ARE YOU GUILTY OF CHEAP TALK? IT COULD BE WHATS DESTROYING YOUR RELATIONSHIPS.
TALK IS CHEAP! AND IT’S PERVASIVE AROUND YOU.
“I am here for you.”
“Let me know what I can do.”
“I got your back.”
“Yeah, I totally agree.”
“I see what’s been happening, where you are at, what you are saying, etc.”
There are so many things that we tell others with little to no meaning behind them.
We speak these statements with good intent often,
but we don’t understand the value of actually following our words up with action. Sometimes the action is just more words of support, or helping one find answers, or just simply holding space for someone who is going through a rocky time in life and needs to have that space. Other times, it means that we need to follow through with supportive action to those words.
Recently in my life I have had an onslauth of what you could say shiz going down in my personal life.
I find myself standing here not thirty days into a new year amazed at everything that has occured over the last ninety days.
Some mornings I wake and find humor in the events,
realizing that you can’t make this shiz up.
Hollywood would pay a mint for the tales I could tell.
And then other days I realize that it’s just life,
my soul wanting to expand who I am and strengthen my vessel so I can become everything I desire and live that unbound beautiful life I know is mine.
And then there are the days that I wake in total frustration.
Anger.
Fear.
Judgement.
Bitterness.
Anxiety.
Exhaustion.
And I wonder why me?
Why now?
How much more does God think I can carry?
And WHY do the people in my life not see it? hear it? Why do they just keep wanting more from me in the face of everything else?
No matter how I wake,
what I have been blessed to witness is a reality check in my relationships. Revelations on no matter who we are, we are all human at the end of the day and our humanness when overtaken by our ego is extremely superficial and self-centered, even when we attempt to support and give love.
We blind ourselves and ignore others’ needs and desires, even though we can see what is happening in their lives and how at the end of a string they may be. How close to crashing they truly are.
And we do this NOT because we don’t care or cannot understand,
but because we want what we want for ourselves.
So we act as though we did not see.
We claim they did not communicate clearly.
We say they never told us.
We spout back, “Well I tried but you would not connect, answer, etc.”
YOU WERE NOT CLEAR ON WHAT YOU NEEDED FROM ME.
We push back the blame to the other.
Not wanting to see ourselves and how in these times we disregarded what was right before us with our loved one for the sake of our own self-centered needs and wants.
If we were to get real with our words,
and to honor them and have the self-respect and respect of the other parties as well, we would stand behind our word.
UNDERSTANDING THAT OUR WORD IS EVERYTHING.
This is not just some old school statement that our word makes up our character.
It’s not just a line from Scarface or the Godfather,
John Wayne and Clint Eastwood are not the ones proclaiming the strength of a human is in his words.
No.
But I tell you that our word is all of this.
Our word is OUR CHARACTER CHECK POINT.
Our word is our STRENGTH.
or our weakness.
And when we say that, “I got your back.”
It should not be a light matter.
These words should come with an understanding that in them we are denying the self for another.
That we are willing to sacrifice our short term desires, needs or wants to fully support someone else and to stay aware of what is happening with them and in their lives.
Unfortunately, the majority of the time this is not what will occur.
The reverse is actually true.
We will state that we are supportive,
and then we will take the opportunity to bulldoze over our loved one to get our needs met instead, all the while pretending to be blind to it all. Pretending that if they had just spoken up, made it more clear, done their part that the boundaries would not have ever been crossed.
OUR WORDS ARE OUR RESPONSIBILITY.
Meaning that with them we take responsibility for who we are and our actions and reactions.
Responsibility to being consciously aware of situations, people and what is truly needed despite our self-centered desires to get our own needs and wants met.
THIS IS UNCONDITIONAL LOVE AND SUPPORT.
Anything else is empty.
Making our words,
our actions,
and us as a human weak and untrustworthy.
What do your words say about your character in a relationship?
In life?
Want to have deep, committed, trusting and loving relationships in all areas of your life?
Then it’s time to stand behind your words,
and realize they are your strength or your weakness.
Your words are your bond.
Without them you have nothing.
As Always.
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”
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COVETING IS A SLIPPERY SLOP- ONE SO MANY ARE BLIND TOO. ARE YOU?
If You Ever Loved Someone
GET OUT OF YOUR OWN LIGHT.
THE FUTURE IS ALWAYS BRIGHT…. NO MATTER THE SHADOW OF THE MOUNTAIN.
Recently my life partner and I drove up to Pikes Peak in Colorado together. It was bitter cold out, the fresh snow lay everywhere. People flocked to sled and enjoy snow ball fights.
The crisp winter wind felt amazing on my flesh as I stood there looking out over the valley that lay at the base of the peak.
I recall at one moment, standing with my partner’s arms around me. We looked out at the vastness before us,
and I could feel the message of the universe in that moment.
There we were, in the shadow of Pikes Peak, a great mountain blocking the rays of the warm sun, a crisp snowy breeze blowing around us, and we felt limitless in that space.
We felt grounded.
Stroung.
and in love with life.
Clarity in what we wanted and the path that we had chosen together was our guiding light.
Just like the miles that stretched out in front of this mountain were sunstruck, warm and bright, so was our future.
And I was reminded…
That you cannot always pre-map out the journey.
Often great things come unexpected.
However,
YOU WILL ALWAYS GET WHAT YOU BELIEVE IS YOURS.
If you believe that your possibilities are limitless,
then they are.
If you believe that you are surrounded and held in love,
then you are.
If you believe that you can live a life of abundance, adventure and joy,
then you can.
The problem is that so often we choose to own our worst nightmares.
We choose to focus in on what we don’t have and accept it as our reality,
we purchase that for our life destination and journey instead of what we claim that we hunger for at our souls level.
And THIS REALITY IS SO THEN.
You may say that you did not plan for all the shit to happen,
that its not in your plan or picture to stand there without a great love in your life,
or to believe that you always lose in love.
You may claim that its not in your agenda to create financial destruction,
the loss of house and home,
divorce, strife and health issues,
but honey, the reality is that you are looking for it.
This time of Covid has proven to me just how many people leap at the opportunity to jump into their victim status,
I see so many people wanting to test positive for the Rona,
saying,
” I am sick. I must have the Rone.”
or blaming the economy because of critical times for their financial pictures,
their relationship stress.
Their “inability” to get out and do things,
for their weight gain, poor eating and sluggish habits.
Well if your hidden agenda is to be a victim,
then guess what luv,
YOU WILL BE A MF VICTIM.
And you will stay in the shadow of life,
in the shadow of all those who choose differently.
You will stand there,
and be a spectator to others thriving,
because you planned to be limited by life.
YOU EXPECT TO BE LIMITED.
And you will only ever get as far as you plan.
Or you could open up those plans to the possibilities that YOU ARE IN FACT LIMITLESS.
Unless, that scares you too much, of course.
Because that might require you to step out of the herd,
and grow a pair.
That might demand of you to go digging deeper inside yourself then you have ever gone before.
That might require you to look good and hard at your inner demons ,
those thoughts, fears, desires, and opinions,
that are holding you the f-ck back.
Now granted you can continue down that path you are on,
you can plot it out,
step by step,
and you can prepare for the worst case scenarios in every which way possible,
and you can stand guard.
Pick your MF armour up and be ready to battle life at every perceived turn,
and sure that might not be bad,
if your goal in life is to survive it long enough to die anyway,
and look back at a empty path,
where you retreated and warred with anything that caused you to expand.
With anything that asked you to trust in your heart and soul.
That required you to have it to leap and open your wings.
Sure you can get by like that.
The majority of folks do.
But thats all they do,
GET BY.
And sit there in the land of spectatorship.
Wishing for something more.
Questioning why others always have, do and create.
Not feeling fulfilled.
Seen.
Truly loved.
Or…
You could do something a bit differently and step out of the crowd.
You could realize that the valley before you lit up with all that radiant glory,
is yours for the taking.
It will just require you to have a higher perspective on life.
To tap the f-ck into your truth,
and to have enough courage to say F-ck Yes! To You.
This Is not average and ordinary living.
No.
What I am proclaiming and believe is accessible and our right as humans is to live limitless and THRIVE.
That we each are worthy beyond measure of just that.
That our dreams and desires are set before us not to tease us,
not to cause us disappointment in life and self,
or point out our lack or inabilities,
but instead they are put there,
FOR THE TAKING.
They are there because they are rightfully ours to begin with.
They WILL REQUIRE us to become a match to them.
They will require that we step out of our comfort zones.
They will require that we expand,
that we open ourselves up to our limitlessness.
They will without a doubt require that WE KNOW WHAT WE WANT.
And the courage to gain all that we want and feel that depth and level of fulfillment,
well it will only come when we stop standing in the way of our own sunshine as Waldo Emerson said.
Because the reality is….
That most of the mountains that we believe are blocking our path and our great plans,
are only us standing in our own sunshine.
Time to set yourself free baby.
Time to know your truth.
And As Always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”
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WHEN I MAKE LOVE TO YOU.
WHEN I MAKE LOVE TO YOU.
I make love to me as well.
You open me to depths of my soul that no other has even come close.
I witness my joy,
my warmth,
my desire,
all in your arms,
and I feel carried in your presence.
As you look at me,
with eyes on fire with passion and admiration,
I feel the sweetness of your heart,
as well as its hunger.
When my breasts touch your chest,
and you pull me closer,
I feel decades passing through us.
There is no time nor space,
it is but only the here and now.
As you enter my body with yours,
I breathe deep with anticipation,
I feel athirst for your nectors that feed my soul.
My chest expands as I surrender,
softly, fiercely,
at your hand,
I am breathless with your touch.
My eagerness to be taken by you is never ending.
My body aches and yearns for your devouring.
And as you breathe,
my flesh tingles,
my mouth waters,
and I am wet.
I am now the ravenous one.
And you are my home.
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To all my followers who crave a relationship, a love that penetrates them to their core.
Yearning for the entwinement with “the one” that twin soul, that soulmate, that knows you beyond words or life memories of this time.
These are the images, the feelings and vibrations that we were born to expereince and we are in search for in our love, in our sex, in our relating. We do not hunger for surface level, superficial relationships, no matter how often we choose to settle for them.
What we desire is the fulfillment of what we know is our home.
And you my dear follower/reader can have just this.
But how you may wonder?
If you currently are not looking into the eyes of home, ‘then how can you call that sort of love in?
It’s all about authenticity and integrity with self.
It’s all about loving self beyond your darkness and mistakes.
It’s all about KNOWING that YOU ARE WORTHY,
worthy of this connection.
And in these things your vibrations will meet.
And you too my dear will experience home.
As Always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”
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Couples and singles alike.
Hard to meet new people.
Difficult to do anything with your current partner.
The stress and worry exhausted many relationships,
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THE UNTOLD PLAN YOU MUST HAVE FOR 2021.
I Love This Man
IT COULD HAVE BEEN EASIER.
IF YOU EVER LOVED ME.
IF YOU EVER LOVED ME.
If you ever loved me you would not let me hurt like this.
If you ever loved me you would rethink your actions.
If you ever loved me you would take the time to hear me.
If you ever loved me you would want to share.
If you ever loved me you would give me closure.
If you ever loved me you would make this all go away.
And so many other if you ever statements.
Boy, oh boy do I ever understand the pain of loss.
The pain of break up, divorce, seperation, being lied to and abandoned.
I understand how it feels when our worlds crash,
when our beautiful plans seize to exist,
and it all seems like it happens within a flash of time.
How can this other person who loves us,
or at least proclaimed that they did,
or at very least said that they cared,
just walk away?
How can they turn their backs to us and just keep on living their lives?
Don’t they care?
And so the story of love and loss goes on throughout all time.
And so our hearts expand and we are elated when those that we love are turned toward us,
and when they are no longer by our side we crash into pain and suffering. Feeling abandoned.
Feeling as though we spent all this time in a lie.
It just cannot be so.
It certainly is not fair or right,
and we don’t have it coming to us.
Right?
I mean how is it possible that this sort of thing could be of our own doing?
“THAT” other person made those decisions,
acted that way, said those things and lied to us,
after all. We would not bring this upon ourselves.
Well I can tell you this beautiful,
YOU MOST CERTAINLY DID BRING IT UPON YOURSELF.
One of two things happened.
Your vibe either went up past the other person or it crashed below them.
Either way it held there for a long enough period of time and was a great enough difference in frequency that the two of you were no longer in alignment and thus the relationship had to end.
So which direction did you go?
This is actually the important thing to question if you truly give a sh*t about your future and who you are.
If you love yourself that is.
And so many people just don’t.
Hope that this is not you though.
You can tell what direction you went by looking at your thoughts,
your feelings and your actions.
If you are the one who leveled up your frequency then this relationship transition will be pretty smooth and easy. You may be in pain, you may feel a tad lost, you may want closure even but at the end of the day you will recognize that the most loving this you can ever offer someone is space to expand, to be them and to have a beautiful life with or without you and in this case it means without you. That may be a stinger, but a high vibe soul will walk away in love and know that the lessons offered in that relationship were powerful, perfect and have helped them gain clarity in who they are and what they want. A high vibe soul will know that what they need to do now is turn their full attention to themselves and clearing out anything that no longer serves them from within.
A high vibe soul will be in appreciation and gratitude for the relationship and the break up.
Yep I said that.
Gratitude for the break up,
because they see its purpose.
However, a low vibe soul will flounder in pain, suffering and blame.
They will demand attention and stomp around like a three year old having a tantrum. They will act out in childish ways, trying to cause pain in hope of gaining attention from the one they lost. They will not be able to take responsibility for their part in the transition and they will feel as though they simply cannot move forward until the other person does this or that to clear things up for them.
They will focus on fear and they will want the other to feel pain as well.
They will not see the growth and opportunity that the transition brings with it, but instead see destruction and attack.
A low vibe soul cannot see past their own ego to find the love that was there in the relationship and still remains.
A low vibe soul is caught in their own inner hell where they will reside until they choose to view life differently and take responsibility for the events, thoughts and feelings that are all thiers. They will be destined to repeat the drama that they believe is happening to them over and over again, where they will mask themselves from their beauty, their core and alignment to God all in the concept that “it’s not fair.”
So you see beautiful,
It is very important that you know what direction you went in the transition. It says bundles as to where you are now and what you are manifesting for your future.
It shows just how much love you have for yourself and whether you understand how powerful you are.
Because you are powerful.
You co-created this transition for the purpose of becoming more of WHO YOU REALLY ARE.
No matter the direction you went ( up or down in frequency) this fact remains the same.
Now the only thing you need worry about is not if the other loved you, or still does, but if you love you enough to let go and thrive.
You are so f-cking worthy of a F-ck Yes! Life.
It’s time that you recognize that and see that ALL relationships are here to elevate you, educate you and clarify what you want and who you really are.
As Always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”
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