Stop Gripping Your THING.

What are you holding on for?
Why won’t you just simply let go and let it flow?
It really is not that difficult.
But NO….

No, there you are fighting it.
There you are hanging on because you cannot let go.
You say that you are in flow,
you say that you got this alignment thing down.
You say that you are feeling good about it.

Blissed out!
Right?

WRONG!!!

Don’t be trying to fool the world,
cuz’ the world sees you.
You know how you are seen?
Through the eye’s that you see yourself with,
this is how the world sees you too.
It’s in your walk,
it’s in your talk,
your body language,
how you sit,
how you shake hands,
the faces you make,
the tone of voice you have.

You think no one can see that constriction?
LOL

Okay.

Whatever.

Let’s be real,
let’s have some respect for each other and self here,
and just state the facts.

You are scared that if you let go,
and let life catch you,
that you just trust that God has your back,
that you will fall.
That you will fail.
That you will die somehow.

You feel the pain,
the suffering right now,
from this fear.

Don’t you?

I mean look here it is the day after Thanksgiving,
it’s the coming of the end of the year.
The holiday’s are upon you,
the demands are many,
the fininances required to make it through the next 30, 45, or 60 days is massive.
You have choices.
You can go into debt some more,
you can just say,
“No, I am broke, I can’t.”
You can ignore the whole damn thing and drink,
or you can figure out a way to make sh*t happen.

And you want to make sh*t happen.
You want to have a killer holiday season.
You don’t want it to be last year,
or the last ten years.
You want it be fantastic.

You want to wake up on Christmas morning to the faces of your loved one’s and feel good,
you want to experience the love,
the joy,
the excitement.

You want to feel proud.

Don’t you?

But what will it take?
What will it cost you?

Money?
Time?
Energy?

Yeah, all of that is true.
The real cost though is not these things.
The real cost is something far greater.
The cost is why you are not doing it yet.
Why you feel that tugging in your gut,
that constriction in your chest,
that anxiety,
the reason why you are not sleeping so well,
the reason why you are drinking more,
the reason you are distant,

YES.
That is the reason.
That is the THING.

And you know the THING.
The THING that is bringing you the suffering.
That premature suffering for things that have not manifested yet.

Yeppers, that is it.

So why are you giving yourself,
your life to this THING?

Oh you say you have too.
You say that if you let go of that THING that you would perish for sure,
you say that focusing in on this THING is what is going to guarantee you not to experience it?

Mmmmmmmm- Hmmmmmmmmm….

Okay.
Whatever you say.

And with that we have the truth.
It is whatever you say,
REPEATEDLY…
In your own f-cking head.
Yes, that is what shall be.

And what are you saying?
Oh, you are worried about that THING are you.
That beast that you have yet to come up against.
That event that will take you out,
destroy you,
well NEWS FLASH!!!!!!!

It already has destroyed you.

Look at you.
You are stressed out to the max,
and all over that THING that has not happened,
and guess what most likely an 80% + chance that it won’t ever happen either.

But it has already knocked you down.
Because you are sitting around agonizing over IT.

Yes.
So STOP that Mother F-cking Sh*t,
and LET GO.

Instead,
go DO-BE-HAVE the life that you know you crave.
It is all up to you.
It is all up to where you choose to apply your focus.

You want the glass to be half empty,
then so be it.
And you know what that will get you…
the same thing you have been suffering through already.

Or….
You can opt to look at all that you have,
all the blessings,
all the joys,
all the love,
all the abundance.

It is all over you.
If you will just open up to it.
So change that stinking thinking,
and EMBRACE your TRUTH.

The CHOICE is up to you,
It always has been.

As Always,
Stop Existing & Start Living

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Perfect Moments.

Perfect moments.
We all have them.
We all want more of them.
And we often miss them when they are before us.

We miss them because we look for non-perfect moments more than we do perfect ones.
And just like miracles,
which happen frequently,
we believe that they are hard to come by,
and only catch the one’s that shoot off fireworks right in front of our face.

Perfect moments,
yes, this is what my topic of today is on.
As I sit here on this beautiful morning looking over the ocean and the cliffs in front of the plateau am resting on,
the Jamaican sun rises behind me,
a cool tropical breeze blows across me,
There is no one out here currently,
it my little private spot in Jamaica for the moment.

I breathe in this moment,
as I find gratitude for it,
and gratitude for the moments of yesterday.
The souls that crossed my path,
the moments that could have gone one way but went another,
the experiences,
the laughter,
the times of not knowing what to expect,
and breathing into the opportunity for life to bring me something.

Perfect moments.
They are all around us.
If we let them reveal themselves,
we find that they are like lost lovers from our past that we wish we could have another moment with,
they come to us,
they come to us with the expectation to embraced,
they come to us with the desire to awakened in our arms,
they come to us wanting to be seen,
and provided the space,
the awareness to show themselves.

They want us to bask in them,
to taste them,
to dance.
But these perfect moments,
we miss.

We miss the opportunities that they carry with them out of the fear of opening the door to something that we are uncomfortable with,
or the belief that we are not worthy of a perfect moment.
Just like so often we belief that we are not worthy of a perfect lover,
or a perfect financial increase,
or perfect health,
or perfect work.

We carry with us in place of all that tries to make itself known the concept that these things are hard to come by.

The idea, that they are not for us.
They are for the special people,
and that is often not us.

But here is the thing I want to share with you this amazing morning,
the thing is that perfect moments are your reality.

Miracles are your reality.
Opportunities are your reality.
Perfect lovers,
Financial abundance,
Incredible health,
and so much more,
all those things you desire and crave that are good and fulfilling are your reality.

The way to have them manifest consistently for you is through your expectation of them.

You MUST EXPECT.
You MUST KNOW and have clarity around them.
You MUST change your belief structures around what you call into your life,
and this means that if you want to be lucky in life,
then proclaim that you are lucky.
And when your vibration,
your expectation is in alignment and turned on to that that you desire,
it WILL just come to you.
Or maybe I should say you will come to it.
Because it is YOU,
not it that must bring your vibration into alignment.
You will never get what you desire to change its frequency,
It just is.

So what is it that you want in your life?
What do you want to start claiming in this perfect moment for your life?

Know that you are the BOSS BABY!
You always have been and you will never not be.
This world will bend for you,
it will manifest your desires,
and you can always tell where the perfect moments are,
by staying tuned into your vibration,
your flow.

Listen to your heart.
Allow yourself to feel.
And that means to feel the moment.
The perfect moment,
even if it appears to be a perfect storm, ‘it is offering to you of itself,
that which will guide you to the next opportunity,
a step closer to all that you want,
as long as you are in tune to it and willing to see.

Create your desired life today.

Claim it Baby!
You are worthy of a perfect moment.

As always,
Stop Existing & Start Living

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Proceed in Gratitude and Grace.

Capitol’s Log
One tequila.
Two tequila.
Three tequila.
Delete.
 
Yeppers that just happened.
So here I sit in Florida at the Casa Noble bar,
I spent the last hour writing an amazing share on travel,
on how it brings forth our authentic selves, ‘our authentic fears,
programs,
expectations and so much more.
I sat here, chatting with airport staff,
with travelers,
and my travel partner.
And I wrote a great article for you.
 
But you will never see it.
Nope this you will not.
Because of tequila.
and a accident with my fingers.
 
Thought I was copying when I was cutting.
Woops.
 
For a moment I was frustrated.
For a moment I was disappointed.
For a moment my ego held me.
It held me in it’s ego grip and it made me mad.
 
I felt stupid.
I felt like a mess up.
 
And then I breathed a little deeper into myself.
Into this moment,
and I laughed.
 
Realizing that accidents happen,
and all this happen for a reason.
 
I laughed it off.
And I went pee.
 
I got a break from my computer screen.
I took a break from what I thought I should be doing,
I took a break from the energetic demands that I had put on myself,
and I allowed myself to just breathe into the reality,
that it was okay.
 
Sure it was a good article.
It was a valuable share.
It was something that you would have liked.
And it was raw, real and from my heart.
It was my noticing’s.
And it was sharing how important travel is for our development as human beings.
 
It was revealing the truth on how travel show’s our truth, through the many issues that can happen when we travel.
 
How we deal with life as it emerges before us.
My noticing’s of fellow travelers,
their stress,
their drama,
their excitement.
 
And as I sit here at my layover to Jamaica,
I watch the people.
I watch all that they have to share with all those that they never will see again.
And those that they cherish.
I watch and I listen.
And what comes to play is our ego.
 
And funny enough,
as soon as I get done writing and get ready to post,
I have a mishap myself and delete my whole post.
 
OMFG!!!!
 
And what am I greeted by?
My ego.
Stepping up to the plate of life withing a 10th of a second.
Here I am.
Here I am to share my frustration.
My disappointment.
 
Here I am.
Don’t you want to merge with me?
Don’t you want to explore this faulse-hood that I want to paint for you?
If you had not drank that last tequila drink,
you would not have effed up.
If you had been more present,
you would have been on top of your game.
But no,
no, you effed up Kendal.
You hit the wrong button on your key pad and lost it all.
 
So do I let ego rule me?
Do I let it cause disappointment?
Do I let it sink it’s teeth into my moment?
 
F-ck NO!!!!!
 
It is moments just like this,
where the feeling of time lost,
moments lost,
shares lost,
disappointment,
frustration,
and whatever else might rise comes in that I am grateful for.
 
Gratitude for the experience of ego.
Gratitude for the presence to witness it.
To know that I have a choice.
Gratitude for the expansion if I so choose to allow it,
by not leaning in toward all that could mess up my day,
could make me feel bad about myself,
Gratitude that I give myself some grace.
In moments like this,
and many others,
that is what we need GRACE.
 
We are each but human,
and in our humanness,
we make mistakes,
we f-ck up left and right.
We hurt others,
we fumble the ball,
we delete masterpieces,
and we have a choice.
 
We have a choice to scold ourselves,
to blame and shame,
or to proceed in love and trust.
 
With gratitude and grace.
 
One tequila,
Two tequila,
Three tequila,
Delete.
 
Yes.
These are the moments that meet ourselves.
How do we react?
How do we choose to proceed?
How quickly can we bound back from our mistakes?
 
Ego,
will grab a hold of us if we let it.
It will rule us and shame us.
It will have us believe that being human is evil and a sin just for breathing,
but it is always our choice as to what we choose to do with our experiences.
 
It is our choice,
to lean into ego’s arms,
or into the love and compassion,
the grace of God and our souls.
 
As Always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
 
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When Too Much isn’t Enough.

I am too much.
Truly I am.
The way I share,
the way I love,
the way I enjoy,
the way I act,
the way I sex,
the way I can let go,
the way I parent,
the way I live.
 
It is all too much and then some.
Yet I am happy being too much.
Even though it costs me relationships,
arguments, hurt feelings and lot’s of change.
I am too much,
and it is just who I am.
 
But my too much,
is still not enough,
because my too much,
won’t give you what you want and may need.
 
How can this be?
Too much is not enough???🤔
 
You see it is the very fact that in being too much,
I push the limits.
I push the limits on everything,
especially on love, on relationship, on sex and my over all way of living.
Too much means that I am demanding in these things.
Too much means that I know what I want,
and I am not afraid to go after it.
Too much means that if I feel like I need more of something or that I cannot achieve it in the way before me that I will go and get it another way,
and tell you about it.
Too much means that I share.
I share in massive amounts,
because I want you to know.
I want you to step into the pool of living with me,
in integrity.
I want to grow,
and experience,
and I want to do it with those who want it too.
The other too muchers out there.
 
Yes, too much means that I understand that life is very polyamorous in so many ways. I know that my heart can expand to the depths, to the horizons that I choose. I know that I can love many and deeply. And I do.
 
I do this daily.
I do it openly,
and it makes me too much.
For many.
 
My too much is not enough,
even though you proclaim it is everything.
My too much is not enough,
even though you claim not to want to change me.
My too much is not enough,
even though you enjoy when it suites your desires.
My too much is not enough,
because it will push you to your limits.
It will make you uncomfortable.
It will test your heart.
It will call to your soul.
It will demand for you to fly or to walk away.
 
I am too much,
and it is a life long heartache,
as I share of my too muchness,
with those who love it and then hate it.
I am too much and with it comes the pain of loss,
as people ebb and flow,
and say they cannot do it.
With feeble excuses,
they move into knew life choices,
they run away from my too much,
to all that is comforting and less challenging.
 
Here is the reality of life for anyone who is truly too much.
We share deeply of ourselves,
we love deeply of those who dance with us in moments of our lives,
and we know that our too much will burn them.
And with the fire they will run.
Run into the arms of another.
Run into the comforts of average.
Run into the excuses of ego,
of jealous,
pride,
fear.
Run.
Run.
Run.
 
Yes that is what will happen,
because my too much is not enough.
And it will push you into the pain of reality.
The pain that you cannot hold me.
You cannot control me.
You cannot conquer me.
You can only dance with me.
And dance I will for hours and days,
for months and years,
and even decades.
But it is ultimately your choice,
how long the dance lasts.
 
Grow and expand.
Breathe in the feelings.
Breathe in the beauty,
the boldness,
the joy,
the play,
the adventure.
But heed the desire to stop it’s flow,
for in that moment is when the dance will end.
 
As always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
 
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Don’t Use Your Alignment As Your Excuse.

It’s all about alignment they say.
It’s all about just saying yes to the things that make you feel good, they say.
It’s all about flow, the law of attraction and the vortex they say.
 
Listen to your soul.
Listen to your heart.
And blessings will abound.
 
Yeah, yeah, f-cking yeah!
 
Okay folks,
you all know that I preach the same thing that leader and visionaries,
game changers, guru’s and greats have preached for ever.
 
There is no f-cking secret.
The secret is that we are responsible 💯% for the way our life manifests.
 
Yes there is the SECRET!
But we don’t like taking that sorta responsibility,
do we?
 
No.
We don’t.
I sure the f-ck have an issue with this wake up call,
like every damn morning,
and sometimes and noon and bedtime too.
Sh*t I wake up in the middle of the night sometimes,
freaking out about stuff.
 
Wondering why this is happening?
How am I going to get through it?
And what did I do to deserve such crap?
 
And THEN….
then I get smacked by spirit. 👊✝️🕉️✡️☯️💥👀
And I realize that I am laying there freaking out about stuff that I have no control over,
stuff that is other people’s business,
or stuff that more than likely will never happen.
 
All I am doing is increasing the odd’s of it happening because I am setting a tone in my thinking and feeling,
I am loosing sleep,
over crap.
 
And so I am aligning myself to a bad day.
And crap on the horizon.
 
or……………
 
What about we only do everything that is in alignment to ourselves.
 
What about,
we “pray” about it.
“Meditate” on it,
and “feel” into it.
 
To make sure that it aligns with us fully.
 
Yes, that is what we need to do to feel good,
have success, and get into flow.
 
This is where we manifest our greatness.
Yes!
 
Yes,
this is the answer.
After all….
 
This is what all the who’s who of flow, greatness and abundance do and always have known to work and be true.
 
RIGHT?
 
Yes.
 
So ya’ know what?
Putting my head down at 12:15am to write that article post that I do daily and missed the the time or focus to write the twelve hours prior, but don’t really feel like writing now either, I should skip till tomorrow.
 
Sitting down and putting together those course training pages after a stressful day of running around, dealing with drama, and feeling a little under the weather, sure does not feel in alignment with me right now either, so SKIP.
 
Doing that follow- up work with possible clients, researching a condition that I have never heard of but have a client with, figuring out new systems for my website, or writing that promotional email or page, just seem’s like too much right now. I sorta feel like I just don’t have the motivation, or the creative flow to do it….
I mean I want it to be in flow,
so I need to wait till I feel like I am in flow,
in alignment so that it comes together right,
and that is not right now,
so SKIP.
 
Man, I am so effing tired and sore,
no time for anything.
Exhausted. Feel like crap.
I sure don’t have time for yoga class today or that walk.
It won’t hurt if I take a day off.
SKIP.
 
Oh baby, I love you.
Oh baby, you complete me.
Oh baby, you are so perfect.
Fast forward 18 months…. 5 years… or what have you.
I just think we are no longer in alignment.
I mean, I know that she/he is still the same person of yesteryear, and we said that our dreams and goals were this, but I have now found myself and I know that you are not in alignment to me anymore.
Oh you want to talk,
you want to work on the relationship,
you are willing to change, grow,
sorry I am not in alignment to it.
BYE.
 
Get where I am going with this alignment idea?
 
Here is the reality,
the reality is that we tend to use alignment as an excuse to get out of the things that we don’t want to do.
 
Isn’t it funny that when we REALLY don’t want to do something,
when we REALLY feel lazy,
when we REALLY just want out of a situation,
that God/Spirit ALWAYS answers us with
 
that’s not in alignment,
 
when we pray or meditate on it.
when we feel into it.
 
OMFG!!!!
 
Really.
Just grow a f-cking pair and say that you don’t want too.
Don’t use God/spirit and alignment as your f-cking excuse
 
If you want to be in alignment and have all the wonders of your heart,
then one of the first things you need to achieve is to be in integrity with who you are, what you want, what your boundaries are, what your desire is, and where the f-ck your VOICE is located.
 
That is what God gave you a voice for.
To speak your TRUTH.
 
No matter what anyone else thinks about it,
when you stand strong in your needs, desires, and heart,
when you stand in authentic integrity with yourself
and with others,
then guess what?
 
Yep you nailed it.
 
Then you are in ALIGNMENT.
And you will align to your abundant life.
You will align to your blessings.
 
Anything else is a lie.
 
So it is your choice,
stay average and ordinary,
and speak lie’s to avoid your own fear of rejection and pain,
or
speak from your soul’s alignment,
which mean’s…..
 
BE TRUTHFUL.
 
As Always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
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Money, Money, Money! Are You In Alignment to It?

Money, Money, Money!

We love it.
We hate it.
We want more of it.
We are shamed by it.
We don’t understand it.
We desire it.
We are told it is the root of all evil.
We are told that we are bad if we have too much,
or not enough.
It’s how we support our lives,
the people we care about.
It brings us pleasure.
It causes us pain and stress.

The money saga is real.

You know what I speak of today.
I remember all too vividly the days of waking up,
praying that my power was still on, because I was uncertain that there was enough money to clear the debit in my account.
Raising five children and trying to stretch a couple hundred books on food for the month.
The school would send home science fair project material,
or book fair announcements, have my child all hyper about some new book – THAT I COULD NOT AFFORD.

I remember the days of needing to borrow from parents,
friends and anyone that would loan.

The creditors calling what seemed like 24/7.
All yelping for something that I never seemed to have enough of,
and could not get more of.
As quickly as life demanded it.

The countless moves.
Upheavals in life.
And EXCUSES.

Excuses because of the shame.
The shame that we did not have enough.
That we were always broke.
That I had to even borrow from my children’s babysitting stash.

Excuses, based in shame.
Yes those days.
Those days of bankruptcy, frustration, fear and overwhelm.

You know what I learned from those days?
I learned to live according t o my souls desire.
To get my ass in alignment to what my soul wanted instead of trying to make money.

Have you noticed that the more you do something JUST to make money that the more you don’t really enjoy it, or life.
And then suddenly, the money slows down or even stops flowing?

Or something astronomical happens.
Something that you can’t afford,
that will break the bank to what you have,
and give you another REASON as to WHY you don’t have.

Have you noticed that?
I sure have.

When I am out of alignment.
When I am not living in my joy,
not looking for the blessings with enthusiasm and exception,
then money basically say eff you.
And does not show up with ease any longer.

When I step into my soul’s alignment,
and simply surrender to it.
Enjoy my day,
My life,
and the process of creating the opportunities to enjoy flow,
when I look for my blessings,
with the excitement of a child on Christmas morning,
and share of them freely,
not worrying about the bottom lines,
and just having certainty in the process,
in the alignment,
in the joy,
then money flows through me with ease and plenitude.

When we hold shame or guilt around our money,
we restrict it from coming to us,
we prevent our natural flow of abundance.

When we focus on how much we need money,
we restrict the flow of it as well.

When we say such things as,
” I never have enough.”
” I can’t seem to get a head.”
“Money is coming.”
“I want to make $$$$ amount in the next 6 months.”

We push money away from us.
The same is true with anything that we want to manifest into our lives.

When we act from a place of not having,
and we think thoughts of not having,
or that its coming but it’s no currently here,
or we feel into our moment from a place of scarcity,
we continue to not have.
We restrict it from coming into our lives.

Money.
We need it.
We want it.
We feel bad about it.

It’s the programs that we grew up with,
that were set in us to make us ‘good’ people.
That cause us so many issues.
These programs of,
money don’t grow on tree’s,
Money is the root of all evil,
Money is hard to come by.
etc.
etc.
What they were meant to teach was,
respect money,
in the wrong hands, money can support the wrong things,
have a good work ethic,
don’t waist.

But these same statements have lead to your lack as well.
Creating a belief structure around your money that tells you that you cannot have easily,
that if you love it you are bad,
and many other things.

None of which are true.

Money is nothing more than a physical manifestation of energy.
It is an energy based currency.
Based not on what kind of person you are or you are not,
but based on if you believe that you are abundant in it.

That is really it.
It is that simple.

What is your expectation around money?
Around you having it or not?

If you believe that you are abundant than you are.
If you think you believe you are abundant, but are always proclaiming that it is not yet there, then you will not have it.
If you believe that you are living pay check to pay check then that is what you will live.

You make up the flow by your beliefs.

Your world is the manifestation of those beliefs.

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Wish you could figure out a side hustle that made you good part time money and was something that you enjoyed?
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No One Gives A Sh*t About Your Troubles.

No one really cares if you succeed or not.
No one really gives a rat’s rear end if you pay your bills or not.
No one really ultimately gives a shit.
How do I know this is true?
 
Well think about it…
Your friend tells you about their troubles,
the man next door shares about his job loss,
the woman at the school shares she has cancer,
your aunt says that she is terminal,
Your kid says that they are stressed about this or that,
your buddy at work get’s canned.
 
Sad but true.
These events happen every day.
You hear about them,
and you say,
OMG! I am so sorry.
I will pray for you.
You ask what you can do.
You feel bad for a few moments or even revisit the feeling here and there through out the day,
but at the end of the day,
you sit down on your couch,
you snuggle with your kids or your spouse,
or crash alone,
you watch whatever series on TV that you are caught up in,
and you ignore the miseries of others.
 
Right?
So why think that anyone else is doing something different when you share your sob stories.
 
the reality is that no one really cares if you succeed.
And to top it off,
almost everyone will eat away at your
TIME
ENERGY
MONEY
HEART
and whatever else they can absorb from you in the process.
 
Your friends,
Your family,
and any one that you allow too,
will step into your life and enjoy all that you have to give,
and keep taking from you until you say no,
or drop from exhaustion.
 
So why do so many of us, ‘find ourselves wrapped up in other people’s drama, if this is true?
 
Why do we allow for others to just leach off of us,
if at the end of the day it does not really matter?
 
Why do we extend ourselves to the point of breaking in some fashion, if no one really gives a shit?
 
Now I know that this may seem a little pessimistic here.
And I am not saying that we should not help.
That we should not ask for help.
 
What I am wanting to do is bring attention to the harsh reality of being human and living in a world of fellow humans.
 
We are all greedy mother f-ckers.
 
We want what we want and we want it for ourselves.
Even when we are “helping another” it is for ourselves.
 
It is most likely our ego,
wanting a pat on the back in some fashion,
even if it is just from ourselves to say, ” Yeah, I am a good person.”
 
Here is the reality,
here is the thought behind this share,
so often,
this aspect of our ego’s that desires to be just that,
“A good person,”
will lead us down the path of filling up our schedules with other peoples business.
 
The business that leads us to no where land.
The business that takes us into stress,
into chaos, and misery.
Worry and doubt.
The business that if we get real with ourselves,
we are stepping into because of our own fear of moving forward.
 
And so we fiddle around in this or that,
being a good person.
 
Taking the short term payout,
of feeling good about ourselves,
all the while,
denying our dreams.
 
When we allow others to dictate,
to control,
and to take priority on our schedules.
and in our lives,
our thoughts,
we hand over our power to them .
And we in essence say,
” I am sure that you will put me before you and do what is in my best good.”
We say,
” I have weak or no boundaries.’
” I do not value my own time or energy.”
” I need a reason to be a victim.”
 
And we do these things,
because yes we want to be good people.
We want to be liked.
We want to help others.
We feel lead to do them.
 
All great reasons.
However, all ego based.
 
And these ego based reason.
will NEVER lead us to the results in our lives that we desire.
They will only lead us to something other than success.
And that would be FAILURE.
 
And we will continue to experience this as long as we over give of ourselves based in ego.
 
If you want to claim that F-ck Yes Life.
If you want to build a multi-six or seven figure business.
If you want to have a phenomenal relationship.
Or any other dream or goal,
then you have to stop f-cking around.
And you have to make YOU #1.
Because no one else on this planet is going to,
and nor should they.
 
It is high time that you go do what you need to do,
to become whom you need to become.
 
Stop making excuses by getting caught up in everyone’s else’s live’s,
INSTEAD get caught up in your own.
 
Say YES to the most important person in your life.
YOU.
 
And as always,
Stop Exisiting & Start Living

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even if you have not started yet,
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Just another Gabolie-Gook Moment!

Gabolie-gook!
That’s about all that is in my brain tonight.
It’s just past midnight,
and I feel a need to press forward.
I feel an urgency,
a pressure.
I feel as though if I do not write,
if I just let go of it today that something astronomically horrible will most likely happen to my business,
to my social status,
to my flow
my following,
my life.
 
And so I sat here,
at my breakfast table,
with my mind feeling rummy.
My body tired from the day,
and I sat here,
feeling overwhelm and stress.
 
I played back the conversations of today.
The words and intimacies shared between myself
and clients. Myself and family. Myself and lovers.
And friends.
 
And I felt a call of duty to share something.
Not just something,
but something of value.
A lesson.
A deep thought.
And you know what I found?
 
Gabolie-gook!
 
Nothing more than gabolie-gook.
 
And what do I mean by this?
Or maybe perhaps the better question is,
Why the f-ck am I sharing my gabolie-gook experience with you?
 
I am sharing because we all have times that we feel great pressure to perform.
Great pressure to get something done.
We have deadlines.
We have time lines.
People are waiting on us,
and we have things that must get accomplished in order for the results that we want to happen.
And sometimes,
yes sometimes,
we have nothing more to offer to these moments.
Our minds,
and our hearts,
our creativity,
and our passion are all too tired.
And they leave us with gabolie-gook.
 
And guilt.
And shame.
And a feeling of not being good enough.
 
These gabolie-gook moments can crush us in seconds if we allow them too, or we recognize them for what they are.
 
Our soul saying,
It is time to PAUSE.
 
Time to give yourself space from this,
much like the athlete that has been pressing hard for days or weeks, who’s body will come to a point and demand a break, so that it can have some down time, some times to decompress and let go, so will our minds, our creative energy do the same.
 
Today I spoke with a man,
a business man who works for himself and he shared his frustration around the recent onset of a gaboli-gook moment in his life. He chose to let go of pushing forward on his work to take a little trip,
the trip took over priority in his life to the point that he focused for a few days prior on it more than his work.
Now a few days after his return, he finds himself still dealing with the lingering essence of this trip, causing him a gabolie-gook state of being.
 
Feeling pressure.
Feeling like he is falling behind,
feeling the gnashing of teeth on his heals,
his overwhelm from the gaboli-gook has now caused a state of procrastination.
Faking him out to believe that the ball is not rolling anymore,
that it is too heavy to push and get started up again,
that once dropped, it may not be able to be moved.
 
Here is the issue with gabolie-gook moments.
It is NOT the moment.
 
It is the thoughts and beliefs that we have around allowing ourselves the time to let go.
The fear of being lazy,
creates laziness.
 
And so we stumble in the darkness of our fear,
and we procrastinate.
 
We beat ourselves up for not achieving everything that was on our daily task list.
We look at our agenda’s and we feel exhaustion.
Hopeless in the face of this never ending task list.
This never ending moment of needing to create.
To do.
To build.
To network.
To be turned on.
 
So what is the answer?
The answer is simple.
 
SURRENDER and LOVE.
 
Love the moment.
No matter what it is.
Surrender to the beauty of the moment, no matter what it is.
 
And LET THE F-CK GO!
 
All moments are just that….
moments.
 
Fleeting.
 
They all pass.
They only linger and expand into something more,
when we focus in on them and water them with our thoughts and beliefs.
When we feel into them and manifest them into reality.
Your gaboli-gook moment,
is NOTHING.
 
Unless, you make it something.
So what are you choosing to focus on?
That is always the key.
 
Your thoughts.
Your feelings.
and then
Your actions.
 
 
Never another order.
 
When presented or feeling stuck in a gabolie-gook moment,
much like the one that I was in about 15 minutes ago,
the task to focus in on is to love the moment and accept it as it is,
then look for something to do that will pull your thoughts and feelings a different direction.
 
For example,
I chose to finish dealing with my closet that was getting rearranged,
and I chose move somethings around in my home that I had been waiting for the right time to do,
this gabolie-gook moment gave me that time.
It was a time for me to change up my thinking and feeling,
clear out some space and thus clear out the gabolie-gook moment with it.
 
🙂
 
An d here we are,
after midnight.
 
And my post is done.
And my much like the gabolie-gook,
the moment has passed.
 
Just remember,
As always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
 
*Don’t get Stuck in the Gabolie-Gook!”
 
Real Estate Agents, Coaches, Massage Therapists, Yoga Instructors, Speakers, Educators,Practitioners, MLM Peep’s, On- Line Sales, Crafters, or anyone who is helping someone else…. THIS IS FOR YOU!
Wish you could start the new year being your own boss?
Wish you could figure out a side hustle that made you good part time money and was something that you enjoyed?
Want to know where to start?
With YOUR biz?
 
Let me show you what I have learned from the last two decades of being my own boss.
 
Take your business from where ever you are at,
even if you have not started yet,
to making $100k quickly.
 
These are the steps that you need to master your BOSS-HOOD!
 
Preliminary work has already been added.
LIVE training starts Sunday.
You can take this class from anywhere in the world to boot.
 
Class starts this Sunday Nov. 18th
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Admit It! – You Are F-cking LAZY.

Admit it…
Seriously JUST admit already.
 
😲YOU are lazy as F-ck! 🛌
You know what you need to do.
You feel it in your bones,
you have the know how,
the knowledge,
the ability.
 
Your soul calls out to you daily, and YOU HEAR IT. 🗣️🧘‍♀️
But when it comes right down to it,
catching up on the series on Netflix is more appealing.
Watching that football game is more interesting.
Cleaning your mother f-cking toilet is higher on your priority list than doing the thing that you know,
you know without a doubt that you MUST DO,
in order to have the life that you want to have.
 
But,
But you are too f-cking lazy to just step the f-ck into who you are meant to be to achieve those dreams and desires.
 
🔥🔥👩‍❤️‍💋‍👨👠💍🥂✈️💃💃🔥🔥
 
You see having that freedom based life,
living according to your souls desire,
in alignment with exactly who you know you were born to be is not difficult.
 
Not difficult at all matter a fact.
 
The ONLY f-cking thing holding you back from being the person that your soul wants you to be is yourself. 💃💃💃
 
It’s all those things you have been told through your life experience so far.
 
Its all those logical, fear based things that you opt to buy into,
because buying into them is what everyone else is doing,
therefore that must make it right.
 
Your lazy because…
being part of the norm is more important to you than being authentically you.
 
getting along with the crowd is what you “think” will make you happy…
instead of saying F-ck YES to who you are and letting yourself shine.
 
Agreeing,
being a people pleaser seems like the best thing to do,
it keeps the peace.
Instead of claiming what you need/want and EXPECT from life.
 
But all of this,
does not solve any thing baby.
 
All of this only leads you to pain, suffering and not truly living.
Sure there is air in your lungs,
you are breathing still,
your heart is beating,
your body is alive.
 
But YOU ARE NOT LIVING!!!!!
 
🔥🔥👩‍❤️‍💋‍👨👠💍🥂✈️💃💃🔥🔥
 
and worst off you know it.
 
You know that life could be so much more.
And you want it to be more.
You want more than to just try to escape your pain,
your anxiety,
you want to not have it to start with.
You want happiness!
 
And you should.
 
It is your birthright after all.
 
But happiness only comes from truly living in alignment to to you.
 
Happiness only is felt by owning your own joy.
By understanding that you,
YES YOU….
are the one that can make it happen.
AND MUST.
 
No pay raise at work will do it.
No bigger better orgasm will do it.
No change of relationship status will do it.
No weight loss or diet will do it.
No my kids are honor role students will do it.
No my retirement fund has so much money it will do it.
Not even the affirment from your pastor that you are saved will do it.
 
Nothing.
Absolutely NOTHING,
will bring you the happiness that your heart and soul desire,
that leads you to do everything that you do,
that makes you flip your world upside down,
or keep everything the same,
will make you happy.
 
The only thing that will ever bring you happiness…
 
Is getting up off your f-cking ass,
and LIVING!
 
Yes BABY!!!
this is what you must do to have what you want.
 
But wait!🖐️
 
That’s to easy!
 
If it were that simple,
then everyone would be happy.
 
RIGHT ⁉️
 
Wrong!!!!!
 
Because the hardest,
most challenging thing,
that we humans face is just this.
 
BE OURSELVES.
 
You are far from alone in your desires.
Or in your sufferings.
 
You are far from alone from kicking around the concept of just f-cking being yourself.
 
💩Sh*t! It sounds pretty appealing huh? to just be you.💩
 
I bet that if I asked you to write down a list of ten things you value the most that,
 
HONESTY
INTEGRITY
AUTHENTICITY
 
would rank among some of the highest on your list.
 
Yet, you cannot seem to LIVE that way yourself.
And you wonder why life keeps bringing you experiences and people that are NOT these things.
 
Hmmmmmm……
 
Well here is a thought for you…🤔
Maybe, just maybe,
Life is showing you what you are lacking yourself,
and what you need to get,
in order to have what you want.🤯
 
⁉️W-H-A-T!!!!!!⁉️
 
Yeppers,
 
Like I said….
you are too f-cking lazy!
 
It really is that simple.
It really is about you just being you,
loving you.
Enjoying you.
 
The truth is that you make it too f-cking hard….
ALL THE TIME!
 
And you do it mainly by over thinking it.
 
So STOP!!! 🛑
Stop the insanity.
 
And just take the path that you were meant to take in the first place…
 
still yourself,
listen,
and act from that place….
 
🔥🔥🔥YES! that place of soul.🔥🔥🔥
 
You have always KNOWN what to do!
It has always been with you.
There is no secret.
 
It is just about being you!!!!!
 
So what is stopping you?
 
Oh RIGHT!!!!
I forgot there is new series on that looks really amazing,
gotta catch that first…..
 
Well,
don’t bitch to me.
 
Cuz’ I will only send you this note baby.
 
Don’t you think it is time?
 
TIME TO SAY YES.
 
Yes to YOU.
 
As Always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
 
PS💃💃💃
 
You Say You Want The F-ck YES Life Do You?
Well what is stopping you?
I bet it is….
Time.
Money.
Belief you can have it.
Feeling Like You Don’t Know Enough.
Lack of Support.
 
Am I correct?
 
You want it, but there are so many things that get in the way of you having it.
And another year goes by.
 
Another year that you find yourself sinking further into the rut,
into debt and lack of freedom,
another year of wishing,
but not achieving.
 
Or you have decided to step forward onto the path,
you went and got your real estate license.
You signed up for a cool new opportunity that turns you on.
You took on the mission to build your own home based business.
Or maybe it’s not you, but your partner. Your spouse.
You are a team.
And you are going to get ahead of life,
enjoy some travel,
enjoy some extra cash flow,
and get your kids into the school you want.
OR
retire early!!!!
 
Whatever the reason,
it’s hard to find someone who is simply content,
well maybe content is not the right word even.
HAPPY.
 
Happy with their work,
their financial state of being,
their job-family balance,
the time they have,
or
the level of stress they have.
 
So many of us are searching for something more fulfilling these days.
So many of us understand that TIME is our most precious resource and it is very limited and we never know when our time will be up once and for all.
 
So we hold anxiety around it.
We look at our families,
our lives, our health, our bank accounts,
and we stress.
 
Can you say that your’s is all that you want it to be?
 
Or do you want more?
Need more?
 
Have you decided to FINALLY take your life,
your FINANCIAL PICTURE into your own hands?
 
What have you ventured out to do?
 
Entrepreneur you deserve the F-ck YES Life!
But how do you go from where you are,
to where you want,
and it not take you 2 years, 5 years, a decade or more?
How can you avoid some of the major pitfalls that can eat an entrepreneur up?
 
 
As the mama of seven babies, an entrepreneur myself for the last 20 years, who has done my fair share of failing, I can tell you it can be REALLY difficult to know what to do and when to do it, or it can be pretty effing simple.
 
If I had had accessible the mentor’s back in the day that I do now, I would have not spent so many years struggling. But the struggle taught me a ton and has enabled me to be able to share with you what it really takes in today’s social media world to become your own BOSS.
 
And do it BIG!!!!
 
Join me next Sunday November 18th, 2018
 

You Say You Are in Alignment.

You say you are in alignment,
but you are broke.
You say that you are in alignment,
but you are fatigued and ill.
You say that you are in alignment,
but your life is in shambles and has you down.
You say that you are in alignment,
but nothings aligning to you.
 
 
Sound familiar?
Sound like maybe you personally have experienced?
 
I am familiar with this false alignment.
I have lived it.
Breathed it.
and been taken down by it.
 
It’s never fun to want so badly to be in alignment,
and turn around and see that you are not.
Fearful that if we admit that we are out of alignment that we will be leaning even more into all that we do not want,
so we just keep denying reality.
 
Yet, reality stares us in the face.
As we get asked to do something that we cannot afford,
we find ourselves wanting or needing something that we have to say, ” I am sorry, I cannot afford that, it’s too much.”
 
We wake up feeling like we were run over by a train,
day after day.
Or our bodies just cannot seem to feel good.
Illness bogs us down.
There is limited energy.
 
We look around our world,
and drama,
and trauma,
seem to be what makes up our existence.
 
Lady luck does not favor us,
even though we proclaim she does.
 
We know we are lying to ourselves,
we feel it in our bones.
we see it in our reflection in the mirror.
And we cringe.
 
There is a holding onto the fear.
You know that feeling.
 
That grasping in your chest.
That tightness in your gut.
That anxiety.
That melancholy feeling that just lingers.
 
And we hide.
We drink.
We eat all the wrong foods or nothing at all.
We smoke.
We “bake” ourselves.
 
And we hide.
We say its to help us let go.
It’s to help us decompress.
To help us sleep.
To help with this or that.
 
And sure it is.
 
But it is also there ,
and it is mainly this,
there to hide us from our pain.
From our lack of alignment.
 
The lies we tell.
The stories we make.
The masks we wear.
 
They do nothing but paint a picture of pain.
A pain that will devour us, if we do not get REAL.
 
Real with who we are.
Real with what we want.
Real with life.
And just open to the glory that is all around us.
Stop holding the fear,
stop practicing the thoughts,
the thoughts that kill us.
That steal from us our joy.
Our truth.
Our Abundant Life.
 
You say that you are in alignment.
But what does your alignment say about your vibration?
 
Today is a blessed day.
Or so it can be,
for you,
for me,
for all who claim it.
 
Today is a day,
that you can decide to say yes.
YES to yourself.
YES to your Abundant Life.
 
And this all stems not from the words that you speak in lies to your friends and family,
 
NO.
 
It comes from within.
The thoughts you think between the words.
The feelings you attach to those words and thoughts.
The love that you give,
not to others,
but to SELF.
 
Are you ready?
Are you ready to say YES?
 
I sure the f-ck hope you are.
This world needs you,
needs you to STOP your crazy self sabotage,
STOP your scarcity beliefs,
STOP your stinking thinking.
 
And JUST SAY YES!
 
Yes I am powerful.
Yes I am worthy.
Yes I am abundant.
Yes I am beautiful.
Yes I am vibrant.
Yes, yes, yes.
 
 
Look at that worthy, amazing soul in the mirror.
Look, really look.
And love them.
 
They need your love more than anyone else on this planet.
 
Many blessings to you this Sunday.
 
And as always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
 
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