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21 Ways to Have WAY More Fun with Masturbation

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Fun fact: May is National Masturbation Month (yes, it’s an actual thing)! And to celebrate the wondrous activity of self-pleasure, we’ve rounded up a bunch of ways to get yourself off using orgasmic advice from sex experts Ian Kerner, Ph.D., author of She Comes First, and Emily Morse, founder ofEmily & Tony. Let the best 31 days of your sex year begin!

1. Use Lube
The wetter the better! Nearly 50 percent of people said lube made it easier for them to orgasm, in a recent study.

2. Get Your Girls In On the Action
Here’s a little known secret: Nipplegasms exist! So get your breasts involved—you just might surprise yourself.

3. Invest in a Sex Toy
You’ve heard of the infamous Rabbit but have you heard about the pleasure tool that simulates oral sex? No? Well then you need to check out these 11 crazy new sex toys that will basically give your orgasm an orgasm!

4. …Or Two Toys
Why stop at one? They come in so many different shapes and sizes that you can even use two at once (one on your clitoris and one that hits your G-spot), says Morse.

5. Bliss Out Your Bedroom
Tidy up, light some candles, and get into the mood. It’s hard to feel sexy if your room’s smothered in month-old laundry and yesterday’s Chinese food containers. Hey, they don’t call it spring-cleaning for nothing.

6. Go Slow
Quickies are great in a pinch, but you can have the best orgasm ever by delaying your big finish. Right when you’re about to climax—stop, breathe, and rev up your sex engine all over again.

7. Explore Your Body
The vagina isn’t your only erogenous zone. In case you didn’t know, your body is a treasure trove of not-so-obvious pleasure spots just waiting to be aroused, says Morse.

8. Focus on Your C-Spot
Studies show that clitoral stimulation is a huge deal—but we probably didn’t need to tell you that. So go ahead, hone in on it.

9. But Don’t Forget About Your G-Spot
Because your clitoris isn’t the only part of your vagina with super-sensitive nerves.

10. …Or You Could Go for Both Simultaneously
Did someone say blended orgasm? Yep, it’s one of four (yes, four) orgasmsall women should experience.

11. Play Some Porn
Sure, it’s all fake, but the view’s pretty nice. Plus, you can hit play on whatever you want—even if it’s something your partner totally isn’t into.

12. Read Something Erotic
There’s a reason why Fifty Shades of Grey was a best seller…

13. Put on a Show
Not for a camera—have your S.O. watch you from across the room as you touch yourself, suggests Kerner. You’ll feel like a sex kitten, and they’ll be even more excited to hit the sheets.

14. Do Kegels
Doing this sex exercise during solo play intensifies your big O to new levels, says Morse. And who doesn’t want that?

15. Use Your Imagination
Seriously, who hasn’t envisioned Channing Tatum, Joe Manganiello, Brad Pitt, Matt Damon, Joseph Gordon-Levitt, Chris Hemsworth, or George Clooney while masturbating? (Did we miss any?)

16. Don’t Stop at Just One
Multiple orgasms are one of the biggest blessings of being a woman. Give yourself a hand, ladies. Learn the three steps to having multiple orgasms here.

17. Switch Positions
You experiment with different sex styles with your partner, so why not change things up when you’re going solo?

18. Move to the Tub
Is it just us, or is there something oddly arousing about being “dirty” in a clean place? Plus, warm water feels amazing anytime, anywhere (on your body).

19. Improvise
And while you’re in the bathroom, a showerhead works just as well (if not better) than battery-powered playthings.

20. Vary the Motion
Flick, rub, massage, blow—just play around. Apply different pressure or move your hand (or toy) in new directions to find your perfect O.

21. Masturbate More Often 
One study found that women get handsy at least once a week—but we say you deserve a second helping (or more). After all, sometimes masturbation can be better than sex.

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Let’s Take the Shame Out of Masturbation

womanmasturabtionOf all of the forms of sex, masturbation gets an unusually bad rap.

From the time we hit puberty, we, especially boys, hear all kinds of derogatory messages about masturbation. We get the message that masturbation is for guys who can’t get a girl. Some of the worst insults is to call a boy (or a man) a jerk-off, a jack-off or a wanker. As kids, many of us have been told by parents and grandparents that masturbation is wrong, will make you go blind, or grow hair on your palms. As kids, how many people have ever been told that masturbation is a good and healthy form of sexual expression?

On the other hand, girls, especially when I was growing up in a conservative, upper-middle class community in the mid-‘70’s to early ‘80’s, were taught that “good girls don’t” about anything pertaining to sex. I got that message loud and clear from my parents, the way I heard other adults talked, and from my peers.

And God help those kids (and adults) that are influenced by extreme religious beliefs and interpretations.

This past February, Brigham Young University-Idaho released a video as a weapon against porn and masturbation to its students. The photography, music and the narration by BYU-Idaho President Kim B. Clark is quite a slick piece of propaganda. He uses loaded words like “lonely”, “confused” and “spiritually wounded”. Worse yet, he urges students to reach out to rescue fellow students left wounded by the enemy on the battlefield. He makes it sound as if prying into people’s private business and ratting them out is some kind of heroic deed.

It’s not just a Mormon thing. I’ve heard and read the same kinds masturbation demonizing from Catholics, Orthodox Jews, fundamentalist Christians and Muslims.

Being exposed to messages like this before kids are ready to be sexually active explains why so many adults turn out to be sexually clueless and inhibited. There’s no need for this kind of shame.

As adults there are two things we can do to get over our hang ups about masturbation – 1. realize that almost everybody does it, and 2. employ some critical thinking when it comes to making judgments about masturbation.

The human mind and body were designed to enjoy sex. Masturbation is a form of sex. Even if we have a sex partner, we don’t have 24/7 on-demand access to sex. Sometimes masturbation isn’t purely sexual. It’s a great mental and physical de-streser. It makes us happier, more productive, mentally sharp, and makes us sleep better.

And what shame and guilt is there in feeling good? Masturbation is one of many things we can do for ourselves that make us happy like watch a movie, listen to music, run, golf or climb mountains.

Masturbation also helps us be better lovers. How are we supposed to tell our lovers what we like if we don’t experiment with ourselves?

I’d love if it was okay to talk about masturbation and sex in positive and judgment-free ways. We’d learn so much from each other if we could openly talk about which techniques, sex toys or lubes to use the same way we talk about the best way to make macaroni and cheese or which car wax works best.

As far as what makes the best macaroni and cheese, you gotta use a bit of Gruyere for flavor and a good melt. I’m clueless about car wax, but I’m sure someone else can make a recommendation.

Article by Bobbie Morgan on A Good Woman’s Dirty Mind