One of the biggest issues I see in this world is that so many people are trying to survive life instead of living it.
We put more importance on being serious and mature than on laughter and joy.
We are deeply uncomfortable with our emotions, whether they are good, bad or anything but blah.
We limit our joy.
We limit our laughter.
We limit our love.
We limit ourselves.
Constantly we shrink our selves to better “fit in” with society. What do I mean by this?
Just think about a time that you were really happy. I mean REALLY happy. Maybe you got a promotion, your girl said yes to your proposal, you bought a new house or maybe you got to go on a dream trip or just a second or third vacation for the year. Maybe its not that big, maybe you just had an AMAZING day and your happy for no real reason.
Then a friend call’s you and when you say hello and they respond you can tell that they are just down in spirit that day. Their day is no where near as great as yours.
The conversation most likely will go like this:
“Hi, John. What you up to?” ( your friend)
” Nothing much. You?” (you)
“Oh I am just watching some TV, it has been a long day. Got anything going on?” ( your friend)
“Nah, not much. Just chilling. working. ya know.” (you)
In fact though you are bubbling with JOY, but are scarred to let it out because you don’t want to rub your joy in your friends face and make them feel potentially worse because of how crappy their day has been. Or you know that they have been struggling and you don’t want to share your AWESOMENESS just yet as that might cause them a feeling of ‘whats wrong with me, why does everyone else have good things but not me, ‘ yet they would respond, ” John, that’s really great news, I am happy for you.” Still you could hear the tone in their voice of disappointment and sadness.
So you shrink.
You shrink your joy.
You shrink your blessings.
You shrink yourself.
And you do this for the good reason to not further cause your buddy pain. So you think.
The reality is that we connect through suffering, boredom, playing it small and hiding our joy. It is so common place for people to focus on the negative that anyone who is living a F-ck Yes! Life at any level is going to feel separation and loss in their friendships and relationships in general because our life experience is so drastically different, if even for just that day or week than those around us. It is sorta like being the only sober person in a room full of drunks. You feel alone.
But does that mean that you should shrink?
How are you truly helping anyone or calling in more blessings of joy if you shrink?
Shrinking only serves you short term.
It allows you to feel connection in that moment.
The issue is that it is a false connection.
Sorta like the booze you may choose to drink to deal with the drunks. In the short term you become one of them and you have your drunk tribe with you. In the long run, you feel like shit. You damage yourself and you feel empty.
Same is true about shrinking your joy and blessings.
This world needs more people willing to find the courage to live out loud, in authenticity and not afraid to speak up!
Speak Up! About:
Your awesome relationships
How much great sex your having
The new great person you met that made you laugh so damn hard
How awesome you feel
Your joy for living
By celebrating life like this, we share our joy. We also tell G-d, the Universe, Creator of all that we are appreciative and that we are open to MORE!
When we shrink our joy and blessings we tell G-d, the Universe, the Creator that we don’t really appreciate, see, or deserve them. By shrinking ourselves we also shrink the good works that come our way.
This is NOT bragging to show how great we are.
This is NOT bragging to make known that we are better than another.
This is BRAGGING to give GRATITUDE and PRAISE to the abundance that we have received.
“Clap your hands, all you nations; shout to God with cries of joy.”- Psalm 47:1
Not trying to go all religious on you here but just referencing this passage to support that G-d has desire for our JOY.
So why not say YES to giving it?
And dancing in it?
Joy can be contagious just like a smile or laughter. It is our duty as people who are wanting a Fuck YES! Life full of abundance in all ways to share our passion, our joy and our blessings. Through our happiness and openness we show the way to others.
So lift up that glass and CELEBRATE LIFE!
Live Out Loud and Free!
Picture Kendal at The Netto Bar- Curacao August 2017