
And LAUGH.

And most importantly to JUST BE YOU.
You know when a child starts to grow up and loose their life? Its when they get serious about who they are to be instead of who their soul proclaims,
When they start to worry about grades more than happiness and connection,
When they question not what makes them smile but how they are perceived,
When they avoid getting dirty instead jumping in the puddles.

This is when a child starts their transformation into the land of zombie adulthood.

I don’t believe this has to be true.
Back in the day….
Like when I was 25 and taking life so serious.
As a mom of 3 youngster’s back then,
I thought that being a good mom meant that I could not be me.
I thought i had to act,
Dress,
Speak,
Cook,
Etc. Etc.

A certain way.
Because the true me was not good enough.
Wise enough.
Stable enough.
Or anything else.

I thought I had to be more.
Someone I was not.
And I drove myself batty trying to achieve this version of someone that was not real.
A d so far from my soul.

But I looked like I had it all together.
LOL

Fast forward 18 years…
Now a 43 year old mom of 7 babies.
Soon to be grandmom or mimi as I am goin’ with,
And I am still serious.

Serious about BEING ME!
And that means there is no version of me,
Other than just who I am in any moment.
How I choose to show up in my life,
To live,
To raise my children,
Has NOTHING to do with anyone elses opinions or ideas.
It has everything to do,
With FEELING GOOD.

And what feels good?
To live outloud.
Passionate.
Playful.
Silly.
Enthusiastic.
Turned On.
And I now laugh.
At everything.
Especially me.
And my kids.
Like this little munchkin in this video.

Folks.
Its so effing powerful to tap into that inner child.
That inner child dreams.
Believes in magic.
Loves life.
And themselves.
And is fearless being themselves.

All the things needed to be a bada*s in life and THRIVE.

So tell me love…
Share in the comments here.
What makes you giggle?

As always, 
Stop Existing & Start Living
Coaching for Grown A*s Believers.

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You Offend Me. – Stop It!

That is IT!
I am DONE!!!!!
Done you hear me.
 
I cannot stomach it any longer.
Just the fact that you think that way and have the nerve to state it openly on top of everything.
 
So frustrating.
It should not be allowed.
I mean seriously,
you have no clue.
 
ARGH.
 
Stop already.
That is it!
I am clicking report and then I am unfriending you.
It sickens me that you shared that.
 
How little do you think of yourself to just put yourself out there like that?
 
Do you have no self-respect.
Self-care?
I bet you do this because you think you are oh so cool or hot, right?
Well it is obvious that you are just another attention hungry bottom of the pool feeder who has no real understanding about anything and just wants us all to bask in your glory.
 
Seriously.
I am DONE.
This whole thing is offensive to me.
It is offensive to all of your followers and friends.
How can you just keep sharing?
How do I make you STOP?
 
Don’t you see yourself?
Geeze….
 
Think much of yourself?
There you go again posting.
 
I cannot take it.
Seriously, I am going to unfriend you.
I am.
 
What’s this?
These people here are agreeing with you?
 
W-H-A-T?????
 
Come on people you are going to buy into this rubbish?
Really?
 
Okay now that is pushing it.
Now you have done it.
You are now making others believe this crap like you do.
Will you stop at nothing?
 
and on,
and on,
and on,
we go.
 
 
Okay dear reader, PLEASE don’t believe that any of the above is anything that I have personally outside of this post here ever written and meant or written at all.
 
Matter a fact just today I was doing a livestream and you could see my nipples I guess under my my shirt and a man responded, “nice nipples.” in the comments section.
Of which I said nothing to.
 
Then later a man private messaged me and asked if this other man’s comment offended me.
 
LOL.
 
F-ck No!
 
In order for his comment or anyone’s comment to offend me,
it would mean that their opinion of me mattered somehow.
As though how they judged me, viewed me or what they translated from my image or words had some effect on my self-worth, esteem or confidence.
As though their opinion should cause me to second guess, judge or love myself less.
 
That is funny.
I tell you I am laughing at a deep soul core level over thinking that someone making any comment, or doing something even as distastefulness as some of the pictures I receive or random advances that I get daily should have a true effect on who I am or how I feel about me is CRAZY.
 
Offended?
 
What does it take to offend one?
Well for some in today’s world it takes VERY little.
And for those poor saps who live in a world that is out to get them I feel pity, because they will never bask in the beauty and joy that life has to offer.
They will never be able to fully trust life.
Themselves. or anyone.
It is sad to watch so many people go straight into defense at the slightest little thing that ruffles their feathers.
And without any concept of what they are really doing.
 
Standing about,
pointing fingers,
getting mad at pictures,
at opinions of other’s,
at debates,
or feelings,
that are not theirs to begin with,
and truly believing that it is everyone’s else’s responsibility to make them happy, keep then safe from things that pull up fears, or trigger them in some fashion, or to make them feel anything at all.
 
Here is the cold hard reality.
NO ONE IS RESPONSIBLE FOR YOU BUT YOU!
 
And nothing can MAKE.YOU.FEEL
anything.
 
That is all an inside game.
The only thing you do when you feel offended is cower into the corner of the victim mindset and turn over your power to everything/one else,
putting them in charge of your happiness.
 
And then acting like a spoiled kid when you don’t get what you expect.
 
Sheer silliness.
Laziness too.
and emotional immaturity above everything else.
 
It is most certainly the topic of today.
Even a fellow coach/friend had a share of theirs taken down because it went against community guideline.
 
?????
Did she get naked and share a video or pic that was to out there like some of the things I see come through in some of the groups?
 
NO.
 
Did she cuss people out or call people prejudges names?
 
No.
 
Did she slander someone?
 
No.
 
Did she do ANYTHING offensive?
Well, yes.
Yes she did.
Well she must have.
Because her livestream was deleted for such.
 
It was not a community that she offended.
No.
She offended one person more than likely.
And much like my writing above,
this one took it upon themselves to save everyone from such nonsense that was in this livestream.
 
Mean while,
we have video’s running around with violent scenes,
men are sending very unattractive and unwanted pictures to random women in messenger,
people are being called names because of how they look,
or what race they are or church they go too.
We can openly watch a video with a squirrel having its nut’s ( yes actual nuts/balls/testicle’s) caught in a fence and we laugh it off.
 
All of this is okay.
Why because of the number of likes it has below it?
Or because it’s not happening to you.
Or you just don’t see it.
 
And still even all of this…
 

GUESS WHAT?

 
Yes even my fellow coach video being taken down.
None of it is offensive.
 
UNLESS YOU MAKE IT SO IN YOUR OWN HEAD.
 
Again…
No one is responsible for your happiness,
your feelings,
your thought,
or judgments,
other than YOU.
 
So why the rant today?
Because it is silly.
And as I shared on a comment thread about this very thing,
 
“It is a shame that our society is focused on being on the attack and can’t stand behind our right of speech and to share our options and thoughts. It is crazy, back in the 1950’s doing Roasts were so popular and it took a strong and stable person to be able to sit through the ego breaking moments of a roast. today’s society cannot handle someone just glancing over at them for no reason without feeling offended. Crazy it is. We have raised a weak society of wantabe adults.”
 
Today society cannot handle a ROAST.
Or a wrong look.
Or your opinion.
 
Let along your life.
Your hobbies.
Your likes.
Dislikes.
Beliefs.
The color of your hair.
or how you choose to dress.
 
We have become a weak culture.
We in WHO WE ARE.
Knowing ourselves.
And loving who we are.
We are weak in just allowing each to their own.
We have become STRONG in becoming the police for everything that has nothing to do with us.
We have become STRONG in sticking our nose into everything and playing the blame game.
 
Gotta Love the Blame Game.
Right?
 
 
Not.
So how do you rank love?
How easily offended are you?
Have I pushed you to the point of no return in this share and made you one of my haters?
 
Or are you EMPOWERED and conscious?
 
Share your thoughts below.
 
And As Always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”
 
Don’t wait another one, two, five, ten years to start THRIVING.
Make 2019 the year of you claiming YOU.

WAITING the F-ck Around!

Don’t you think it is time?
Are you tired like I am?
 
You know what I get tired of?
 
WAITING the F-ck Around!
 
I am tired of waiting for my packages to get delivered.
I mean it is all on it’s way to me.
And to you.
And here we sit,
almost spinning on our thumbs some days.
WAITING the F-ck Around!
 
How much longer till I get what I want?
How much longer till the life that I want manifests itself?
Till the money is in the bank?
Till my true love, my soulmate knocks on my door?
 
How much longer till I fill satisfied,
happy and full.
 
I tell you sometimes I just get exhausted working my a*s off,
day after day,
list after list,
and speaking up,
speaking out,
sharing from the deepest parts of my soul,
and still it seems that things are just not moving at the speed that I desire.
 
It is like the hose is kinked somewhere.
You know what I mean?
 
It is crazy.
And maybe you get what I am saying and maybe you don’t.
 
I am speaking to those out there who seem to be kickin’ it like the bad a*s that you are,
the one’s who are putting in the time and the energy,
the one’s who are doing the mindset work,
the one’s who are not afraid of their shadow lands,
the one’s who get the power that resides inside of them,
the one’s who know how to call things in,
and are focused mother f-ckers like no other’s.
 
YES YOU.
 
I am speaking to you.
And you know what I am saying,
I am saying that it is high f-cking time that things HAPPEN.
No more WAITING the F-ck Around.
No more making excuses.
No more looking the other way,
no more saying, ” I just need to focus more.”
” I just need to work harder.”
“I just need to love myself more.”
” I just need to be more authentic.”
“Show up more.”
 
 
NO WAY.
JUST STOP THE INSANITY.
 
Doing more is not going to get you there.
I know that may seem opposite of what you have been told.
I know that you may be able to reason out that doing more,
working harder, smarter, and showing up more is where it is at.
 
But, NO.
You need not do this.
 
And here is why.
 
Because the more you do this.
The more you send energy into what is NOT HAPPENING FOR YOU.
 
And the more you end up turning all that you love,
turning your art,
your souls work and passion,
your hearts desires,
INTO WORK.
 
And now it is just a duty.
An end to a means.
It is no longer enjoyable.
It is no longer fun.
It no longer makes you happy.
You are not SMILING.
 
And this has you WAITING the F-ck Around!
For everything.
 
Now I am not saying break out the tub of ice cream,
and crash on the couch vegging out on your favorite NetFlix series.
 
No, this would be average and ordinary setting in.
And after a short bit of that,
sure you may feel more relaxed for a second,
but that monkey mind of yours will be working overtime on all those things that you “should” be doing.
And that will only land you back into the mental craziness.
( I mean if you are anything like me 🤪🤓)
 
And if that is not what happens,
then it means that you let laziness grab you by your dreamers balls and start to eat away at everything that you want,
almost believing that you don’t have to get up and get moving,
that the hustle is over rated and not needed.
And that is bullsh*t too.
Just another sidestep from your ego,
preventing you from doing anything else,
then what is needed.
 
And you know what is needed?
 
What is needed is for you to COMMIT.
Once and for all.
 
Just STOP THE INSANITY and of being available for this WAITING the F-ck Around!
 
You don’t have to do more.
You don’t need to sit on your thumbs and wait and pray.
But what you DO NEED to do,
is SETTLE into WHO THE F-ck YOU ARE!
 
And just Enjoy Your Day.
Enjoy your Art.
Enjoy BEING YOU.
 
Stop the insanity,
means stop hating on yourself.
Stop stressing your lush a*s out about everything.
Stop STOPPING your flow.
 
Stop making it all about WORK.WORK.WORK.
And what has NOT YET MANIFESTED.
 
You are acting like that four year old on a road trip screaming not 15 minutes into the journey,
“Are we there yet?”
 
And how beneficial is this?
Seriously.
I get it.
Really I do.
I do it as well.
All too much.
 
And the truth is the truth.
It is HIGH time that we STOP WAITING the F-ck Around!
And just simply embrace who we are.
 
Born leaders.
Born lovers.
Born creators.
 
Yes you Beautiful.
You are this.
And it is all yours.
And there is no waiting.
There is ONLY LIVING RIGHT NOW.
 
So Stop making yourself available for all this low VIBE sh*t,
and just CALL in your DESIRE.
You have the power.
 
It is called your CHOICE.
Your choice to focus on that which is AWESOME RIGHT NOW,
or to keep your eye on ALL that you don’t have.
Thus creating more….
 
WAITING the F-ck Around!
 
As Always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”
 
 
Don’t wait another one, two, five, ten years to start THRIVING.
Make 2019 the year of you claiming YOU.